Interesting turn of event

[RICARDO4EVA2 194]

I think it would be better for him to find another way to stay in the country because you don't want to get hurt again and why should his

visa status be a burden on you. I know you love him and everything but I just think you are thinking with your heart. I really want him

to find another avenue of obtaining his visa because he is going for a PHD. I don't want you to be used for immigraition purposes again

because you have to learn from your previous mistake. These guys just use women for their own benefit and when they get what they

want they totally act like they don't know who you are anymore. I would advise you to leave him alone with his immigration status. I think

one time is enough to get hurt...................

Well Said ... Why put your self through the same issue... I would not... unless I like being caught up unnecessarily... with immigration and fund Immigration Dollars

[JimVaPhuong 4,863]

Hello everyone,

I've been on this forum before and it has been very helpful! I'm here again as I have another Visa journey to contend with. Please let me know if anyone on here has had a similar experience. Your help is greatly appreciated!! Here's my story:

Once upon a time I met an Italian who I thought was the "the One" and we proceeded with K-129 (Fiance Visa). He was approved and we had a civil ceremony in November 2008. Needless to say, after 1 year I knew that he was not the man I married and so we are getting a divorce. Hopefully, the union will be dissolve in December 2010. The marriage was done in good faith, but you never know until you live with someone who they really are. Anyhow, fast forward to this year. I met someone who is the love of my life. This is deja-vu all over again for me. The love of my life has been here for 10 years on a student visa and is finishing up his PhD. Unbeknown to the both of us the turn of event in our life, he was informed earlier this week that the University will not grant him an extension and his student visa will expire by end of this year. I'm in love with this man and plan to marry him after my divorce is finalize. Seems like I will have to file a K-130 now...I know my situation is not unique...but does anyone have any guidance as to what we can expect? Will INS look at this and think I fraud them? There is nothing malicious on any of my union...the first one just didn't work out because the man wasn't what he said he was, but it did lead me to this one. Anyhow, I plan to hire an immigration attorney to help me sort this out, but in the meantime please share your thoughts and experience to give me an idea as to what we can expect.

Thank you...

It's probably safe to say that your situation will raise some eyebrows with USCIS.

First, what's the story on his student visa? Is it a J or an F visa? Just trying to determine if there might be a two year home residency requirement.

Is he from a country that would normally be considered a high risk for visa fraud? Immigration officers tend to look at these cases more critically. Attempting to adjust status while in the US is sometimes seen as an attempt to dodge a tough visa interview at a foreign consulate. That's why they're adamant that eligibility to adjust status in the US is not meant to be an alternative to the immigrant visa process.

Now let's look at this like an immigration officer would look at it. We're looking at your divorce decree and see you've just gotten out of a marriage with an immigrant who got a green card by marrying you. Hmmm. Now you've just married another immigrant whose student visa is expiring. AND he's got a Phd! Double hmmm. The first thing I would do is flip to your I-864 and have a look at your income. Is it close to the qualifying threshold? If so, I'd be thinking maybe this applicant paid the sponsor to help them immigrate. Hmmm again. Ok, Stokes interview!

Seriously, adjustment of status is at the discretion of the immigration officer. There are some facts in your case that raise suspicion. There may be more that you haven't told us about. If they deny his AOS because they believe the relationship is a sham then he may end up with a misrepresentation in his file, which could result in him being barred from the US for life. If you're going to roll those dice, wouldn't you rather play at a table where the odds are more in your favor?

He should return to his home country and clean up whatever is left of his life there. Take some time to develop your relationship before plunging into another marriage. When you feel the time is right, petition for a fiance visa, or marry him and petition for a spousal visa. The more you rush this, the lower your chances of success will be.

[DoroChu 1]

I think it would be better for him to find another way to stay in the country because you don't want to get hurt again and why should his

visa status be a burden on you. I know you love him and everything but I just think you are thinking with your heart. I really want him

to find another avenue of obtaining his visa because he is going for a PHD. I don't want you to be used for immigraition purposes again

because you have to learn from your previous mistake. These guys just use women for their own benefit and when they get what they

want they totally act like they don't know who you are anymore. I would advise you to leave him alone with his immigration status. I think

one time is enough to get hurt...................

Hadiza or whatever your name is, what is really your problem? You are a Nigerian and I believe someone brought you to that USA or rather, someone is going to bring to the USA. She found the one she loves and that's why she doing all she could to help him. Why would you advise her to leave the man? What good intentions do you have in your relationship anyway if I may ask because I know you Nigerians too well? Are you sure you are not using your partner to get your status and then abandon him/her? Why didn't you find another avenue to come to the USA instead of allowing someone to petitioned for you? Answer me Hadiza, answer me because I am not happy with your input at all. People are giving their opinions and all you could say is " I would advise you to leave him alone with his immigration status". Nigeriansssssss....

[Osvaldo 0]

I think it would be better for him to find another way to stay in the country because you don't want to get hurt again and why should his

visa status be a burden on you. I know you love him and everything but I just think you are thinking with your heart. I really want him

to find another avenue of obtaining his visa because he is going for a PHD. I don't want you to be used for immigraition purposes again

because you have to learn from your previous mistake. These guys just use women for their own benefit and when they get what they

want they totally act like they don't know who you are anymore. I would advise you to leave him alone with his immigration status. I think

one time is enough to get hurt...................

I agree with Hadiza. I think taken one chance is enough. You will always find love in different people. Given your past experience perhaps is less complicated to start relationships with individuals without visa or green card requirements. A least that's what I would do, after one failed attempt.

[Hadiza 1]

To Doro whatever your name is:

I did not tell the woman to LEAVE her man I told her to let him figure out HIS visa status. If he

wants to stay in this country that is HIS problem not hers. He is a SMART man, he is going for his PhD.

You do not know Nigerians because you don't KNOW me so you have no right to say that.

I did not use someone to come here and if you knew about Nigerians you would not even say such

an IGNORANT statement about Nigerians.You are a complete racist and should check yourself before

you judge someone for their nationality. Nigerians are successful, smart, classy, and religious.

I don't know where YOU come from with your narrow point of mind. How many "Nigerians" did you

meet in your lifetime about FIVE.....

[RICARDO4EVA2 194]

Hadiza or whatever your name is, what is really your problem? You are a Nigerian and I believe someone brought you to that USA or rather, someone is going to bring to the USA. She found the one she loves and that's why she doing all she could to help him. Why would you advise her to leave the man? What good intentions do you have in your relationship anyway if I may ask because I know you Nigerians too well? Are you sure you are not using your partner to get your status and then abandon him/her? Why didn't you find another avenue to come to the USA instead of allowing someone to petitioned for you? Answer me Hadiza, answer me because I am not happy with your input at all. People are giving their opinions and all you could say is " I would advise you to leave him alone with his immigration status". Nigeriansssssss....

No need to be upset. I'm in agreement.... No, I married no one to be here but it is the truth. The person below is in agreement too. It is what it is..yeah

[elus 3]

My greetings to you Dorochu.You said the right thing.I am a Nigerian by blood.I have lived there all my life before I came here.Here is a forum where a positive opinions are needed to guide someone in the immigration process.The best you can do is to give a positive advice to tell the person you to leave his or her patner alone.It is wrong,can someone tell you to leave someone you care about alone.That is why immigration process is different from human thinking.One you didnt break the law commit any felony offences.Any red flags that would come could be overcome through evidence of bona-fide marriage.There are many people here in US that have married more than four times though not for immigration purposes.So marrying someone for any reason but with genuine reason is not against the law.Follow your heart and good advice of the people.I Love Nigeria as my country but most women here that are US citizen have been obsessed with Green Card.They believed that any man that approaches them is for Green card.With that they have missed their husband and are now single.The Nigerian women here in US hold the Green Card as a means of going to Heaven and dont wanna share it even to the person that love them.They are so engross with the so-called Green Card.

When you love somebody all you need is to be with that person irrespective of the nature of the person.All you need is happiness in life and if that person makes you happy and you love him,them find way to be with that person.We all are different and that is why most people dont understand how immigration works.They know how you could see somebody today and marry the person tomorrow.My wife's parent met under 3 weeks and they got married(over 48yrs now) and they are still happilly married up till now. All that I know immigration cannot stop two people that are genuinely married for no matter their circumstances maybe,quick marry after divorce,black and white,large age gap.All you have to do is to prove it.What God has joined together let no man put asunder.

Something it really amazes me how people come here to give their own opinion as if they are immigration officer.It annoys me.Wish people the best of luck and guide them how to be successful on their applications.On my interview the immigration officer that interviewed us met her husband online,married a black man before with 3 kids.I met my wife online and she is a white woman.They know that interracial marriage is real and some people have penchant for white or black people.

[Hadiza 1]

To Elus:

"The Nigerian women here in US hold the Green Card as a means of going to Heaven and dont wanna

share it even to the person that love them.They are so engross with the so-called Green Card".

NOT TRUE-I am Nigerian woman who is a US CITIZEN who sponsored my Nigerian husband so I don't

know what you are talking about when you say that we hold the green card as a means

of going to heaven.

"The best you can do is to give a positive advice to tell the person you to leave his or her

patner alone.It is wrong,can someone tell you to leave someone you care about alone".

NOT TRUE- I did not tell her to leave him alone, I told her to let him figure out how to

get his green card like I mentioned before the guy is going for his PHd. She said

her previous husband used her for immigration purposes and you want her to repeat

the same MISTAKE again because she "LOVES" him.

"When you love somebody all you need is to be with that person irrespective of the nature

of the person".

NOT TRUE-One has to be very careful with who they fall in "love" with especially when

the couple are involved in the immigration process. You can't be blind and just

follow your heart. Immigration fraud is very real and it happens all the time. Don't

pretend that you don't know but a LOT of people are CHEATED just to get a

green card. I suggest you open your eyes and see the truth. Immigration FRAUD

is very REAL, my brother. I did not say that all marriages and relationships are for

immigration purposes but one has to be very "CAREFUL".

"Something it really amazes me how people come here to give their own opinion as if

they are immigration officer.It annoys me."

You are NOT an immigration officer either so I can give my opionion the same way

you can. My opinion is equally important as yours.

It is people like you that do not allow Nigerians to progess as a people and as a nation.

You should be ashamed of yourself for insulting your fellow Nigerian in a public forum

like visajourney. I should not be surprised since you are not even married to a Nigerian woman.

I am not shocked that you disrespect a Nigerian woman anyway. I don't have anything

against you marrying a white woman but you don't respect your Nigerian sisters at all........

[Kathryn41 3,205]

Please answer the OPs question without making judgments about her situation and insinuations about her partner's intentions. if you have nothing useful to offer to this thread then I suggest you do not participate in it.

Judgmental and argumentative comments, especially ones making accusations against other VJ members, add nothing to the thread . Personal attacks are a violation of the Terms of Service for Visa Journey and any further such comments that occur in this thread will be dealt with administratively.

A number of Off Topic type of comments, inappropriate for the Immigration forums, have also been removed.

Edited September 7, 2010 by Kathryn41

[elus 3]

Please answer the OPs question without making judgments about her situation and insinuations about her partner's intentions. if you have nothing useful to offer to this thread then I suggest you do not participate in it.

Judgmental and argumentative comments, especially ones making accusations against other VJ members, add nothing to the thread . Personal attacks are a violation of the Terms of Service for Visa Journey and any further such comments that occur in this thread will be dealt with administratively.

A number of Off Topic type of comments, inappropriate for the Immigration forums, have also been removed.

Thanks very much.May God bless you for that.

[HappyKnappy 30]

I think it would be better for him to find another way to stay in the country because you don't want to get hurt again and why should his

visa status be a burden on you. I know you love him and everything but I just think you are thinking with your heart. I really want him

to find another avenue of obtaining his visa because he is going for a PHD. I don't want you to be used for immigraition purposes again

because you have to learn from your previous mistake. These guys just use women for their own benefit and when they get what they

want they totally act like they don't know who you are anymore. I would advise you to leave him alone with his immigration status. I think

one time is enough to get hurt...................

I think NO ONE here but the OP should decide what the plan is going to be. Not to be rude you are sounding like a nagging mother, and you are passing judgement on someone you don't know. To each his/her own... God willing everything will work out for the OP and whatever she chooses to do.

[Hadiza 1]

To Happy Knappy-

The young lady quoted:

"but in the meantime please share your thoughts and experience to give me an idea as to what we can expect."

I can SHARE my thoughts and experiences with whomever I want and you are not my MOTHER or FATHER to tell me

what to do.

[ValerieA 350]

To Happy Knappy-

The young lady quoted:

"but in the meantime please share your thoughts and experience to give me an idea as to what we can expect."

I can SHARE my thoughts and experiences with whomever I want and you are not my MOTHER or FATHER to tell me

what to do.

The OP is looking for advice on the VISA PROCESS (see, I can use caps too), not your personal opinion on her fiance's intentions. Please re-read what Kathryn (a mod on this site) warned us about earlier:

Please answer the OPs question without making judgments about her situation and insinuations about her partner's intentions. if you have nothing useful to offer to this thread then I suggest you do not participate in it.

Judgmental and argumentative comments, especially ones making accusations against other VJ members, add nothing to the thread . Personal attacks are a violation of the Terms of Service for Visa Journey and any further such comments that occur in this thread will be dealt with administratively.

A number of Off Topic type of comments, inappropriate for the Immigration forums, have also been removed.

[Darnell 8,479]

fireandwater - hey - any news from the DSO?

[HappyKnappy 30]

To Happy Knappy-

The young lady quoted:

"but in the meantime please share your thoughts and experience to give me an idea as to what we can expect."

I can SHARE my thoughts and experiences with whomever I want and you are not my MOTHER or FATHER to tell me

what to do.

I agree, any kid of mine would know when to zip it to avoid making fools of themselves.