Yardie Party!!! Come as you are - Part 1

[Always Blessed 1]

Hi Everyone,

Finesse Beautiful Babies!

JQ- Keep your head up momma, You do want you can and everything else will eventuallty fall into place we can only do so much even though sometimes these mens think we can produce miracles when they do nothing!, you dont need to get all stressed out(from my lips to God's ears) cause I am completely guilty of this myself and both of us have babies to make sure stay healthy while we carry them.

Mo-Prayers for protection from the storm

Eric-Jew- Hope the interview went well.

My3- hope the job is going well

DW-Sorry I missed your bday so Happy Belated bday

Mrstee & Brooke- just saying hi

Anyone else sorry if I missed ya cant remember everythign thesed day

[JaEnglishGirl 34]

Hey yall,

I’m still overwhelmed and its not getting any easier.

Yesterday when I got home I started making dinner my usual routine, and when my hubby got home he just took off his clothes and went to bed. I went into the room and said, “I sure wish I could just relax after I get in. But I had these kids since 6 am.”

He tells me: “Who told you to have them since 6 am”

Me: wait a minute, your daughter couldn’t go to the school around the corner remember, because she couldn’t pass the test, so I had to put her in the school by my job, all day kinder, which means when I take you to work in the morning at 6am, the kids are with me until I drop them off at school.

He just lays down and doesn’t say anything and goes to sleep. Sleeps until about 11:30 pm and wakes up looking for dinner. Eats dinner goes on the computer and goes to sleep.

Wakes up this morning doesn’t say anything to me, doesn’t help get any of the kids up, and tells me at 6:30 to drop him off at his friends house around the corner so he can get a ride to work.

No fckn convo since that smart sht yesterday afternoon.

I had a talk to him on Sunday letting him know our relationship so up and down it aint gone work. He don’t help he just do what he do and expect since his mom did everything that that’s a womans job. Maybe that’s a womans job if she don’t work. Beacsue she has never had a job. If I didn’t work I could clean and cook and shop and take on all the responsibilities as a house wife, and not look to him for support, but since Im bringing in as much money as him I feel it should be split. And danmn it im pregnant where is my sympathy.

Then he had the nerve to say, we can barely make it with 3 how we gonna make it with 4 (OMG yall I blew up and told him sht him and his daughter and this newborn can make it back in Jamaica with his momma, if he chooses so) He claims he will try to make it better gave me a hug and was acting different for the rest of that day. But they next day it ack to the same oh him.

Well I told his azz next week make sure you take off work because Im switching all these kids to the school by the house. I cant keep leaving work in the morning and the afternoon, to take these kids.

Update: So the baby took the test at the new school with the all day kinder and she passed it ( maybe because my husband was with her and he don’t play with her) but they put her in 1st grade. And the work that she is doing right now in the first grade she understand we just gotta work with her to learn how to sound words out.

So Im switch her to the school by my house, well my hubby is because Im tired of going in circles for this little girl. I had to take off 8 hrs last week and don’t have no more vacation due to the JA trip. Im taking off to switch my boys but he gonna have to switch her and take the test scores from the school showing she passed the test.

This is a lot of drama!!!!

I love all your adivce and keep it coming but if anybody wants to talk negative, because im sure it is coming, write it then delete it because I don’t need any one talking about how perfect their life is and telling me mine is shtty, just keep it positive and try to help in a nice way or be prepare to get cussed out!!!! Cause everyone has problems and Im trying to share mine with my true VJ sisters on here. To get healthy advice(L)

JQ Smiley Boom

Damn...men huh??

I thank you for sharing, many wouldn't and I think it's wonderful that you don't mind sharing the good and the bad!!

He needs a wake-up call and FAST, doubt he's really THOUGHT about how much you do!

Maybe you should start delegating some tasks to him, I think it's unfair you should be COOKING every day, let him either cook or BUY dinner two three nights a week...

[Thompson2 1]

Hey Always!

How are you feeling? Is that morning all day sickness gone? Have you picked out a name yet? I just love hearing baby names.

[sus 70]

Finesse, the girls are so beautiful!

Mo - I have been watching the hurricane forecast too - looks like it will mash up the Museum for Friday But at least I still have Roseland Ballroom!

JQ - I agree with the others - You need to just stop doing things - Let him figure it out when he's hungry, has no clean clothes, etc... - after a while of this, he'll start to get the hint and then is the time to have the heart to heart - Not now when you are doing it all and he's not grasping the full concept of what you do. Your priority right now needs to be you and the baby, and he needs to do his part.

[Always Blessed 1]

Hey Always!

How are you feeling? Is that morning all day sickness gone? Have you picked out a name yet? I just love hearing baby names.

I am feeling better these days ! very emotional at times but good. All day sickness LOL still exist but getting better (knock on wood!). Um we have decided on a name but I am reluctant to say until she is here ( iknow it may sound a little rediculous but I have calle dout some names and then someone else will name their baby that name. I will say I really like the name Alexus Cheyenne but hubby shut that down very quickly he wasnt feeling it at all.

[My4rmylife 0]

Everyone who is under wastch for the storm please be careful stay safe

[Thompson2 1]

I am feeling better these days ! very emotional at times but good. All day sickness LOL still exist but getting better (knock on wood!). Um we have decided on a name but I am reluctant to say until she is here ( iknow it may sound a little rediculous but I have calle dout some names and then someone else will name their baby that name. I will say I really like the name Alexus Cheyenne but hubby shut that down very quickly he wasnt feeling it at all.

Aww I thought you were all done with the all day sickeness. Glad it has lessened. I can't even imagine how emotional I will be. Hubby is already preparing himself..lol I don't think not wanting to say your name is rediculous at all. We will just have to wait until the likkle princess is born. I think Alex Cheyenne is pretty and sounds good together. Can't wait to hear what you and hubby decided on. Good luck for the rest of the pregnancy.

Jess- You stay safe too. One report was saying it is coming close to you. I can't keep up though. It seems like really they just don't know and where it hits, it hits. The whole dyam coast needs to be prepared.

[JQ Smiley BOOM 3]

Okay here it is JQ - it's not negative, it's constructive and Im going to be very careful how I word things because you are pregnant and your emotions are running high.

I like the idea, but if I dont cook enough its a problem

Once it wasnt enough for his lunch for the next day he was

So I said what you want me to do , it wasnt enough, he said well make the portions smaller I said I will make your portion smaller.

He expects these things from me!!!

I need to be able to do it and not make a big azzzz deal about it, maybe cook and then go to sleep

JQ- Keep your head up momma, You do want you can and everything else will eventuallty fall into place we can only do so much even though sometimes these mens think we can produce miracles when they do nothing!, you dont need to get all stressed out(from my lips to God's ears) cause I am completely guilty of this myself and both of us have babies to make sure stay healthy while we carry them.

Girl easier said then done.

Damn...men huh??

I thank you for sharing, many wouldn't and I think it's wonderful that you don't mind sharing the good and the bad!!

He needs a wake-up call and FAST, doubt he's really THOUGHT about how much you do!

Maybe you should start delegating some tasks to him, I think it's unfair you should be COOKING every day, let him either cook or BUY dinner two three nights a week...

Aww thanks JaE

Im going to seriously get a poster board and start the delegating this weekend. He will be included also Im not playing because we gone end up separated and I dont want that but I need respect and my hubby is so use to his momma doing for him he thinks its automatic.

[JQ Smiley BOOM 3]

Finesse, the girls are so beautiful!

Mo - I have been watching the hurricane forecast too - looks like it will mash up the Museum for Friday But at least I still have Roseland Ballroom!

JQ - I agree with the others - You need to just stop doing things - Let him figure it out when he's hungry, has no clean clothes, etc... - after a while of this, he'll start to get the hint and then is the time to have the heart to heart - Not now when you are doing it all and he's not grasping the full concept of what you do. Your priority right now needs to be you and the baby, and he needs to do his part.

Thanks Sus I thought we had a Heart to heart Sunday, I was crying and emotional and everything, he said he was going to change but still has not!!

I wish I could just leave but I cant leave his daughter there with him like that and just disappear for a few days it wouldnt be right for her!! But he dont deserve me right now, AT ALL !!

and yall Im not sugar coating anything he actually doont do anything!!!

and Im so emotional today is my grandmother b-day. Sept 2nd she passed earlier this year in January.

[My4rmylife 0]

It is supposed to hit close I'm praying for the best..

[finesse 3]

Thanks Sus I thought we had a Heart to heart Sunday, I was crying and emotional and everything, he said he was going to change but still has not!!

I wish I could just leave but I cant leave his daughter there with him like that and just disappear for a few days it wouldnt be right for her!! But he dont deserve me right now, AT ALL !!

and yall Im not sugar coating anything he actually doont do anything!!!

and Im so emotional today is my grandmother b-day. Sept 2nd she passed earlier this year in January.

dump his azz!! take the girl too....

[finesse 3]

kidding

[MRStee 19]

kidding

lol i was thinking the same thing.. Maybe you could go away for the weekend and not tell him.. bet that will get his attention!

[JaEnglishGirl 34]

I dealt with a man who was like that. Lived with his mother all his life and she SPOILT him to the extent she'd wake up extra early to make him a lunch to take to work..ironing all his clothes, never expecting him or his father to help her with the cooking or cleaning...she worked a FULL TIME job for YEARS and come home to make them a cooked meal daily, even dessert from scratch! So it felt like no matter what I did, he expected more....well he claimed he didn't, but the expectation was there....

[finesse 3]

I dealt with a man who was like that. Lived with his mother all his life and she SPOILT him to the extent she'd wake up extra early to make him a lunch to take to work..ironing all his clothes, never expecting him or his father to help her with the cooking or cleaning...she worked a FULL TIME job for YEARS and come home to make them a cooked meal daily, even dessert from scratch! So it felt like no matter what I did, he expected more....well he claimed he didn't, but the expectation was there....

then you got two problems here...a man that has that lame mentality that it is a woman "job" to do xyz...AND a man that don't know how to do shyt...