Indian planning to marry older black american women

[dogspot 90]

My advice: meet in person first and then determine whether you want to proceed with the process. Take a ton of photos together, then come back here and see what your nextstep is.

[Darnell 8,478]

I wonder how the "November Trip" went?

[R.&S. 2]

The age difference is 11 years.She is 40 and am 29.I will be attending in chennai..We know each other for 3 months online..we will be meeting face to face in november.

I would recommend a marriage If it is possible for you.

Remember: A LOT OF PICS.OF BOTH OF YOU WITH FAMILY AND FRIENDS.

[Prescious 0]

Can someone help me because my situation is very similar to Fianceevisa.

I am a 43 year old black woman and I MARRIED a 27 year old Indian man in Chandigarh India on April 5, 2013. I am currently still here in India and will be here till August 2013

So here is my situation, I've been talking to my husband for 3 years online and on the phone since 2010. To make a long story short, his family does not really accept me and I can't go to his house. One or two accepts me but that's about it. Oh he changed his religion from Hindu to Christian in order to marry with me. He said he had no problem with that since he is not religious and doesn't really believe in God anyway. His mother hates me double for this as his family is very strongly Hindu people. We are currently staying in a hotel. We have pictures not alot, But when I go back to America, what will be the procedure like will it be hard for our situation as well if I apply for my husband to come to America on a spousal Visa considering our circumstances? Any advice on our spousal Visa and how it can be approved? How long do you think it will take?

[TBoneTX 44,786]

*** Thread moved from K-1 Process forum to India regional subforum -- last poster is married (not K-1 path); peculiarities pertaining to India need to be discussed. ***

[catknit 144]

Prescious - you may have a bit of an uphill battle.

First, the basics - you'll want to read the guides for a CR-1 petition/visa. Go ahead and begin to fill out the forms now given you are together and signatures, etc will be easy to get. It appears timeline are running about a year.

You can even go ahead and file the CR-1 petition by mailing it to the US - this will get you in the queue now as opposed to in August when you return to the US. As long as both of you were free to marry when you married in India, you have the proper paperwork, the fees paid, and can pass through AOS at NVC, he will be granted the interview. This part of the process has very little to do with cultural judgement calls and more to do with paperwork simply proving you are married and can sponsor your husband.

As to your specifics - the age difference, the lack of family approval on his side, etc. This is where things might be a bit sticky at the consulate during the interview [which is step 2 of this process]. The CO who ends up interviewing him will be looking at your relationship from the outside with the knowledge that some Indians are out to defraud USCs and the US govt for a green card. The COs look for typical markers - young men who have lured older women into fairy tale romances. For example. maybe the guy says it's okay you have 3 kids, are 20 years older and 60 pounds overweight, and that my family hates you - it doesn't matter because I have by-hearted your soul into mine! [seriously, there are guys who play this game].

I'm not saying that your husband is like this - but the COs have seen it time and again and they call it out as potential fraud [that's when you get a thing called a 221g and the consulate pays the guy's family a visit].

So, what you need to do is show the legitimacy and genuineness [not sure that that is a word] of your specific relationship from the very beginning - because on paper the COs fraud meter will be going off just because of the age difference. A few pictures that show the race difference will seal the "wait - I need to really see what's happening" actions of the CO. Start looking here for information on "front loading" your petition.

The fact that his family has issues with you may be less of a big deal than you think. Worst case scenario - people from the embassy go to interview his family - and his parents say something to the effect of "we told him not to marry her, but he went on and on about loving her, it's such a big mistake - he needs to stay here and take care of us!" - that type of answer may point to your relationship being pretty genuine. Now, on the other hand, they start carrying on about how he'd marry anyone to get to America - well, that would just about sink the boat. Has he introduced you to friends? Maybe cousins? Siblings who "get" your relationship? Affidavits from these people may help in front loading the petition and would be people that could be mentioned if asked at the interview "Who knows about your marriage?".

Also, just as an fyi - my number 1 piece of advice far ANYONE going through Delhi [which should be the consulate he will be interviewing at] - attend the interview with him. This accomplishes two things: #1 you will be able to provide the emotional support needed and you will be showing the CO that you are there providing emotional support; #2 you will be able to address any of the CO's concerns in person as well as ask questions about procedure if needed.

Best of luck!