Sad question we hate to ask

[Joan >3 Bob 20]

I meant to say it is not like you could not find a good loving Filipina. Find one that you do not have any sour gut feelings about and that you truely love and get bto know her first and visit her and her home and her family.

[jrmejia 31]

I meant to say it is not like you could not find a good loving Filipina. Find one that you do not have any sour gut feelings about and that you truely love and get bto know her first and visit her and her home and her family.

salamat

[Got Charmed 0]

WHY ARE YOU WASTING YOUR TIME, IF SHE CANT SEE THE GOOD IN YOU TOO COMIT THEN ITS TIME TO MOVE ON, LIKE OTHERS HAVE SAID THIER ARE SO MANY LADIES THAT ARE LOOKING FOR LOVE BUT HAVENT MET THE RIGHT MAN YET, CUT YOUR TIES WITH HER AND THE FAMILY AND MOVE ON TO SOMEONE THAT WILL LOVE YOU FOR YOU AND SOMEONE THAT IS READY TO BE YOUR WIFE. SHE HAS COLD FEET?, I DONT THINK SO, MAYBE SHE HAS SOMEONE ELSE AND DONT KNOW HOW TO TELL YOU, IF IT WALKS LIKE A DUCK, QUACKS LIKE A DUCK ,THEN ITS A DUCK PLAIN AND SIMPLE.

[Tahoma 2,292]

...But I find her so cold some times...I have the strong sense that something is going...Some fine print about her that I cannot read.

Please listen to yourself. Is this your idea of love?

[jrmejia 31]

WHY ARE YOU WASTING YOUR TIME, IF SHE CANT SEE THE GOOD IN YOU TOO COMIT THEN ITS TIME TO MOVE ON, LIKE OTHERS HAVE SAID THIER ARE SO MANY LADIES THAT ARE LOOKING FOR LOVE BUT HAVENT MET THE RIGHT MAN YET, CUT YOUR TIES WITH HER AND THE FAMILY AND MOVE ON TO SOMEONE THAT WILL LOVE YOU FOR YOU AND SOMEONE THAT IS READY TO BE YOUR WIFE. SHE HAS COLD FEET?, I DONT THINK SO, MAYBE SHE HAS SOMEONE ELSE AND DONT KNOW HOW TO TELL YOU, IF IT WALKS LIKE A DUCK, QUACKS LIKE A DUCK ,THEN ITS A DUCK PLAIN AND SIMPLE.

[jrmejia 31]

Please listen to yourself. Is this your idea of love?

It is so odd. When I am not with her, I say to myself "next time I chat with her, I will confront her" but then she give me a baby face I forget everything ( and start back from sq. 0

[jerbbiandsteve31 0]

follow your instinct. find out what's going on before its too late,. she shouldn't be cold even when she has her period, love is still love.

[mandyu1 5]

I have to agree with what everyone else is saying, if you're having doubts now (and you just started the process) you should listen gut. When we love someone we are blinded by many things, and a lot of times our heart does not want to hear what our mind is trying to tell us, so we make up excuses for behavior to try and comfort our own feelings. I'm a woman, and can say that even during that time of the month I still love my fiance as much as I did before. I may be a little more irritable, and he knows not to push my buttons, but I'm not cruel and I don't shut down or shut him out of my life for that brief period. And I think when I say that I can speak for the majority of women. It sounds to me that she probably does love you or have feelings for you, but may not be in love with you, and is trying to convince herself that if she comes here she can fall in love with you and have a good life. And I can tell you right now from experience that if this is whats going on its not going to happen. I married before for the wrong reason, I loved him but wasn't in love and thought over time I would love him like I should love a husband, and honestly I never did, and the marriage was an absolute disaster. I'm sorry you're going thru this, and the longer you keep going down this path the harder it's going to be to end. Good Luck in whatever you choose

[SuperDuper! 230]

If you are having any doubts then my suggestion is to not continue on with the petition. This is not a wait-and see-visa this is a fiance visa for someone that you both want to spend your lives with.

However, in reference to your question you can stop the petition at almost any point. Depending on where you are in the process you would need to send a letter withdrawing your petition.

Agreed, but it is neither a legally binding one, as is the stage of CR-1 filing.

K1 does offer another "check" in a relationship to see if it is safe to advance to the next level called "matrimony."

[tallcoolone 102]

Agreed, but it is neither a legally binding one, as is the stage of CR-1 filing.

K1 does offer another "check" in a relationship to see if it is safe to advance to the next level called "matrimony."

Agreed.........

[Tahoma 2,292]

It is so odd. When I am not with her, I say to myself "next time I chat with her, I will confront her" but then she give me a baby face I forget everything ( and start back from sq. 0

Your gut instinct is always right. You are simply avoiding the issue.

[rlogan 2,036]

Well, maybe it is an age difference: 24 vs 46.

Irrelevant.

But I find her so cold some times. I know she gets like that during her (monthly) but still. I have the strong sense that something is going..Some fine print about her that I cannot read.

Another vote for Trust Your Instincts. Man, the literature I read is emphatic about this.

Ask yourself how common it is to hear "My gut instinct said it was wrong, but it turned out instead to be the best decision I ever made..."

You seem a bit baffled that the "baby face" she gives you defeats your intention to confront the issue. No mystery there. Think about it: you sense something is wrong with her being cold and distant. But when you want to talk about it, the "baby face" arrives to divert you.

If that's the situation, then you are being manipulated. You need the exact opposite: You need warmth and closeness 24/7, and when you want to talk about something she should have radar and a demeanor that brings it out of you.

Plenty of wonderful Filipinas who will love you from head to toe.

[jrmejia 31]

Irrelevant.

Another vote for Trust Your Instincts. Man, the literature I read is emphatic about this.

Ask yourself how common it is to hear "My gut instinct said it was wrong, but it turned out instead to be the best decision I ever made..."

You seem a bit baffled that the "baby face" she gives you defeats your intention to confront the issue. No mystery there. Think about it: you sense something is wrong with her being cold and distant. But when you want to talk about it, the "baby face" arrives to divert you.

If that's the situation, then you are being manipulated. You need the exact opposite: You need warmth and closeness 24/7, and when you want to talk about something she should have radar and a demeanor that brings it out of you.

Plenty of wonderful Filipinas who will love you from head to toe.

Nice wording. I have a lot to think or maybe I just need to confront her and skip the thinking part.

Thanks

[TravellingNomad 12]

Nice wording. I have a lot to think or maybe I just need to confront her and skip the thinking part.

Thanks

IMO that's the best thing you've said/posted so far. because you already know there's something wrong...and when you think about things...you find reasons to make yourself believe that maybe it's this or that. for whatever reason she's being cold and distant to you....you just need to confront her plain and simple. but don't come across being a jerk (but im sure you don't). just tell her you want to talk to her because of all the reasons you posted in this thread. better to have the talk with her now than later when it's too late.

[jrmejia 31]

I am trying to describe an event that it is taking place somewhere out-there. "Crapy", I can write or describe it any way I want. It is my story: If you don't think moving a truck is painful enough, go and check your heart. You need serious help.

"How to move a truck"

I joined the gym and doing some weight lifting. So I said to myself this time I will try to push the truck as hard as I can to get it going. I saw other people doing it and it worked why not me?

So I tried again to push it and could not moved it. Hmm!!! strange!. I am feeling "tears" dropping off because I am using a lot of strength to get it going. So I stopped for a moment and relaxed a bit. Then listened to some love songs while holding a light Heineken on my hand.

Suddenly, the answer arrived to the question why the truck wasn't moving at all. It was so simple. She never moved the truck's gear to neutral . She has it in PARKED all this time!!!!!!!! how blind was I? I was supposed to check myself. But I did not. . I did not think it was necessary.

Anyway, time is running out with my gym subscription. I am planning to cancel it. No matter how strong I get, if you do not move the gear to NEUTRAL, I will never ever move truck. The truck itself is very heavy to move but if you don't put it in gear, it is more difficult for me to get it going.

Don't tell me I did not try to push it.

Edited September 12, 2010 by jrmejia