Starting Over

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

Really??...can I get a list of these women?

I have no such lists. I am happily married. I am not fat. Nor do I know of the existance of any websites offering women that like old, fat, bald guys.

[ptgarner1 8]

I have no such lists. I am happily married. I am not fat. Nor do I know of the existance of any websites offering women that like old, fat, bald guys.

well that was what I thought...even in the FSU dreams can take you only so far...thanks anyway

[Tnic 5]

well that was what I thought...even in the FSU dreams can take you only so far...thanks anyway

HOWEVER, if you are realistic, looking in your own age bracket and are a good guy you can certainly find a good woman over here. Just don't expect a 20 y/o super model to throw herself at your feet. The kind of woman you want, really doesn't care too much about your looks as much as what you have inside.

[Tnic 5]

I have a question someone should be able to help me with.

Mila and I are planning to marry here in Simferopol. I know I need my divorce decree (and passport?)translated to Ukrainian and apostilled.

Is there something else that I need to bring with me when I return to tie the knot?

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

HOWEVER, if you are realistic, looking in your own age bracket and are a good guy you can certainly find a good woman over here. Just don't expect a 20 y/o super model to throw herself at your feet. The kind of woman you want, really doesn't care too much about your looks as much as what you have inside.

And there it is in a nutshell.

FSU women, particularly mature (and still drop dead gorgeous) women that had their education and upbringing in the Soviet Union put much higher regard on enduring qualities. They know that 30 year old rock hard abs are a passing (soon) feature and if what is left is not "gold" then they are not going to be very happy in 20 years or 30 years and they really want to be happy in 20 years or 30 years because to a mature FSU woman of any age the one thing she needs to do before she can die is educate her children and get them prepared in life. (by the way, if they do not have children when you meet them...they will want them)

The fact is that if you are a few years older, that is a BIG PLUS, especially if you are not a drunk and have a decent job. BIG PLUS. (Alla says 10-15 years older is "ideal", she could be biased, I am 12 years older) They will overlook the balding head (just shave all off like I do, "it looks clean")a bulging stomach, etc. If you ask me, I far prefer the genuineness of a woman that seeks a man that is good for a family. I feel like those of us that are really, after all, genuinely good men are, and can be, appreciated and desired for those qualities. The cliche of the FSU wanting an American man for a "green card" is largely BULLSH*T, there may be some I am sure. Mostly American men DO have a reputation as being good family men, not as much drinkers as FSU men, much less abusive, much more loyal and much more talented as "men". Let's put it this way...there are no "Norm Abrams's" shows in Russia and Ukraine. Alla thinks my ability to make things and build things and all these "Wonderful machines...you have a machine for everything!" are just beyond comprehension. Just GOLD! Who cares about rock hard abs...DUDE!...I have a table saw!

On Saturdays I will load up our son and his friends and take them all skiing...GOLD! Taught them to swim, shoot, fish, drive a car, ski, snowboard, build things from wood, make repairs to the house, change windows, insulate, start up the furnace for the winter... Alla says I have already done 10 times for the boys what their "father" ever would think of doing...his loss in many ways. You want to get an FSU woman HOT!?? Do something for her children and hang on to your hat!

We JOKE about the "fat, old, bald" guys because that is the sterotype we get labled with by jealous men who married someone other than an FSU woman or jealous American women who married a guy with rock hard abs 20 years ago that is now sitting on the couch drinking beer and burping and farting. We get told our "hot wives" by ignorant people who don;t know a good woman when they see one.

[slim 1,525]

don't expect a 20 y/o super model to throw herself at your feet.

Unless you're driving a Bentley or making it rain in the clubs. If you do those things, pretty much all women will throw themselves at your feet.

by the way, if they do not have children when you meet them...they will want them

Maybe eventually, but my wife (who I met over 10 years ago) still doesn't want children even to the point of "FFooooooo. I not will be mess up my figure for zis cry wha scream on me always hungry little foo. Ptooooey Ptoooooey Ptooooeeeey."

We may reproduce someday, but as of right now, it's not very high on our to do list. As a matter of fact, it's not on there at all.

[Tnic 5]

I know what you mean about the "handy man" effect. Jeez, I replaced an extension cord that was too small for the washing machine (it was badly over heating) and I'm a freakin god. Yeh, she threw herself at my feet for that.

I'm almost afraid to see what's gonna happen when I replace the toilet flush mechanism, the kitchen faucet and a bad light switch in the kitchen. She may not let me come up for air for a couple days or (gulp) weeks.

And grandchildren can be included in the "be good to kids" thing. We spent an evening walking around town with little Max and had a fantastic time together. The way I treated him and the way he responded to me just turns her on. Mostly he was between Grammy and me holding both our hands. It really felt like we were a family. Her daughter just adores me because Max loves me so much already.

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

I know what you mean about the "handy man" effect. Jeez, I replaced an extension cord that was too small for the washing machine (it was badly over heating) and I'm a freakin god. Yeh, she threw herself at my feet for that.

I'm almost afraid to see what's gonna happen when I replace the toilet flush mechanism, the kitchen faucet and a bad light switch in the kitchen. She may not let me come up for air for a couple days or (gulp) weeks.

And grandchildren can be included in the "be good to kids" thing. We spent an evening walking around town with little Max and had a fantastic time together. The way I treated him and the way he responded to me just turns her on. Mostly he was between Grammy and me holding both our hands. It really felt like we were a family. Her daughter just adores me because Max loves me so much already.

So many Babuskas, so little time.

And things like that not only make them HOT, it prevents the house from burning down which is also a nice result.

[baron555 934]

You want to get an FSU woman HOT!?? Do something for her children and hang on to your hat!

Double Ditto to that. And, I have a table saw and camping gear and a canoe!!!!

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

You want to get an FSU woman HOT!?? Do something for her children and hang on to your hat!

Double Ditto to that. And, I have a table saw and camping gear and a canoe!!!!

The you are like a "love God" Phil!

There should be articles in Cosmo about this "Get your woman off with your table saw!" "83 ways to satisfy your lover with power tools" "Want steamy sex tonight? Sign up your teannager for the PSATs today!"

My Alla would consider a hotel without room service "camping" Not really, but she isn't the "sleep outside" type. She likes canoes and kayaks and even bigger boats.

[easyukraine 1]

food for thought, I now know why I need a table saw. Since both Margaritas boys are older I was wondering what to take them. I am guessing some hand tools will do nicely.

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

food for thought, I now know why I need a table saw. Since both Margaritas boys are older I was wondering what to take them. I am guessing some hand tools will do nicely.

You know what was incredibly well received by Alla AND the boys? Hi-tech lightweight long underwear! Not very romantic or exciting, but VERY practical for people in Ukraine plus a son studying in Moscow. Such things are relatively cheap here and very expensive there.

Just some gloves, knit hats, and I packed along some down coats which were bought here for a fraction of what they cost in Ukraine. Seriously, I got some Colombia down coats at Sears, after Christmas, for $49 each! I brought one for each of the boys when I visited in January, even before we did our I-129f and I was the like the Hero of the Kievian Rus!

Alla spends very little time in my shop, but she came out there and was fascinated to the point of laughter at all the "machines". She prefers to see only the result of work, not the dust and noise. Not understanding why anyone would need so many machines. All she knows is she wanted to upgrade her pantry closet and now she has adjustable shelves and roll out shelves and a hook for this and a hook for that and basically her "dream" pantry and I did it with "those machines"

One of my best accomplishments yet...she asked me to "fix the light" in her Mom's bathroom. Hmmm. WHERE is the light to fix? No light? Why would anyone need a light in a bathroom when you can just put that frosted glass in the door and get light from the other room? I would imagine Al Gore would be fascinated with the efficient Soviet design. Her mom told Alla I did in one day what she waited 12 years to have done! Oh....it was a night to remember!

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

food for thought, I now know why I need a table saw. Since both Margaritas boys are older I was wondering what to take them. I am guessing some hand tools will do nicely.

Show them how to use them also. Alla wants the boys to have the ability to fix things and build things and be "Gold" for women. They have both made small projects for her (shoe racks, peg strips for kitchen tools, etc.) but mostly help me with bigger projects. Pasha and I demolished the kitchen in our new home and installed all new cabinets, appliances and countertops in two days! Before we moved into the place, Alla had her new kitchen and "machine for washing dishes"

[easyukraine 1]

guess I could take both problem solved.

[easyukraine 1]

well I plan on building a house when I have a wife to decide where she wants it built. for now I'm renting a house in a small city.