Goodbye and good luck

[DavidN 1]

It was back in November or so when I first found this website. I never knew or expected to know the many things I now know about the visa process. The community has been great and highly informative. I never planned to meet or remotely think that I would possibly marry a non-usc. Logistically, it just seemed to far-fetched. But, I was only mildly interested back then because I had met a beautiful young lady while on vacation in Mexico back in October 2005. We were both interested in eachother and wanted to get to know eachother better. So over these last few months, we did just that. We spoke, we chatted, we web-cammed.

It was going perfectly. Some of you may even recall my intended scenario for proposing. I had scented candles, champagne flutes, ballads playing in the background. Well...I did as I planned when I got to Manzanillo last week (Feb 8th - Feb 15th). I went to visit my sweetheart in Manzanillo and blew away her senses. She was estatic and emotional.

While there I had a marvelous time. I stayed 7 nights, met her mom, her best friend, and almost all of her bothers and sisters. Everyone was great to me. No one was callous or cold. She was very sweet, kind and affectionate my whole time there. I had almost forgot how great love felt.

We filled out her half of the I-129F and the other paperwork needed to submit for the fiancee visa. We were set.

I come to find out yesterday that she still has feelings for her ex-boyfriend. She thought that by me going over there, she would know if it was really love or not. It turns out that she sees me more like a very good friend. That's my queue. I know what that means and I respect that. It doesnt heal the pain I feel but she deserves to be happy just as I do. She really is a great person, I'm just not the one her heart is into.

I wasnt sure if I should have posted this but it's theraputic for me and hopefully helpful to others that are also hurting from what they thought was a perfect match as well. I haven't taken her off my cell phone or erased her IM from my chat program. I havent deleted all 500+ photos I took over us while I was over there celebrating her birthday, our relationship and valentines. That may be one of the last steps in my healing. I may send her mom some photos of the "neutral" events that we celebrated. Like my sweetheart's birthday. Or the time where we just did nothing but had Baileys all night. Make no mistake, I left her with unforgettable memories that she will never forget. And neither will I. If only for a week, it was still one of my most beautiful times I had ever spent with someone I loved. Soon these tears will dry and I will spring to a new beat. But for now, I want to remember what I felt. I want to re-live if only for a second....what it was to feel love again. That is the feeling worth living for.

Good luck and keep the faith.

[Jaylen Brit 0]

good luck to you too and happier times David

[Welshcookie 17]

David.....

I am truly saddened to read this....You sound like a great bloke and I know you will find happiness again....

All the very best to you and thoughts are with you

[kygeographer 0]

It was back in November or so when I first found this website. I never knew or expected to know the many things I now know about the visa process. The community has been great and highly informative. I never planned to meet or remotely think that I would possibly marry a non-usc. Logistically, it just seemed to far-fetched. But, I was only mildly interested back then because I had met a beautiful young lady while on vacation in Mexico back in October 2005. We were both interested in eachother and wanted to get to know eachother better. So over these last few months, we did just that. We spoke, we chatted, we web-cammed.

It was going perfectly. Some of you may even recall my intended scenario for proposing. I had scented candles, champagne flutes, ballads playing in the background. Well...I did as I planned when I got to Manzanillo last week (Feb 8th - Feb 15th). I went to visit my sweetheart in Manzanillo and blew away her senses. She was estatic and emotional.

While there I had a marvelous time. I stayed 7 nights, met her mom, her best friend, and almost all of her bothers and sisters. Everyone was great to me. No one was callous or cold. She was very sweet, kind and affectionate my whole time there. I had almost forgot how great love felt.

We filled out her half of the I-129F and the other paperwork needed to submit for the fiancee visa. We were set.

I come to find out yesterday that she still has feelings for her ex-boyfriend. She thought that by me going over there, she would know if it was really love or not. It turns out that she sees me more like a very good friend. That's my queue. I know what that means and I respect that. It doesnt heal the pain I feel but she deserves to be happy just as I do. She really is a great person, I'm just not the one her heart is into.

I wasnt sure if I should have posted this but it's theraputic for me and hopefully helpful to others that are also hurting from what they thought was a perfect match as well. I haven't taken her off my cell phone or erased her IM from my chat program. I havent deleted all 500+ photos I took over us while I was over there celebrating her birthday, our relationship and valentines. That may be one of the last steps in my healing. I may send her mom some photos of the "neutral" events that we celebrated. Like my sweetheart's birthday. Or the time where we just did nothing but had Baileys all night. Make no mistake, I left her with unforgettable memories that she will never forget. And neither will I. If only for a week, it was still one of my most beautiful times I had ever spent with someone I loved. Soon these tears will dry and I will spring to a new beat. But for now, I want to remember what I felt. I want to re-live if only for a second....what it was to feel love again. That is the feeling worth living for.

Good luck and keep the faith.

Best wishes for you, David. Reading that almost brought tears to my eyes. I know exactly how that feels, I've been there, many years ago. Things'll look up!

[Jasman0717 9]

Nice post, thank you for sharing! I hope you will recover quickly and move on!

[Oly 0]

thanks for sharing your experience with us, im sure that should have hurt a lot but your there trying to be strong, i admire that so much. Im sure you will feel real love soon as everybody in this forum. We wish the best luck

OLY AND DIDIER

[UmmSqueakster 54]

Wow, you did some increadibly sweet and romantic things. Whatever girl you find to spend the rest of your life with will be increadibly lucky

[Meriem_DZ 37]

Wow, you did some increadibly sweet and romantic things. Whatever girl you find to spend the rest of your life with will be increadibly lucky

Rahma. You said exactly what I was thinking.

Meriem

[Peter Miami 0]

You are a good man and you will find someone speacial.

Peter Miami

[lostinlove228 0]

good luck

[ChristinaM 0]

Good luck, man.

You're a good guy, and I'd echo that whoever you wind up with will be a lucky girl.

And don't forget that your newly-minted VJ family are here for fun and frolics, or whatever you might need us for

[dmartmar 1]

She really is a great person, I'm just not the one her heart is into.

I come to find out yesterday that she still has feelings for her ex-boyfriend. She thought that by me going over there, she would know if it was really love or not. It turns out that she sees me more like a very good friend. That's my queue.

I can't see how she can be a great person, when she obviously lead you on and used you to be able to validate whether she still had feelings for her ex or not. She at least should have, out of respect and consideration, mentioned this to you earlier or as soon as you met, instead of making you go there and out of your way for her.

Although she is to, in a way, be commended for being upfront with you by admitting how she felt to your face, the fact she kept this in the dark all along until then was cruel and selfish, imho. Why make you travel over there and even introduce you to her family, when she all along knew she still had feelings for her ex? It was when she realized you had developed true, real feelings and were serious about having a relationship with her, perhaps even considering marriage, that she dropped the bomb on you.

She played you.

Edited February 18, 2006 by dmartmar

[LiszyandKenny 5]

((((((((((((((((((((((David)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

I remember your excitement and I tell you are a sweetheart... you made all that you could to make it work now.. time to move on

Good luck and be strong

[Chuckles 0]

You are doing the right thing David, best to move on and not let yourself be dragged down by this. Good luck to you!

[Peggy 1]

Best of luck David

Edited February 19, 2006 by pink_roses