Yardie Party!!! Come as you are - Part 1

[kjenkins86 5]

Baby Ganja and Music-Tattoo.lol I guess I should be easier on hubby when we're picking names. Your men nuh easy!

Girl, men ALWAYS want a sexy party, even if they are on their death bed. My hubby came home from having his wisdom teeth out and was hurting for certain, but not too much in pain for a sexy party..lol I knew right then there would NEVER be a bad time for a sexy party in his eyes. Poor G though. I hope he feels better soon. He has to be better for Black Friday. Poe Thang thinking his Florida jacket is warm enough, yet he's going to say he has arthritis from the train??

Atleast you have a reason to gain right now. Speaking of gaining..I'm just gonna buy the whole damn cake if no one in hubby's family is making it, but I bet they will. Hmm I think I'm going to have to call mommy and put in a request.

You know KJ I feel bad I didn't have your back on this, not that you need it, but glad JQ said something. You know I'm in the same situation as you and people can say what they want, but it works for us and makes us happy, so I don't care what anyone else thinks. However I choose not to get into my personal life on here because I know someone is bound to not agree with atleast some of my life choices. Instead, I choose to communicate on the side with the ladies I've build great friendships with and will forever be thankful to VJ for that.

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So tomorrow is Friday, in essence this week. Enjoy the extended weekend and holiday ladies!

Oh your man is gonna come up with a silly, excuse me, classic name too!

So DW's hubby is famous for his gold suit and smiley is famous for his Florida jacket!

Girl you know he crazy, I tell him everyday that trying to be cute gonna kill him, talking bout he got arthritis coz I gave him ankle socks. SMDH

He called me at work today coughing and acting all sick so I told him that if he's sick then no sexy party bcoz I'm not suppose to get sick. Brooke he was healed instantly! But I know he's sick he's roasting with fever but refuse to go to the doctor.

I haven't gain any weight! Went to the doctor today and she's looking at me all weird but I sure hope I stay like this all throughout the next 6 months!

My point exactly, it works for us! If I come to the board and someone say something, I'm going to comment so I would feel like a hypocrite to say I won't post my personal life on here, after all this experience is what we have in common why we're here and so we share our experiences. There is nothing wrong with someone disagreeing with me, however to attempt to put me down is a whole other story.

It's funny this discussion came up because I was telling my grandmother what I'm getting on black Friday and she was in shock to hear me express that I'd like to move, she was like why if we have the space. It just made me smile

My Friday (tomorrow) is ruined already because my sister went and bought a turkey, after I begged them not to because its a hassle to do

Well, me and hubby spent the evening decorating the lawn, its so pretty with all the lights, bows and trees. My huge rotating inflatable broke when the house caught fire and I forgot so an inflatable snow globe is added to my black Friday list.

Happy Thanksgiving everyone. May your day be blessed with family and friends.

Much Love!

Same to you!

I just wanted to say, if I had the opportunity to still live with my parents and they were fine with it, then thats where the hell I would be because this economy is so hard to live in! As a matter of fact, more people should live as a family to cut down on expenses. If both parties are okay with it, then hell I would be too! So for those of you who do, I say "Cheers"!!!!(F)Those who don't agree, well you aint livin that life so no worries. Things happen for a reason.

Hey Tee, as I said before, everyone is different and it works for me so who don't like it can kiss my back side because that don't make JaEng better than me. I planned a baby because I make damn good money, have life, health, vision and dental insurance and have a secure position at my job. So to hell with what other people thinks!

Where's the "like" feature on VJ?

I was thinking the same darn thing.

[kjenkins86 5]

Hi duppy down there

[JAPrincess 27]

Good night yardies

I hate when feelings get hurt in here. Sometimes we say things and don't think, sometimes we think things and don't know the full hundred, and sometimes even when we do know we still don't have a clue. I am a firm believer in never judging anyone. I got my own life decisions to focus on!

I will say there are many countries in this world where family generations living together and supporting each other is the norm. Just because our culture puts emphasis on kids moving out at 18 to earn the mighty dollar and gain possessions of their own, does not mean that is the best/only way. I would love to have my Mom alive and in my home helping to love and mold my children. What works for some may not work for others... to each his own.

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MrsTeeeeeee!!! I ain't even worried bout you!

I will be thinking of you tho! Can't wait to hear what they have to say!

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It is midnight and I should be ASLEEP

Today was a hard one for me for whatever reason, and my mind is racing...

Hoping sleep comes soon

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Peace out VJ

[JaEnglishGirl 34]

Sometimes we have to be supportive and not so blunt. She aint a family member that you have to scold, she is a newlywed with her hubby and still trying to make it, so that when the baby come she can be financially stable.

KJ on the real, I understand your situation, and when its time for you and yours to move just do it!! Its your life not anyone elses.

Sometimes yall dont understand that people are looking for support on this site and not ridicule. Even if you dont agree with me dont make it a joke on me!!!!!

:wow: :wow:

I wasn't even talking about her, I was talking about a REAL life person and had already expressed my disgust with her. Along comes this girl and adds herself. So all of a sudden, I should change my opinion/sugarcoat it when I have ALREADY said what I thought of it?

Why does MY opinion mean anything? ESPECIALLY when NOT directed at her?

[JaEnglishGirl 34]

Good night yardies

I hate when feelings get hurt in here. Sometimes we say things and don't think, sometimes we think things and don't know the full hundred, and sometimes even when we do know we still don't have a clue. I am a firm believer in never judging anyone. I got my own life decisions to focus on!

I don't purposefully set out to hurt anyone's feelings. If KJ had posted 'I live in my family's house and I planned to get pregnant', I would have held my tongue as my opinion would have held no value to her or anyone else. However, just as everyone else has the right to vent, I vented. Unfortunately, she decided it pertained to her and it went from there. Now, while I will absolutely refrain from saying something to hurt someone's feelings, I am absolutely not going to turn round and backtrack after I have said something that I meant at the time. It was not directed at her, she decided to 'defend' her lifestyle and then the cheering squad took my comments to mean I was attacking her. Run with it.

[kjenkins86 5]

Goodmorning yardies!

Tee I'm waiting for the good news and please don't introduce Rashida, leave her at home

Good night yardies

I hate when feelings get hurt in here. Sometimes we say things and don't think, sometimes we think things and don't know the full hundred, and sometimes even when we do know we still don't have a clue. I am a firm believer in never judging anyone. I got my own life decisions to focus on!

I will say there are many countries in this world where family generations living together and supporting each other is the norm. Just because our culture puts emphasis on kids moving out at 18 to earn the mighty dollar and gain possessions of their own, does not mean that is the best/only way. I would love to have my Mom alive and in my home helping to love and mold my children. What works for some may not work for others... to each his own.

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MrsTeeeeeee!!! I ain't even worried bout you!

I will be thinking of you tho! Can't wait to hear what they have to say!

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It is midnight and I should be ASLEEP

Today was a hard one for me for whatever reason, and my mind is racing...

Hoping sleep comes soon

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Peace out VJ

Sigh, as you said, to each their own but what I dislike is the disrespect that comes from people disagreeing with someone's choices. Oh well, I'm still KJ, still pregnant and living under my momma's roof and I'm loving it

I was up most of the night too, still amazec at the sound of the baby's heart beat and a little upset I didn't record it but I ordered a home fetal doppler and can't wait for it to come so I can have peace of while I'm on bed rest after the procedure

[JAPrincess 27]

I get that JaE, I read the post, I understand your original comment was not directed at KJ. That is why I say sometimes we say things and don't think. KJ has said before that she lives with her family. So having that prior knowledge and then coming in here to put down someone else in the same situation could be taken personal even if it was not intended that way. Regardless of who the original "vent" was about, it is still looking from the outside in, and making a judgement about what someone else should do with their life.

Anyway, mi nah here to judge you for judging either

Mi have nuff things to do today an mi stay up all night worrying about my own life

[LadyC 1]

Morning Yardies...Whats Poppin? Well we leave for NYC today I cant wait to be with my entire family. My mother will finall meet Garfield this weekend. We will have a blast. I wish everyone a Very Happy Thanksgiving.

[JQ Smiley BOOM 3]

Morning Yardies...Whats Poppin? Well we leave for NYC today I cant wait to be with my entire family. My mother will finall meet Garfield this weekend. We will have a blast. I wish everyone a Very Happy Thanksgiving.

Awww C thats great!! Hope your mom finds him charming and they get along great as I did!!!!!!! Hes is a very humble man!!!

Have a great Thanksgiving

[finesse 3]

I get that JaE, I read the post, I understand your original comment was not directed at KJ. That is why I say sometimes we say things and don't think. KJ has said before that she lives with her family. So having that prior knowledge and then coming in here to put down someone else in the same situation could be taken personal even if it was not intended that way. Regardless of who the original "vent" was about, it is still looking from the outside in, and making a judgement about what someone else should do with their life.

Anyway, mi nah here to judge you for judging either

Mi have nuff things to do today an mi stay up all night worrying about my own life

That is some bullsht Jap. So before posting anything, we must first take into account every blasted persons circumstances or who may or may not be offended by what we say?????

if you are proud and content and happy and comfortable by your own personal lifestyle and the choices you have made, why would you be offended by what anyone has to say?

[Always Blessed 1]

hey all morning,

Just passing through about to go to the drs to find out if my princess is ready yet LOL! anyway for some reason I thingk next week although this woul have been perfect timing. OH well everyone take care of yourselves and stay blessed. Happy Thanksgiving

[JQ Smiley BOOM 3]

Soooo..I have a friend here who lives with her husband and his parents. She has a decent job and he has an ok job. So she was telling me how they were trying for a baby. I was like why on EARTH would you be living with family in some basement, obviously can't afford a STABLE home of your own but yet PURPOSELY bringing a baby into the mix? Shouldn't your priority be MOVING out, getting a place of your OWN before having a baby? Sigh....

I wasn't even talking about her, I was talking about a REAL life person and had already expressed my disgust with her. Along comes this girl and adds herself. So all of a sudden, I should change my opinion/sugarcoat it when I have ALREADY said what I thought of it?

Why does MY opinion mean anything? ESPECIALLY when NOT directed at her?

Ok I understand that you were talking about a real life person, but that real life person has some of the same characteristics as alot of our fellow sisters on here. I understand thats your opinion but when it effects so many, it came off offending someone. You started it as a topic for someone to comment and thats what I did. Not to be a cheering section, but to also put my opinion in.

Now if someone came on here talking about they dont agree with long distance relationships, or women that have kids that get into new relationships with someone from another country, thats there opinion, but if its negative like that and affects alot on here then it has to be addressed.

Ive noticed that you are very blunt and strong with your comments, and off the internet I am also, but Im a little guarded because these are relationships I wanna keep and not tarnish and this is a learning experience for us all!

So with that being said.

Why does MY opinion mean anything? ESPECIALLY when NOT directed at her?

Yes your opinion matter, because your not a newbie, your a seasoned veteran, but KJ is young and new and we need to build her up b4 we put her down :rofl: :rofl: just joking KJ

But for real, your opinion matters as much as anyone elses so you dont need to sugarcoat but when it affects someone on her you do have to think about feelings!! (Just my opinion)

Still love you JaE, hope this didnt tarnish our relationship because we want to take pictures of the baby when she come :bonk: :bonk:

[JAPrincess 27]

So before posting anything, we must first take into account every blasted persons circumstances or who may or may not be offended by what we say?????

Yep!

mi gawn to work ya'll...

[MRStee 19]

First of all, I agree with JaP and thats all Im going to say about that.

Secondly,

Our interview was an interview from hell! The officer was very militant... He started us off by reprimanding us for talking... which fine, I get that. It is an interview. Then he asked for our LPR documents and my documents of proof as a US citizen. Then he proceeded to talk about our age difference. Then he asked for our documents of shared things. We didn't have a lot to begin with. I explained why. He asked if either of us was married before or had children. He asked random questions off of the I-485. He then proceeded to seperate us. I kept saying a prayer to God to help Steve and I be on the same page with things and to tell the WHOLE truth as we knew it. When Steve left, he proceeded to remind me that Jamaica is high fraud country and that I needed to be careful because they needed to make sure he wasn't trying to use me to gain access to the good ol U S of A.

Questions asked in no particular order: (This is when I looked him square in the eyes in "Rashida mode"

Have you ever been married before?

Do you have children?

How many?

What are there names and ages?

Oh they have different fathers..

What hours do I work?

What hours does he work?

How much money does he give you?

Does he give you extra money?

What are you in school for?

What is the make and model and year of your car?

How do you get to work?

How does he get to work?

Do you have wedding pictures?

Who was at your wedding?

Can I have two of the pictures for your file?

Who helped him get his job?

What color are the bedsheets?

What color are the rugs in the bathroom?

When did you meet?

How did you meet?

How many times have you been to Jamaica?

Why did you go to Jamaica?

Im probably forgetting the rest of them. Then he called Steve back in and questioned him:

Where did you meet?

What year did you meet?

How many times has your wife been to Jamaica?

What color are the bed sheets?

What color are the rugs

How many times have you been married.

How old are her children?

Do you get along with her son?

What is she in school for?

What time does she get home?

Do you give her money?

Probably more questions but I can't remember...

Steve told them the wrong year and I kept kicking his foot. He then remember by saying "I got the dates confused, I met her in blah blah blah"

After all of the questioning, he said well you started off rocky, but I will make my decision by the end of the day. You should receive something in the mail in the next 2 to 3 weeks. If you don't agree with the results you can schedule an infopass appoint and blah blah blah thats all I heard. I damn near ran out of the building. We were there for 1 and 1/2 hours.

I DESPISE USCIS!!!!! :angry:

Edited November 24, 2010 by MRStee

[JQ Smiley BOOM 3]

That is some bullsht Jap. So before posting anything, we must first take into account every blasted persons circumstances or who may or may not be offended by what we say?????

if you are proud and content and happy and comfortable by your own personal lifestyle and the choices you have made, why would you be offended by what anyone has to say?

No thats not what needs to be done everytime, but understand that you dont be on here everyday Finesse not even everyweek, there are some that come on here for the support and if this is an offending board why should they come back!!

There are alot that stopped coming on here for very good reasons, this year because of offensive sht that was said. They were as they call themselves seasoned veterans, so even if I am happy with my life style soemthing that you said about Mickey Mouse could have offended me!!!

I know many say after 13 years you shouldnt have another child. Well I did it and you did it, but that may offend but as you said if you are good with your life style and choices you shouldnt worry, Me personally Hell to the NO Ima tell them to go ** themselves because this is my life and not theirs, and I have the financial to do this and wont ask you for a penny!

So like I was telling Jae its not about sugar coating but if it was your situation wouldnt you defend yourself, just for your peace of mind.

Some things dont sit well with folks, thats how my spirit is, I just sometimes cant let things pass me by, its the christian in me!!!

Now what was said both ways may have went to far but I think feelings were hurt! Thats all I care about keep the friendships (where the hell is my hug smiley) oh here it is

SO!!!! Finesse hows them baby girls, this they first Thanksgiving, they gonna tear some food up in those high chairs :rofl: :rofl:

hey all morning,

Just passing through about to go to the drs to find out if my princess is ready yet LOL! anyway for some reason I thingk next week although this woul have been perfect timing. OH well everyone take care of yourselves and stay blessed. Happy Thanksgiving

Hi always tell hubby and more so that baby can come!!!