Moanday

[Muh and me 18]

Its Monday, and part of me is glad the weekend is over and other parts of me just want to stay in bed and sleep. Who really wants to go to work? My depression has been getting the best of me, so I am goin to see my doctor and try and get something different. Have a good day!

[And_Sam 44]

Ugh for Moanday!!

Terrie, I hope your doctor can help you!! I know that my doctor was a godsend when I was having trouble with family in the past. I was teetering on the brink, ready to jump off!

Depression is nothing to mess with and neither are the medicines if they don't get the dosage right. Take care of yourself and come talk to us!!

I hope everyone has a great week this week. Hubby is going to hang out with his friend that is visiting for the week so I get to relax and enjoy some "me" time!

[FaithfulandTrue 6]

Hello Mena... hi Andrea and Terri.. i hope everyone has a great Monday... Terri i pray everything works out for you

[Muh and me 18]

Ugh for Moanday!!

Terrie, I hope your doctor can help you!! I know that my doctor was a godsend when I was having trouble with family in the past. I was teetering on the brink, ready to jump off!

Depression is nothing to mess with and neither are the medicines if they don't get the dosage right. Take care of yourself and come talk to us!!

I hope everyone has a great week this week. Hubby is going to hang out with his friend that is visiting for the week so I get to relax and enjoy some "me" time!

I have chronic depression. I've had it for years and have not been this low in a long time! I just feel like i hate my life! So, inshallah, the psychiatrist will help me out! One thing I look forward to is Arab Fest on Saturday. I hope I see quite a few VJ'ers there!!!!

[Hopeishere 4]

Hey everyone... So sorry to hear of you being bummed out Terrie, I know it sucks to feel like the walls are caving in. I feel so connected to you all. This has been a huge support for me in going through this process with Ahmed. I know now that im not alone in this. Im just going day to day keeping my head up and spending lots of time with my son. Trying to stay focused and not let all this get the best of me. It is lonely but I know after time passes it will be ok. Wish everyone a good day.

[Mithra 1,185]

Good to see you, Sandra. I'm glad to hear you're keeping your head up and moving right along. You truly are an inspiration.

[Mithra 1,185]

Nice to see you posting again, Terrie. I hope the doctor can give you something to get your spirits up. My mother has battled depression for years so I know what that's like (as a bystander). I hope you have a great time at the upcoming Arab Fest!

Its Monday, and part of me is glad the weekend is over and other parts of me just want to stay in bed and sleep. Who really wants to go to work? My depression has been getting the best of me, so I am goin to see my doctor and try and get something different. Have a good day!

[Dr. A ♥ O 203]

Hi Terri. I hope you have a wonderful meetup with everyone at the Arab Festival! I also hope the depression may lift soon with the help from your doctor.

Andrea enjoy your "me" time!

Hi Wonderful aka Jenell & Happy Monday JVTA.

Sandra good to see you!

It's nice not having to work today but I am looking for work and posting things to sell on Craigslist. Last Friday dh didn't come with me to town to go to the Mosque. This is the third or fourth week in a row he didn't want to go and I don't think he'll be going this week either. I don't know what happened to make him stop going? Maybe he is getting settled in here and thinks traveling there is too much of a bother and burden on gas and our budget or maybe something happened there I don't know about. His one friend he did like that went there did leave for training in Seattle for the next six months so maybe he doesn't have much interest to go there now? He still prays on time at home and is getting himself ready for Ramadan by decreasing what he eats so he doesn't have the big shock on the first day of fasting he says. He also put an application on his laptop where you can hear the call to pray five times a day for our area. It went off the other night and my Mom and Uncle heard it and it was a funny reaction out of them looking at my Husband peaking over his laptop while studying. He is being really strict about his studying for the USMLE and that is really good. He said he's willing to take all three steps in 13 months instead of the 20 months he originally planned. I believe this is due to the encouragement of his sister and BIL in Baltimore. His sister is taking the 3rd step this month and his BIL talks with dh weekly about what he can do about work, ect. Last weekend he talked to him about moving to Maryland for jobs and how to make his beans in the slow cooker. He wants to try the recipe here and I said sure we can except I'm unsure how the altitude will affect the beans in the slow cooker. My Mom hasn't had luck so far in making the beans in the slow cooker.

Hubby went to see his Egyptian friend at the local Egyptian Hookah bar. Of all the places it could be it's conveniently within bicycling distance from our house. He told me he found out that his friend doesn't serve alcohol there. That it's just hookah and regular drinks and it's a place for his regulars to hang out. He said it's mostly a young crowd. I don't have much interest in going there myself or meeting his new friend. He likes to go have his guy time there and drink tea when the place just opens. My brother who is one of the largest hookah distributors in America sent us a "Welcome to America/Wedding present" care package a few weeks ago with seven different flavors of tobacco, charcoal, an electric heater, and a hookah with two hoses. We've been sitting on the back patio this summer watching movies on our laptop while enjoying hookah and sipping tea or lemonade or having homemade lattes. I guess one of my brother's warehouses in California is going to supply the Egyptian hookah bar here locally now too. Honestly I didn't know this is what my oldest brother was doing all this time. I knew he traveled a lot and was setting up warehouses in Florida, Texas, Utah and California but I didn't realize his business was hookahs and shisha or I could have made a small business for him all this time with people I know from mena. LOL! He sells more products than that though. This is just one aspect of the business I learned about. He's pretty busy and pretty quiet about what he does. It's been hard to have a conversation on the telephone with him these past few years because of it.

Anyways the point of me telling you hubby went to see his friend again at the local Egyptian hookah bar is that his friends family took him to the local fair that day and hubby didn't tell me about. I wasn't sure how I should feel that I wasn't invited. Anyways after a day of feeling awkward I slept on it and the next day he talked to me about it and we worked things through. We agreed we loved each other but we don't have to meet and mix with each others friends and families and do the couple friends thing if we don't want to. We can have our independent friends life and that would better for both of us. I have my girls night with my friend and watch "True Blood" and he gets to experience some independence and do new things with his Egyptian friends in town. At first it made me sad that he would do new things and see things I wanted to show him like the parks and the going to the local fair with his friends. But now I think we've come to a new understanding and it also gives myself some independence if I like. We don't always have to do everything together just because we're a couple. We can also have our own independent lives because we trust each other. It feels like the relationship has matured a bit for it and I like that.

Also I want to wish everyone else to have a good week!

[FaithfulandTrue 6]

Hey Olivia, Sandra and JVTA... glad to see you guys today... Olivia most of the time my husband and i are together, but sometimes for lunch he's by himself.. he really hasn't had a chance to make many friends except for at work... he's not off on Fridays so he can't go to the mosque.. hopefully now he has a gps he can make friends and not feel so bored... glad to see you today

[FaithfulandTrue 6]

oh man i missed the post by 4 minutes.. oh well.. great Tuesday everyone

[Mithra 1,185]

Hey wonderful & Cleo and all the others that I may not have addressed prior, lol.

Cleo,

My husband and I don't do any "couples" outings or anything like that. I have my friends and he has his friends/colleagues. He doesn't really "hang out" with any of his friends, they mostly just keep in touch by phone and by keep in touch I mean every few months they call each other. His work "friends" are just that, work friends. Although my husband is very friendly and social, he doesn't go out with friends on his own. I don't know why that is. I'm thinking maybe it's because he works long hours on the days he works and he socializes with the work friends during these times. On his days off we spend all of our time together. I occasionally go to the movies or shopping with gfs while he's working. That's few and far between though. It does sound like your relationship is moving to a new level where you can each have your own identities seperately and as a couple. It sounds like a healthy move in the right direction to me.

About the mosque thing, perhaps the people there are just not his type? Or like you said, it's too much of a commute. We don't have many mosques in our area but we did find one kind of close by when my husband first arrived. He went there to try to meet people but it ended up not working out for him. He's non practicing so that was one reason and the people he met there just weren't for him.

[Dr. A ♥ O 203]

Hey wonderful & Cleo and all the others that I may not have addressed prior, lol.

Cleo,

My husband and I don't do any "couples" outings or anything like that. I have my friends and he has his friends/colleagues. He doesn't really "hang out" with any of his friends, they mostly just keep in touch by phone and by keep in touch I mean every few months they call each other. His work "friends" are just that, work friends. Although my husband is very friendly and social, he doesn't go out with friends on his own. I don't know why that is. I'm thinking maybe it's because he works long hours on the days he works and he socializes with the work friends during these times. On his days off we spend all of our time together. I occasionally go to the movies or shopping with gfs while he's working. That's few and far between though. It does sound like your relationship is moving to a new level where you can each have your own identities seperately and as a couple. It sounds like a healthy move in the right direction to me.

About the mosque thing, perhaps the people there are just not his type? Or like you said, it's too much of a commute. We don't have many mosques in our area but we did find one kind of close by when my husband first arrived. He went there to try to meet people but it ended up not working out for him. He's non practicing so that was one reason and the people he met there just weren't for him.

Yeah my dh is like me in that we're both social butterflies. We love to talk and hang out with people and we also like time for ourselves. He likes to hang out with his friends here once or twice a month and he talks to his friends all over the states here on the weekends. He talks to his friends back in Egypt almost daily online and his family as well. Back in Egypt he'd play cards with his friends at the cafe several times a week late into the night coming home at 3-4 am and here if he goes out he does the same thing staying out till 3 or 4 am. Now that he has a cell phone I'm more ok with it. It doesn't happen as often as back in Egypt and he lets me know who he's hanging out with and where just like when we were living back in Egypt. Couple friends is kind of a new concept for us. We're just stepping into our 30's married with no kids and trying to find mature things to do with another couple like us. Like with any relationship it can get complicated especially when the couple has problems and the other couple gets involved. Or when one part of each couple is more friends then the other part of the couple that can be awkward at first till they all get to know each other. It might be better just to let those friends be friends then try to make it couple friends. It's a learning process for us.

If we both had some stable work and didn't spend all our time together right now our lives might be more similar to how your lives are right now. I'm sure it will change in the future when he's practicing medicine here and I'm having some stable work as well.