Expidite/ caregiver needed?

[baron555 934]

This is an incredibly ridiculous comment. I know lawyers, does that make me "qualified to speak on their behalf"? I know police officers, teachers, principles, ministers, geologists, dentists, doctors.. does that mean I'm qualified to speak on all their behalves as well?? Just because you know someone who has experience in a field does NOT mean you are qualified to speak on their behalf, it just means your chats might be interesting and you MIGHT have some interesting wisdom to impart, doesn't mean you know jack sh*t about their trade or are allowed to act high and mighty and all-knowing.

......OR they might just know what they are talking about. It's ridiculous for you to make that comment also.

Let's all let the OP try his expedite and then we all will know and will be experts.

Edited September 27, 2010 by baron555

[VanessaTony 3,567]

There was a post about medical needs due to care from a surgery that was approved to expidite. It was for a shoulder surgery I believe. I have an issue with my x wife/ custody of my children. I'm pretty sure that I will be awarded full custody of them due to her history. The problem is that I work 12 hour night shifts on a rotating schedule. I will have to find someone to watch them a few times a week while I work. My children are young. Who better to care for them than the woman who be in their lives anyways. I'm not sure if it will work or not but the judge can write me a letter, I'll have the new custody orders and copies of her criminal(drug,neglect) records as evidence.

Unfortunately, I'm not making this up.

Anyones opinion here?

I don't know the post you're talking about but one could assume that there were extenuating circumstances outside of the shoulder, such as the caregiver being a nurse/physiotherapist, the person requiring advanced care that the US could provide better, the cost of said advanced care being covered by spousal medical funds whereas in their country it would cost a lot. I doubt it was as simple as "I hurt my shoulder and I need my wives cuddles".

That said, my husband works the same kind of schedules you talk about and I know how incredibly hard they are to work around. With the constant changing of the schedule it's hard to find someone to adjust to your schedule (esp the night shifts). Not to mention it's hard to find the "employee" time to work around it. It would be a lot simpler if your s/o could be there to help out. SO I would ask for an expedite based on the following reasons:

1. The rotating schedule means your child schedules would be interrupted (i.e. a different person every day)

2. Having your wife look after your child will mean a more stable environment

3. Finding a nanny/baby-sitter based on the rotating shifts will be hard, and expensive

4. Explain why your family members can't assist you. Whether it be distance, obligations etc

5. Your job pays well (I hope) and the benefits are good for your family (I hope) so changing jobs isn't a good option

I would include your work schedule as evidence.

I know it's not the same but we have a puppy, and while here in Australia my husband (with the rotating schedule like you) is looking after her. Her schedules are completely confused... it's very stressful on me AND my puppy. She just can't seem to "get the rhythm" and having someone there to maintain stability, is very important.

I'm not saying it'll work, but knowing how ###### such a schedule is, you need to convey that to USCIS and explain why you are worthy of an expedite. Good luck

[baron555 934]

I doubt it was as simple as "I hurt my shoulder and I need my wives cuddles".

Sri, but the OP's request sounds just like this.

5. Your job pays well (I hope) and the benefits are good for your family (I hope) so changing jobs isn't a good option

Then you should be able to pay for day care/preschool. Again, I just don't see an extenuating circumstance here.

[VanessaTony 3,567]

Until you've done, or lived with someone who does, the kind of shift the OP is talking about, you'll never see the extenuating circumstance. That's okay though, his choice to ask USCIS. I'm not sure they'll agree either, but I know it's hard and I know there are many issues he's facing. BUT, if he wasn't importing a wife, what would he do? That's the question he needs to answer for USCIS. He does have options, he needs to show USCIS those options aren't as good as expediting his K1 would be.

[Deputy Purple 1,294]

While the Manila Embassy isn't really a difficult one the Philippines is a country that has a reputation for things such as High Fraud, USC looking to import cheap Nanny/Nurse, Pinay looking for gullible Kano to get US Greencard. These images are based on things that have happened in the past and I'm not trying to imply anything of the OP here but he needs to be aware of them.

Even if the expedite request is approved at USCIS all it does is get the interview date sooner, there will still be application & interview process at the USEM. So the OP needs to think "How might this affect her interview at the Embassy given the whole "Philippines as a cheap source of domestic labor" thing? You'd be surprised at some of the things they look at when you're file is with the Embassy. My wife was given undue grief by the Filipino Pre-screener because he son's birth certificate had his biological father's name on it but they we never married. This is a common occurrence in the Philippines but it is also perceived to be common for a married Pinay to use false documents to appear never married prior to a "Kano" (American) boyfriend or husband.

I had called USCIS regarding her son (my stepson) to see if there was anything that could be done because we knew he was deaf & needed Cochlear Implants. I didn't think it was worth an expedite request, was just looking to see if there was another option, the USCIS operator said let's request expedite (even though I told them I know USCIS wouldn't care since he's not a USC). Of course the expedite was denied but our petitions were still approved in 4 months (in 2009) although his was 2 weeks after hers so maybe the expedite request delayed his case by 2 weeks.

But again, if I was the OP my bigger concern would be how might this reason for the expedite request affect the embassy stage?

Seriously, there are a lot of college kids who just need a cheap place to live so giving one room & board in exchange for them being in the house while you work and maybe getting the kids off to school before you get home might just be a lot easier and less stressful than adding this worry to your case.

[sheenaspapi 18]

The government really doesn't care about your caregiving needs for your kids.

I didn't realize that the goverment doesn't care about the welfare of children. You had alot of great answers in your opinion and came across as your someone in the know. And you come up with this all on your own? A reality check I don't need. Simple question, simple answers but I'd prefer that if you provide me with a definitive yes or no, that you can actually provide a basis to your determination. That you didn't do.

Actually Gary does know someone who worked in the K-1 Visa section of USCIS as a manager (see Sticky at top of the forum) so, yes, he is somewhat qualified to speak to their behalf.

Since someone already beat me to this incredibly illogical conclusion, there is no need to even respond. If we are ever at 40,000 feet in a 747, the flight attendant gets on the speaker requesting a pilot because the Captain just died of a heart attack, I surely hope you jump in the pilots seat thinking that your qualified because your neighbors 2nd cousin on his step sisters side was a pilot and you spoke to him last Thanksgiving.

[sheenaspapi 18]

......OR they might just know what they are talking about. It's ridiculous for you to make that comment also.

If they guy knows what he is talking about based on some kind of actual training or experience, then he may know what he's talking about. I'm a 20 year Paramedic with a mix of field and ER experience. I work with RN's (well bad example, they can't give a Tylenol w/o asking the doctor first) and Physcians of all kinds. That surely doesn't mean I'm qualified to repeat that same information to a patient because I "heard the doc" say it 100 times. I liked the rest of your post, but not that part.

I don't know the post you're talking about but one could assume that there were extenuating circumstances outside of the shoulder, such as the caregiver being a nurse/physiotherapist, the person requiring advanced care that the US could provide better, the cost of said advanced care being covered by spousal medical funds whereas in their country it would cost a lot. I doubt it was as simple as "I hurt my shoulder and I need my wives cuddles".

I'll have to look for that post. I didn't write it myself and there weren't alot of details but I do remember that " he needed 8 weeks of care" and that was the basis of the request/approval.

I think you may have gotten mixed up. The OP that needed the shoulder surgery was the American not the foriegn fiance just in case thats what you were talking about.

BUT, if he wasn't importing a wife, what would he do?

As I mentioned earlier, I think most situations have options. They not be the ones you want, but they are options. I do have a nice job and yes I make a pretty damn good salary. It's not 6 figures but I provide well for them. As I said, I'm am divorced and I did take on her past medical bills(many I never knew of) and pay for 100% of my childrens needs for school, clothing, sports etc,etc,etc. Paying $200 or $300 a week or so for night time care would definately hurt and would take away from my savings, college savings for my children and extra curricular activities. I can work my off days with OT while the kids are in school if needed. I'd do what is needed but just because they are options doesn't mean they are in the best interest.

I'm not trying to imply anything of the OP here but he needs to be aware of them.

Thanks Bob. That's what I'm looking for and I'm sure your not implying anything. Green card hunters are high in PH. I did my homework before during and after and I know she is true blue. I don't know how it would affect the Embassey stage. It could be good or bad, which takes me back to why I posted the question to begin with. If I was a April filer, well this wouldn't even be a thought due to the quick approvals then. Things are different now, for long who knows so I was putting it out there. Tx.

[sheenaspapi 18]

I didn't realize that the goverment doesn't care about the welfare of children. You had alot of great answers in your opinion and came across as your someone in the know. And you come up with this all on your own? A reality check I don't need. Simple question, simple answers but I'd prefer that if you provide me with a definitive yes or no, that you can actually provide a basis to your determination. That you didn't do.

Since someone already beat me to this incredibly illogical conclusion, there is no need to even respond. If we are ever at 40,000 feet in a 747, the flight attendant gets on the speaker requesting a pilot because the Captain just died of a heart attack, I surely hope you don't jump in the pilots seat thinking that your qualified because your neighbors 2nd cousin on his step sisters side was a pilot and you spoke to him last Thanksgiving.

Dang, missed the " don't" in the original post. That was pretty funny.

[baron555 934]

I didn't realize that the goverment doesn't care about the welfare of children.

I do have a nice job and yes I make a pretty damn good salary.

Seems like it's more of a monetary issue rather than a true welfare issue. Your children as not destitute so your chances of an expedite are slim but go for it, if you want. Be very carfeul about what will be said and how questions will be answered at the interview, it could be a deal breaker.

[Darnell 8,478]

This is an incredibly ridiculous comment. I know lawyers, does that make me "qualified to speak on their behalf"? I know police officers, teachers, principles, ministers, geologists, dentists, doctors.. does that mean I'm qualified to speak on all their behalves as well?? Just because you know someone who has experience in a field does NOT mean you are qualified to speak on their behalf, it just means your chats might be interesting and you MIGHT have some interesting wisdom to impart, doesn't mean you know jack sh*t about their trade or are allowed to act high and mighty and all-knowing.

ya, 'knowing' just ain't the operative term here.

But, to Gary's Credit -

HE INTERVIEWED A VSC DIRECTOR,

and wrote up the interview questions and answers, here at VJ, in a 'now pinned' topic .

IMO, worth a read, to any K-1 hopeful, any time. See http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/220499-k-1-petition-information/

Edited September 28, 2010 by Darnell

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

Obviously K1's are eligible to expedite or then it would have never happened before. Of course it would be an exception to the rule, that's why it is called an exception right? What else could it be?

I live 27 hours from any of my family. Finding a caregiver for overnight that is responsible and reasonable isn't easy. Overnight care would be an exception to the norm right Gary and Alla?

What makes me different? I think I explained that already. I also explained that I was looking for opinions on the viability of it. It could be good or bad, that's why I ask.

I appreciate the input. I just wasn't expecting rude input from someone who acts so confidently as if he worked at the USCIS.

If they were eligible, it would not be called an exception. No your case is not special. There is nothing that a case that is an exception to what you think is a "norm" gets expedited. Sheeesh.

You want to ask for an expedite? Do so. It will be denied. If I am wrong, you can come back and say "Nyah, Nyah" and stick your tongue out at me.

Incidently I am close personal friends with a director at USCIS and Alla interprets for them at interviews and such. I am confident. Sorry if you interpret truth as "rude".

Edited September 29, 2010 by Gary and Alla

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

I didn't realize that the goverment doesn't care about the welfare of children. You had alot of great answers in your opinion and came across as your someone in the know. And you come up with this all on your own? A reality check I don't need. Simple question, simple answers but I'd prefer that if you provide me with a definitive yes or no, that you can actually provide a basis to your determination. That you didn't do.

Since someone already beat me to this incredibly illogical conclusion, there is no need to even respond. If we are ever at 40,000 feet in a 747, the flight attendant gets on the speaker requesting a pilot because the Captain just died of a heart attack, I surely hope you jump in the pilots seat thinking that your qualified because your neighbors 2nd cousin on his step sisters side was a pilot and you spoke to him last Thanksgiving.

2 weeks ago he was at my birthday party. Oops. Alla interpreted for an interview at the St Albans USCIS office this morning. That would be TODAY, Tuesday, September 28, 2010. Dang. She gets 1-3 calls per week to interpret for various tyoes of procedures there. Who knew so many people speak Russian in Vermont, but there can be people from any of the former Soviet Republics and even some from Africa where the Russians had a lot of influence for many years. Alla was at the directors home on Sunday evening to get some plant pots his wife was getting rid of so she can bring in her plants for the winter. His wife is an adjudicator that is from Russia. Oh #######,

Damn, dang, triple darn it!

My bother is a pilot and a Orthopedic surgeon but I will NOT volunteer to land a plane or replace your hip. Alla flew his Cessna though (says it was the reason she married me, I think she is joking)

The guy can ask, The guy will be denied, The really good news is that I am so arrogant and sure of myself that IF I am wrong, think of all the fun you are going to have chatising me right here on this forum.

I want to make VERY CLEAR that this man and his wife DO NOT talk about individual cases and completely respect their professional responsibilities and he DOES NOT want to discuss individual cases with me and I do not do so. He does discuss general issues, rules, procedures and other such information which is really nothing more than public information. Any of what he has told me, and I have posted, is basically public information with his own entertaining comments thrown in for levity. The fact that K-1s are almost never approved for an expedite is common, public knowledge.

[sheenaspapi 18]

2 weeks ago he was at my birthday party. Oops. Alla interpreted for an interview at the St Albans USCIS office this morning. That would be TODAY, Tuesday, September 28, 2010. Dang. She gets 1-3 calls per week to interpret for various tyoes of procedures there. Who knew so many people speak Russian in Vermont, but there can be people from any of the former Soviet Republics and even some from Africa where the Russians had a lot of influence for many years. Alla was at the directors home on Sunday evening to get some plant pots his wife was getting rid of so she can bring in her plants for the winter. His wife is an adjudicator that is from Russia. Oh #######,

Damn, dang, triple darn it!

My bother is a pilot and a Orthopedic surgeon but I will NOT volunteer to land a plane or replace your hip. Alla flew his Cessna though (says it was the reason she married me, I think she is joking)

The guy can ask, The guy will be denied, The really good news is that I am so arrogant and sure of myself that IF I am wrong, think of all the fun you are going to have chatising me right here on this forum.

I want to make VERY CLEAR that this man and his wife DO NOT talk about individual cases and completely respect their professional responsibilities and he DOES NOT want to discuss individual cases with me and I do not do so. He does discuss general issues, rules, procedures and other such information which is really nothing more than public information. Any of what he has told me, and I have posted, is basically public information with his own entertaining comments thrown in for levity. The fact that K-1s are almost never approved for an expedite is common, public knowledge.

Your wife interprets for him, you've had dinner together and your wife is picking up pots so that makes you qualified to make an absolute answer about a specific case? I don't think so and I really hope you don't either. If you don't talk specific cases with him then you wouldn't.

I'm not doubting that you have had very interesting conversations with him and surely your knowledge is greater than mine but that hardly makes you qualified to answer specifics definitively. Many general questions you may be able to answer too.

Everything that I quoted from you above, well, doesn't have anything to do with the Visa process at all. Your wife could tell me about flying in a Cessna or what size pot may be best for a plant though.

Please send me the link for the K-1 common public knowledge please. I can't seem to find it on USCIS.

Dang, darn, triple darn what? You have made no point. As far as chastising you and havng fun, I didn't come here for that, I don't really have time for that. Nor do I have any interest in sticking my tongue out at you, saying nyah, nyah or any other childish behavior. I just wanted some opinions and everyone has got one.

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

Your wife interprets for him, you've had dinner together and your wife is picking up pots so that makes you qualified to make an absolute answer about a specific case? I don't think so and I really hope you don't either. If you don't talk specific cases with him then you wouldn't.

I'm not doubting that you have had very interesting conversations with him and surely your knowledge is greater than mine but that hardly makes you qualified to answer specifics definitively. Many general questions you may be able to answer too.

Everything that I quoted from you above, well, doesn't have anything to do with the Visa process at all. Your wife could tell me about flying in a Cessna or what size pot may be best for a plant though.

Please send me the link for the K-1 common public knowledge please. I can't seem to find it on USCIS.

Dang, darn, triple darn what? You have made no point. As far as chastising you and havng fun, I didn't come here for that, I don't really have time for that. Nor do I have any interest in sticking my tongue out at you, saying nyah, nyah or any other childish behavior. I just wanted some opinions and everyone has got one.

You are right of course. I do not make those decisions and I apologize for not saying what you wanted to hear...that means I am probably wrong and you will have your visa in a couple weeks. Good luck with that. First my opinion is disregarded because maybe I haven't talked to him since last Thanksgiving...oops. Now it is because maybe I haven't discussed the issue of expedited cases. I have. Maybe it is because we didn't discuss the issue of expeditied cases for people who need an overnight babysitter and have a hard time to find one...You got me. Dead to rights, we have NOT discussed that. That should give you hope.

It is rather childish to disregard opinions that are not the ones you want, because they are not the ones you want. If what you wanted was someone to say "Sorry to hear about your difficulty, sure ask for an expedite, good luck" then say so, I did not understand that to be the case and volunteered my opinion based on what I know, which may be nothing more than what pots his wife gave to my wife. Yeah, you could go with that.

At any rate, the decision is not made by VJ popular opinion poll. It is made by the USCIS. Ask.

Good grief. Have you ever realized that one of the truest movie lines ever was spoken by Jack Nicholson. "You want the TRUTH? You can't HANDLE the truth"

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

Your wife interprets for him, you've had dinner together and your wife is picking up pots so that makes you qualified to make an absolute answer about a specific case? I don't think so and I really hope you don't either. If you don't talk specific cases with him then you wouldn't.

I'm not doubting that you have had very interesting conversations with him and surely your knowledge is greater than mine but that hardly makes you qualified to answer specifics definitively. Many general questions you may be able to answer too.

Everything that I quoted from you above, well, doesn't have anything to do with the Visa process at all. Your wife could tell me about flying in a Cessna or what size pot may be best for a plant though.

Please send me the link for the K-1 common public knowledge please. I can't seem to find it on USCIS.

Dang, darn, triple darn what? You have made no point. As far as chastising you and havng fun, I didn't come here for that, I don't really have time for that. Nor do I have any interest in sticking my tongue out at you, saying nyah, nyah or any other childish behavior. I just wanted some opinions and everyone has got one.

FYI, my wife does not interpret for "him". She interprets for a number of government clients, federal and state, of which USCIS is one of them. "He" is no longer involved in the area that she is involved with. He was, for 27 years, but now has moved into other areas of the service.

You asked the opinions of members of an unofficial immigration website about a specific case. Do you see where this is going? WHY would you do that if you will then impeach the qualifications of people that don't blow sunshine up your tailpipe? I mean, next time just ask for opinions and say "Good answers only please" Then at least I will know you aren't serious. My qualifications to answer would be right up there with the top of any you received. But you wish to disregard them. At some point you will have to accept reality and do something about it for the sake of your children. In the meantime, ask for a K-1 expedite.