Choking the Chicken

[ValerieA 350]

Surely the thing to do in that situation is discuss things with one's husband? Guessing whether one's partner is threatened by your behaviour is not very satisfactory. Talking honestly and openly would probably end with a more mutually satisfying sexual relationship.

Oh, I agree, but I know people who are not comfortable discussing sex, even with their spouses. Never mind sex, I know people who hate to discuss anything with their SO's that might upset them.

I don't hold out much hope for their marriages, but I may be wrong.

[*julez* 124]

I find it really hard to understand why a woman would be OK with maturbation prior to marriage, but not after marriage. I understand the whole religious hang up thing, but discontinuing masturbation due to marriage is really odd. If your man is that insecure, you might have been better off choosing you hand over that particular man.

[Gemmie 142]

I find it really hard to understand why a woman would be OK with maturbation prior to marriage, but not after marriage. I understand the whole religious hang up thing, but discontinuing masturbation due to marriage is really odd. If your man is that insecure, you might have been better off choosing you hand over that particular man.

Maybe it's just the attitude of "if you need to ride solo, your man isn't good enough", this was the attitude when I was in HIGH SCHOOL, around age 15.

It might be that those women ARE doing it, but try not to admit it because of the above stigma.

[*julez* 124]

Its really kind of sad how repressed we are in the US, that we feel like we can't admit to being sexual beings. I'm not saying we need to tell everyone everything about our sex lives, but I feel like so many feel like its wrong to talk about it.

[mawilson 2,133]

I'm not saying we need to tell everyone everything about our sex lives, but I feel like so many feel like its wrong to talk about it.

But I *am* saying it. You need to tell everyone everything about your sex life!

[elmcitymaven 9,712]

Its really kind of sad how repressed we are in the US, that we feel like we can't admit to being sexual beings. I'm not saying we need to tell everyone everything about our sex lives, but I feel like so many feel like its wrong to talk about it.

It's absolutely true, julez. I also don't think we need to talk about everything we're doing all the time (good lord, it's just not that interesting anyway), but there needs to be a happy medium between full disclosure and silence.

I'm a little surprised at how masturbation can be seen as somehow even dirtier than sexual intercourse with another person, or that it cheapens the act. It's just another expression of sexuality. Do those women who eschew it never touch themselves during the act? And is that indicative of the act being focused around the pleasure of the man?

Sigh. I seem to have more questions than answers on this topic.

[Fandango 1,440]

Its really kind of sad how repressed we are in the US, that we feel like we can't admit to being sexual beings. I'm not saying we need to tell everyone everything about our sex lives, but I feel like so many feel like its wrong to talk about it.

Why assume it's being repressed instead of being private?

Talk about sex in what way? LIke 'oh i really got some last night' way or 'studies show sex blah blah blah' way? I am not being confrontational, I'm really curious. What would you like to see change?

It's absolutely true, julez. I also don't think we need to talk about everything we're doing all the time (good lord, it's just not that interesting anyway), but there needs to be a happy medium between full disclosure and silence.

I'm a little surprised at how masturbation can be seen as somehow even dirtier than sexual intercourse with another person, or that it cheapens the act. It's just another expression of sexuality. Do those women who eschew it never touch themselves during the act? And is that indicative of the act being focused around the pleasure of the man?

Sigh. I seem to have more questions than answers on this topic.

I'll ask the same to you cos this interests me. Where would the happy medium be if you had your say?

[*julez* 124]

Lisa - I totally get that people think of their sex lives as private. But I really do believe that the American attitude towards sexuality is repressed. People feel embarrassed/ashamed to be sexual beings, which I think is sad. The way I was raised, i was very much like that for a long time. I have finally shed my catholic guilt and feel very comfortable talking about sex and what I like/don't like with my husband. I get the sense that a lot of people lack this in life, based on things I've read and conversations with friends.

[Mags 112]

Lisa - I totally get that people think of their sex lives as private. But I really do believe that the American attitude towards sexuality is repressed. People feel embarrassed/ashamed to be sexual beings, which I think is sad. The way I was raised, i was very much like that for a long time. I have finally shed my catholic guilt and feel very comfortable talking about sex and what I like/don't like with my husband. I get the sense that a lot of people lack this in life, based on things I've read and conversations with friends.

Absolutely.

Plus, you can talk about the subject of masturbation without going into details regarding your own sex life.

[spookyturtle 9,466]

I might choke mine now. What do you think?

[Mags 112]

I might choke mine now. What do you think?

I say live in the moment.

[elmcitymaven 9,712]

If you do, 1) please no pics and 2) please no play-by-play.

[^_^ 5,021]

Notice she didn't say no video.

[elmcitymaven 9,712]

Notice she didn't say no video.

I thought that was implicit.

[spookyturtle 9,466]

Notice she didn't say no video.

Ok, how about a high def video?