Sad question we hate to ask

[jrmejia 31]

It's Kezia, without the R.

Yeah, you should be worried. About the child, you asked about on the other thread, 95% probability that it goes to the mother, especially if the kid is younger than 5 years old. Also, as far as I know, child support knows no boundaries, and she can collect on it (and make it go a long way) if she comes home to the Philippines. However, with the way things are going, you are not just going to support her child and your girlfriend, but the whole family, and your previous messages tells me that that is exactly what you are already doing.

BTW, when she asks you for money and when you send her some, do you know the value of that money here in the Philippines? What may seem small to you might already be big to us here, in terms of purchasing power. Don't trust the online stores to check for the value of things, because they are way overpriced, around 2x the real prices here, as they are meant for people like you from abroad who doesn't know any better and will already think that those prices are cheap.

Back to having a child, if that's the only thing you want, it's easier to just find a surrogate mother, and could be cheaper too.

Don't lose hope though, because if you're the sweet and good guy you seem to be, if you will just get rid of her, start over again and focus more on getting your self-esteem back to make you more attractive to girls (and to yourself too... nothing like self-love to make you feel better and more attractive), you still have a lot of chances to find someone who will like you (and even love you) for just being you. Even if you are fat and old (although I don't think you are), there are girls like there who just want someone to appreciate them and take care of them, and they will fall in love with you and take really good care of you. (Guys, especially the not-typically-attractive ones out there, this is your cue to share your stories). The first step however, is loving yourself, and getting rid of the leeches who suck life out of you. If you let those type of people do it to you, they will suck you dry, not just emotionally, but financially, and you might just end up killing yourself (literally this time)... although I hope that this will not happen.

Guys out there, a little help here please, especially from the happily married ones (and preferably from those who doesn't fit the young, handsome & rich profiles that girls usually look out for, but found someone to love them anyway)... in other words, we need some words of encouragement from the lucky ones.

Hi Kezia, I apogolize for adding the extra 'r'.

Thanks for your kind words.

[David & Kezia 25]

Hi Kezia, I apogolize for adding the extra 'r'.

Thanks for your kind words.

No problem.

I just hate it when good people are being duped and manipulated by some leech. I've been there, my brother is still so much unaware what's happening to him and wouldn't listen either (even if it means that his whole family and all other friends are already being alienated because of this girl, mainly because of her lies and very good acting, making sure that he's isolated and only has her for everything), and my fiance has also been duped before we met. It's a big nasty world out there, whether we like it or not, so the least we can do is try to look out for each other. If you're here, I wouldn't be above to giving you a big slap in the head, just to wake you up from that poisonous daze that you are in. I just hope that you wake up from it sooner, rather than later.

[DaRoq 36]

Don't lose hope though, because if you're the sweet and good guy you seem to be, if you will just get rid of her, start over again and focus more on getting your self-esteem back to make you more attractive to girls (and to yourself too... nothing like self-love to make you feel better and more attractive), you still have a lot of chances to find someone who will like you (and even love you) for just being you. Even if you are fat and old (although I don't think you are), there are girls like there who just want someone to appreciate them and take care of them, and they will fall in love with you and take really good care of you. (Guys, especially the not-typically-attractive ones out there, this is your cue to share your stories). The first step however, is loving yourself, and getting rid of the leeches who suck life out of you. If you let those type of people do it to you, they will suck you dry, not just emotionally, but financially, and you might just end up killing yourself (literally this time)... although I hope that this will not happen.

Guys out there, a little help here please, especially from the happily married ones (and preferably from those who doesn't fit the young, handsome & rich profiles that girls usually look out for, but found someone to love them anyway)... in other words, we need some words of encouragement from the lucky ones.

I don't think you'll get a lot of "not-typically-attractive" people to share their stories here.

I also don't have any words of encouragement for jrmejia, but hopefully he will take your advice about "self-love". Because in this world of dating, relationships and love, we can count ourselves as one of the "lucky ones" if we should ever find "The One". Even guys who fit the "Eligible Bachelor" profile have their share of problems in this arena. Things can go from [seemingly] good to bad in an instant, even when you think you have some advantages. Don't be fooled. It can happen to you anyone. All you can do is "toughen up" and learn to move on. I know I've had to. It's not easy, even (especially) when you have options. Sounds strange, but it's true.

I hope that jrmejia will find his way soon...

[jrmejia 31]

I don't think you'll get a lot of "not-typically-attractive" people to share their stories here.

I also don't have any words of encouragement for jrmejia, but hopefully he will take your advice about "self-love". Because in this world of dating, relationships and love, we can count ourselves as one of the "lucky ones" if we should ever find "The One". Even guys who fit the "Eligible Bachelor" profile have their share of problems in this arena. Things can go from [seemingly] good to bad in an instant, even when you think you have some advantages. Don't be fooled. It can happen to you anyone. All you can do is "toughen up" and learn to move on. I know I've had to. It's not easy, even (especially) when you have options. Sounds strange, but it's true.

I hope that jrmejia will find his way soon...

I like your wording DaRoq. I am giving her another chance because things are working great between us. I will see what comes next. I am just a bit worried that latey she is too nice. I hope it is not what I am thnking. I really hope not

[lbounds 16]

If she's playing all kinds of games and lies I would run as far and fast away from this woman as possible.

You can know all about her without her knowing. If you have a bad feeling in your gut that something is not right you need to make sure. Besides everyones advice her it might be helpful to you to know what's really going on with her and who she really is.

This guy does private investigations of these kind of girls without them knowing. I've heard he can find out if she has other boyfriends, chat mates etc. The cost is a few hundred dollars but I'd recommend seeing on paper the facts of who she really is. If she's a good girl you will know. If she's a bad one you will know without a doubt and will have the facts on paper in front of you. I hope this will helpful.

http://pointmanpi.com/

please don't take offense at my suggestion. I'm just trying to be helpful.

http://pointmanpi.com/

[David & Kezia 25]

If she's playing all kinds of games and lies I would run as far and fast away from this woman as possible.

You can know all about her without her knowing. If you have a bad feeling in your gut that something is not right you need to make sure. Besides everyones advice her it might be helpful to you to know what's really going on with her and who she really is.

This guy does private investigations of these kind of girls without them knowing. I've heard he can find out if she has other boyfriends, chat mates etc. The cost is a few hundred dollars but I'd recommend seeing on paper the facts of who she really is. If she's a good girl you will know. If she's a bad one you will know without a doubt and will have the facts on paper in front of you. I hope this will helpful.

http://pointmanpi.com/

please don't take offense at my suggestion. I'm just trying to be helpful.

http://pointmanpi.com/

That's a very good suggestion. I actually already did this kind of work for some of my friends, and even as a kid I am used to investigating others one way or another. It was fun as I was crazy for Nancy Drew and Hardy Boys when I was in grade school, but can be frustrating too when the results are really bad. Being the messenger of bad news was also bad, as I easily get close to people and I have high emphatic levels.

BTW, on these kinds of investigations, the best worm is a transgender (a gay) who can easily go into one community and easily get immersed & accepted into the gay community and all the chatters out there. They are also natural at gossip and no one would suspect them for having other motives because they just gossip almost all the time, and more often than not (no offense meant to the TS girls out there, one of my bestfriends is a TS) they are also the tutors or the pimps. Around here, fashion shows or pageants and chatting with men or being aggressive with sexual relations with straight guys, is already synonymous with being gay or transsexual, and no one raises an eyebrow anymore when they do or say things that girls of their own age can't do (gays start young, usually pre-teens). Beautiful TS girls are also known for touring all over the country to join the MsGay pageants that are almost always part of any fiesta or big celebration at every barangay (village) or town/city. I know because one of my bestfriends do this, and I thought that I was the well-traveled who have been to all the nooks and crannies of the Philippines as I've been traveling with my Mom and with school contests since grade school, but she beat me to it just by going after those pageants that her gay contacts all over the country recruits her for.

Also, jrmejia, where is your girlfriend located? I have friends all over the country and I am visayan myself, so I might just know someone who can make the discreet inquiries for you and you can save the $s from what this other PI will charge you. Cameras are very common today and recorders too, as they are standard features of even the cheapest cellphones, so even conversations could be taped and translated for you.

-Kezia

[Tahoma 2,292]

That's a very good suggestion. I actually already did this kind of work for some of my friends, and even as a kid I am used to investigating others one way or another. It was fun as I was crazy for Nancy Drew and Hardy Boys when I was in grade school, but can be frustrating too when the results are really bad. Being the messenger of bad news was also bad, as I easily get close to people and I have high emphatic levels.

BTW, on these kinds of investigations, the best worm is a transgender (a gay) who can easily go into one community and easily get immersed & accepted into the gay community and all the chatters out there. They are also natural at gossip and no one would suspect them for having other motives because they just gossip almost all the time, and more often than not (no offense meant to the TS girls out there, one of my bestfriends is a TS) they are also the tutors or the pimps. Around here, fashion shows or pageants and chatting with men or being aggressive with sexual relations with straight guys, is already synonymous with being gay or transsexual, and no one raises an eyebrow anymore when they do or say things that girls of their own age can't do (gays start young, usually pre-teens). Beautiful TS girls are also known for touring all over the country to join the MsGay pageants that are almost always part of any fiesta or big celebration at every barangay (village) or town/city. I know because one of my bestfriends do this, and I thought that I was the well-traveled who have been to all the nooks and crannies of the Philippines as I've been traveling with my Mom and with school contests since grade school, but she beat me to it just by going after those pageants that her gay contacts all over the country recruits her for.

Also, jrmejia, where is your girlfriend located? I have friends all over the country and I am visayan myself, so I might just know someone who can make the discreet inquiries for you and you can save the $s from what this other PI will charge you. Cameras are very common today and recorders too, as they are standard features of even the cheapest cellphones, so even conversations could be taped and translated for you.

-Kezia

He doesn't need an investigation. He already knows what's going on. He's just in denial about it.

[David & Kezia 25]

He doesn't need an investigation. He already knows what's going on. He's just in denial about it.

I think I agree with you, but then again, maybe the cold hard facts (pictures, videos, audio recordings, etc.) will snap him out of it and face the realities.

[Tahoma 2,292]

I think I agree with you, but then again, maybe the cold hard facts (pictures, videos, audio recordings, etc.) will snap him out of it and face the realities.

He won't have her investigated because he prefers dysfunction to reality.

Have you read his non-answers to other posters? He just pretends that he cares about reality.

He also enjoys the attention he gets from his constant little melodramas here on VJ.

I know a guy just like jrmejia. There's no changing him, so why bother taking him seriously?

Edited September 26, 2010 by Tahoma

[David & Kezia 25]

He won't have her investigated because he prefers dysfunction to reality.

Have you read his non-answers to other posters? He just pretends that he cares about reality.

He also enjoys the attention he gets from his constant little melodramas here on VJ.

I know a guy just like jrmejia. There's no changing him, so why bother taking him seriously?

You might have just hit the nail on the head.

[Tahoma 2,292]

[jrmejia 31]

That's a very good suggestion. I actually already did this kind of work for some of my friends, and even as a kid I am used to investigating others one way or another. It was fun as I was crazy for Nancy Drew and Hardy Boys when I was in grade school, but can be frustrating too when the results are really bad. Being the messenger of bad news was also bad, as I easily get close to people and I have high emphatic levels.

BTW, on these kinds of investigations, the best worm is a transgender (a gay) who can easily go into one community and easily get immersed & accepted into the gay community and all the chatters out there. They are also natural at gossip and no one would suspect them for having other motives because they just gossip almost all the time, and more often than not (no offense meant to the TS girls out there, one of my bestfriends is a TS) they are also the tutors or the pimps. Around here, fashion shows or pageants and chatting with men or being aggressive with sexual relations with straight guys, is already synonymous with being gay or transsexual, and no one raises an eyebrow anymore when they do or say things that girls of their own age can't do (gays start young, usually pre-teens). Beautiful TS girls are also known for touring all over the country to join the MsGay pageants that are almost always part of any fiesta or big celebration at every barangay (village) or town/city. I know because one of my bestfriends do this, and I thought that I was the well-traveled who have been to all the nooks and crannies of the Philippines as I've been traveling with my Mom and with school contests since grade school, but she beat me to it just by going after those pageants that her gay contacts all over the country recruits her for.

Also, jrmejia, where is your girlfriend located? I have friends all over the country and I am visayan myself, so I might just know someone who can make the discreet inquiries for you and you can save the $s from what this other PI will charge you. Cameras are very common today and recorders too, as they are standard features of even the cheapest cellphones, so even conversations could be taped and translated for you.

-Kezia

She has a nice job in Dubai. She is very smart and professional. Sometimes I wonder why she wants to come to USA? she has so many friends and her job is pretty good.

[jrmejia 31]

I wonder what Rlogan will say about this video. I bet he will get it right. He will detect who are on this video and the purpose also?

I bet! ?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=if4g2-GXsuU

[Tahoma 2,292]

She has a nice job in Dubai. She is very smart and professional. Sometimes I wonder why she wants to come to USA? she has so many friends and her job is pretty good.

Yes, you do know why she wants to come to the U.S. You just won't admit it.

I wonder what Rlogan will say about this video. I bet he will get it right. He will detect who are on this video and the purpose also?

Oh look! It's more melodrama from our favorite avoidance artist!

Hmmm...let me guess...is the video about a river in Egypt?

[jrmejia 31]

Yes, you do know why she wants to come to the U.S. You just won't admit it.

Oh look! It's more melodrama from our favorite avoidance artist!

Hmmm...let me guess...is the video about a river in Egypt?

heheheheheheh