What if your other half develops a friendship...

[beccaogingi 0]

Maybe it's different because when I met my fiance I knew he had lots of female friends, but it doesn't bother me at all. He's not like that. He has a band member who is a girl (of course she is also practically married to a friend of his). We ran into a few female friends of his in the mall. No big deal.

Anyway, maybe it's different because I am in a mostly male industry, so most of my work friends are guys. So I don't see opposite sex friendships as weird. And that doesn't bother him either.

[*Robert* 2]

Yes

No

Yes

[Addie_Goodvibes 0]

I trust my wife, and no she will never do anything to harm our marriage, but she is smoking Hot so i am sure a lot of blokes want to be-friend her,

[Cristy 4]

If he had a female friend before me I would expect their friendship to slow down. If he developed a new female friend after me I would not be impressed at all.

[beccaogingi 0]

You know, maybe it depends on the culture of your SO. Mine is Scandanavian and I think they are more gender-equal in general, so male-female friendships are often just friendships and nothing more. In an Asian culture I think a male-female friendship doesn't exist as much, so it might arise suspicion.

[triaxiom 0]

...and it's no, nay, never...

I trust my husband. I trusted him when we were 3500 miles apart and had no idea where our relationship was headed. He has female friends. Some of them are hotter than me. Some of them are attracted to him-he's an attractive guy. Some are both at once.

The bottom line is that I feel that my husband would never have any kind of inappropriate relationship with another woman. Period. Whether or not she was interested-all I see in her interest would be a reaffirmation of my own good taste!-or whether or not he was oblivious, I still would trust him. It makes no difference to me; I know I'm the one in his life, the one he wants, the one he fought for and in the end, won. There's a lot of security in that.

And if he gets bored of you, there's always the local brasshouse for some fresh #######.

[VetsWife328 7]

Voted yes on all three counts.

My better half gets very depressed when he's away from me for long and he needs "female company" not for sexual reasons but just bc he likes the company of a woman.

Right now we don't have any problems with that since he's staying with our best friends and the woman is one of my closest friends .But when I was told that Robin is just SOOOOOO much like me,I did get a little worried.Especially since my man knows our friends for a lot longer than I do (he was stationed here in Germany and the guy was in his unit).

But I know that Jim would not do anything for the simple fact that number one he misses me like crazy and can't be without me and he knows that if he was to do something stupid he would never see me again.He wont take that risk.

But if there was a friend of the opposite sex (not Robin) that I don't know,yeah I'd worry about HER intentions.My man is a very good looking ,well mannered,caring Sweetie and I know sooner or later that friend would fall for him.

As for my part,

I do not have close friends of the opposite sex.Some male friends I have are gay and the other is married.I don't believe in friendships with the opposite sex.It always gets complicated (talking from experience).Being friends with married couples is fine,but I would worry if the guy would show more interest in having me as a friend than my man,would be the same if the woman would be more interested in my better half's friendship than in mine.

With our friends mentioned above,Jim and Nate have a very strong friendship and Robin is giving my better half the female company he needs (as in the female point of view) .I don't have much to do with Nate since I don't feel right developing a close friendship with another male but Robin and me are close especially since we're so much alike.And I know she would never touch my man.

Nat

[Mrs. Forgetful 2]

My husband and I had a problem with this before. And still do. I trust him just not the other girl. once before a girl actually kissed him right in front of me! and he wonders why I hate when I learn of a new girl friend

[luvaLimey 0]

For everyone who is ok with their OH having a friendship with a person of the opposite sex, just another wrinkle: how would you feel about them going out for dinner and drinks with that friend? Just the two of them? Or even going away for a weekend together, even if they were staying in separate hotel rooms?

[babybunny 2]

I would not care if my fiance had a guy friend.. I would trust her .. and I would trust the guy .. because they would know that if he touched her I would stab him .. ahahhaha .. But I know my fiance would never cheat on me and I would never cheat on her.. so no big deal. But again he touches her .. I stab him.

I think the same thing. so javed could have all the friends he want- dont bother me.

[luvaLimey 0]

so you'd have no problem with him spending the weekend with a female friend?

[chri'stina 190]

So during your seperation of however many miles it is, your OH develops what seems to be a close (take your mind out the gutter) friendship with someone of the opposite sex...

Issue?

It would have been an issue for us if either of us had developed a new close friendship with someone of the opposite sex, and spent time one on one with them hanging out. It's just not something either of us would have done while in a relationship. I have some guy friends that I have known since high school and we are all close, but lots of them are married now too so there'd be no reason why I'd only hang out with the guy when I am good friends with their wives too.

There are exceptions though. There are two guys I am friends with that I have known since I was a little kid, so they are kind of like cousins to me. When Sujeet was in India, I would give a ride to one of them back to college often on my way for a class, since we went to the same college but he lived on campus(I didn't) and needed a ride back there from our town. Never thought of that as weird since he is like a cousin to me, and Sujeet didn't care. But that wasn't a new close friendship. It was a long term family-like friendship. I didn't hang out with them alone on the weekends, then it would have been weird IMO.

If Sujeet had made a new close friend that was a girl while in India, it would be weird because that's not him at all and not really his culture. He had some buddies, but never really had close friends that were girls besides his 4 sisters. Now in the US, if he went alone somewhere with my sister or girl cousin or my closest friends, it wouldn't be weird at all. They don't do that ever, but let's say they need his help getting something or picking something up, they are all family or like family so it's not weird.

[seldi 1]

He wouldn't, he's too scared of me j/k

[jo&john 1]

Not an issue. We completely trust and respect each other.

[kirk and Jenny 0]

I completely trust her. She is totally Jealous.