Yardie Party!!! Come as you are - Part 1

[kjenkins86 5]

Goodmorning yardies! Hope we're having a wonderful start to our week

As some of you already know, I found out that I'm a carrier for fragile x and ended up having to test the baby to see if he would be affected or not. Just got the results this morning and unfortunately he is going to be mentally retarded.

As for myself, I'm pretty confident that its not the end of the world but I'm worried about my husband because he's not saying much about how he feels about it. As some of you may know, Jamaicans have a tainted picture on mentality, they don't believe it exists and they describe it with one or two words "fool or mad man/woman"

Have a good day everyone.

[Dan-Dan 1]

Goodmorning yardies! Hope we're having a wonderful start to our week

As some of you already know, I found out that I'm a carrier for fragile x and ended up having to test the baby to see if he would be affected or not. Just got the results this morning and unfortunately he is going to be mentally retarded.

As for myself, I'm pretty confident that its not the end of the world but I'm worried about my husband because he's not saying much about how he feels about it. As some of you may know, Jamaicans have a tainted picture on mentality, they don't believe it exists and they describe it with one or two words "fool or mad man/woman"

Have a good day everyone.

Good Morning KJenkins86 ,

I am SOOO sorry that you are going through this!!! But I have some good news, believe in GOD and all things are possible.... I had a similar experience with my older daughter, the doctors told me that She would be born with Trisomy 8 I am not even sure that I spelled it correctly but I under went sooooo many test and the amnio that the DR's concluded that my child would b mentally challaged and would not live past 3 years of age and that I should consider have an abortion. I KEPT believing GOD and never allowed anyone to speak negatively about my situation. I just prayed and told God I wasnt sure that I could handle the challenge before me but I would follow his will and if that meant my child being mentally challenged I would expect His will and press forward but She was born with NO PROBLEMS beautiful and HEALTHY!!!!

Just Keep the Faith and All Things WILL WORK OUT FOR YOUR GOOD ! I will be PRAYING FOR YOU AND YOUR FAMILY!!!

[finesse 3]

Goodmorning yardies! Hope we're having a wonderful start to our week

As some of you already know, I found out that I'm a carrier for fragile x and ended up having to test the baby to see if he would be affected or not. Just got the results this morning and unfortunately he is going to be mentally retarded.

As for myself, I'm pretty confident that its not the end of the world but I'm worried about my husband because he's not saying much about how he feels about it. As some of you may know, Jamaicans have a tainted picture on mentality, they don't believe it exists and they describe it with one or two words "fool or mad man/woman"

Have a good day everyone.

i'm sorry to hear this. how about seeking out a support group for you and hubby so hubby can see you are not alone in this???

[kjenkins86 5]

Good Morning KJenkins86 ,

I am SOOO sorry that you are going through this!!! But I have some good news, believe in GOD and all things are possible.... I had a similar experience with my older daughter, the doctors told me that She would be born with Trisomy 8 I am not even sure that I spelled it correctly but I under went sooooo many test and the amnio that the DR's concluded that my child would b mentally challaged and would not live past 3 years of age and that I should consider have an abortion. I KEPT believing GOD and never allowed anyone to speak negatively about my situation. I just prayed and told God I wasnt sure that I could handle the challenge before me but I would follow his will and if that meant my child being mentally challenged I would expect His will and press forward but She was born with NO PROBLEMS beautiful and HEALTHY!!!!

Just Keep the Faith and All Things WILL WORK OUT FOR YOUR GOOD ! I will be PRAYING FOR YOU AND YOUR FAMILY!!!

WOW! God is good all the time, all the time God is good. I'm ready to take on the challenge as this news doesn't make me think less of him or love him any less. I still want this baby and will do all I can to make him comfortable as possible. Thanks for your word of encouragement

[sugarapple 1]

Hey KJ,

I agree with Dan_dan God will not give you more than you can handle. I know you will love your son more than anything in the world no matter what.

We will only speak positive things about Mr baby Jenkins. From the Vj sister lips to Gods ears. Love you and kisses!!!!

[Mrs. Palmer 5]

Goodmorning yardies! Hope we're having a wonderful start to our week

As some of you already know, I found out that I'm a carrier for fragile x and ended up having to test the baby to see if he would be affected or not. Just got the results this morning and unfortunately he is going to be mentally retarded.

As for myself, I'm pretty confident that its not the end of the world but I'm worried about my husband because he's not saying much about how he feels about it. As some of you may know, Jamaicans have a tainted picture on mentality, they don't believe it exists and they describe it with one or two words "fool or mad man/woman"

Have a good day everyone.

KJ--I know this is exactly the opposite of what you were hoping for, but I agree with what Dan-Dan said. The only person who TRULY knows outcomes are God! Medicine is not an exact science, remember that-and indicators are not definite. Now with that being said, do all you can to research the condition, and have your husband research too. And when you're researching, think not only in terms of challenges, but abilities as well. I like what Finesse said--see if you can contact the ARC or some other formal community group to assist you with getting a better understanding as to what may lie ahead. And try to reassure husband that there are still many opportunities for his son--that having a diagnosis does not mean that his child will be an invalid, incompetent, etc. And most of all, remember that we are all here for you. If you need me to look stuff up, I will. Whatever I can do to help I will. Just continue to pray and keep the faith. Take care of yourself and baby boy. You and husband don't forget to support each other!

Tamisha

[bajankutie 4]

WOW! God is good all the time, all the time God is good. I'm ready to take on the challenge as this news doesn't make me think less of him or love him any less. I still want this baby and will do all I can to make him comfortable as possible. Thanks for your word of encouragement

I'm so sorry to hear that but as everyone has said God is good and he will bring you and hubby thru this I will keep you guys in our prays and remember God is love.

[kjenkins86 5]

Hey KJ,

I agree with Dan_dan God will not give you more than you can handle. I know you will love your son more than anything in the world no matter what.

We will only speak positive things about Mr baby Jenkins. From the Vj sister lips to Gods ears. Love you and kisses!!!!

Excuse you, his name is Aidan

Just kidding but your right Sugar.

KJ--I know this is exactly the opposite of what you were hoping for, but I agree with what Dan-Dan said. The only person who TRULY knows outcomes are God! Medicine is not an exact science, remember that-and indicators are not definite. Now with that being said, do all you can to research the condition, and have your husband research too. And when you're researching, think not only in terms of challenges, but abilities as well. I like what Finesse said--see if you can contact the ARC or some other formal community group to assist you with getting a better understanding as to what may lie ahead. And try to reassure husband that there are still many opportunities for his son--that having a diagnosis does not mean that his child will be an invalid, incompetent, etc. And most of all, remember that we are all here for you. If you need me to look stuff up, I will. Whatever I can do to help I will. Just continue to pray and keep the faith. Take care of yourself and baby boy. You and husband don't forget to support each other!

Tamisha

At this point I'm trying my best to stay positive but its harder than I thought.

I'm so sorry to hear that but as everyone has said God is good and he will bring you and hubby thru this I will keep you guys in our prays and remember God is love.

Thank you hon.

[NatPatBen 3]

Hey KJ,

I agree with Dan_dan God will not give you more than you can handle. I know you will love your son more than anything in the world no matter what.

KJ, echo what sugarapple & Dan_Dan said. ALL things happen for a reason, even if we don't figure out the reason until next week, next year, 20 years later, or ever.

[DedicatedWife 4]

Goodmorning yardies! Hope we're having a wonderful start to our week

As some of you already know, I found out that I'm a carrier for fragile x and ended up having to test the baby to see if he would be affected or not. Just got the results this morning and unfortunately he is going to be mentally retarded.

As for myself, I'm pretty confident that its not the end of the world but I'm worried about my husband because he's not saying much about how he feels about it. As some of you may know, Jamaicans have a tainted picture on mentality, they don't believe it exists and they describe it with one or two words "fool or mad man/woman"

Have a good day everyone.

KJ, just as everyone has already said...God can make the impossible possible. We are here for you and Smiley.You don't have to go through this alone. Adian has so many prayers going up for him and Auntie Sheia and Uncle Den are certified baby sitters anytime! Keep the faith. If you need anything...you already know...

Good Morning KJenkins86 ,

I am SOOO sorry that you are going through this!!! But I have some good news, believe in GOD and all things are possible.... I had a similar experience with my older daughter, the doctors told me that She would be born with Trisomy 8 I am not even sure that I spelled it correctly but I under went sooooo many test and the amnio that the DR's concluded that my child would b mentally challaged and would not live past 3 years of age and that I should consider have an abortion. I KEPT believing GOD and never allowed anyone to speak negatively about my situation. I just prayed and told God I wasnt sure that I could handle the challenge before me but I would follow his will and if that meant my child being mentally challenged I would expect His will and press forward but She was born with NO PROBLEMS beautiful and HEALTHY!!!!

Just Keep the Faith and All Things WILL WORK OUT FOR YOUR GOOD ! I will be PRAYING FOR YOU AND YOUR FAMILY!!!

Amen Dan-Dan!!!

[DedicatedWife 4]

Good Evening All! Been so busy lately with work and trying to meet the end of the year goals at my job...I just wanted to drop in and say, I hope my VJ family has a wonderful Christmas! Be safe and one love!

[NatPatBen 3]

I went ahead & straightened my hair. Now it'll be a matter of keeping it straight until Saturday evening.

[JaEnglishGirl 34]

Good Evening All! Been so busy lately with work and trying to meet the end of the year goals at my job...I just wanted to drop in and say, I hope my VJ family has a wonderful Christmas! Be safe and one love!

Same to you!!

Are you cooking?

I went ahead & straightened my hair. Now it'll be a matter of keeping it straight until Saturday evening.

I like this look!! You look sooo different though!

What does Steven think?

[JQ Smiley BOOM 3]

Goodmorning yardies! Hope we're having a wonderful start to our week

As some of you already know, I found out that I'm a carrier for fragile x and ended up having to test the baby to see if he would be affected or not. Just got the results this morning and unfortunately he is going to be mentally retarded.

As for myself, I'm pretty confident that its not the end of the world but I'm worried about my husband because he's not saying much about how he feels about it. As some of you may know, Jamaicans have a tainted picture on mentality, they don't believe it exists and they describe it with one or two words "fool or mad man/woman"

Have a good day everyone.

KJ let me tell you a quick story, I know these 2 ladies that was in this car on rainy day. In the car also was one of the ladies 2 kids and the other lady baby daddy and she was pregnant. Some how turning a corner the car lost control. There was a bad accident. The man in the car died instantly and the 2 year old boy in the car was knock out and barely breathing. When they were rushed to the hospital the child was in a coma. For the next 3 weeks, the lady had several chances to take her child off life support because the dr said he would have permanent damage from the swelling and be mentally retarded. Alot of her family was telling her it might be best. She still wanted her child and didnt care for the outcomes except for him to be alive. After 2 months he came out the coma, and was just like the dr said. Very challenging but the lady did all she could to research and get the help that was offered from this terrible tragedy.

This happened in 1997, These ladies were 2 of my older sisters. My nephew just turned 16. He is a miracle blessing and is trying to be really independent. He tries real hard but who I commend most is my sister, she has had 2 kids after him and still treats him no different from the other 3, and makes sure dont know one else treat him any different!

I also have a friend that had twins and 4 months later they were in a car accident. One came out without a scratch, but the other was paralyzed from the waist down. Its hard having a child with challenges but the parents have to be strong, That girl is now 21 and very independent. Her mother still has to change and bathe her but other than thsat she do everything for herself in that motorized chair. My friend took that vowel that she will help her daughter for the rest of her life, and so did my sister because thats what you do when you bring a child in this world.

Nothing is guaranteed ///kj and I want you to remember that its all a gamble in God's world and we have to pray abd get through!!!

You were on my mind now and its 3am and I had to comment on this and God sent me to this website http://www.nfxf.org/html/home.shtml

National Fragile X Foundation

Currently there is no definitive, single treatment for Fragile X. However, there are a variety of ways to help minimize the symptoms of the condition. Children with Fragile X who receive appropriate education, behavioral or physical therapy, and medication have the best chance of using their individual capabilities and skills. Even those with significant mental retardation can learn to master many self-help skills.

There is ignorance with lack of education remember that hun and study all you can with this for your and hubby's sake and beat this. The devil so busy trying to discourage us with anything thats not perfect hell we aint perfect. But this little boy just wants to live and see the world and get love and I know for a fact you will spoil him.

OK talked enough this morning back to sleep til I have to get up in 2 hours

[JQ Smiley BOOM 3]

I went ahead & straightened my hair. Now it'll be a matter of keeping it straight until Saturday evening.

Who is this sexy lady !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Get it girl,

i looks really cute

Steven gone sweat it out this weekend lol