I have obtained legal separation from my husband...

[MRStee 19]

I wouldn't even know how to begin to help you. I am sorry that you are going through this and I like the advice that justashooter is giving you. The truth shall set you free and you will prevail. Good luck to you and I will keep you in prayer

[1HappyGuy 45]

All of the points you made are good ones. Start preparing the letter now. Afterwards, go back over it to review it and try to remove any emotion based references. Be very clear, concise and professional in your letter. Plan to provide copies of documents that support your position, if possible. Proceed with the divorce as soon as possible.

You might find it helpful to get an Info Pass with your local USCIS office to discuss your situation, thereby establishing some additional corroboration of your position.

Get a new email address and don't communicate with any of his friends and remind your friends to do the same. If the only way he can contact you is email, then change the opportunity. His future communications with you should go through your attorney.

[Darnell 8,479]

in addition to what pushbrk has outlined.

I strongly suggest you take 2 days to prepare a 'casefile'.

To further his point - do not simply submit a one-page document into USCIS - Take some time, flesh it out, so that the patterns are

--clearly identified

--clearly enumerated

Now - who to contact? You'll want to submit a 'complete copy' to:

--local USCIS office - Fraud Prevention Unit

--ICE office

--US Embassy where you interviewed - attn Fraud Prevention Unit

--national USCIS office - Fraud Prevention Unit.

--(he in indian national?) US Embassy Mumbai - attn Fraud Prevention Unit

Good Luck !

[William33 110]

The OP is seeking advice, not moral judgements or other negativity.

One such post removed.

[rlogan 2,036]

He can sue me, I suppose, but I can't imagine a judge in the U.S. granting him my support under the circumstances (his refusal to work, my medical condition, his abuse of me, etc). I could understand if it were a person who had no education, did not speak English, and did not have other resources (such as a lengthy record of employment in the U.S. prior to our marriage and wealthy parents).

Contracts based on fraud or bad faith are null and void. Even if they had no education, did not speak english, had no other resources, etc. - a "contract" based on fraud is still unenforceable.

The person who would be owed damages here in a civil action is you, for the harm done to you.

[HannahP 119]

OP, did you have a previous username on here? Because I think I know who are you.

[Raj_Kaj 0]

you got that right. an able bodied educated man from empowered family can't possibly win a support suit against you.

there are the legal issues that would prevent him from even filing one.

the immigrant has no "standing" to raise such a case, as they are not party to the 864 contract between you and USCIS, at all. they are, legally, only a bystander in the contract.

the fed.gov is not gonna rep this guy. any local county level judge hearing divorce actions is out of his jurisdiction of he tries to invoke 864.

i wish people would stop raising that remote possibility. it almost never happens, when it does it is bad law or misreported, and retelling the same few cases stirs the pot unnecessarily.

we have enough aliens and morons posting in this segment about "moral responsibility to the immigrant" and trying to guilt trip USC who have been duped by fraudsters.

we don't need to be told about million to one odds stuff every time.

I want to thank you for posting this. I am in a very similar situation myself except that there are kids involved. I'm terrified of my own soon-to-be ex and in fact, I visited USCIS today to give them the details. They were as helpful as a tree stump. As usual, visa journey and it's members saved me heartache when the government has failed to answer simple questions. I wish the OP all the best. I have cut all contact with my soon to be ex. He is a diagnosed narcissist (as a side issue to his more serious mental illness). I have been worried about the 864 because he is seriously mentally ill and hospitalized often

I've been afraid that the bills would come to me now. I can't afford this, I'm now a single mom, he does not pay support. If you would like to talk to me privately I would be more than happy to do so. I can't reveal too much in a forum because I know he comes in here a lot.

[chloelady 0]

I have been married to my husband from Dubai, UAE for one year. He came to the U.S. six months after our marriage on a spousal visa. I was his sponsor. Although he was educated in the USA at a top school, and is young, healthy, and fluent in English, he refused to get a job. He refused sexual relations. He refused many of the accepted things wives and husbands do for each other. I felt that I was married to a child, not a man. That he was a son, not a husband. Then he became violent and abusive. I reported this to the police and moved out of the state, filing for legal separation. Now he harasses me daily, demanding money from me and insisting that I support him financially, and refuses to agree to return to Dubai or seek employment. I have a disabling condition which prevents me from working right now (an incurable neurological diseases that is very serious). I do not know what to do. I am certain that he only wished to marry me for a Visa and financial support. His family is wealthy, but they refuse to provide financial support to him. What do I do now? Who can I report this to? Am I truly liable for all of his expenses (rent, phone, internet, transportation, food, etc) as well as my own household expenses? How do I end my sponsorship of him? He is young, healthy, educated in the US, and quite capable of supporting himself. He comes from a wealthy family where he had a maid, cook, chauffeur, etc, and is not used to doing anything for himself or working. I am at my wit's end. My illness worsens each day. Everyday he prays to "Allah" that I will die and go to hell or to prison, and demands money from me. I firmly believe the marriage was a fraud. He rushed me into marriage, rushed the initial visa process, and then, as soon as he arrived in the US. refused to work or do anything. He was also hiring escorts and looking on matrimonial sites for an "Indian" bride, so he obviously did not take his vows to me seriously. Please help.

Honey, I am sorry, get a lawyer ASAP! good luck.

[whattodonow 0]

Thank you everyone for your support and advise. I am very grateful. I will definitely begin working on this tomorrow, and will update you as I know anything.

[TyandAllie 17]

Thank you everyone for your support and advise. I am very grateful. I will definitely begin working on this tomorrow, and will update you as I know anything.

Best wishes, my heart goes out to you.

[paidplayed 1]

I have been married to my husband from Dubai, UAE for one year. He came to the U.S. six months after our marriage on a spousal visa. I was his sponsor. Although he was educated in the USA at a top school, and is young, healthy, and fluent in English, he refused to get a job. He refused sexual relations. He refused many of the accepted things wives and husbands do for each other. I felt that I was married to a child, not a man. That he was a son, not a husband. Then he became violent and abusive. I reported this to the police and moved out of the state, filing for legal separation. Now he harasses me daily, demanding money from me and insisting that I support him financially, and refuses to agree to return to Dubai or seek employment. I have a disabling condition which prevents me from working right now (an incurable neurological diseases that is very serious). I do not know what to do. I am certain that he only wished to marry me for a Visa and financial support. His family is wealthy, but they refuse to provide financial support to him. What do I do now? Who can I report this to? Am I truly liable for all of his expenses (rent, phone, internet, transportation, food, etc) as well as my own household expenses? How do I end my sponsorship of him? He is young, healthy, educated in the US, and quite capable of supporting himself. He comes from a wealthy family where he had a maid, cook, chauffeur, etc, and is not used to doing anything for himself or working. I am at my wit's end. My illness worsens each day. Everyday he prays to "Allah" that I will die and go to hell or to prison, and demands money from me. I firmly believe the marriage was a fraud. He rushed me into marriage, rushed the initial visa process, and then, as soon as he arrived in the US. refused to work or do anything. He was also hiring escorts and looking on matrimonial sites for an "Indian" bride, so he obviously did not take his vows to me seriously. Please help.

You need to file a restraining order against him if he is harrassing you. If he continues to do so after it's filed then he can be arrested.