Fiance wont LEAVE!!!!

[crede 0]

My fiance arrived in the US about a month ago on a K1 visa. Since her arrival things have gone DOWN HILL!. I found out she was unfaithful numerous times during our visa process and do not plan to continue our relationship. I guess my question is how do i get her to go home. I have offered to pay for her flight but she refuses to accept the offer. She acts like a child most of the time and cant seem to realize that we are not getting married. Any tips on how to get her home, i prefer not to report her to INS. I know shes legally allowed to stay for 90 days.

[belinda63 3,038]

Get her out of the house and change the locks. When she calls meet her in a public place, preferably with a witness, offer her a date and time she can pick up her belongings and a one-way ticket back home. After that it is not your problem.

[Boiler 45,489]

You can not make her leave the country.

You do need to make her leave the house. Change the locks etc and put her up in a hotel for a week?

[The_Hot_Herrons 0]

Oh no i am sorry things did not work out. I would change the locks of the house and not let her in. It's nice of you not to report her to USCIS. What she is not realizing is that after 90 days and that you are not married, her stay is no longer legal so she is pretty much putting herself into trouble on her own.

[crede 0]

Thanks for the replys. I really have tried every civil way to get her home. Am i financially responsible for her for the full 90 days? Im only 25 and really cant afford to pay for an extra place for 60 days.

[Boiler 45,489]

You are not financially responsible for her beyond the scope of an I 864. Which is limited. It does not include Living Expenses and Airplane Tickets.

Usually the I 134 is the one done for a K1.

[rlogan 2,036]

Any tips on how to get her home, i prefer not to report her to INS. I know shes legally allowed to stay for 90 days.

You can't have it both ways: allowing them to escape any kind of accountability but at the same time wanting leverage to end her abuse of the system, which includes extorting money from you by refusing to cooperate and making you her ward.

Reporting to USCIS your withdrawal from the process and also the local authorities if she refuses to leave the premises is also important because we often see that dishonest immigrants quickly learn how to use VAWA petitions and false claims of domestic abuse to ruin the life of the U.S. citizen and obtain permanent residency. Get the correct record established instead of allowing her a head-start in making a false one.

If I were in your shoes I would be documenting (in writing, by witness, etc.) that you have offered the ticket home and she is refusing to go, as well as any attempts on your part to accomodate her in terms of temporary shelter & etc. If you think you have problems now, just wait until the cops come with handcuffs to cart you off to prison for false claims that you abused her.

[belinda63 3,038]

Hence the advise to change the locks, meet her in a public place with a witness......specifically to protect yourself from any false accusations.

[skynaut 29]

My fiance arrived in the US about a month ago on a K1 visa. Since her arrival things have gone DOWN HILL!. I found out she was unfaithful numerous times during our visa process and do not plan to continue our relationship. I guess my question is how do i get her to go home. I have offered to pay for her flight but she refuses to accept the offer. She acts like a child most of the time and cant seem to realize that we are not getting married. Any tips on how to get her home, i prefer not to report her to INS. I know shes legally allowed to stay for 90 days.

Can you elaborate a bit on what exactly went wrong between the two of you when she arrived? how long have known each other and have you met before she came to the US? Where is she from?

Careful with some suggestions in here, you do not wanna change the locks just like that, we may get yourself in trouble with the law. I suggest you call your local Police Station if things start going wrong, and explain the situation. They will be in good position to tell you what to do.

Good luck!

Edited August 17, 2010 by skynaut

[JimVaPhuong 4,863]

Can you elaborate a bit on what exactly went wrong between the two of you when she arrived? how long have known each other and have you met before she came to the US? Where is she from?

Careful with some suggestions in here, you do not wanna change the locks just like that, we may get yourself in trouble with the law. I suggest you call your local Police Station if things start going wrong, and explain the situation. They will be in good position to tell you what to do.

Good luck!

The local police don't get involved in giving immigration advice, or advice related to relationships involving an unfaithful partner. Unless there is domestic abuse or some other crime involved, they won't have much of anything to say to him.

Unless he's added her name to the lease or she's paid him rent or in some other way legally established herself as a resident in his home, then she's a guest - he can tell her to leave anytime. They aren't married. If it's his home then he can change the locks. If he's renting then he might need his landlord's permission.

[Harsh_77 718]

Absolutely I would agree with most VJers protect yourself and get everything in writing or in other form of evidence as you are willing to pay for her return ticket etc.

Also meet her with a witness all the time in public place, it would be better if there is witness from her side too.

Make sure she is not able to use VAWA, its much easier and she can make your life miserable by saying you have abused her in past.

Also you would not like to report her to USCIS, but some point in time you do have to let them know you have pulled your application and AOS and you guys did not get married within 90 days and she is illegal in the country.

[msd 3]

Also if you don't report her and things like that keep happening to others (I've read it quite often) it will become harder and harder for honest people to go through this process. I don't think that would be fair.

Why do you not want to report her to USCIS anyway? I don't understand. She really messed with your feelings and obviously is a liar and just plain crazy if she thinks she can stay without any problems now.

[Joan >3 Bob 20]

You need to think this over from all directions. get legal advice about changing the locks. You filed a I-134 in your package to get her here on the K-1 visa. You are responsible for her support for 90 days...again get legal advice.

You need to report her to USCIS and the local Customs and Border patrol authorities. Protect Yourself! She Hurt you by beiung unfaithful to you and always will be that way. Did you not love her to even go through all the pain of the process just to get her the K-1 visa and get her here? Then why are you being MR. Nice Guy and not wanting to report her? Are you some kind of idiot? If you do not take care of this correctly you could get burnt big time! You also have received some good advice from others here about protecting yourself from false abuse charges. This is no joke and she may have some sly friend here giving her advice on how to play you and the system....again false abuse charges! Get legal advise ASAP, report her, and get this behind you!!

[Brad and Vika 129]

Post about K-1 expiration split off. New thread created in K-1 forum.

[Brad and Vika 129]

To the OP - it may help you to fill in some of your profile and provide a little detail about the situation. Also, posting on a regional forum can help find you some support. Some regional can be pretty tough though. Good luck!