Yardie Party!!! Come as you are - Part 1

[Eric_Jew Nug 2]

Hi Ladies...good luck on the interview today Mama Jew!

I just got into work a bit late...shhhh had a nice sexy party after I took the kids to school!

I am a little jealous of all the sexy parties. But my honey come home 2mrw. TYG!!!!! cause we got some chemistry to work on

[JQ Smiley BOOM 3]

Hey yall,

I’m still overwhelmed and its not getting any easier.

Yesterday when I got home I started making dinner my usual routine, and when my hubby got home he just took off his clothes and went to bed. I went into the room and said, “I sure wish I could just relax after I get in. But I had these kids since 6 am.”

He tells me: “Who told you to have them since 6 am”

Me: wait a minute, your daughter couldn’t go to the school around the corner remember, because she couldn’t pass the test, so I had to put her in the school by my job, all day kinder, which means when I take you to work in the morning at 6am, the kids are with me until I drop them off at school.

He just lays down and doesn’t say anything and goes to sleep. Sleeps until about 11:30 pm and wakes up looking for dinner. Eats dinner goes on the computer and goes to sleep.

Wakes up this morning doesn’t say anything to me, doesn’t help get any of the kids up, and tells me at 6:30 to drop him off at his friends house around the corner so he can get a ride to work.

No fckn convo since that smart sht yesterday afternoon.

I had a talk to him on Sunday letting him know our relationship so up and down it aint gone work. He don’t help he just do what he do and expect since his mom did everything that that’s a womans job. Maybe that’s a womans job if she don’t work. Beacsue she has never had a job. If I didn’t work I could clean and cook and shop and take on all the responsibilities as a house wife, and not look to him for support, but since Im bringing in as much money as him I feel it should be split. And danmn it im pregnant where is my sympathy.

Then he had the nerve to say, we can barely make it with 3 how we gonna make it with 4 (OMG yall I blew up and told him sht him and his daughter and this newborn can make it back in Jamaica with his momma, if he chooses so) He claims he will try to make it better gave me a hug and was acting different for the rest of that day. But they next day it ack to the same oh him.

Well I told his azz next week make sure you take off work because Im switching all these kids to the school by the house. I cant keep leaving work in the morning and the afternoon, to take these kids.

Update: So the baby took the test at the new school with the all day kinder and she passed it ( maybe because my husband was with her and he don’t play with her) but they put her in 1st grade. And the work that she is doing right now in the first grade she understand we just gotta work with her to learn how to sound words out.

So Im switch her to the school by my house, well my hubby is because Im tired of going in circles for this little girl. I had to take off 8 hrs last week and don’t have no more vacation due to the JA trip. Im taking off to switch my boys but he gonna have to switch her and take the test scores from the school showing she passed the test.

This is a lot of drama!!!!

I love all your adivce and keep it coming but if anybody wants to talk negative, because im sure it is coming, write it then delete it because I don’t need any one talking about how perfect their life is and telling me mine is shtty, just keep it positive and try to help in a nice way or be prepare to get cussed out!!!! Cause everyone has problems and Im trying to share mine with my true VJ sisters on here. To get healthy advice(L)

JQ Smiley Boom

[1luv 1]

Hey yall,

I’m still overwhelmed and its not getting any easier.

Yesterday when I got home I started making dinner my usual routine, and when my hubby got home he just took off his clothes and went to bed. I went into the room and said, “I sure wish I could just relax after I get in. But I had these kids since 6 am.”

He tells me: “Who told you to have them since 6 am”

Me: wait a minute, your daughter couldn’t go to the school around the corner remember, because she couldn’t pass the test, so I had to put her in the school by my job, all day kinder, which means when I take you to work in the morning at 6am, the kids are with me until I drop them off at school.

He just lays down and doesn’t say anything and goes to sleep. Sleeps until about 11:30 pm and wakes up looking for dinner. Eats dinner goes on the computer and goes to sleep.

Wakes up this morning doesn’t say anything to me, doesn’t help get any of the kids up, and tells me at 6:30 to drop him off at his friends house around the corner so he can get a ride to work.

No fckn convo since that smart sht yesterday afternoon.

I had a talk to him on Sunday letting him know our relationship so up and down it aint gone work. He don’t help he just do what he do and expect since his mom did everything that that’s a womans job. Maybe that’s a womans job if she don’t work. Beacsue she has never had a job. If I didn’t work I could clean and cook and shop and take on all the responsibilities as a house wife, and not look to him for support, but since Im bringing in as much money as him I feel it should be split. And danmn it im pregnant where is my sympathy.

Then he had the nerve to say, we can barely make it with 3 how we gonna make it with 4 (OMG yall I blew up and told him sht him and his daughter and this newborn can make it back in Jamaica with his momma, if he chooses so) He claims he will try to make it better gave me a hug and was acting different for the rest of that day. But they next day it ack to the same oh him.

Well I told his azz next week make sure you take off work because Im switching all these kids to the school by the house. I cant keep leaving work in the morning and the afternoon, to take these kids.

Update: So the baby took the test at the new school with the all day kinder and she passed it ( maybe because my husband was with her and he don’t play with her) but they put her in 1st grade. And the work that she is doing right now in the first grade she understand we just gotta work with her to learn how to sound words out.

So Im switch her to the school by my house, well my hubby is because Im tired of going in circles for this little girl. I had to take off 8 hrs last week and don’t have no more vacation due to the JA trip. Im taking off to switch my boys but he gonna have to switch her and take the test scores from the school showing she passed the test.

This is a lot of drama!!!!

I love all your adivce and keep it coming but if anybody wants to talk negative, because im sure it is coming, write it then delete it because I don’t need any one talking about how perfect their life is and telling me mine is shtty, just keep it positive and try to help in a nice way or be prepare to get cussed out!!!! Cause everyone has problems and Im trying to share mine with my true VJ sisters on here. To get healthy advice(L)

JQ Smiley Boom

girl that is alot!!!!!!!! I dont feel like commeneting on here. I ll leave my # in ur inbox!

[finesse 3]

http://i1021.photobucket.com/albums/af335/finessetwins/Sarahpix-46.jpg

here is my double trouble!

Edited September 2, 2010 by finesse

[finesse 3]

Hey yall,

I’m still overwhelmed and its not getting any easier.

Yesterday when I got home I started making dinner my usual routine, and when my hubby got home he just took off his clothes and went to bed. I went into the room and said, “I sure wish I could just relax after I get in. But I had these kids since 6 am.”

He tells me: “Who told you to have them since 6 am”

Me: wait a minute, your daughter couldn’t go to the school around the corner remember, because she couldn’t pass the test, so I had to put her in the school by my job, all day kinder, which means when I take you to work in the morning at 6am, the kids are with me until I drop them off at school.

He just lays down and doesn’t say anything and goes to sleep. Sleeps until about 11:30 pm and wakes up looking for dinner. Eats dinner goes on the computer and goes to sleep.

Wakes up this morning doesn’t say anything to me, doesn’t help get any of the kids up, and tells me at 6:30 to drop him off at his friends house around the corner so he can get a ride to work.

No fckn convo since that smart sht yesterday afternoon.

I had a talk to him on Sunday letting him know our relationship so up and down it aint gone work. He don’t help he just do what he do and expect since his mom did everything that that’s a womans job. Maybe that’s a womans job if she don’t work. Beacsue she has never had a job. If I didn’t work I could clean and cook and shop and take on all the responsibilities as a house wife, and not look to him for support, but since Im bringing in as much money as him I feel it should be split. And danmn it im pregnant where is my sympathy.

Then he had the nerve to say, we can barely make it with 3 how we gonna make it with 4 (OMG yall I blew up and told him sht him and his daughter and this newborn can make it back in Jamaica with his momma, if he chooses so) He claims he will try to make it better gave me a hug and was acting different for the rest of that day. But they next day it ack to the same oh him.

Well I told his azz next week make sure you take off work because Im switching all these kids to the school by the house. I cant keep leaving work in the morning and the afternoon, to take these kids.

Update: So the baby took the test at the new school with the all day kinder and she passed it ( maybe because my husband was with her and he don’t play with her) but they put her in 1st grade. And the work that she is doing right now in the first grade she understand we just gotta work with her to learn how to sound words out.

So Im switch her to the school by my house, well my hubby is because Im tired of going in circles for this little girl. I had to take off 8 hrs last week and don’t have no more vacation due to the JA trip. Im taking off to switch my boys but he gonna have to switch her and take the test scores from the school showing she passed the test.

This is a lot of drama!!!!

I love all your adivce and keep it coming but if anybody wants to talk negative, because im sure it is coming, write it then delete it because I don’t need any one talking about how perfect their life is and telling me mine is shtty, just keep it positive and try to help in a nice way or be prepare to get cussed out!!!! Cause everyone has problems and Im trying to share mine with my true VJ sisters on here. To get healthy advice(L)

JQ Smiley Boom

crazy girl!! when hubby make enough money to support everyone and you don't have to work, THEN kids, errands, chores will be your responsibility. but until then, those duties need to be split up. what the hell are you, a machine?? how about coming up with a schedule of who cooks what nights, or who is responsible for what household duties?

and you being preggo right now.....you should be the one taking naps!

[MRStee 19]

Hi Ladies...good luck on the interview today Mama Jew!

I just got into work a bit late...shhhh had a nice sexy party after I took the kids to school!

Yuh too dyaam fresh! Cho!

[Eric_Jew Nug 2]

I agree with Finesse.

But it is similar to what me and hubby was going through. I just stopped doing what I was doing for him and needless to say he got the picture quick, fast, and in a hurry. I stopped washing his clothes (cause I had to look all over the place to get them. Then I stopped making bed everyday, when I am the first one out of it. I even stopped cooking for two weeks. Told him in our heart to heart that he doesn't help out much anymore. He says that he don't keep count. Me: since you ain't counting let me. Yo rass ain't cooked in almost 2 months. I come home tired and you are here on this damn computer (on craigslist)and have the nerve to ask me what am I gonna cook. Oh hell naw. Not to mention that I have a two hour drive to and from work with hella traffic. Hubby: well you act like you the only one be tired when you get off work. Me: I know I am not the only one tired, but I am the only one taking care of home first, and you need to start helping.

Next week. He cooking, cleaning bathroom, and making bed, even washing his own clothes. He still doesn't fold them up just leave them in basket. So when I wash clothes, I leave his stuff in basket and fold the load I washed. Or if they still in dryer, I take out to dry my load and put them right back in there. Same if it was the washer.

He got the picture pretty quick. I can't stand repeating myself. I am straight ol' school Army and he hate when I take it there.

Just stop doing for his grown rass. Either he will tighten up or he will wanna talk. But the schedule sounds like a good idea. We had that when I was growing up and worked just fine. Might not be a bad idea for me and hubby too. Good one Finesse.

[MRStee 19]

http://i1021.photobu...Sarahpix-46.jpg

here is my double trouble!

They are so pretty gurl and getting big.. they look like the should be walking soon lol.. How cute

[JQ Smiley BOOM 3]

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here is my double trouble!

Awww finesse they are soooooo cuuuttteeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee! Identical that is precious,

mek me see picha of yo son

I agree with Finesse.

Just stop doing for his grown rass. Either he will tighten up or he will wanna talk. But the schedule sounds like a good idea. We had that when I was growing up and worked just fine. Might not be a bad idea for me and hubby too. Good one Finesse.

Thats is what i am going to do, this weekend I want to start a chore schedule for everyone.

girl that is alot!!!!!!!! I dont feel like commeneting on here. I ll leave my # in ur inbox!

Girl cool cuz I need a friend to talk to

I'll call you tonight or tomorrow!

Edited September 2, 2010 by JQ Smiley BOOM

[MoLuvsAcory 0]

Just passing through. Hope everyone enjoys there Labor Day weekend. Hurricane Earl maybe hitting Long Island NY & that's where I live so plans are on hold. It's somewhat like carnival time here in NY. Big west indian day parade in Brooklyn on Monday. Lots of parties & festivities this weekend if weather holds up. But that never seems to stop us islanders. Monday my baby boy will be 7 so we will celebrate his day. He already knows he will not have no big party like usual b/c we going to Jamaica for Christmas.

Eric Jew, best of luck with interview.

JQ Smiley, although easy said than done, try to take it easy the best way you can. Afterall, you are pregnant. No one is perfect. I will be the 1st to admit that hubby & I have some heated arguments. & unfortunately I'm a person who will hold my corner for days!! So imagine us in same bed & not talking or touching. Been there done that & I'm sure throughout our marriage it will happen again. Once you all cool down & start to reason you will feel better. I usually do.

But as someone suggested, implement a schedule or daily routine for both of you to follow to ease up your daily load. Take care & continue to stay strong.

Hi MrsTee

[Thompson2 1]

Good evening! Thanks for all the birthday well wishes. I can't believe we are already in September. This year is rolling!

I hope everyone is having a great week!

This year sure is going by faast. I was just in summer mode, not paying attention to the months, then September got here and I was like Whoa! lol

Got a 2nd RFE for a new Police Record...he got one, fedx it to me, I fedx it to NVC...they got it Monday...now just waiting for them to Case Complete and schedule a damn interview...looks like will be in October.

Ugh!! You have waited soooo long. Hope he will be here in time for halloween!

Interview today for my daughter. I am chewing my finger nails (haven't done that in awhile). Nerves are up the wall right now. I told Eric I will call him around 11 or 12 to find out the results. LORD DO IT.....DO IT FOR ME RIGHT NOW!!!!!

Thompson-- yes my legs are doing much better. Doc to me to cut out a few of my extra activities. That is going to harder done then said. My schedule is so jam packed. I got two schools for work coming up and a daughter to go and get and I will have to get her ready for school.

Of course I told Eric about what happened and he had the nerve to go off on me. I kinda felt like a kid again. Hold up....wait a minute....let me put some MAMA JEW in it. Had to pump the breaks. But I understood what he was saying. Said yes dear and I love you. And then had to throw in there, that him fussing at me didn't help the situation (got some game wit me) so he said he was sorry for getting upset and that he didn't want me doing anything around the house until he got back. OOOOOOO YYYYEEEEAAAAAHHHHHH!!!!!

Glad you are feeling better. You need to take it easy, but how can you, I know.

crazy girl!! when hubby make enough money to support everyone and you don't have to work, THEN kids, errands, chores will be your responsibility. but until then, those duties need to be split up. what the hell are you, a machine?? how about coming up with a schedule of who cooks what nights, or who is responsible for what household duties?

and you being preggo right now.....you should be the one taking naps!

I agree completely with Finesse. I think a schedule is a great idea. If someone doesn't have the common sense/desire to help out their partner then I guess they have to be told like a child and a schedule will do exactly that. I bet he doesn't even realize just how you do because he's a man and just doesn't think about it. Still that is not an excuse. Do like Jew and let him see when you stop doing things how much is missing. Good luck hun.

Finess- OMG I must have identical twin girls too. They are just the cutest. I couldn't stop looking at their picture. I think they look like you a little more than hubby, but of course Ive never even met you so maybe I'm way off. What do you think? You are so blessed.

[Thompson2 1]

Just passing through. Hope everyone enjoys there Labor Day weekend. Hurricane Earl maybe hitting Long Island NY & that's where I live so plans are on hold. It's somewhat like carnival time here in NY. Big west indian day parade in Brooklyn on Monday. Lots of parties & festivities this weekend if weather holds up. But that never seems to stop us islanders. Monday my baby boy will be 7 so we will celebrate his day. He already knows he will not have no big party like usual b/c we going to Jamaica for Christmas.

Eric Jew, best of luck with interview.

JQ Smiley, although easy said than done, try to take it easy the best way you can. Afterall, you are pregnant. No one is perfect. I will be the 1st to admit that hubby & I have some heated arguments. & unfortunately I'm a person who will hold my corner for days!! So imagine us in same bed & not talking or touching. Been there done that & I'm sure throughout our marriage it will happen again. Once you all cool down & start to reason you will feel better. I usually do.

But as someone suggested, implement a schedule or daily routine for both of you to follow to ease up your daily load. Take care & continue to stay strong.

Hi MrsTee

LOL.. So have been there too. Funny to look back, but man in that moment you are sooo mad you don't even want to look at them. Usually I cool off quick because I can't not touch him. lol Marriage is nuh easy.

Hope the storm doesn't hit the coast at all. Shame people have an extended weekend and they have to deal with a storm. Cho!

[jamerican 2]

Finesse....your girls are BEAUTIFUL....and they are gonna give you trouble JOY

[MRStee 19]

Okay here it is JQ - it's not negative, it's constructive and Im going to be very careful how I word things because you are pregnant and your emotions are running high.

First: I can agree with Finesse but I can agree with mama even more.

What would happen if the doctor told you, you must be on complete bed rest until the end of your pregnancy? Who is going to take care of the house? Who is going to get the kids to school?

Like I said yesterday, you need to straight shut down on his rass. Don't do anything. Cook enough for you and the kids. Tell him you can show him better than you can tell him and that actions speak volumes. It's obvious he is not listening to reason, so now you have to tune him out like he don't exist. Tell him you can't drive him to his friends you're not feeling well. Then slowly get yourself together to take the kids to school and go to work. My fear (and I see it coming) especially since you need to get the shots is that you are going to make yourself sick. Delegate sis, sit everyone down and delegate responsibilities. Tell hubby if he don't cook, he don't eat because your too tired. Make up any old excuse so that you give yourself a break from it all.

Take care of YOU(L)

[MRStee 19]

Just passing through. Hope everyone enjoys there Labor Day weekend. Hurricane Earl maybe hitting Long Island NY & that's where I live so plans are on hold. It's somewhat like carnival time here in NY. Big west indian day parade in Brooklyn on Monday. Lots of parties & festivities this weekend if weather holds up. But that never seems to stop us islanders. Monday my baby boy will be 7 so we will celebrate his day. He already knows he will not have no big party like usual b/c we going to Jamaica for Christmas.

Eric Jew, best of luck with interview.

JQ Smiley, although easy said than done, try to take it easy the best way you can. Afterall, you are pregnant. No one is perfect. I will be the 1st to admit that hubby & I have some heated arguments. & unfortunately I'm a person who will hold my corner for days!! So imagine us in same bed & not talking or touching. Been there done that & I'm sure throughout our marriage it will happen again. Once you all cool down & start to reason you will feel better. I usually do.

But as someone suggested, implement a schedule or daily routine for both of you to follow to ease up your daily load. Take care & continue to stay strong.

Hi MrsTee

Hey Mo its good to see you!