Yardie Party!!! Come as you are - Part 1

[My4rmylife 0]

Hey there all:

New to the site. Just checkin in. Bless up.

Welcome

[MRStee 19]

Good afternoon everyone:

MsNaNa welcome to the yardie forum

Hi cousin DW... miss ya

Brooke:

All I can say is yes, keep communicating and try to calm down. Since you are acknowledging that the issue is within yourself, maybe you need to find things to keep yourself occupied.. take up meditation or yoga..The saying goes.. Idle minds are the work of the devil (or something like that) so as long as you stay busy you won't have to think about what he is

doing. You don't want to drive him away...

[DedicatedWife 4]

hi all

Hi Banjan (waiving) How's the hubby adjusting?

[My4rmylife 0]

Told you, told you! :dance:

i am so proud of myself and happy >>

[DedicatedWife 4]

Good afternoon everyone:

MsNaNa welcome to the yardie forum

Hi cousin DW... miss ya

Brooke:

All I can say is yes, keep communicating and try to calm down. Since you are acknowledging that the issue is within yourself, maybe you need to find things to keep yourself occupied.. take up meditation or yoga..The saying goes.. Idle minds are the work of the devil (or something like that) so as long as you stay busy you won't have to think about what he is

doing. You don't want to drive him away...

Hi Cousin! Miss you too, I been working hard lately. I had two cases that I had to prepare for trial and I been over here humping. I hope that all is well.

i am so proud of myself and happy >>

You deserve it girl! Yay...

[My4rmylife 0]

Good afternoon everyone:

MsNaNa welcome to the yardie forum

Hi cousin DW... miss ya

Brooke:

All I can say is yes, keep communicating and try to calm down. Since you are acknowledging that the issue is within yourself, maybe you need to find things to keep yourself occupied.. take up meditation or yoga..The saying goes.. Idle minds are the work of the devil (or something like that) so as long as you stay busy you won't have to think about what he is

doing. You don't want to drive him away...

[finesse 3]

hello peeps! been trying to say hi all day but got my troop with me at work today...got my son doing my huge pile of filing right now!!

[My4rmylife 0]

Tomorrow is my first day the shift alone make it worth while....5 am to 2pm .....

hello peeps! been trying to say hi all day but got my troop with me at work today...got my son doing my huge pile of filing right now!!

are there laws against that lol

i have had to do the same i find my mind wondering and the man does is go to work...

[bajankutie 4]

Hi Banjan (waiving) How's the hubby adjusting?

Hi he is doing great we are both ready to start the process for Chrissy.

[DedicatedWife 4]

Hi he is doing great we are both ready to start the process for Chrissy.

Glad to hear Honey! Enjoy your time together and best wishes with the process for Chrissy.

hello peeps! been trying to say hi all day but got my troop with me at work today...got my son doing my huge pile of filing right now!!

Hi Finesse!

[MRStee 19]

Tomorrow is my first day the shift alone make it worth while....5 am to 2pm .....

are there laws against that lol

i have had to do the same i find my mind wondering and the man does is go to work...

As long as she pays him, it may be okay LOL

Cousin, hubby and I are doing really well. They LOVE that man at his job. They said the building hasn't been that clean in YEARS! He enjoys it alot. Wish the pay was a little better, but we are very thankful that he is employed with good benefits! We are starting to disagree less and less which means we are settling in comfortable with each other. Thursday is our 8 month anniversary! Where does the time fly? We are almost at the 1 year mark, so that's a good sign

I don't know, I think if a man is going to cheat, he is going to cheat. I just have to make sure Im protected because Im going to be the one hurting after it happens. Therefore, I try not to allow my thoughts to get the best of me. We are open with one another, pretty much....

Trewlany said to tell you all hello for her

[bajankutie 4]

Glad to hear Honey! Enjoy your time together and best wishes with the process for Chrissy.

Hi Finesse!

Thanks

[My4rmylife 0]

As long as she pays him, it may be okay LOL

Cousin, hubby and I are doing really well. They LOVE that man at his job. They said the building hasn't been that clean in YEARS! He enjoys it alot. Wish the pay was a little better, but we are very thankful that he is employed with good benefits! We are starting to disagree less and less which means we are settling in comfortable with each other. Thursday is our 8 month anniversary! Where does the time fly? We are almost at the 1 year mark, so that's a good sign

I don't know, I think if a man is going to cheat, he is going to cheat. I just have to make sure Im protected because Im going to be the one hurting after it happens. Therefore, I try not to allow my thoughts to get the best of me. We are open with one another, pretty much....

Trewlany said to tell you all hello for her

Tell Trelawnwy she has to tell me herself

[DedicatedWife 4]

As long as she pays him, it may be okay LOL

Cousin, hubby and I are doing really well. They LOVE that man at his job. They said the building hasn't been that clean in YEARS! He enjoys it alot. Wish the pay was a little better, but we are very thankful that he is employed with good benefits! We are starting to disagree less and less which means we are settling in comfortable with each other. Thursday is our 8 month anniversary! Where does the time fly? We are almost at the 1 year mark, so that's a good sign

I don't know, I think if a man is going to cheat, he is going to cheat. I just have to make sure Im protected because Im going to be the one hurting after it happens. Therefore, I try not to allow my thoughts to get the best of me. We are open with one another, pretty much....

Trewlany said to tell you all hello for her

Hi Lawny!

Happy Anniversary Tee! You guys are almost at a year...wow time is rolling!

I agree, one thing for sure is that you can't stop or prevent someone from doing something...all you can do is keep the communication as open and honest as you can. There is always going to be temptation in some form or another for us all...its all in how you choose to handle it. I would like to say that once your married you won't have to worry about that but I think that's when you definitely have to worry more...some of those females out here love to try to break a committed man...in a sick and twisted way they see someone that is unattainable as the ultimate prize...they better stay clear of mine. I make sure my hubby knows my concerns! Poe thang, he think I'm crazy!

[Thompson2 1]

You know you husband and just trust and have faith in your relationship good men are very hard to find and when you do find one I guess it is so hard to believe that we try to find something wrong but you know what you have just try to appreciate it.

Yea that's it. I just keep thinking he's too good to be true and it's just a matter of time before he turns out like every other guy I've had experience with. I need to learn to have more faith for sure. Thanks! Good luck with filing for your daughter and I hope she can come soon.

and my birthday! Congrats Vaughn.. Brooke I will help answer when my brain is more functional today:wacko:

Dyam, how'd I forget your birthday???

Brooke:

All I can say is yes, keep communicating and try to calm down. Since you are acknowledging that the issue is within yourself, maybe you need to find things to keep yourself occupied.. take up meditation or yoga..The saying goes.. Idle minds are the work of the devil (or something like that) so as long as you stay busy you won't have to think about what he is

doing. You don't want to drive him away...

You are exactly right! Last night I started cross stitching again (it's been a while because I had fake nails and couldn't do it), well what do you know having to keep focused on what stitch to do where and in what color kept my mind occupied and I actually found myself taking some deep breathes as I was pulling the needle through the canvas. An idle mind is the devil for sure. I know that all too well. My mind loves to go on what I call negative fantasies where I can turn any little thing into my husband have a full out affair with 5 different women.

The good thing is that I have gotten to the point that I realized I was going to drive vaughn away if I kept accusing him and asking questions about every minor thing he does. So after one especially crazy, questioning night, I vowed to him that I would no longer make it his problem and I know he's a good guy and it's my own isssue. I'm happy to report that, that was about 4 months ago and I have not bothered him at all. I'm just trying to figure out how I can not bother myself with it and enjoy the wonderful man I have. You are right on point though about keeping my mind busy.

You all are just the best!