my story

[wreath 4]

hello everyone

I been hanging around here on vj for while now getting bits of information here and there and worried all the while. I was married to woman from vietnam in 2007 and about 8 moths after she came over her two kids followed. We seperated after i found out she had been cheating on me.At the time we seperated she was a conditional resident. After i filed for divorce i contacted my local immigration office and told them of her cheating and that i had filed for divorce . I was told theres nothing i could do and she could file a waiver and stay in usa. I quit my job and left the small town we lived in.

About a month later i was bored and went to a chat room and met someone i felt a great connection with and when my divorce was final i was back to vietnam for two wonderful weeks.I had planned to come back many times before we got married but due to the economy and her parents not really wanting us to go anywhere until we were married we decided to get married on my second trip. I was in vn for 41 days and now have been married for over 3 months now and been talking on the phone and internet now for over a year.

She has a brother in usa but hes a step brother and he has only came to vn about 5 times since he came to usa by boat in 1975.I love her very much and so worried i dont want to let her down. I told her before we married i thought it would be next to impossible for us to get approved but she just smiled and said then you can move to vietnam with me is ok for me honey.

does anyone have any good advice for us? I have a letter from the wife of the man my ex lives with now . and i called ice and made a report with them. I divorced before she was permenent resident so i dont know how they could think i was just bringing some one to usa. What can we do?

Thanks

[ScottThuy 140]

How long between divorce and meeting online- and in person... how long between first and second visit? did you have any traditional ceremonies? Did you take lots of photos? How long since you met until now?

The previous relationship could cause some delays, but it should not prevent the visa.. they will look at things much closer under the assumption that they are protecting thinking you were taken once and maybe again this time... The more you make an issue out of the previous relationship, the more they will think it is an issue..

there have been a few others with similar stories that have been successful... but I have not seen any that went really smooth... patience and preperation will be the key....

[wreath 4]

april 2008 ex moved out

may 22th 2008 met my wife now

june moved from my town to my moms and rented my house out

july 28 th 2008 divorce final

august 11 left for vietnam for 2 weeks

april 2010 got married ,had wedding in her home and big party at a wedding restrant about 180 guest stayed in vn for 41 days

alot pictures from first trip wedding and places we went together

know each other over 1 year talk everyday on phone and online

[ScottThuy 140]

The fact that you were married when you 'met' her and that it was to someone who potentially married you for a green card could cause them to look deeper ... the fact that you waited to get married again is a good thing...

How to address this before it gets to the consulate is debateable... I wonder what other VN members think about how to address this issue in the initial filing.... An affidavit/timeline explaining the end of one relationship and the start of the new?

[vietazn 1]

Move to Vietnam

[ScottThuy 140]

Move to Vietnam

The house aint finished yet..

[luckytxn 2,264]

I remember it well and all I can say is that you are a glutton for punishment.

One thing for sure is that you have gone through the process so know what needs to be done. You also know you have a big red flag coming. You are going to need to be very patient as you know and take it more slowly than most but you can get it done. Make as many trips as you can afford and save everything and lots of pics. Make sure you show a heavy healthful relationship progression.

You showed very bad judgement last time and need to show that you are not doing so now. It is easy to say to the consulate that you are for real but look at everything you do through their eyes. Good luck and God bless. If there is anything I can do then just say so. We are all here for you.

[wreath 4]

The fact that you were married when you 'met' her and that it was to someone who potentially married you for a green card could cause them to look deeper ... the fact that you waited to get married again is a good thing...

How to address this before it gets to the consulate is debateable... I wonder what other VN members think about how to address this issue in the initial filing.... An affidavit/timeline explaining the end of one relationship and the start of the new?

we didnt marry when we "met" we met online after my wife and i seperated and we chatted everyday. then after my divorce was final ,i went to vietnam for 2 weeks.then 8 months later we married .maybe i didnt word that very good .sorry

[ScottThuy 140]

The CO looks at dates... On paper, you were still married to your Ex when you met your current online... you worded it right... maybe I didnt.. they wont look at the date you seperated because there is likely no documentation of that event, there is a government doc for a divorce... so they will see you meeting online on day X, Divorcing on Day Y and then meeting in person on day Z... At least you waited until trip 2 to get married... others have really jumped the gun and did it first trip... As Curtis said.. time is on your side and patience will be your best asset as it will help you document a solid relationship...

[wreath 4]

The CO looks at dates... On paper, you were still married to your Ex when you met your current online... you worded it right... maybe I didnt.. they wont look at the date you seperated because there is likely no documentation of that event, there is a government doc for a divorce... so they will see you meeting online on day X, Divorcing on Day Y and then meeting in person on day Z... At least you waited until trip 2 to get married... others have really jumped the gun and did it first trip... As Curtis said.. time is on your side and patience will be your best asset as it will help you document a solid relationship...

thanks everyone