Yardie Party!!! Come as you are - Part 1

[kjenkins86 5]

Yep they say so far 14 lbs gained and 7 months. i think that the baby is about 4-5lbs and the rest better be water in my stomach :bonk: :bonk:

THAT is great, I hope I don't gain much weight either.

Ok ladies, (to those who have kids)...how in the heezy did you make it through pregnancy without having a coronary from worrying about how your baby's doing, and all the things to prepare for? I mean, there has not been a day, or seemingly a minute since I found out that I was pregnant that I have not thought about this little person that is growing inside of me, and what I can do to make sure he/she is safe, will have all they need, is healthy, and so on and so on. I had a check-up today b/c I have a hx of problems with hypertension, but my doctors are pleased because it has been going well so far. In fact it was a perfect 120/80 and I can only believe it's because this baby is truly a blessing and is taking care of me as much as I am trying,, and vow to take care of him/her. We get to find out on the 6th what we're having. We're both excited about it. While we both want boys, I think it's gonna be a girl b/c according to my family it will only be right that I have a girl and relive all of the experiences and stress that I created for them! I didn't think I was THAT bad! Anyway, sorry for rambling...this has just been such an overwhelming experience so far, and I'm only 4 months in!

Mrs.Palmer. you're making me tell the board what Ii wante to wait another month or so to tell.

When I went to my first prenatal visit and did ALL those blood work, it came back that 1 of my X chromosome has a slightly high level of fragile x syndrome. So I had to see a genetic counselor and schedule what's called a Chorionic Villi Sample procedure, where they're going to take a sample of the cells around the placenta and test if I passed the gene to the baby. It is best if this baby is a girl and not a boy because if it is a boy then it's chances increases drastically of the baby being mentally retarted. All my family had their kids in JA and so I don't have the comfort of looking at my family history for comfort. I am overwhemled, stressed and just want to curl up and cry until I get the results, which will be month from now. Be thankful that you are not in my shoes and just pray that as your pregnancy progresses that the baby will be fine, but I know all too well what it means to worry...

Guess what

Im sleepy and this baby kicking, I should have not drunk that mtn dew today, she gone be up all night!!!!

Lol, I hate those nights that I am tired and just can't sleep!

People in my life are already beginning to freak out about it and I got one NASTY message last week about how stupid I am to even think of moving to JA with my kids

Took me a day and a half to respond to that one

Ppl need to mind their own damnit! Should've told him/her a good ol jamaican "** off!"

May/June

Wow, that's exciting. Makesure you start working on the guest room as soon as you can because I wanna come over and play with Lilla, her cute self!

Hello everyone....wanted to come on here and officially give the update on how our interview went on Friday... Most(if not all) may already know some of what happened but here it is in full....brief but full.

I was in such shock that someone who only knows me from this board and FB would show me so much love...I could do nothing but cry and thank her repeatedly. Now, I know yall is some nosey heffers and part of me want to leave the story hanging since we havent had one of Dara's story in a while.. So...But I won't be mean... MY ANGEL WHO WILL BLESS ME WITH MY HUSBAND IS....... Danna

Oh and to my ATL sisters...I have a 10 hour layover in Atlanta on my way back...so....I may be looking to one of yall to rescue me from the airport (at least to go for drinks or dinner???)

Amen! As I always say, who knew we would form such great friendships just from going through a similar process and meeting up here on VJ to talk, rant and relate.

[kjenkins86 5]

Morning all!

Congrats Jamerican and big ups to Danna -

So, I just realized that Air JA's baggage limits are 70lbs! I was trying to stay as close as possible to the 50 - HUGE sigh of relief, lol!

Morning Sus!

Really, when since??

[sugarapple 1]

WOW !!!! A blessing in disguse BLESSING indeed. AWWW!!! you making me want to cry. DANNA That is wonderful of you.

I must say this website is the best thing that ever happened to me. I never for one moment thought that I would have found such wonderful women on this site. A site that I GOOGLE and was having second thoughts of actually creating a sign on name for. I am so happy that I did.

Jamerican everything work out sis as you can already see.

I want to cry.

[sus 70]

Mrs.Palmer. you're making me tell the board what Ii wante to wait another month or so to tell.

When I went to my first prenatal visit and did ALL those blood work, it came back that 1 of my X chromosome has a slightly high level of fragile x syndrome. So I had to see a genetic counselor and schedule what's called a Chorionic Villi Sample procedure, where they're going to take a sample of the cells around the placenta and test if I passed the gene to the baby. It is best if this baby is a girl and not a boy because if it is a boy then it's chances increases drastically of the baby being mentally retarted. All my family had their kids in JA and so I don't have the comfort of looking at my family history for comfort. I am overwhemled, stressed and just want to curl up and cry until I get the results, which will be month from now. Be thankful that you are not in my shoes and just pray that as your pregnancy progresses that the baby will be fine, but I know all too well what it means to worry...

KJ - I can only imagine how hard that is. A very dear friend of mine has a daughter with Downs - actually, She married a Jamaican man through a K1 visa, this is their 2nd child together and she's 2 now - she has a blog about their experiences. which might give you some help, and she is wonderful if you want to reach out to her. Her blog is here: http://rastagalnj.wordpress.com/2008/10/

I will tell you that the Likkle Empress is a DELIGHT - and don't let the DS label fool you, that child is bright as anything!

Morning Sus!

Really, when since??

Not sure since when- I know they had recent changes to their baggage policy, but I just went to double check it and that's what I saw! I have been flying Jet Blue for the longest now, but this trip will fly down on Air JA -

[MRStee 19]

I had a pretty good weekend too...

We have been talking and planning on the house, and I love that we agree about almost everything

The foundation should be laid by January, and I hope to take a trip down in Feb to see him.

I have a friend in JA who was selling a stove, practically giving it away for the price, but she needed to make her rent, and well, we need a stove.

So we bought it, and he went and picked it up on Saturday... who would have thought I would be so happy over an appliance

But it is the first piece of a new life, and I can't wait to see it installed in our kitchen!

Better yet when he start cooking on it

Cause the man know seh mi cyaan cook

this is music to my ears.. I feel SO extremely happy for you mi sista....

[bajankutie 4]

Hello everyone....wanted to come on here and officially give the update on how our interview went on Friday... Most(if not all) may already know some of what happened but here it is in full....brief but full.

Michael went for the interview and at first he said the officer couldn't understand him so the CO told him to hang up the phone and try again...Michael said though that he could see before he even started asking questions that there was his name written on the blue slip already. After the normal questions...he was told that I would need to let them know when I could come back to the embassy for an interview and I would need to bring a cosponsor paperwork. Some of you may remember I was attempting to use assets in my Affidavit of Support but thought that they might require a co-sponsor as well. Long story short...I had a "friend" lined up to be that co-sponsor and the week before she backed out wanting me to have an immigration attorney write up some sort of amendment to the AOS...ray ray ray....ultimately I told her NEVER-MIND and we would attempt the interview with assets alone....

anyway...you can all imagine how I must have felt to #1 have to go down to JA short notice and #2 find a co-sponsor. Trying to remain positive I went ahead and booked a mileage tkt(blessing #1) I had been holding onto for me to fly out Sunday Dec. 5th and return Friday Dec. 10th. This was the only time open in Dec to use these miles and happen to fall the week before my finals so I will only miss my review (blessing #2) I wrote a letter to the embassy telling them how much of a financial hardship this was and how when I had asked to attend when I could have planned I was denied.....rae..ray...rae..I told them if they were unable to waive my attendance then I need them to accomodate my schedule and book the interview on Dec 7th or 8th... OF WHICH THEY DID (blessing #3) Next I started compiling a letter to write to my friends...taking great care to explain all of the technical mombo jumbo and putting it in laymans terms to advise of responsibilities and requirements to be a co-sponsor. Having to dispell many of the myths that those not involved in this process have...Not feeling 100% comfortable with the feeling of begging people to help me. Along with opening up all of my personal business....THEN MY 4th BLESSING OF THE DAY.....

One of my VJ sisters sent me one of many emails supporting me and assuring me that it will all work out....along with saying that she said she really felt that she needed to be my/our co-sponsor. She understood how I must be feeling not because she had been in the same situation but similar and people really reached out to her so she felt that it was her turn to reach out to me... (F)

I was in such shock that someone who only knows me from this board and FB would show me so much love...I could do nothing but cry and thank her repeatedly. Now, I know yall is some nosey heffers and part of me want to leave the story hanging since we havent had one of Dara's story in a while.. So...But I won't be mean... MY ANGEL WHO WILL BLESS ME WITH MY HUSBAND IS....... Danna (L)isn't that just the most amazing thing??? :crying:

Oh and to my ATL sisters...I have a 10 hour layover in Atlanta on my way back...so....I may be looking to one of yall to rescue me from the airport (at least to go for drinks or dinner???)

I really understand what you were going thru it seem like the people that wanted to help me couldn't and my family that could wouldn't and it really let me see the true persons that they were. The family memeber that did it for me I never thought to ask cause of how she is but she called me and told me she heard and she would help me. i'm so happy for you because I know first hand the stress that you were going thru and it is all worth it. Blessings

[MRStee 19]

Ok ladies, (to those who have kids)...how in the heezy did you make it through pregnancy without having a coronary from worrying about how your baby's doing, and all the things to prepare for? I mean, there has not been a day, or seemingly a minute since I found out that I was pregnant that I have not thought about this little person that is growing inside of me, and what I can do to make sure he/she is safe, will have all they need, is healthy, and so on and so on. I had a check-up today b/c I have a hx of problems with hypertension, but my doctors are pleased because it has been going well so far. In fact it was a perfect 120/80 and I can only believe it's because this baby is truly a blessing and is taking care of me as much as I am trying,, and vow to take care of him/her. We get to find out on the 6th what we're having. We're both excited about it. While we both want boys, I think it's gonna be a girl b/c according to my family it will only be right that I have a girl and relive all of the experiences and stress that I created for them! I didn't think I was THAT bad! Anyway, sorry for rambling...this has just been such an overwhelming experience so far, and I'm only 4 months in!

First, don't worry or stress. Whatever you are feeling, your baby feels it too. Secondly, I always put a radio near my belly. Both my kids are musically inclined! Third, just try to eat healthy and don't over exert yourself. Next, enjoy your pregnacy!! Marvel in the fact that there is a lil one growing inside of you and what an awesome thing that is, in and of itself. Most Importantly -PRAY. Ask God for protection and keeping your family in His care....

That's my advice to all you new mothers, about to be mothers, thinking about being mothers!

[bajankutie 4]

Who is Danna

[MRStee 19]

Yes, Imanni has had a lot of good times in JA

But I have not talked to him about it yet, and I probably won't for some time... there is much to do before we are ready.

I don't think kids process time so easy, and if I tell him now he will think we are moving tomorrow.

I think it better to get things ready, and bring him to visit the home this spring.

Show him his bedroom, and tell him then, so it's something tangible to him.

It is exciting, but I would be lying if I did not say I wasn't scared. a little...

And then I think of the fruit trees, and the rivers, and the sea, and the things I love about being in the country in JA...

I think about God, and his will for me, and I think of having a complete family structure, and being with my husband!

I just have to walk in faith, and know that everything will be okay. Most importantly, I have to be able to make sure my kids are taken care of.

SO yes, I understand your anxiety all too well

Wait till the baby actually COMES OUT and all you can do is sit there and stare at them all day long.

The responsibility weighed heavy on me with my son, but I have calmed down considerably with Lilla

You will be FINE

The most important ingredient in childrearing is LOVE, and your last post shows you've got PLENTY to give

Why did you do this to me??? Im at work blubbering.. You said those words so eloquently and with conviction.... I just love you for that JAP!!!! Be strong

[MRStee 19]

Always, always, always... the truth will come to light!

I told hubby that this morning

we were talking about my friend whom we got the stove from, and how after 5 years on the island she may be coming back to Cali... he asked me if that bothered me that she may be leaving as I am coming... and yes, I think it would be good to have someone other than hubby and family that I trust and can talk to, but then I tell him with all the people mi know who come down, he probably will not get a rest

I am truly blessed to have made the friendships I have made through this little computer screen. I am going to need all the support I can get and I am very thankful for yours B

People in my life are already beginning to freak out about it and I got one NASTY message last week about how stupid I am to even think of moving to JA with my kids

Took me a day and a half to respond to that one

To the nasty person! Good thing there isn't a lil smiley with a knife slicing and dicing LOL I know it has to be scary but you are a very strong determined woman... I know God's got your back. You have come a long way and life will just continue to look up for you! You are blessed and among the best.. Keep being you Danna!

Edited November 16, 2010 by MRStee

[sus 70]

Who is Danna

JaP

[MRStee 19]

Hello everyone....wanted to come on here and officially give the update on how our interview went on Friday... Most(if not all) may already know some of what happened but here it is in full....brief but full.

Michael went for the interview and at first he said the officer couldn't understand him so the CO told him to hang up the phone and try again...Michael said though that he could see before he even started asking questions that there was his name written on the blue slip already. After the normal questions...he was told that I would need to let them know when I could come back to the embassy for an interview and I would need to bring a cosponsor paperwork. Some of you may remember I was attempting to use assets in my Affidavit of Support but thought that they might require a co-sponsor as well. Long story short...I had a "friend" lined up to be that co-sponsor and the week before she backed out wanting me to have an immigration attorney write up some sort of amendment to the AOS...ray ray ray....ultimately I told her NEVER-MIND and we would attempt the interview with assets alone....

anyway...you can all imagine how I must have felt to #1 have to go down to JA short notice and #2 find a co-sponsor. Trying to remain positive I went ahead and booked a mileage tkt(blessing #1) I had been holding onto for me to fly out Sunday Dec. 5th and return Friday Dec. 10th. This was the only time open in Dec to use these miles and happen to fall the week before my finals so I will only miss my review (blessing #2) I wrote a letter to the embassy telling them how much of a financial hardship this was and how when I had asked to attend when I could have planned I was denied.....rae..ray...rae..I told them if they were unable to waive my attendance then I need them to accomodate my schedule and book the interview on Dec 7th or 8th... OF WHICH THEY DID (blessing #3) Next I started compiling a letter to write to my friends...taking great care to explain all of the technical mombo jumbo and putting it in laymans terms to advise of responsibilities and requirements to be a co-sponsor. Having to dispell many of the myths that those not involved in this process have...Not feeling 100% comfortable with the feeling of begging people to help me. Along with opening up all of my personal business....THEN MY 4th BLESSING OF THE DAY.....

One of my VJ sisters sent me one of many emails supporting me and assuring me that it will all work out....along with saying that she said she really felt that she needed to be my/our co-sponsor. She understood how I must be feeling not because she had been in the same situation but similar and people really reached out to her so she felt that it was her turn to reach out to me... (F)

I was in such shock that someone who only knows me from this board and FB would show me so much love...I could do nothing but cry and thank her repeatedly. Now, I know yall is some nosey heffers and part of me want to leave the story hanging since we havent had one of Dara's story in a while.. So...But I won't be mean... MY ANGEL WHO WILL BLESS ME WITH MY HUSBAND IS....... Danna (L)isn't that just the most amazing thing??? :crying:

Oh and to my ATL sisters...I have a 10 hour layover in Atlanta on my way back...so....I may be looking to one of yall to rescue me from the airport (at least to go for drinks or dinner???)

What a blessing!!!!! ((((hugs to you and Danna)))))))))))))) Awesome women of VJ

[MRStee 19]

THAT is great, I hope I don't gain much weight either.

Mrs.Palmer. you're making me tell the board what Ii wante to wait another month or so to tell.

When I went to my first prenatal visit and did ALL those blood work, it came back that 1 of my X chromosome has a slightly high level of fragile x syndrome. So I had to see a genetic counselor and schedule what's called a Chorionic Villi Sample procedure, where they're going to take a sample of the cells around the placenta and test if I passed the gene to the baby. It is best if this baby is a girl and not a boy because if it is a boy then it's chances increases drastically of the baby being mentally retarted. All my family had their kids in JA and so I don't have the comfort of looking at my family history for comfort. I am overwhemled, stressed and just want to curl up and cry until I get the results, which will be month from now. Be thankful that you are not in my shoes and just pray that as your pregnancy progresses that the baby will be fine, but I know all too well what it means to worry...

Lol, I hate those nights that I am tired and just can't sleep!

Ppl need to mind their own damnit! Should've told him/her a good ol jamaican "** off!"

Wow, that's exciting. Makesure you start working on the guest room as soon as you can because I wanna come over and play with Lilla, her cute self!

Amen! As I always say, who knew we would form such great friendships just from going through a similar process and meeting up here on VJ to talk, rant and relate.

Aww Krystle Im sorry to hear this, but YOU are going to get through this and be okay too! Wow...(((((((hugs))))))))

WOW !!!! A blessing in disguse BLESSING indeed. AWWW!!! you making me want to cry. DANNA That is wonderful of you.

I must say this website is the best thing that ever happened to me. I never for one moment thought that I would have found such wonderful women on this site. A site that I GOOGLE and was having second thoughts of actually creating a sign on name for. I am so happy that I did.

Jamerican everything work out sis as you can already see.

I want to cry.

Sugar, just make room for me when mi come visit! I will even babysit so you and hubby can go out

[kjenkins86 5]

I must say this website is the best thing that ever happened to me. I never for one moment thought that I would have found such wonderful women on this site.

KJ - I can only imagine how hard that is. A very dear friend of mine has a daughter with Downs - actually, She married a Jamaican man through a K1 visa, this is their 2nd child together and she's 2 now - she has a blog about their experiences. which might give you some help, and she is wonderful if you want to reach out to her. Her blog is here: http://rastagalnj.wordpress.com/2008/10/

I will tell you that the Likkle Empress is a DELIGHT - and don't let the DS label fool you, that child is bright as anything!

Not sure since when- I know they had recent changes to their baggage policy, but I just went to double check it and that's what I saw! I have been flying Jet Blue for the longest now, but this trip will fly down on Air JA -

But I think down syndrom is easier to swallow than mental retardation, kiss teeth, no it aint, it's the same thing! But I feel horrible that I can be the one to pass it down to him/her...

Then the worry goes on to future pregnancies

Who is Danna

JaPrincess

[MRStee 19]

KJ - I can only imagine how hard that is. A very dear friend of mine has a daughter with Downs - actually, She married a Jamaican man through a K1 visa, this is their 2nd child together and she's 2 now - she has a blog about their experiences. which might give you some help, and she is wonderful if you want to reach out to her. Her blog is here: http://rastagalnj.wo...ss.com/2008/10/

I will tell you that the Likkle Empress is a DELIGHT - and don't let the DS label fool you, that child is bright as anything!

Not sure since when- I know they had recent changes to their baggage policy, but I just went to double check it and that's what I saw! I have been flying Jet Blue for the longest now, but this trip will fly down on Air JA -

You would be surprised at most of the children who are labeled with disabilities... Very intelligent. My son is bipolar and smart as a dayum whip. We are in competition with using big words correctly in sentences. We discovered when he was younger that part of his anger with me is because he feels as though Im smarter than him. I am his biggest competitor. I told him Im only smarter because Im older..... He is a mess! LOL

Who is Danna

JAP