I want to Divorce my Husband & back to Phils.

[Heart-Broken 1]

Much better than reading someone else issues or problems.

This forum isn't set up to handle life crisis.

It amazes me how people will get on a public forum and tell thier life story

I say this is a Troll and the Topic Should Be Closed......................................................

you know what ?

i dont need your opinion or anyone else coz your rude

di kung ikaw lang ang nagkulang...mahiya ka sa sarili mo....

hwag kanang makisawsaw sa usapan kung bastos ka lang

why im shy to myself?

nobodys knows me here....

and besides walang nakakilala sakin dito kung dimo naintindihan english ko

[Heart-Broken 1]

that's a he, and please refrain from making personal attacks like that in bold.

oh im sorry

i dont know why its bold

[Prawninator 138]

So if you pile everything up, you feel bitter, jealous and insignificant, yes?

YOU need to talk to HIM. Not yell at him, not argue, and don't pinpoint specific incidents, just discuss where you think both your relationship and the relationship he has with his stepdaughter is going. Seek counseling. TOGETHER. You also should make a note in your discussion with him that you and your son are also now his charges, not just his stepdaughter.

[Ban Hammer 13,340]

oh im sorry

i dont know why its bold

it's bold because i bolded it.

[Heart-Broken 1]

it's bold because i bolded it.

means that its not acceptable here to use those words ?

Edited August 18, 2010 by Heart-Broken

[Ban Hammer 13,340]

means that its not acceptable here to use those words ?

By way of example, and not as a limitation, you agree that when using the Service, you will not:

- Make comments in a Post either direct or implied toward another member that are purposely designed to upset, antagonize, make fun of, belittle, or otherwise instigate an argument that takes away from the personal enjoyment of the Service by other users.

http://www.visajourney.com/content/terms

i suggest you read the above and familiarize yourself with it.

[Heart-Broken 1]

By way of example, and not as a limitation, you agree that when using the Service, you will not:

- Make comments in a Post either direct or implied toward another member that are purposely designed to upset, antagonize, make fun of, belittle, or otherwise instigate an argument that takes away from the personal enjoyment of the Service by other users.

http://www.visajourney.com/content/terms

i suggest you read the above and familiarize yourself with it.

ok & tnx for the advise

what about for those members here that joining a discussions but not helping a person posting thier topic here?

[Ban Hammer 13,340]

ok & tnx for the advise

what about for those members here that joining a discussions but not helping a person posting thier topic here?

for the most part, i see people discussing the topic rather than attacking the op (original poster - you in this case).

name calling isn't acceptable though. i'll keep an eye on this thread for a while just in case anyone continues along that line.

[Penny Lane 8,159]

I can absolutely understand the OP's frustration. I wouldn't be pleased if my husband was paying for cars and cell phone bills of a 24 year old, daughter or not. Especially if he's doing it while lying about it, not filing for AOS so I could get some work myself, not allowing me to go home if I wanted to, not disclosing OUR financial situation as husband and wife to me, not allowing me to be a part of any decision making, etc.

I think it's sickening that the OP is being advised to suck it up and be nice to him and maybe things will get better.

[TravellingNomad 12]

OP...based on your story, +100 sa tanong ni P&K syo. nagseselos ka ba? are you bitter? you shouldn't be. alam mo ako, yung asawa ko, pag dating sa pera...hindi sya nagtatanong basta yung mga needs nila are provided and paid for each month pag nagsusuweldo ako. sa mga binasa ko na post mo, you said that every day kayo nagaaway pag nagtatanong ka tungkol sa stepchild nya. correct me if im wrong...pero mukhang araw araw mo naman yata bini-bring up the same old topic...kaya nagagalit na asawa mo. ako ganon rin ako...when my wife brings up the same topic day in and day out....i get really pissed off too. kse after a hard day's work...ang gusto ko naman is for the wife to just talk to me about how our days went. t'saka it's been mentioned...did you ever think na yung ginagastos nya is yung insurance nga ng deceased mother? and no...you don't have to be related to the beneficiary. basta sinabi ng tao ikaw ang beneficiary ng mga life insurance nya...it doesn't matter kung magkakilala kayo...ikaw ang tatanggap ng payout. t'saka sino ba naman ang hindi magagalit if ang cell phone bill mo reguarly is $60/mo per line lang...tapos tatawag ka ng direct dialing sa pilipinas. do you know how much ang per minute ng cell phone international direct dialing?

kabayan...im not saying na walang pagkukulang ang asawa mo. pero maybe you need to lighten up on him a bit? ever thought na kaya he has a short fuse is because he's frustrated with his situation? na alam nya nagagalit ka kse yung stepdaughter nya is in his life and then there's his wife (you) that he needs to make happy as well? coming from a guy...pag frustrated kme...madali kme magalit. and sometimes all we really want is for the wife to just be there.

why don't you do this...instead of pagkauwi ng asawa mo ang sinasabi mo is about what he's doing when it comes to stepdaughter, you tell him "hi honey!" tapos tanungin mo sya "how was your day? come sit down with me, let's watch tv so you can relax before we eat dinner." if you show your husband you understand his situation and (like your vows) you're there for better or for worse...he'll treat and think you're the best thing since sliced bread! huwag ikaw ang magsimula ng topic tungkol sa kinaasaran mo. kse when he's ready....sya na ang makikipag-usap syo tungkol sa mga yon.

[Ban Hammer 13,340]

I can absolutely understand the OP's frustration. I wouldn't be pleased if my husband was paying for cars and cell phone bills of a 24 year old, daughter or not. Especially if he's doing it while lying about it, not filing for AOS so I could get some work myself, not allowing me to go home if I wanted to, not disclosing OUR financial situation as husband and wife to me, not allowing me to be a part of any decision making, etc.

I think it's sickening that the OP is being advised to suck it up and be nice to him and maybe things will get better.

for the record, i agree with you. i also think all of the financial aspects should have been made clear prior to poe.

[Kuting 0]

In response to ur question about live in partner in insurance policy as far as i know yes. It may varies per state, me mga state po na me common law at domestic partner so kahit hindi sila kasal me rights sila just like wife.

Im sure ur hubby loves you, if he doesnt hes not gonna exert efforts, emotions and money to get you and your son. Give him space to sort out himself. Talk o him heart to heart to get ur paperwork done so u can work and help him. Find a job close o home so driving wont be an issue. He may not tell u everything because it causes fight.

Nagging him wont fix the problem, the more you fight with him the more its gonna make things worst. I understand your feelings being a wife but i can see d major problem about ur fight is money. It may gjve him a different impression especially he's the only one making as of now.

Dont expect a traditional filipino way, it wont happen. Dont count every penny spent to the girl it will juz hurt ur feelings rather do a reverse psych to him.

[Heart-Broken 1]

OP...based on your story, +100 sa tanong ni P&K syo. nagseselos ka ba? are you bitter? you shouldn't be. alam mo ako, yung asawa ko, pag dating sa pera...hindi sya nagtatanong basta yung mga needs nila are provided and paid for each month pag nagsusuweldo ako. sa mga binasa ko na post mo, you said that every day kayo nagaaway pag nagtatanong ka tungkol sa stepchild nya. correct me if im wrong...pero mukhang araw araw mo naman yata bini-bring up the same old topic...kaya nagagalit na asawa mo. ako ganon rin ako...when my wife brings up the same topic day in and day out....i get really pissed off too. kse after a hard day's work...ang gusto ko naman is for the wife to just talk to me about how our days went. t'saka it's been mentioned...did you ever think na yung ginagastos nya is yung insurance nga ng deceased mother? and no...you don't have to be related to the beneficiary. basta sinabi ng tao ikaw ang beneficiary ng mga life insurance nya...it doesn't matter kung magkakilala kayo...ikaw ang tatanggap ng payout. t'saka sino ba naman ang hindi magagalit if ang cell phone bill mo reguarly is $60/mo per line lang...tapos tatawag ka ng direct dialing sa pilipinas. do you know how much ang per minute ng cell phone international direct dialing?

kabayan...im not saying na walang pagkukulang ang asawa mo. pero maybe you need to lighten up on him a bit? ever thought na kaya he has a short fuse is because he's frustrated with his situation? na alam nya nagagalit ka kse yung stepdaughter nya is in his life and then there's his wife (you) that he needs to make happy as well? coming from a guy...pag frustrated kme...madali kme magalit. and sometimes all we really want is for the wife to just be there.

why don't you do this...instead of pagkauwi ng asawa mo ang sinasabi mo is about what he's doing when it comes to stepdaughter, you tell him "hi honey!" tapos tanungin mo sya "how was your day? come sit down with me, let's watch tv so you can relax before we eat dinner." if you show your husband you understand his situation and (like your vows) you're there for better or for worse...he'll treat and think you're the best thing since sliced bread! huwag ikaw ang magsimula ng topic tungkol sa kinaasaran mo. kse when he's ready....sya na ang makikipag-usap syo tungkol sa mga yon.

Salamat sa pagbasa ng post ko

sabi ko araw2 ako umiiyak lalo na maalala ko mga hinanakit ko sa kanya pero ignore nia lang

dinaman everyday kami nag aaway coz of the girl

dinaman ako paulit2 nagtatanong....umiiyak na nga ako sa inis magtatanong pa kaya ako ulit ?

dinaman yata ako baliw pa....

naiinis ako pag nagrereklamo sia sa telephone bill

bakit kelangan kobang maki level magkano ang binabayaran sa babae?

a 24yrs.old still getting to his stepfather?

2005 pa nakuha nila ang insurance from nanay nila at binili nia ng car but 2009 sira na kaya my husband cancelled his flight to Phils coz better to use the money to buy a new car w/her = is that right?

she got anything since we dont meet yet

pati ba naman pagdating ko sa buhay ng asawa ko ngayon kelangan kopa maki level sa kanya?

eto naman asawa ko nakakahurt naman ....asawa ako but mas kinakampihan pa nia ang 24yr.old

sisigaw na yan f kinukulit ko ....kc ayaw naman sabihin...

mali ba f magtanong at gusto mo malaman?

tanong ko lang sia....bakit hanggang ngayon kaw parin ang nag shoulder sa kanya? galit sumagot at sabihin its not your business siempre masakit naman sa asawa yan....

24 na sia & need to be independet na at saka meron naman siang father ,brother, aunt,uncle,

para naman sakin sia nalang mag isip na marami na kami ginagastusan ....

mas naiinis ako paglagi nagpaparinig asawa ko na baon na sia sa utang dami daw nia bills....

mali bang mag suggest na ....tell sa babae baka ok na sa kanya minimize kana magbigay sa kanya....galit...kc daw ayaw nia magtampo ang babae...

dios ko ....tapos nagpaparinig sakin marami siang binabayaran

siempre masakit naman sakin yon kc wla naman akong maitolong ayaw naman nia mag work

kung ako naman sa katayuan nia....ako na mismo mag volunter kc understand ko naman na my stepfather starting a new family now

but what she doing.....mas lalo siang pabigat sa buhay namin at honestly naiinis ako.....

d nia alam na napapagod na husband ko bakit daw dami nia shoulder kaya lng wala sia magawa kc ayaw nia magtampo ang babae kung minimize na sia sa tolong

minsan tatawag uutang pero di naman naniningil asawa ko....

minsan nagpaparinig kc daw dpa nakuha ang pera etc. siempre asawa ko offer naman....hahay buhay ....

gusto ko na ipaalis ang mga gamit ng dati niang gf d2 ayaw nia kc daw baka magtampo ang babae bakit daw ....

ano ba yan...dko alam san lulugar....

kelangan kong magtimpi kc meron masaktan...but wla naman silang pakialam ako nasaktan rin

kaya nga minsan nakakapagod ...mabuti uwi nalang ako sa pinas kesa magdusa pa ako dito...

dnaman patas ang laban.....ano ngayon kung ayoko makita mga gamit mali ba?

inintindi kona calceled ung xmas namin coz of her car din pati ba naman sa mga gamit i need to understand that maybe she hurt?

pagpalain sana sila ng maykapal.......

[TravellingNomad 12]

In response to ur question about live in partner in insurance policy as far as i know yes. It may varies per state, me mga state po na me common law at domestic partner so kahit hindi sila kasal me rights sila just like wife.

Im sure ur hubby loves you, if he doesnt hes not gonna exert efforts, emotions and money to get you and your son. Give him space to sort out himself. Talk o him heart to heart to get ur paperwork done so u can work and help him. Find a job close o home so driving wont be an issue. He may not tell u everything because it causes fight.

i agree with this. if your hubby didn't love you or didn't want you around, you wouldn't be living with him

Nagging him wont fix the problem, the more you fight with him the more its gonna make things worst. I understand your feelings being a wife but i can see d major problem about ur fight is money. It may gjve him a different impression especially he's the only one making as of now.

fighting over money this early in the marriage is petty.

Dont expect a traditional filipino way, it wont happen. Dont count every penny spent to the girl it will juz hurt ur feelings rather do a reverse psych to him.

EXACTLY! you know what they say....when in rome, do as the romans do!

Edited August 18, 2010 by TravellingNomad

[Heart-Broken 1]

you mean thats why she got help from my husband coz her mother is a benificiary the insurance of mu husband ?

i saw the records last 2months ago that his insurance sending him a documents to fill up the benificiary coz in his record his single and still no benificiary...filled

so what you mean ?

clarification : her mother died 2005 and she got money form the insurance and her younger brother also and she use that to buy a new car and etc....nobodys care what she doing about that money.....

and accdg. to my husband no more left.....maybe coz if she have more money from her mother why she asking heelp from my husband?