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I have been married to my husband from Dubai, UAE for one year. He came to the U.S. six months after our marriage on a spousal visa. I was his sponsor. Although he was educated in the USA at a top school, and is young, healthy, and fluent in English, he refused to get a job. He refused sexual relations. He refused many of the accepted things wives and husbands do for each other. I felt that I was married to a child, not a man. That he was a son, not a husband. Then he became violent and abusive. I reported this to the police and moved out of the state, filing for legal separation. Now he harasses me daily, demanding money from me and insisting that I support him financially, and refuses to agree to return to Dubai or seek employment. I have a disabling condition which prevents me from working right now (an incurable neurological diseases that is very serious). I do not know what to do. I am certain that he only wished to marry me for a Visa and financial support. His family is wealthy, but they refuse to provide financial support to him. What do I do now? Who can I report this to? Am I truly liable for all of his expenses (rent, phone, internet, transportation, food, etc) as well as my own household expenses? How do I end my sponsorship of him? He is young, healthy, educated in the US, and quite capable of supporting himself. He comes from a wealthy family where he had a maid, cook, chauffeur, etc, and is not used to doing anything for himself or working. I am at my wit's end. My illness worsens each day. Everyday he prays to "Allah" that I will die and go to hell or to prison, and demands money from me. I firmly believe the marriage was a fraud. He rushed me into marriage, rushed the initial visa process, and then, as soon as he arrived in the US. refused to work or do anything. He was also hiring escorts and looking on matrimonial sites for an "Indian" bride, so he obviously did not take his vows to me seriously. Please help.

Filed: K-3 Visa Country: China
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I have been married to my husband from Dubai, UAE for one year. He came to the U.S. six months after our marriage on a spousal visa. I was his sponsor. Although he was educated in the USA at a top school, and is young, healthy, and fluent in English, he refused to get a job. He refused sexual relations. He refused many of the accepted things wives and husbands do for each other. I felt that I was married to a child, not a man. That he was a son, not a husband. Then he became violent and abusive. I reported this to the police and moved out of the state, filing for legal separation. Now he harasses me daily, demanding money from me and insisting that I support him financially, and refuses to agree to return to Dubai or seek employment. I have a disabling condition which prevents me from working right now (an incurable neurological diseases that is very serious). I do not know what to do. I am certain that he only wished to marry me for a Visa and financial support. His family is wealthy, but they refuse to provide financial support to him. What do I do now? Who can I report this to? Am I truly liable for all of his expenses (rent, phone, internet, transportation, food, etc) as well as my own household expenses? How do I end my sponsorship of him? He is young, healthy, educated in the US, and quite capable of supporting himself. He comes from a wealthy family where he had a maid, cook, chauffeur, etc, and is not used to doing anything for himself or working. I am at my wit's end. My illness worsens each day. Everyday he prays to "Allah" that I will die and go to hell or to prison, and demands money from me. I firmly believe the marriage was a fraud. He rushed me into marriage, rushed the initial visa process, and then, as soon as he arrived in the US. refused to work or do anything. He was also hiring escorts and looking on matrimonial sites for an "Indian" bride, so he obviously did not take his vows to me seriously. Please help.

The obvious thing to do is file for divorce. Let the government deport him. What a tragedy!

Filed: IR-1/CR-1 Visa Country: Thailand
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I have been married to my husband from Dubai, UAE for one year. He came to the U.S. six months after our marriage on a spousal visa. I was his sponsor. Although he was educated in the USA at a top school, and is young, healthy, and fluent in English, he refused to get a job. He refused sexual relations. He refused many of the accepted things wives and husbands do for each other. I felt that I was married to a child, not a man. That he was a son, not a husband. Then he became violent and abusive. I reported this to the police and moved out of the state, filing for legal separation. Now he harasses me daily, demanding money from me and insisting that I support him financially, and refuses to agree to return to Dubai or seek employment. I have a disabling condition which prevents me from working right now (an incurable neurological diseases that is very serious). I do not know what to do. I am certain that he only wished to marry me for a Visa and financial support. His family is wealthy, but they refuse to provide financial support to him. What do I do now? Who can I report this to? Am I truly liable for all of his expenses (rent, phone, internet, transportation, food, etc) as well as my own household expenses? How do I end my sponsorship of him? He is young, healthy, educated in the US, and quite capable of supporting himself. He comes from a wealthy family where he had a maid, cook, chauffeur, etc, and is not used to doing anything for himself or working. I am at my wit's end. My illness worsens each day. Everyday he prays to "Allah" that I will die and go to hell or to prison, and demands money from me. I firmly believe the marriage was a fraud. He rushed me into marriage, rushed the initial visa process, and then, as soon as he arrived in the US. refused to work or do anything. He was also hiring escorts and looking on matrimonial sites for an "Indian" bride, so he obviously did not take his vows to me seriously. Please help.

What is his status? Does he have his green card? If so, is it 2 year or 10 year?

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I-129F touched: 2008-05-06

I-130 touched: 2008-05-09

I-129F approved 2008-09-05

I-130 approved 2008-09-05

NVC received 2008-09-12

Pay I-864 2008-10-08

Pay IV bill 2008-10-08

Receive Instruction 2008-11-05

Case Complete 2008-11-18

Medical 2009-01-19/20 passed

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Interview 221g 2009-02-23

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Filed: AOS (apr) Country: Australia
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The obvious thing to do is file for divorce. Let the government deport him. What a tragedy!

Oh I agree but if you have not had sexual relationship with him you should be able to get the marriage annulled as it has not been consumated. You have been used big time and need to get out and yeah let the government deprt him back to where he belongs. Gosh did you not see red flags going up when he rushed you into petition. Where did you marry? and howlong did you know him for before yu married. heavens I don't envy this situation at all.

Divorced !st November 2012.

Married only 2 years 1 month

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We did have a "normal marriage" after our marriage in Dubai. During the first six months, before he obtained the Visa, he was very kind and acted like a husband. As soon as he got the Visa, everything changed. He has a two-year temporary permanent resident visa/green card. We have only been married one year, and he has only been in the states for 6 months. He was an extremely good actor, and even his family treated me well before he obtained his Visa. Now even they have changed. I did not want to hurt him or have him deported, but I also cannot bear his constant harassment and demands for money. I guess it is my only option. I told him to get a job and leave me in peace, but he refuses to do so. He claims he will have me charged with violation of my sponsorship agreement for not supporting him. Who do I contact to report the end of our marriage and my situation? And what if he denies all of this? I will never marry anyone from overseas again.

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I have already filed for and obtained a legal separation. It will not be difficult to turn the separation into a divorce. I left him in April, and moved far away. My only communication with him now is reading his horrible emails every morning. I am not worried about the divorce, as the separation agreement already lists him as the debtor in our relationship and me as creditor, and notes that we were only married a short time and that he was abusive, etc. I took with me all external drives with documents, but am unsure what documents he still retains. I took him off the car insurance, and all joint accounts are closed. If this letter is my only "chance", what are the most important points I can make? I believe that his plan was to come here on the spousal Visa, attend graduate school at an Ivy League school through my connections and assistance, then dump me. As soon as he had his Visa, the only thing he would actually do was study for the GRE and harass me about helping him get into graduate school. He refused to help support the household, refused intimate relations with me, and began to become first verbally abusive and then physically abusive. He prevented me from seeking treatment for my illness. He was constantly online looking for apartments and jobs in cities other than the one we lived in together, and when we in Los Angeles, he left our hotel to seek "rooms to rent". He was also communicating with escorts, and seeking relationships with women online who desired long term relationships or marriage. He presented himself to them as single. He told his Domestic Violence counselor that he would not mind if I dated, slept with, or even married another man. There are lots of pictures of us from before he came to the U.S., but none after. My friends and family are aware of the situation I face and the things that occurred during our "marriage". What do you think I should say in the letter to the USCIS? What points are most important to make to "prove" that he entered into this marriage on a fraudulent basis in order to obtain a Visa, and not in good faith?

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I wanted to add--the sponsorship is only if he gets government assistance. You can be sued for that amount.

What a creep.

I'm so sorry that you are going through this (F)

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2/24: Interview letter received

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  • Refusing to obtain employment
  • Refusing intimate relations
  • Attempting to prevent me from obtaining treatment for my medical condition
  • Being physically and emotionally abusive (hitting me, spitting on me, verbally degrading me)
  • Maintaining communication with escorts (prostitutes)
  • Seeking relationships with other women online, primarily women seeking long term relationships and marriage, while presenting himself as single
  • Perusing matrimonial sites advertising "Indian" brides during our marriage
  • Attempting to rent "rooms" or apartments in cities other than the one we lived in, and attempting to hide this from me
  • Insisting that should he obtain work, he would prefer to obtain employment far away and have me remain in the NW while he lived and worked alone in New York, Los Angeles, or the Middle East
  • Telling his counselor that he would not care if I dated, slept with, or married another man
  • Repeatedly stating that if we remained married, he would eventually practice the Muslim "tradition" of multiple wives, even though polygamy is illegal in the U.S.
  • Rushing me into marriage
  • Rushing the initial Visa process
  • Completely changing his treatment of me as soon as he obtained the Visa and arriving in the U.S.
  • Attempting to keep his marriage to me hidden from his own father
  • Telling me that he would eventually leave me and get a "real" wife, an "Indian" wife who would be quiet and obedient

Posted

Yes - he could sue you for support (based on marriage and the 864).

The government can also come after you if he uses any means tested benefits.

The above posters gave you good advice, you must divorce then move on with your life. You can contact USCIS with your case about visa fraud, it will be up to them if they will pursue this person.

He will be free to remove conditions on the 2yr GC when the divorce is final, however, he will need to prove the marriage was entered in good faith. If he does manage to get the 10yr card, you will still be responsible financially due to the 864.

Again - he would need to sue you, and the judge would have to base it on the 864, there have only been a handful of cases where that happened.

My Advice is usually based on "Worst Case Scenario" and what is written in the rules/laws/instructions. That is the way I roll... -Protect your Status - file before your I-94 expires.

WARNING: Phrases in this post may sound meaner than they were intended to be. Read the Adjudicator's Field Manual from USCIS

Filed: Citizen (apr) Country: Morocco
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You can contact ICE via email at Immigration.Reply@dhs.gov or you can telephone ICE at 1-866-347-2423.

01/2006 - Filed k1(1st time)

04/2006 - Interview (1st time) denied

Waited, waited...... no review

06/2009 - Filed k1 (2nd time)

09/2009 - NOA 2 approved

12/2009 - Interview (2nd time) APPROVED! VISA ISSUED

02/2010 - Arrived USA

04/2010 - Married

AOS Timeline

4/19/2010-Sent to Chicago Lockbox

4/26/2010-Received texts and emails 7th day

4/30/2010-Received NOA's(Hardcopies) 11th day

5/3/2010-Received ASC appointment notice(mailed 4/29/2010)14th day

5/7/2010-Walk-in Biometrics done(2 weeks earlier)18th day

5/13/2010-Case transferred to CSC

6/2/2010- Case received/resumed at CSC

6/18,6/22,6/23 AOS touches

6/28/2010- EAD production and touch on AP

6/29/2010-AOS APPROVED

7/2/2010- 2nd update on EAD production and touched on AP....

7/6/2010- Received "Welcome Letter" and AP document

7/12/2010-Received GREEN CARD and EAD

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I am going to write to the USCIS and also contact ICE, as well as move the legal separation into divorce proceedings. He has not received any means tested benefits, and I don't expect him to. He can sue me, I suppose, but I can't imagine a judge in the U.S. granting him my support under the circumstances (his refusal to work, my medical condition, his abuse of me, etc). I could understand if it were a person who had no education, did not speak English, and did not have other resources (such as a lengthy record of employment in the U.S. prior to our marriage and wealthy parents). I cannot believe that a person can essentially commit immigration fraud, abuse his wife, and then attempt to force her to financially support him. Please let me know if you know anything else that might help me in this matter. Surely I am not the only one who has been through this.

Thanks.

Filed: AOS (apr) Country: Indonesia
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Sorry for your bad situation.

I can not give you any solution but you deserve better. Be strong, okay?

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2010-07-16****K1 Petition Sent Out

2010-08-08****NOA1 Hardcopy

2011-05-20****POE LAX

2011-06-20****Wedding

AOS:

2011-08-18****AOS Package Sent.

2011-09-29****Biometric Appt. Dover, Delaware

2011-10-18****RFE reply

2011-12-13****GC in hand

AP:

2011-10-31****File AP

2011-11-08****NOA1

2011-11-14****AP Approved

ROC:

2013-10-22***Package Sent

2013-11-03***Check Cashed

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2013-11-25***Biometrics

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Filed: Country: China
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I believe that his plan was to come here on the spousal Visa, attend graduate school at an Ivy League school through my connections and assistance, then dump me.

As soon as he had his Visa, the only thing he would actually do was study for the GRE and harass me about helping him get into graduate school.

He refused to help support the household, refused intimate relations with me, and began to become first verbally abusive and then physically abusive.

He prevented me from seeking treatment for my illness.

He was constantly online looking for apartments and jobs in cities other than the one we lived in together, and when we in Los Angeles, he left our hotel to seek "rooms to rent".

He was also communicating with escorts, and seeking relationships with women online who desired long term relationships or marriage.

He presented himself to them as single.

He told his Domestic Violence counselor that he would not mind if I dated, slept with, or even married another man.

There are lots of pictures of us from before he came to the U.S., but none after.

My friends and family are aware of the situation I face and the things that occurred during our "marriage".

What do you think I should say in the letter to the USCIS? What points are most important to make to "prove" that he entered into this marriage on a fraudulent basis in order to obtain a Visa, and not in good faith?

you have answered this question rather nicely. so much there to read that i can only quote it back to you.

use the single sentence format or the short bullet point phrase format as in a post above. in either case total the content, and use a list, rather than paragraph form. number your list.

this is business. single spaced typed and signed in blue ink by hand. copied for your record, and sent in a legal sized envelope by return receipt request.

just remember to stay focused on reporting of actions, rather than feelings. actions represent choices. his actions and choices demonstrate his intent.

supporting docs to add you might not have considered:

1.) notarised affadavit from close friends indicating that husband refused normal social contact with them and other friends in your company, that he shunned them and every part of your life they were privy to.

2.) expansion of the domestic violence issue, assuming that you are seen as the "victim" in this case. police, psychologist, or social worker reports if you can get them. if you can't get reports, then a listing of names, dates, and business places. USCIS can explore at discretion.

3.) statements from people like landlord, clergyman, family doctor, hospital records, etc.

when i remarked that you "only had one chance", i meant to say that your first letter to USCIS will have more weight than anything else you send after. your first letter and supporting docs will be read and marked as "credible", or "less than credible". this is a legal process, and just like in a courtroom, the first guy to stand up with an organised, dispassionate, and legible case will prevail. this is why i am emphasizing lack of emotion and careful organisation. organisation to the point of making your cover letter structure look like a business cover. if you wanna send the letter now, make some calls and figure out who will provide affadavits, list them in the cover, indicating that they are in process and will follow. then send seperately. don't like to see this, but if time is of the essence...

date and address (USCIS OFFICE)

in re: (Removal of conditions for alien name, A#, GC #, DOB, country of citizenship)

greeting (Dear Sirs)

introductory statement of notification of action and intent (i'm seperated from and will be divorcing this a-hole)

body of work stating specific circumstances causative to action and intent (the list of reasons why i'm divorcing)

body of work evidencing that the immigrant failed to enter into marriage in good faith, rather for personal advancement (all his grand plans that had nothing to do with you, his effective abandonment of the relationship asap, and failure to acknowledge it before his family)

list of exibits by number (statements from whoever)

summation ( please consider my support to this case effectively withdrawn immediately. please proceed in your agenda with such knowledge, yada yada)

closing (please feel free to contact me at the numbers listed below if you need further clarification)

exibits attached seperately and numbered(seperate pages paper clipped)

____________________________________________________________________________

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Filed: Country: China
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I am going to write to the USCIS and also contact ICE, as well as move the legal separation into divorce proceedings. He has not received any means tested benefits, and I don't expect him to. He can sue me, I suppose, but I can't imagine a judge in the U.S. granting him my support under the circumstances (his refusal to work, my medical condition, his abuse of me, etc). I could understand if it were a person who had no education, did not speak English, and did not have other resources (such as a lengthy record of employment in the U.S. prior to our marriage and wealthy parents). I cannot believe that a person can essentially commit immigration fraud, abuse his wife, and then attempt to force her to financially support him. Please let me know if you know anything else that might help me in this matter. Surely I am not the only one who has been through this.

Thanks.

you got that right. an able bodied educated man from empowered family can't possibly win a support suit against you.

there are the legal issues that would prevent him from even filing one.

the immigrant has no "standing" to raise such a case, as they are not party to the 864 contract between you and USCIS, at all. they are, legally, only a bystander in the contract.

the fed.gov is not gonna rep this guy. any local county level judge hearing divorce actions is out of his jurisdiction of he tries to invoke 864.

i wish people would stop raising that remote possibility. it almost never happens, when it does it is bad law or misreported, and retelling the same few cases stirs the pot unnecessarily.

we have enough aliens and morons posting in this segment about "moral responsibility to the immigrant" and trying to guilt trip USC who have been duped by fraudsters.

we don't need to be told about million to one odds stuff every time.

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