I want to Divorce my Husband & back to Phils.

[hellINTIM 9]

tnx sa time....i dont have work yet

coz we dont have yet process the papers

he dont want im working coz he dont want i botherd him to hatid sundo

and he dont want teach me also how to drive

yeah its easy to say divorce specialy if your tired & always understand him but he never understand me

its not a problem w/me about money

its all about that makikipag away na sia sakin maipagtangol lng ang stepdaughter nia

his complaining about the telephone & cellphone bill but it doesnt matter w/him how much he pay for the step daughter cellphone bill...

and what about his paying for the girl car insurance or anything he pay for the stepdaughter that never telling me

i dont have rights to complain coz its not my money?

but what use that im his wife? as an entertainer only ?

just to clean the house, iron the clothes, prepare his meals,

if about personal matters he dont want to share w/me ?

sa cellphone bill alam mo bang my unlimited call and txt dito? mas mkakamura kaya siguro asawa mo nagbabayad. kung ikaw nmn tatawag sa pinas eh mahal kasi you using the cellphone with out the phone card. mahal kaya nun ..-.-

alam mo i guess ung asawa mo nkatangap ng insurrance sa ex-live in tpos may WILL xa na d ny amkukuha un kung d nya aalagaan ung anak nya.( galing ko mag gawa ng kwento nho.. pero malay mo)

car nung girl"... malay mo hindi asawa mo bumili nung car kundi perang pamana nung nanay nya na ung asawa mo ang may hawak.

car insurance-- kasi mga policy dito pag family member mas mababa ang fee mo. pero sa progressive pwede independent.

may mga kano na u cant complain kpag pera nila ang pinag uusapan kung baga wala pkialaman bsta laht ng bills nyo sa bahay byad. kmi ng asawa ko nung ala pko work binibigyan nya ko ng 100$ weekly ung natitirang sweldo kanya at wala ako pkialam kung gastusin nya san un basta byad ang bills nmin. kasi katwiran nya pinag hirapan nya ung pera. pero atlist binibigyan nya ko pang gastos sa sarili ko.

kya siguro d nya ishare sayo ang personal matter kasi alam nya selos ka ng selos tapos magagalit ka tpos aaway kayo. baka iniiwasan nya lang kayong mag away.

kung ako sayo intindihin mo nalang. wag mo pinag iisip un mga bagay na ikakapanget mo lang. sabhin mo sa asawa mo na need mo na ayusin ung AOS mo kasi ma expire na o expired na. , san kba nkatira? hanap ka ng work na walking distance lang. para kahit papano may pang gastos ka, diba?. pwede ka mag apply ng work bsta may SSN ka. nakasal kana forsure may SSN kana.

Edited August 18, 2010 by .MythaG-

[sweet angel 5]

I see we have people taking things out of context.

In the U.S., without extenuating circumstances a man who buys his 24 year-old daughter cars and pays her phone and insurance bills is not "helping" her, unless you mean helping her be irresponsible and not grow up to accept her responsibilities in life.

But it isn't his daughter. It isn't even his stepdaughter. It is the daughter of someone he lived with. It isn't a situation of a multi-millionaire where nobody else is lacking because of it - the wife is. Furthermore he has lied about it.

I don't know what kinds of things he is keeping. Furniture is one thing. Hanging pictures is inexcusable.

Telling her to go back to the Philippines and then refusing to allow it if she concedes? Emotionally abusive and immature.

The last question was whether I would in her shoes want to try making the relationship work. I see this as the priority, not faking it for a green card.

You need a counselor, kiddy. If he does not agree to one then no, it isn't worth trying in my view because a decent man doesn't lie to his wife, threaten, and refuse to allow her in on things. Nobody is perfect but you've said he lies repeatedly and that is a big recipe for disaster in a marriage.

The reason for a counselor is to have an impartial referee that can put a stop to the childish threats, the non-cooperation, to ask the right questions, etc.

100%

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[Heart-Broken 1]

sa cellphone bill alam mo bang my unlimited call and txt dito? mas mkakamura kaya siguro asawa mo nagbabayad. kung ikaw nmn tatawag sa pinas eh mahal kasi you using the cellphone with out the phone card. mahal kaya nun ..-.-

alam mo i guess ung asawa mo nkatangap ng insurrance sa ex-live in tpos may WILL xa na d ny amkukuha un kung d nya aalagaan ung anak nya.( galing ko mag gawa ng kwento nho.. pero malay mo) =

2005 HER MOTHER DIED DIN SHE GOT MONEY FROM INSURANCE NAUBOS NA GINASTOS NIA

car nung girl"... malay mo hindi asawa mo bumili nung car kundi perang pamana nung nanay nya na ung asawa mo ang may hawak. = ASAWA KO ANG BUMILI KC HIS TELLING ME DEC.2009

ALAM MOBA ANO SABI NIA DURING HE BUY THE CAR?

1. PERA NG FATHER IN LAW KO ANG BINILI NG CAR WHEN I WAS IN PHILS. THATS WHAT HE SAY

2. WHEN I ARRIVED HERE HIS TELLING ME WLA NADAW SIA PERA SA BANK KC BINILI NIA NG CAR SA BABAE

3. HARD TO UNDERSTAND ?

car insurance-- kasi mga policy dito pag family member mas mababa ang fee mo. pero sa progressive pwede independent. = HUSBAND KO ANG NAGBAYAD SA CAR INSURANCE Y? D NIA NGA AFFORD TO BUY GASOLINE INSURANCE PA KAYA ? IF IM AKSING HIM HOW MUCH MONTHLY D NIA ALAM....OR KUNWARI D ALAM

May mga kano na u cant complain kpag pera nila ang pinag uusapan kung baga wala pkialaman bsta laht ng bills nyo sa bahay byad. kmi ng asawa ko nung ala pko work binibigyan nya ko ng 100$ weekly ung natitirang sweldo kanya at wala ako pkialam kung gastusin nya san un basta byad ang bills nmin. kasi katwiran nya pinag hirapan nya ung pera. pero atlist binibigyan nya ko pang gastos sa sarili ko. = WALANG PAKIALAMAN? BAKIT KAPITBAHAY BA AKO?

kya siguro d nya ishare sayo ang personal matter kasi alam nya selos ka ng selos tapos magagalit ka tpos aaway kayo. baka iniiwasan nya lang kayong mag away. = SINO D MAGSESELOS Y ? DNA SIA NEW BORN BB SHOULDER PA NG HUSBAND KO....MY ANAK NA NGA SIA MY KA LIVE IN NA RIN

kung ako sayo intindihin mo nalang. wag mo pinag iisip un mga bagay na ikakapanget mo lang. sabhin mo sa asawa mo na need mo na ayusin ung AOS mo kasi ma expire na o expired na. , san kba nkatira? hanap ka ng work na walking distance lang. para kahit papano may pang gastos ka, diba?. pwede ka mag apply ng work bsta may SSN ka. nakasal kana forsure may SSN kana.

MY POINT...D NA SIA MASYADONG DEPENDENT SA HUSBAND KO

KC MY SARILI NATONG FAMILY AT LUMALAKI NA ANG GASTOS NAMIN SA BAHAY

PADAGDAG PA SIA..AND SHES RUNNING 25 NA AND HAVE 1DAUGHTER & LIVE IN PARTNER NARIN

MALAKI NA TOLONG NG HUSBAND KO SA KANYA SINCE NAMATAY NANAY NIA

PINAPAARAL,BILI NEW CAR,BAYAD NG GASOLINE,GIVE HER ALLOWANCE,ETC.

MALAY KO BA SIA PA ANG NAGBAYAD SA WATER , ELECTRIC , APARTMENT

MY HUSBAND GIVE HER ALLOWANCE AND I DONT KNOW HOW MUCH

KUNWARI MANGUTANG DNAMAN NAGBABAYAD...SOBRA NA SIA...

ANO KALA NIA HUSBAND KO ATM ?

PANO KAMI MAKAIPON KUNG HUSBAND KO DAMI GINAGASTUSAN ?

PORKET PERA NG ASAWA KO WALA BANG KARAPATAN TAYONG MGA WIFE MAG REKLAMO?

BAKIT PA SIA NAG ASAWA KUNG GINAWA KALANG NIANG TAU TAUHAN SA BAHAY?

WLA KANG FREEDOM OF SPEECH COZ ITS NOT YOUR OWN MONEY ?

DAPAT ANO MERON SA HUSBAND MO MY RYTS KANA RIN

SAN KABA NAKAKITA NG WIFE NA WALANG PAKI ALAM SA MUNDO ?

[Heart-Broken 1]

Exactly and I feel for this man. I have seen this before though and some woman are very selfish and want anything in the past of their new bankroll to disappear so they can have it all themselves. This is a control issue. If this selfish misguided woman would actually think she would realize that he will be awesome dad to her 4 year old and forever even if something were to happen to her. My thoughts and prayers are with this man and I hope he finds someone truly worthy in the future.

pray yourself 1st before my husband

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back to topic please - this isn't youtube central.

[tallcoolone 102]

back to topic please - this isn't youtube central.

Much better than reading someone else issues or problems.

This forum isn't set up to handle life crisis.

It amazes me how people will get on a public forum and tell thier life story

I say this is a Troll and the Topic Should Be Closed......................................................

[Heart-Broken 1]

Hello VJ's

I need somes advise :

I arrived here in US using K1 & my son K2 ( 4yr.old ) last Feb.2010 & married last April 2010 of US citizen ( Amerkano )

My husband have live in partner died 2005.

Were always arguing for somes reason and im so tired of that .

Because :

1. He control im using long distance to phils. & use his cellphone but i cant complain that until now he still paying the cellphone bill of the girl.

2. Im upset coz i dont have rights to complain coz its his money whoever he wants to spent ?

3. Is that right that he dont want to tell me anything?

4. Im asking him how much everymonth he pay the car insurance of a girl but he answer me he dont know.

5. I dont have peace of mind coz he lie to me many times ( hard to forgive & forget )

6. He lie that the girl goes to school coz of govt. but i found out in his check that he issue full payment.

7. He lie that he buy a car for the girl coz of his dad money left him before died 2009 but when we discuss about his money of his bank he say that he use to buy a car of the girl ( different statement ).

8. He plan to spent xmas at Phils. but he complain that expensive but later i found out he use his money for the girl car.

9.Makes me cry that he always defend the girl than me.

10. His mad if i tell him to remove all the stuff of his died live in partner becoz until now he keep .

11. Until now were not yet process the AOS he say later later .

12. If he have plan he dont want to share with me & his angry if i have lots of questions.

13. Everytime we argue his always telling me go home ( its realy hurt for me )but he dont want to get me a tickets back if i say yes i want too.

14. If we decide to go back Phils. who can help us ?

15. If im married here means im automatic married also in Phils. ?

16. How true that if im go back Phils. someday hard for me to enter the US again coz of my records ?

If your in my part ....do you want to try the relationship work ?

Thank you for yout time ....

God Bless everyone ! ! !

DI NIO KC NAINTINDIHAN FEELINGS KO

KAYA NGA IM HERE TO RELIEVE MY PAIN

GETTING IDEAS....GALIT PA KAYO SAKIN

MASAKIT SAKIN HE CANCELED THE XMAS IN PHILS KC MAS PINILI PA NIA BILHAN NG CAR ANG STEPDAUGHTER NIA

NAGAGALIT KUNG MARAMI AKONG TANONG MAGKANO GINAGASTOS NIA SA STEPDAUGHTER NIA

MARAMING BISIS NA SIA NAG SINUNGALING SAKIN

F KINUKULIT KO NAGAGALIT NA SIA

NANDITO PARIN GAMIT NG DIED GF NIA KAHIT MY ASAWA NA SIA

GALIT KUNG IPALAGAY KO SA BODEGA KC ITS NOT MY BUSINESS

GALIT F MALAKI ANG BILLING NG PHONE BUT DNAMAN SIA GALIT F MAGKANO BILL NG BABAE

D SINOSOOT ANG WEDING RING NAMIN DAHIL DNIA DAW FEEL HIS MARRIED (HURT)

GUSTO KONG UMUWI NALANG KC PAGOD NAKU AYAW NIA AKONG KUHAAN NG TICKET

ANO PA BA GINAGAWA KO DITO KUNG D NAMAN NIA AKO MATURING NA ASAWA

HURT SABIHIN SAYO NA DNIA FEEL GALAWIN KA NIA

DINA KAMI MATOLOG MAGKATABI KC WLA NAMAN SIANG PAKI NA MY TAO KATABI NIA

MABUTI PA ANG UNAN KC NIYAYAKAP

SIGAWAN KA NIA F MY MASABI AKO TUNGKOL SA BABAE

PALAKIHIN NIA ANG AWAY KUNG TUNGKOL NA SA BABAE ANG PINAG USAPAN NAMIN

GABI GABI NALANG AKO UMIIYAK DAHIL SOBRANG SAKIT NARARAMDAMAN KO

GUSTO KO NALANG UMUWI WLA NAMANG SAYSAY MAGKASAMA PA KAMI

DI NAMAN SIA NAGBAGO....SAKIN LANG MAGING PATAS NAMAN SIA SANA

MGA GAMIT NAMIN SA BEDROOM GAMIT PA NG LIVE IN NIA DATI

UNAN,KOMOT,BEDSHEET,ETC.OBVIOS NAMAN KC LUMA NA

DIMO ALAM BAKA SA KALSADA NA KAMI MATOTOLOG KC BAON NA SIA SA UTANG

WALA AKONG ALAM ANYTHING KC AYAW NIA SABIHIN AT GALIT F NAGTATANONG KA

MORE POWER SA MGA NG HUSGA SAKIN

GOD BLESS EVERYONE ! ! !

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Much better than reading someone else issues or problems.

This forum isn't set up to handle life crisis.

It amazes me how people will get on a public forum and tell thier life story

I say this is a Troll and the Topic Should Be Closed......................................................

then don't read it. this forum can provide assistance to understanding the cultural aspects and differences via discussion with other members. posting one's life story isn't against the tos either. your diagnosis noted and i'll watch the thread for any evidence of such.

[Heart-Broken 1]

Much better than reading someone else issues or problems.

This forum isn't set up to handle life crisis.

It amazes me how people will get on a public forum and tell thier life story

I say this is a Troll and the Topic Should Be Closed......................................................

Di magbasa ka .... dinaman kita pinilit basahin problema ko

bawal ba mag post personal problems dito ?

im not making a fire...coz im not saying any rude here

kung highblood ka dapat wala ka sa VJ ....

be nice to everyone.....kaw ang naghanap yata ng away...

God Bless ur own business.....

[Heart-Broken 1]

then don't read it. this forum can provide assistance to understanding the cultural aspects and differences via discussion with other members. posting one's life story isn't against the tos either. your diagnosis noted and i'll watch the thread for any evidence of such.

yes ur right Charles

im not forcing to anyone to read my problems

shes rude & weird

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yes ur right Charles

im not forcing to anyone to read my problems

shes rude & weird

that's a he, and please refrain from making personal attacks like that in bold.