Can My US Citizen wife use my Credit without Permission?

[JimVaPhuong 4,863]

The US government recognizes the validity and status of only the most recent marriage

That sounds back to front.

For the purpose of immigration, the official policy is that none of the polygamous marriages are valid. The opinion I gave above was based on a court case where a man had brought both of his wives to the US with work visas, supposedly to be housekeepers. Their visas expired, they overstayed, and removal proceedings were initiated. The man then filed TWO spousal visa and AOS petitions, one for each wife. USCIS denied them both. A federal appeals court determined that the second marriage could be considered valid if it also considered that the second marriage effectively terminated the first. They directed USCIS to accept the AOS petition for the second wife only. I remember reading a long winded article from an immigration lawyer about this, but I didn't bookmark it. I'm trying to find it now...

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ok I have received the Welcome to USA letter it says i will receive GReen Card in 3 weeks.

What a relief now she can not threaten me that she is going to send me back.

I have no idea how i am going to get out of this marriage as have no money. and just living a hand to mouth life. paying rent car payment all by my self leave me with almost nothing every month.

i was thinking may bay if i rush to divorce her that may raise suspicion that i was staying with her just for Green Card!

i m in Georgia. Atlanta Suburban Ara.

[Darnell 8,479]

maybe review post #10 ?

Also, if you are a muslim, suggest you get in touch with the local mosque, talk with the imam / muallah there, he'll have some pointed guidance for you. Seriously.

Edited August 22, 2010 by Darnell

[rlogan 2,036]

the credit card activity she is doing, is actually fraud, even in a 'community property state'.

as belinda mentioned - get a PO BOX - get it on Monday.

re: uscis -

1. call USCIS Monday, inquire for current casefile status

2. file an AR-11, change of address form - see http://www.uscis.gov/portal/site/uscis/menuitem.5af9bb95919f35e66f614176543f6d1a/?vgnextoid=c1a94154d7b3d010VgnVCM10000048f3d6a1RCRD&vgnextchannel=db029c7755cb9010VgnVCM10000045f3d6a1RCRD and have the address changed to that PO BOX. there may be notices that she's not showing you, that came in this year.

3. when/if the greencard arrives - bear in mind - this is YOUR FEDERAL ID - and it's a federal crime for her to with-hold it from you.

re: credit cards in your name -

1. call the companies that issued them, cancel the cards - tell the customer service rep that you never signed anything, and that someone else intercepted your mail and that your incoming mail is not secure.

2. once the cards are cancelled, you may or may not be responsible for that debt - you can initiate a fraud investigation, and in the mean time, change the billing address to the PO BOX

do you have SSN and EAD ?

1. go to a bank on Monday, open new account, in your name. Deposit your paychecks there, from now on.

suggest you do all of this stuff, without telling her, without her involvement. IF you use a computer at the house/residence/apartment, GO TO a public library, change your passwords on all accounts (yahoo email, hotmail, gmail) and NEVER use the 'home computer' again. She might have some keylogger on the home computer, capture everything that you type on that keyboard.

Sound advice.

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For the purpose of immigration, the official policy is that none of the polygamous marriages are valid. The opinion I gave above was based on a court case where a man had brought both of his wives to the US with work visas, supposedly to be housekeepers. Their visas expired, they overstayed, and removal proceedings were initiated. The man then filed TWO spousal visa and AOS petitions, one for each wife. USCIS denied them both. A federal appeals court determined that the second marriage could be considered valid if it also considered that the second marriage effectively terminated the first. They directed USCIS to accept the AOS petition for the second wife only. I remember reading a long winded article from an immigration lawyer about this, but I didn't bookmark it. I'm trying to find it now...

i'd like to see that becasue govt website i saw other day says FIRST marriage is valid and all others after that are not considered legal. that's why it's better to be the first wife

ok I have received the Welcome to USA letter it says i will receive GReen Card in 3 weeks.

What a relief now she can not threaten me that she is going to send me back.

I have no idea how i am going to get out of this marriage as have no money. and just living a hand to mouth life. paying rent car payment all by my self leave me with almost nothing every month.

i was thinking may bay if i rush to divorce her that may raise suspicion that i was staying with her just for Green Card!

i m in Georgia. Atlanta Suburban Ara.

in addition to darnell's advice i would suggest keepign close eye on incoming mail and make sure she doesnt get your green card.

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this is a no brainer...leave her

[Deputy Purple 1,294]

OP, go to your local post office and have them hold your mail. That way they won't deliver it to your home but you will have to come down to the post office and pick it up. If you simply forward it to a PO box some of it will get returned to sender as it is marked "Do not forward", I can't remember if USCIS mail is marked that way but I wouldn't be surprised if it is.

Also, document the Fraud, call the police and file fraud complaints with the card issuers. I'd also go to the bank where she deposited the fraudulent checks and explain to them what happened and give that info to the police also.

With that fraud & ID Theft on record if USCIS does question the divorce timeline at Removal of Conditions you'll have evidence to back you up.

Edited August 23, 2010 by Bob 4 Anna

[Harsh_77 718]

i already owe so much money to credit cards and lawyer. but she does not care about my problems. even though i spent all that on her. i been working since i stepped in this country but seems like i am here just to pay for her ease of life and bills

Then leave, why are you putting up with that abuse?

Why are you letting her blackmail you, coz even you want to live in this country you are taking her advantage and she is taking your advantage…. Its mutual. 

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I came to USA on k1, got married... She was totally different person then i knew.

She Had left her job before i came .. so i had to start looking for job the 1st week i arrived. one reason or an other she worked just 6 months in last 3 years i been here.

She tries to rip off money from me every possible way. i cant have a bank account because she signed some body else's checks and put n my account without my knowledge i was reported as fraudulent person.

Now before 6 months in the mail i received a Credit card offer.. she filled it out with my information and sent it back!, when i found out about it and wanted to cancel the card she said ok i will call Immigration too in the morning. so i stopped. she black mailed me so many times like this.

recently i found out she have all my credit cards numbers and number of my re loadable debit card.

she spent about 700$ without my permission and knowledge.. and i cant do any thing because she says 1st of all i m in the United states because of her and what ever is mine is her too(since she dont have anything).

she is waiting for her disability claim, she says as soon i get that money you will never see me..

i m still waiting for GC approval. i have no idea what to do. i been so loyal to her. she always does stuff on my back and black mails me

My ex-wife used my credit card which is only in my name.

The stores don't care, they want to sell merchandise. She can sign "Micky Mouse" and they will still take it.

If you want to dispute the charges as fraudulant, you will probably lose, as they will claim the spouse has authority.

Teams of lawyers are hired by CC companies to do just this.

Call the CC companies and tell them you lost your cards. They will cancel them, and MAYBE you won't have to pay for the charges.

Good luck