Has your spouse’s family become a liability?

[^_^ 5,021]

my husband's family has not really been liability.. we help them out on occasion..

Yeah, same here. To me, that's not being a liability. My wife and I haven't had to give up a single thing as a consequence of the financial assistance we've provided her parents from time to time. Her parents have money but my FIL doesn't always have enough liquid so we help out when we can. My wife insists that we not ask for money back and I oblige. As long as the cash injections are relatively small and infrequent...

Edited September 1, 2010 by Legacy member

[Jenn! 918]

I voted yes, financially. Living in the US, my husband is basically expected to provide the primary financial support for his widowed mother. Luckily it's not that expensive to support someone living in Morocco, but I can't honestly say that it hasn't been burdensome sometimes. I accept that it has to be done though and I knew that this would be his responsibility before we got married.

[Canadiandggal 49]

I have to say yes and No. His father and step mom are a middle to higher class so they have enough money and would not ask for help however They can be a tad Ummmm harsh and outspoken at times. we have had some emotional problems here and there. When we first met they didn't know what to think, and I heard a lot of talk, they seem to be all good now but I am still a tad cautious however I didn't marry my in laws I married my husband My mom is a pain in the butt at times too, she has gone out of line emotionally one time or another so I know he can feel the same way. All in all my family (not including my mom) and his family(not including his dad/stepmom) Have been emotionally and financially helpful if anything! I love them all

[nab 74]

had a thought....

can inlaw hatred be presented as proof of a bona fide relationship?

[Ban Hammer 13,443]

inlaws are always a liability.

[TBoneTX 45,659]

inlaws are always a liability.

And after we divorce our spouses, the in-laws become outlaws, si man.

[rlogan 2,036]

I had no idea the pressure I would be under from sisters, cousins, neighbors, etc. to do web cam stripping for them. The money is good but it makes me feel used.

[Mithra 1,185]

They haven't become a complete liability but they have on occasion particularly last year. They milked my husband last year but it was his extra money and he was the one who ended up without spending money. This year he's sent money once so far, so not bad. I don't have much to do with his family. I get irritated that he has to sacrifice for them but it's ultimately his choice and his family and I guess I expected this would happen.

[웃 910]

My wife gives her mom about $400-$450 every 2 weeks. She works 30-35 hours a week and gets paid about $550 every 2 weeks.

We have separate bank accounts and I checked her account this morning, and, well, here is a screenshot of it:

Now I have to go run to her bank to make a $50 or more deposit so that she can get out of the red. FML

[^_^ 5,021]

My wife gives her mom about $400-$450 every 2 weeks. She works 30-35 hours a week and gets paid about $550 every 2 weeks.

We have separate bank accounts and I checked her account this morning, and, well, here is a screenshot of it:

Dude, no offense but she sounds like a disaster

Edited September 2, 2010 by Legacy member

[웃 910]

Dude, no offense but she sounds like a disaster

Trust me, she is 10X worse than a disaster.

[^_^ 5,021]

Trust me, she is 10X worse than a disaster.

[웃 910]

It's 2:30pm and she still hasn't gotten out of bed. She works at 4pm. I already washed her work clothes (I wash and dry them every morning and leave the house to pick her lunch up). Her work clothes are on the dresser and a hot lunch is on the kitchen table. I will wait for her to eat lunch and get ready and I'll drive her to work at 4pm. Then I'll be waiting on call to pick her up when she gets off around 10pm. All so she can give 95% of her money to her mom.

I will probably just disappear one of these months. I'm a pretty easy-going guy so right now I can tolerate my life. But I'm working on a separation plan. She won't go voluntarily, let's just put it like that.

[^_^ 5,021]

It's 2:30pm and she still hasn't gotten out of bed. She works at 4pm. I already washed her work clothes (I wash and dry them every morning and leave the house to pick her lunch up). Her work clothes are on the dresser and a hot lunch is on the kitchen table. I will wait for her to eat lunch and get ready and I'll drive her to work at 4pm. Then I'll be waiting on call to pick her up when she gets off around 10pm. All so she can give 95% of her money to her mom.

I will probably just disappear one of these months. I'm a pretty easy-going guy so right now I can tolerate my life. But I'm working on a separation plan. She won't go voluntarily, let's just put it like that.

I hear ya. I'd separate from a woman like that too. But hey, look at the bright side. She's working.

[I AM NOT THAT GUY 5,715]

It's 2:30pm and she still hasn't gotten out of bed. She works at 4pm. I already washed her work clothes (I wash and dry them every morning and leave the house to pick her lunch up). Her work clothes are on the dresser and a hot lunch is on the kitchen table. I will wait for her to eat lunch and get ready and I'll drive her to work at 4pm. Then I'll be waiting on call to pick her up when she gets off around 10pm. All so she can give 95% of her money to her mom.

I will probably just disappear one of these months. I'm a pretty easy-going guy so right now I can tolerate my life. But I'm working on a separation plan. She won't go voluntarily, let's just put it like that.

It's generally the other way around, she bails on you, once she gets what she wants. Sorry to hear things are not working out. My wife know she can't be trusted with money, so even though she works, she gets put on an allowance, and she sends money home out of that, or buys purses and shoes. She has access to all the money I have set aside for her via debit card, but so far, she has not tried to use it. Guilt is a powerful tool. Don't be afraid to use it.