Expidite/ caregiver needed?

[sheenaspapi 18]

There was a post about medical needs due to care from a surgery that was approved to expidite. It was for a shoulder surgery I believe. I have an issue with my x wife/ custody of my children. I'm pretty sure that I will be awarded full custody of them due to her history. The problem is that I work 12 hour night shifts on a rotating schedule. I will have to find someone to watch them a few times a week while I work. My children are young. Who better to care for them than the woman who be in their lives anyways. I'm not sure if it will work or not but the judge can write me a letter, I'll have the new custody orders and copies of her criminal(drug,neglect) records as evidence.

Unfortunately, I'm not making this up.

Anyones opinion here?

[baron555 934]

There was a post about medical needs due to care from a surgery that was approved to expidite. It was for a shoulder surgery I believe. I have an issue with my x wife/ custody of my children. I'm pretty sure that I will be awarded full custody of them due to her history. The problem is that I work 12 hour night shifts on a rotating schedule. I will have to find someone to watch them a few times a week while I work. My children are young. Who better to care for them than the woman who be in their lives anyways. I'm not sure if it will work or not but the judge can write me a letter, I'll have the new custody orders and copies of her criminal(drug,neglect) records as evidence.

Unfortunately, I'm not making this up.

Anyones opinion here?

I highly doubt for success....but give it a try.

[Penguin_ie 5,993]

I don't remember a caregiver approval, other than a couple of pregnancy complication ones, but that doesn't mean it didn't happen!

I doubt yours would be approved, as you could find a nanny or 24 hr daycare to help. You can try, but some say a failed expedite actually slows things down as your application gets pulled out of line.

[candn 17]

Highly unlikely as that is not really an emergency for the purposes of the K1. Looking from an adjudicator's standpoint, I would think just like some else posted: there are nannies, 24 hour daycares, and family members. If you want to try, though, go for it.

[baron555 934]

Highly unlikely as that is not really an emergency for the purposes of the K1. Looking from an adjudicator's standpoint, I would think just like some else posted: there are nannies, 24 hour daycares, and family members. If you want to try, though, go for it.

I would also speculate that this could also potentially poison your chances. Looking at your country, I could see the Embassy CO (who would know about the details of the expedite) thinking, "Why do these two want to circumvent the normal process?" "They really do not have an emergency, so what are they trying to pull?" "Maybe the relationship is not so real and there are ulterior motives?"

I'm just speculating. Most of us just follow/ed the normal process and didn't try to bring undo attention upon ourselves.

Remember, the final decision is the subjective opinion of the CO. As we say in the dog show business, Never make the judge have to think.

Good luck.

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

Who better? I agree. The government won't.

You can ask, it will be denied. Go for it.

K1s are not eligible for expedite. Which part if that is not clear? "But, but..." Yes, there have been EXCEPTIONS, but those are EXCEPTIONS to the RULE.

In what way are you different than 2 million other parents that need to provide care for THEIR children and are NOT engaged to a foreign person?

Put your ad on Craig's List..."Caregiver needed"

[NigeriaorBust 4,087]

There is another potential issue when you are dealing with high fraud countries. They may add the babysitter duties to evidence that this is not a love relationship but a way for you to get a cheap babysitter while helping someone get entry to the US. Remember in this process you are guilty until proven otherwise.

[sheenaspapi 18]

K1s are not eligible for expedite. Which part if that is not clear? "But, but..." Yes, there have been EXCEPTIONS, but those are EXCEPTIONS to the RULE.

In what way are you different than 2 million other parents that need to provide care for THEIR children and are NOT engaged to a foreign person?

Obviously K1's are eligible to expedite or then it would have never happened before. Of course it would be an exception to the rule, that's why it is called an exception right? What else could it be?

I live 27 hours from any of my family. Finding a caregiver for overnight that is responsible and reasonable isn't easy. Overnight care would be an exception to the norm right Gary and Alla?

What makes me different? I think I explained that already. I also explained that I was looking for opinions on the viability of it. It could be good or bad, that's why I ask.

I appreciate the input. I just wasn't expecting rude input from someone who acts so confidently as if he worked at the USCIS.

[candn 17]

Obviously K1's are eligible to expedite or then it would have never happened before. Of course it would be an exception to the rule, that's why it is called an exception right? What else could it be?

I live 27 hours from any of my family. Finding a caregiver for overnight that is responsible and reasonable isn't easy. Overnight care would be an exception to the norm right Gary and Alla?

What makes me different? I think I explained that already. I also explained that I was looking for opinions on the viability of it. It could be good or bad, that's why I ask.

I appreciate the input. I just wasn't expecting rude input from someone who acts so confidently as if he worked at the USCIS.

Sorry that is NOT exception. It's just a babysitter issue. There are people who are having surgeries and have long recoveries that can't be approved. The government really doesn't care about your caregiving needs for your kids. Someone may have said it a little more harshly than you wanted to hear but the truth was spoken. We have all said you can try if that's what you want to do. To find someone on here that is going to tell you what you want to hear is highly unlikely. Gary and Alla was RIGHT: overnight care is NOT an exception. Your situation is NOT different, and if you cannot find someone "responsible and reasonable" now what will you do if your fiancee is not approved to come over at all???? You may want to think about this from the standpoint she is not going to be approved and act based on that (not saying she isn't). If you feel you have no options now, how are you going to handle your babysitting issue if she is denied her visa? What would you do then? Not being harsh but providing a reality check.

[sheenaspapi 18]

Sorry that is NOT exception. It's just a babysitter issue. There are people who are having surgeries and have long recoveries that can't be approved. The government really doesn't care about your caregiving needs for your kids. Someone may have said it a little more harshly than you wanted to hear but the truth was spoken. We have all said you can try if that's what you want to do. To find someone on here that is going to tell you what you want to hear is highly unlikely. Gary and Alla was RIGHT: overnight care is NOT an exception. Your situation is NOT different, and if you cannot find someone "responsible and reasonable" now what will you do if your fiancee is not approved to come over at all???? You may want to think about this from the standpoint she is not going to be approved and act based on that (not saying she isn't). If you feel you have no options now, how are you going to handle your babysitting issue if she is denied her visa? What would you do then? Not being harsh but providing a reality check.

According to the goverment, there really are not any exceptions. I know this and did before I posted the question here. Knowing this, every request to expidite won't be approved but some of them are. Depends on many variables, to include if it is sunny or cloudy out side i'd guess.

I never thought nor did I make this post so someone could pop up here and say" absolutely, your guaranteed expidition!!!" and I would just mail it off. I asked for opinions on the matter. I just prefer without arrogance and that is how I would reply. All the repeat and redundant questions that are asked here, I could have a field day.

I was basing this question on another post from a guy that was approved due to care needed from a shoulder surgery. Assuming the other arm is still there, what is sooo urgent about that? He could easily post on craigslist or find a caregiver correct? Instead, he made the request and it was approved. so if the goverment doesn't care about the welfare of my children, then what the hell do they care about this guys shoulder?????

There isn't a rhyme or reason to it. I think we both know that. There are options for me just as they are for many. There are always options. My children come before anything else.

It was a simple question, which is why we all came here. You need to use your own reality check.

If you want to be arrogant, go yell at the guy with the " I got my NOA1 2 weeks ago but I haven't heard anything yet" or "how long is the K1 process". You just gotta READ people.

[sheenaspapi 18]

Sorry that is NOT exception. It's just a babysitter issue. There are people who are having surgeries and have long recoveries that can't be approved. The government really doesn't care about your caregiving needs for your kids. Someone may have said it a little more harshly than you wanted to hear but the truth was spoken. We have all said you can try if that's what you want to do. To find someone on here that is going to tell you what you want to hear is highly unlikely. Gary and Alla was RIGHT: overnight care is NOT an exception. Your situation is NOT different, and if you cannot find someone "responsible and reasonable" now what will you do if your fiancee is not approved to come over at all???? You may want to think about this from the standpoint she is not going to be approved and act based on that (not saying she isn't). If you feel you have no options now, how are you going to handle your babysitting issue if she is denied her visa? What would you do then? Not being harsh but providing a reality check.

According to the goverment, there really are not any exceptions. I know this and did before I posted the question here. Knowing this, every request to expidite won't be approved but some of them are. Depends on many variables, to include if it is sunny or cloudy out side i'd guess.

I never thought nor did I make this post so someone could pop up here and say" absolutely, your guaranteed expidition!!!" and I would just mail it off. I asked for opinions on the matter. I just prefer without arrogance and that is how I would reply. All the repeat and redundant questions that are asked here, I could have a field day.

I was basing this question on another post from a guy that was approved due to care needed from a shoulder surgery. Assuming the other arm is still there, what is sooo urgent about that? He could easily post on craigslist or find a caregiver correct? Instead, he made the request and it was approved. so if the goverment doesn't care about the welfare of my children, then what the hell do they care about this guys shoulder?????

There isn't a rhyme or reason to it. I think we both know that. There are options for me just as they are for many. There are always options. My children come before anything else.

It was a simple question, which is why we all came here. You need to use your own reality check.

If you want to be arrogant, go yell at the guy with the " I got my NOA1 2 weeks ago but I haven't heard anything yet" or "how long is the K1 process". You just gotta READ people.

[baron555 934]

input from someone who acts so confidently as if he worked at the USCIS.

Actually Gary does know someone who worked in the K-1 Visa section of USCIS as a manager (see Sticky at top of the forum) so, yes, he is somewhat qualified to speak to their behalf.

You obviously understand that what you are asking for is a wild chance and have gotten consistent answers. You obviously don't like those answers because you are all defensive about it.

Anyways, as I stated, I'd be very careful if you wish to pursue this because of possible ramifications at the interview. Think clearly and don't let your emotions guide you.

[Maxx121 14]

honest, gary was a bit rude when he said " K1's are not eligible for expidite, which part of that is not clear? " yaaaaa thats a bit harsh when thats the first time i read him say it.

And as far as being defensive, i am a single father myself and my son is just about 2 years old. If i was dating an american woman no one would think twice about why. But even at my work people make off the cuff coments not gettin as they say it that its a bit rude and offensive to boil our love down to simply wanting a nanny and not knowing that when she comes here she will go to school and wants to work herself AND wants a baby.

So i can understand the OP's defensiveness, people in life often speak without care for what the words they say will do. Words can kill you know, but they can also save lives, just gotta know and care enough to use them properly.

Course thats a lesson that i myself continually learn every day

[candn 17]

According to the goverment, there really are not any exceptions. I know this and did before I posted the question here. Knowing this, every request to expidite won't be approved but some of them are. Depends on many variables, to include if it is sunny or cloudy out side i'd guess.

I never thought nor did I make this post so someone could pop up here and say" absolutely, your guaranteed expidition!!!" and I would just mail it off. I asked for opinions on the matter. I just prefer without arrogance and that is how I would reply. All the repeat and redundant questions that are asked here, I could have a field day.

I was basing this question on another post from a guy that was approved due to care needed from a shoulder surgery. Assuming the other arm is still there, what is sooo urgent about that? He could easily post on craigslist or find a caregiver correct? Instead, he made the request and it was approved. so if the goverment doesn't care about the welfare of my children, then what the hell do they care about this guys shoulder?????

There isn't a rhyme or reason to it. I think we both know that. There are options for me just as they are for many. There are always options. My children come before anything else.

It was a simple question, which is why we all came here. You need to use your own reality check.

If you want to be arrogant, go yell at the guy with the " I got my NOA1 2 weeks ago but I haven't heard anything yet" or "how long is the K1 process". You just gotta READ people.

I was NOT being arrogant. I was telling you to look at it from all angles. If my telling you to be realistic in your expectations and try to weigh your odds makes me arrogant, then I guess in your eyes I am arrogant. Why did you even bother asking the question if you don't want to listen to what's being said? This is an open forum and people will give you their thoughts on the matter. In fact, please go ahead and try for the exception and then let us all know what happens. It will assist us in the future when answer questions like yours I am sure I won't be the only one that wants to know how it turns out.

[VanessaTony 3,567]

Actually Gary does know someone who worked in the K-1 Visa section of USCIS as a manager (see Sticky at top of the forum) so, yes, he is somewhat qualified to speak to their behalf.

This is an incredibly ridiculous comment. I know lawyers, does that make me "qualified to speak on their behalf"? I know police officers, teachers, principles, ministers, geologists, dentists, doctors.. does that mean I'm qualified to speak on all their behalves as well?? Just because you know someone who has experience in a field does NOT mean you are qualified to speak on their behalf, it just means your chats might be interesting and you MIGHT have some interesting wisdom to impart, doesn't mean you know jack sh*t about their trade or are allowed to act high and mighty and all-knowing.