What would you do if....

[Lovebirds2009 3]

So,what would you do if you are one of the spouses waiting for quite sometime now in USA for your other half to be given visa and she or he gets denied? The question came from stories I read here about visa denial after 6+ months of waiting..some people even longer,even over a yr and 2... So? WHAT WOULD YOU DO? Re-do it? Move to your spouse's country and live there(because you love each other) or something third? Or you never thought of that?

[MSPtoYYZ 0]

So,what would you do if you are one of the spouses waiting for quite sometime now in USA for your other half to be given visa and she or he gets denied? The question came from stories I read here about visa denial after 6+ months of waiting..some people even longer,even over a yr and 2... So? WHAT WOULD YOU DO? Re-do it? Move to your spouse's country and live there(because you love each other) or something third? Or you never thought of that?

I'm moving end of year if this keeps up...

[NigeriaorBust 4,087]

Been there, refiled, we are together in the US now.

[Tero 105]

So,what would you do if you are one of the spouses waiting for quite sometime now in USA for your other half to be given visa and she or he gets denied? The question came from stories I read here about visa denial after 6+ months of waiting..some people even longer,even over a yr and 2... So? WHAT WOULD YOU DO? Re-do it? Move to your spouse's country and live there(because you love each other) or something third? Or you never thought of that?

I'm on that crossroad now myself. I will not quit until I have given it all I've got. You know they really want to get rid of immigrants. If you quit, you would have made them win. Continue fighting and being patient for your better half if you believe you both can live a better life here. If you are sure you'd live a better life in your spouse's country, then relocate. Good luck

[Darnell 8,479]

*** not a K-3 visa question, OP has no K-3 visa in-play, moving to IR-1/CR-1 forum ***

[TravellingNomad 12]

i would try again...and if still a no go, i'll just say the hell with it and move back to the Philippines. I can easily get an office job there for income. either that or put into motion what me and the wife talked about a few years back....go to the land down under.

[BigSigh 12]

I think it might depend on what they are denying you for. If it is just, "Oh, hey, we need some more pictures." or "Give me a new 2009 I-864 and info from your co-sponsor," then that is one thing. I think if they deny you for having a criminal record or attesting to having tried drugs even once in your life, your answer might be different. I think it also depends on if you have children or not.

I personally would move to Peru if my husband gets denied because we have a child together and he has already missed so much of her life. I also want my family to be together. Then again I have to weigh the pluses and minuses for everyone if we were to move there. So much to think about.....

Your turn is coming up soon HisLove....I hope you get a good answer and don't have to ponder this for too much longer!

[DebbyNSeyi 15]

We were denied the K1 back in March 2010. We then got married on June 1st and I filed an I-130.

We are very hopeful that all the stress and the waiting will come to a close and he gets his visa.

Barring that, I don't know. I have kids and a full life here. I don't want to think about another denial unless I have to.

[tokyo.lovers 6]

i would move abroad and then reapply. then you are at least together.

[RumbaBumba 4]

What sucks is when relations is bad with the beneficiary's country. I can't imagine a denial at this point.. Seems so counter-productive to entertain that possibility when the stakes feel so high.

We'd have to be together one way or another. But I just can't accept a no. Especially when you see abuses of the system where people marry just for citizenship. If you have the true thing, how can you fail?

They can make us jump through all the hoops they want, we'll make it.

[NigeriaorBust 4,087]

What sucks is when relations is bad with the beneficiary's country. I can't imagine a denial at this point.. Seems so counter-productive to entertain that possibility when the stakes feel so high.

We'd have to be together one way or another. But I just can't accept a no. Especially when you see abuses of the system where people marry just for citizenship. If you have the true thing, how can you fail?

Just try going through Nigeria. Many real relationships are tested there. Just because you are refused does NOT mean your relationship is not real. In fact it is rather heartless to imply that with so many that are on their second filing.

They can make us jump through all the hoops they want, we'll make it.

[DebbyNSeyi 15]

So true!!! You and I are perfect examples! (and many others)

[DebbyNSeyi 15]

i would move abroad and then reapply. then you are at least together.

Sounds ideal. But not realistic for many of us. Should I leave my children? or force them to live in a 3rd world country away from all they know? Should I quit my job and risk not getting another? It scares me to think of all that. I think I would keep re-applying and keep flying over there twice a year until he came here.