Yardie Party!!! Come as you are - Part 1

[My4rmylife 0]

Thanks jaenglish for your response I was hoping for something different my kids have a nana,grandma,gg,granny and a bebe so I was trying to comeup with something different

[JaEnglishGirl 34]

Thanks jaenglish for your response I was hoping for something different my kids have a nana,grandma,gg,granny and a bebe so I was trying to comeup with something different

My sons call my mother in law 'Mimi'...I think she did that so she could pretend my son was her CHILD ROFL

[Eric_Jew Nug 2]

Sorry to hear that - search this forum, JG had a thread on adoption - that would be an avenue to pursue.

thx. will do

[sugarapple 1]

No they are strictly requesting DNA testing. So we will either be relieved or shocked. But either way we are still that child's parents. Only bad thing is that she won't be able to come over to the states to live with us, prob until she is older, I am guessing. I haven't done much research yet.Just be down myself. Hurt a little. Hurting for Eric cause his mind is all over the place.

Yea that is the pits. Girl I dont even know how you can cheer him up:(((. When I was there they did send couple people back that day for that if the parents was add couple years before coming to the embassy... in order to continue he will have to do the paternity, just say a pray and hope it comes back as his tell him to get rid of all negative thoughts whether the child is his or not he has been there from the start and it will not change you guys will contiune until she is with u guys. Only advice just hold him tight!!!

[MRStee 19]

No they are strictly requesting DNA testing. So we will either be relieved or shocked. But either way we are still that child's parents. Only bad thing is that she won't be able to come over to the states to live with us, prob until she is older, I am guessing. I haven't done much research yet.Just be down myself. Hurt a little. Hurting for Eric cause his mind is all over the place.

Wow that really sucks. Why does it seem like you, Eric and his parents are the only ones who care about this child? It breaks my heart.

Thanks jaenglish for your response I was hoping for something different my kids have a nana,grandma,gg,granny and a bebe so I was trying to comeup with something different

my coworkers grandchildren call her mooka

[Thompson2 1]

Jew this is awful! Will he be able to take the DNA test before leaving? Wait I thought he was leaving this morning. I'm praying it is his because blood or not he is this child's daddy and you her mommy and she needs to be here with you both and her sister to be. I hope you can get the results quick, because just not knowing is the pits. This is super scary and I feel for both of you.

What's up yardies?? I'm sitting here eating my lasagne that I made and Tee did not give me any pointers on. Hubby said it's good, but I still want some tips sister!

[My4rmylife 0]

Brooke with my lasagne I make my own sauce..

[BelwinMills 0]

Hi Yardies! Have a wonderful Labor Day Weekend. I know some of you on facebook already know this but I started my own savings blog. If you want to check it out it go to countrysavingmommy.com and it is also on Facebook just push the like button if you want to be a fan. I have learned how to score $1 purses for my mother inlaw and cheap clothes (as low as 10 cents)! Plus more so I don't have to spend an arm and a leg visiting inlaws and friends. Best Wishes to all and Happy 3 day weekend. One Luv, Jax!

My sons call my mother in law 'Mimi'...I think she did that so she could pretend my son was her CHILD ROFL

Oh how cute! hehe

[JQ Smiley BOOM 3]

Hey yall,

thanks for all the wonderful advice

Since it is a 3day weekend, I left will all 3 1/2 kids

He started to get better Thursday and Friday but I still want him to improve,

My aunt is one of the best cooks in the woorld, and due to it being my granny b-day weekend we are going to bbq for it like we always did before she passed.

1.Peace

2. Sanity

3.kids good cuz theres other kids here

4. hubby has time to get it together

he called me 23 times last night and 9 already this mornign

guess hes looking for dinner and breakfast oh well im over here being served like a queen

probably wont talk to yall till mon or tues but have a great weekend

[My4rmylife 0]

Hey yall,

thanks for all the wonderful advice

Since it is a 3day weekend, I left will all 3 1/2 kids

He started to get better Thursday and Friday but I still want him to improve,

My aunt is one of the best cooks in the woorld, and due to it being my granny b-day weekend we are going to bbq for it like we always did before she passed.

1.Peace

2. Sanity

3.kids good cuz theres other kids here

4. hubby has time to get it together

he called me 23 times last night and 9 already this mornign

guess hes looking for dinner and breakfast oh well im over here being served like a queen

probably wont talk to yall till mon or tues but have a great weekend

good for your ... Relax and enjoy your time

[MRStee 19]

Jew this is awful! Will he be able to take the DNA test before leaving? Wait I thought he was leaving this morning. I'm praying it is his because blood or not he is this child's daddy and you her mommy and she needs to be here with you both and her sister to be. I hope you can get the results quick, because just not knowing is the pits. This is super scary and I feel for both of you.

What's up yardies?? I'm sitting here eating my lasagne that I made and Tee did not give me any pointers on. Hubby said it's good, but I still want some tips sister!

awwwwwwwwwwwwww brookums mi sawwry!

Hey yall,

thanks for all the wonderful advice

Since it is a 3day weekend, I left will all 3 1/2 kids

He started to get better Thursday and Friday but I still want him to improve,

My aunt is one of the best cooks in the woorld, and due to it being my granny b-day weekend we are going to bbq for it like we always did before she passed.

1.Peace

2. Sanity

3.kids good cuz theres other kids here

4. hubby has time to get it together

he called me 23 times last night and 9 already this mornign

guess hes looking for dinner and breakfast oh well im over here being served like a queen

probably wont talk to yall till mon or tues but have a great weekend

See, you sound better already.. your welcome and relax mama!

[*JG* 2]

Hey yall,

I'm still overwhelmed and its not getting any easier.

Yesterday when I got home I started making dinner my usual routine, and when my hubby got home he just took off his clothes and went to bed. I went into the room and said, "I sure wish I could just relax after I get in. But I had these kids since 6 am."

He tells me: "Who told you to have them since 6 am"

Me: wait a minute, your daughter couldn't go to the school around the corner remember, because she couldn't pass the test, so I had to put her in the school by my job, all day kinder, which means when I take you to work in the morning at 6am, the kids are with me until I drop them off at school.

He just lays down and doesn't say anything and goes to sleep. Sleeps until about 11:30 pm and wakes up looking for dinner. Eats dinner goes on the computer and goes to sleep.

Wakes up this morning doesn't say anything to me, doesn't help get any of the kids up, and tells me at 6:30 to drop him off at his friends house around the corner so he can get a ride to work.

No fckn convo since that smart sht yesterday afternoon.

I had a talk to him on Sunday letting him know our relationship so up and down it aint gone work. He don't help he just do what he do and expect since his mom did everything that that's a womans job. Maybe that's a womans job if she don't work. Beacsue she has never had a job. If I didn't work I could clean and cook and shop and take on all the responsibilities as a house wife, and not look to him for support, but since Im bringing in as much money as him I feel it should be split. And danmn it im pregnant where is my sympathy.

Then he had the nerve to say, we can barely make it with 3 how we gonna make it with 4 (OMG yall I blew up and told him sht him and his daughter and this newborn can make it back in Jamaica with his momma, if he chooses so) He claims he will try to make it better gave me a hug and was acting different for the rest of that day. But they next day it ack to the same oh him.

Well I told his azz next week make sure you take off work because Im switching all these kids to the school by the house. I cant keep leaving work in the morning and the afternoon, to take these kids.

Update: So the baby took the test at the new school with the all day kinder and she passed it ( maybe because my husband was with her and he don't play with her) but they put her in 1st grade. And the work that she is doing right now in the first grade she understand we just gotta work with her to learn how to sound words out.

So Im switch her to the school by my house, well my hubby is because Im tired of going in circles for this little girl. I had to take off 8 hrs last week and don't have no more vacation due to the JA trip. Im taking off to switch my boys but he gonna have to switch her and take the test scores from the school showing she passed the test.

This is a lot of drama!!!!

I love all your adivce and keep it coming but if anybody wants to talk negative, because im sure it is coming, write it then delete it because I don't need any one talking about how perfect their life is and telling me mine is shtty, just keep it positive and try to help in a nice way or be prepare to get cussed out!!!! Cause everyone has problems and Im trying to share mine with my true VJ sisters on here. To get healthy advice(L)

JQ Smiley Boom

Sweetie, all I really have to say is that's exactly what happened to me. Not only did I get tired of doing every damn thing, I got tired of feeling alone. You know the ending to my story.

He's got to step up. You can talk till you are blue in the face; but if he doesn't want to step up and then actually DO IT, it's not going to work.

You have to be a partnership.

I wish you the very best of luck. I'm sorry. Hugs, my friend.

[*JG* 2]

Finesse, the girls are so beautiful!

Mo - I have been watching the hurricane forecast too - looks like it will mash up the Museum for Friday But at least I still have Roseland Ballroom!

JQ - I agree with the others - You need to just stop doing things - Let him figure it out when he's hungry, has no clean clothes, etc... - after a while of this, he'll start to get the hint and then is the time to have the heart to heart - Not now when you are doing it all and he's not grasping the full concept of what you do. Your priority right now needs to be you and the baby, and he needs to do his part.

I agree with ALL of you; but..........big BUT......you all are kind of missing the point. Her priorities are THE KIDS. He can cook and do laundry. But, what she really needs help with are the kids. He has to step up in ALL aspects of the family. She needs so much help right now. Yeah, maybe after the pregnancy she can pick up some of her old chores. He needs to think about everyone involved and not just himself.

Edited September 4, 2010 by *JG*

[DedicatedWife 4]

Hey yall,

thanks for all the wonderful advice

Since it is a 3day weekend, I left will all 3 1/2 kids

He started to get better Thursday and Friday but I still want him to improve,

My aunt is one of the best cooks in the woorld, and due to it being my granny b-day weekend we are going to bbq for it like we always did before she passed.

1.Peace

2. Sanity

3.kids good cuz theres other kids here

4. hubby has time to get it together

he called me 23 times last night and 9 already this mornign

guess hes looking for dinner and breakfast oh well im over here being served like a queen

probably wont talk to yall till mon or tues but have a great weekend

Good for you Mama! No one's marriage or relationship is perfect...we all have bumps every now and then...hang in there and continue expressing your feelings to your hubby. You two are in it to win it! Hugs Mama!

[DedicatedWife 4]

Hi Everyone!!! I feel so out the loop!

I hope all is well!

Miss you guys. Have a wonderful Labor Day weekend.