London is scheduling the last half of Sept!

[elmcitymaven 9,712]

FYI, I once posted a whole new thread just to ask people what I put in a particular field on my I-129F form.

+1

Once I posted a thread about my RFE that was an update on another thread I posted about my RFE.

[Ban Hammer 13,206]

i'm sure the op would have posted in the existing thread if she wanted to - and it appears she didn't want to. i don't see a reason to merge it the existing thread for that very reason.

let's stop badgering the op.

[Trompe le Monde 1,107]

I think it's perspective, not one-upmanship. Something everyone can benefit from, especially when their journey is far from over.

I personally believe that being together in the first year after the non-USC arrives with the joint stresses of a new marriage, moving to a new country and navigating AOS is in many ways far more challenging than being apart.

[Dodi 69]

I know the first year is definitely going to be a big bumpy ride. We're both very independent, and we're going to have to merge our likes/dislikes and personalities and compromise on SO MUCH, along with his culture shock. He's from Dorchester, which isn't a TINY village, but it's not a city either. I live in Oklahoma City, which isn't Los Angeles or NYC, but it's still pretty big compared to his town. I know the AOS will be a headache too, because I'm a planner, I like having things done days or weeks ahead of time so that if we discover we need something else we have time to get it. He would sit back and do nothing if I didn't tell him we HAD to have it done. In the end, we love each other, so we'll get through it.

[Rob and Jill 82]

I personally believe that being together in the first year after the non-USC arrives with the joint stresses of a new marriage, moving to a new country and navigating AOS is in many ways far more challenging than being apart.

No kidding! We've been apart for 3 years, with 3 visits in those 3 years. I have to admit I FREAKED OUT when I had to start cleaning out MY walk-in closet to make room for his stuff. I mean FREAKED, like...this is MYYYYYYY CLOSET NOOOOO! It lasted about 24 hours and then it was ok...LOL. I am also going to miss not having to clean up pee from the inability of every man (Dad, brothers, Ex-husbands) ever being able to keep it all in a toliet.

[Nik+Heather 121]

I think it's perspective, not one-upmanship. Something everyone can benefit from, especially when their journey is far from over.

I personally believe that being together in the first year after the non-USC arrives with the joint stresses of a new marriage, moving to a new country and navigating AOS is in many ways far more challenging than being apart.

You're right. It IS all about perspective. From the recently filed's perspective, this could be the hardest part of their relationship. The consulate stage of the process was the most difficult part of my relationship, that's for sure. For some people, it could be the most stressful part of their life up to this point, getting through this trial of separation and the unknown of the immigration process. Just because from a 3rd party perspective other people may have it harder doesn't mean that this isn't bad for those going through it.

If you think they should look at it from your perspective and agree, why can't you look at it from their perspective and empathize a little too?

[Trompe le Monde 1,107]

No kidding! We've been apart for 3 years, with 3 visits in those 3 years. I have to admit I FREAKED OUT when I had to start cleaning out MY walk-in closet to make room for his stuff. I mean FREAKED, like...this is MYYYYYYY CLOSET NOOOOO! It lasted about 24 hours and then it was ok...LOL. I am also going to miss not having to clean up pee from the inability of every man (Dad, brothers, Ex-husbands) ever being able to keep it all in a toliet.

:lol:

These were not issues for us as we had lived together in London for many years (plus, coming from a family of sisters, he received training about pee on the toilet from a young age) What I was not prepared for when we came over here was feeling guilty when one of his mate's got married and he couldn't go because he didn't have advance parole yet, taking him away from his successful freelance clients and watch his struggle to find his feet work-wise here (only after waiting what seemed like a lifetime for EAD to arrive), getting frustrated having to do simple things....stuff like that was much harder than expected.

[Dodi 69]

I've not even begun the closet tackling yet!! I don't have a big closet as it is, so half of my stuff is going to have to go into an underbed storage bin. Not relishing that fact. He's bringing his 3000+ DVD collection (all in PAL, so we had to get a specialty dvd player, but Sam's sells them for under $200, that will also play NTSC blu-rays!) but I talked him into getting lockable dj-style train cases for them. He's got them all organized, and it'll keep the kids out of them so they don't get ruined. (Kids + DVD's = scratches )

Then we've got his cooking. Don't get me wrong, he's an amazing cook, and loves to do it. But sometimes he gets INVENTIVE... all I'm sayin is.. if I can't identify it by sight, smell or touch.... I'm not tasting it. If it requires a blow torch to remove it from the pan... the pan goes too.

[Rob and Jill 82]

Then we've got his cooking. Don't get me wrong, he's an amazing cook, and loves to do it. But sometimes he gets INVENTIVE... all I'm sayin is.. if I can't identify it by sight, smell or touch.... I'm not tasting it. If it requires a blow torch to remove it from the pan... the pan goes too.

He tried to make me eat Haggis. That's all I'm saying.

[elmcitymaven 9,712]

I am also going to miss not having to clean up pee from the inability of every man (Dad, brothers, Ex-husbands) ever being able to keep it all in a toliet.

Jill, I thought about your post from AGES ago yesterday about how your ex would leave stuff on the counter and how it drove you crazy -- my quasi-ex was over yesterday and he did something that drives me NUTS. He put an empty packet of crackers on TOP of the bin instead of IN the bin. I thought: this is exactly what Jill was talking about.

Hate not the Haggis; it doth not hate you.

[bakofoil 27]

He tried to make me eat Haggis. That's all I'm saying.

haha! Haggis is preferable to black pudding, marginally.

[Dodi 69]

Oh you poor, poor girl.

On our trip to Scotland he took me into a meat market that SOLD Haggis.... that was close enough. I just bought some cheese. (I love me some good cheese.)

OHHHHH GET THIS!!

We talked to the guy who owns William's Pork Products and has British bangers and bacon and pork pies processed here in the US. He's talking to Peter about helping do some marketing and broadening his market here!! We might be able to bring more of the British meat products to the midwest. William is aiming mostly at the HUGE British Expat markets in Dallas and Houston, but we've got contacts (through my family) with producers here in Oklahoma that would allow us to get stuff rolling here too if we can get enough of a market for it!

HELLO GOOD BACON!!

[elmcitymaven 9,712]

In the end, we love each other, so we'll get through it.

It's true; you will. And you'll have stories to dine out on for years.

[Dodi 69]

haha! Haggis is preferable to black pudding, marginally.

I actually had black pudding at our hotel in Weymouth on my trip over. ####### IS IN THAT??? BLECH

[Trompe le Monde 1,107]

haha! Haggis is preferable to black pudding, marginally.

which is still preferable to white pudding