Now this is upsetting.

[Kathryn41 3,205]

2 off topic type of comment removed - remember everyone, this is the K-1 immigration forum, not off topic so certain responses are not acceptable here.

Edited July 28, 2010 by Kathryn41

[TBoneTX 45,299]

yeah so just because you are ''American'' you think you have all the privileges in this planet? That the problem that most of you think your God gift. NOT! Chill you make other people look bad. lol. P.S Not all Americans are bad my Fiancee is amazing hehe

Si, man; we're all God's gift, and your fiance is the luckiest guy on the planet.

[Kathryn41 3,205]

I will remind everyone - including the OP - that making personal insults and attacks are not acceptable. You can express a difference of opinion but do it with respect and courtesy or it will be removed and possible administrative action taken.

[JimVaPhuong 4,863]

I get where you are coming from JimVaPhuong but I dont agree with you. And its not true they are just doing their ''jobs'' and trying to keep the ''bad'' ones out. They let more bad in then good. And Im sorry they are the ones who take things for granted and think they have every right in this world. I get where you are coming from and I do understand but im sorry I dont care who you are and what you do. I get I need to be calm and cool but they sometimes make it hard and im the one being arrogant? Excuse me some of them pounce on you even before you approach them or even before they see you or you talk to them. You can be the nicest person alive if they woke up from the wrong side of the bed it dont matter. So all of you saying they are just doing their jobs blah blah is delusional and full of #######. But its your opinion and I respect that. So respect mine. If not stop responding. Im tired of people getting repetetive and not respecting my opinion. We all had different experiences so deal with it. Thank you.

I was offering some friendly advice on how to deal with authorities in the US, and you responded by biting my head off. You've done the same with a few other posters here. I think your problem is obvious. Law enforcement officers in the US are not the same as they are in Canada, and that isn't likely to change regardless how big a tantrum you throw. If you are flippant or rude with a law enforcement officer in the US, as you have been with people in this thread, then you will find yourself face down on the concrete with your hands cuffed behind your back. They hold all the cards, and they can make your life as uncomfortable as they want.

It's true that no matter how nice you are you will sometimes be singled out for "special" attention. As I said, don't take it personally. Remain calm and answer their questions, no matter how much pressure they apply. Entering the US is entirely at the discretion of the CBP officer. They can turn you away for any reason whatever. Insisting that they owe you respect or courtesy or even an explanation will only ensure that you get "special" treatment the next time, and possibly every time you attempt to cross the border.

I could say much more, but sadly I fear it will fall on deaf ears. Good luck living in the US.

[SupportGeek 21]

I was offering some friendly advice on how to deal with authorities in the US, and you responded by biting my head off. You've done the same with a few other posters here.

Sadly its a recurring theme

I think your problem is obvious. Law enforcement officers in the US are not the same as they are in Canada, and that isn't likely to change regardless how big a tantrum you throw. If you are flippant or rude with a law enforcement officer in the US, as you have been with people in this thread, then you will find yourself face down on the concrete with your hands cuffed behind your back.

Also likely tazer probes lodged in her back!

Diana, I suspect it is likely some of your miscommunication is a result of a slight language barrier, its obvious your English is not as fluent as your French likely is. Knowing how difficult communication when only using text is, then adding difficulties from language diffrences, I think you may be perceiving people to be more arrogant or offensive to you than they really are.

No one here is telling you that you cant have an opinion about how much the process sucks, or how craptastic it can be to deal with a CBP officer who seems to want nothing to do but hassle you (or multiple officers?). However, when posters here tell you that you have NO rights at the border when attempting to cross and dealing with a CBP officer, that is not an opinion, it is fact. When someone tells you that you can be denied for any reason whatsoever, it is not opinion, it is fact.

No one here is lying to you, or trying to trick you, and if you actually take the time to read the FAQ's, the How To's and the Wiki's available here on the site, you would see that what you have been told is very much corroborated there.

We are all here to help one another with the process of getting to our loved ones, and being forewarned is forearmed, but acting hostile to the other posters isnt going to earn you any friends, and soon you may find yourself with a lot less allies to help answer questions on your journey.

Good luck with your visa, I hope the process is smooth for you.

[Undefined 4]

I was offering some friendly advice on how to deal with authorities in the US, and you responded by biting my head off. You've done the same with a few other posters here. I think your problem is obvious. Law enforcement officers in the US are not the same as they are in Canada, and that isn't likely to change regardless how big a tantrum you throw. If you are flippant or rude with a law enforcement officer in the US, as you have been with people in this thread, then you will find yourself face down on the concrete with your hands cuffed behind your back. They hold all the cards, and they can make your life as uncomfortable as they want.

It's true that no matter how nice you are you will sometimes be singled out for "special" attention. As I said, don't take it personally. Remain calm and answer their questions, no matter how much pressure they apply. Entering the US is entirely at the discretion of the CBP officer. They can turn you away for any reason whatever. Insisting that they owe you respect or courtesy or even an explanation will only ensure that you get "special" treatment the next time, and possibly every time you attempt to cross the border.

I could say much more, but sadly I fear it will fall on deaf ears. Good luck living in the US.

True. You are right. Still sucks lol. Yeah I wish Canada woudnt be so nice sometimes. I find my country is too nice sometimes but anyways lol. Please I am all ears(promise I wont bite this time lol). Im just very opiniated, stubborn and get defensive too much sometimes I guess. (Im working on that) I know I got to be calm. That no matter what, they have the power and I cant do nothing about it. Still sucks lol. I bet you they have no power outside their jobs but also they should leave their personal matter at home. Anyways im gonna shut up about this matter. We all have different opinions. I respect yours, you respect mine. That final. Anyways what else should I know? lol Thanks once again.

[Undefined 4]

Sadly its a recurring theme

Also likely tazer probes lodged in her back!

Diana, I suspect it is likely some of your miscommunication is a result of a slight language barrier, its obvious your English is not as fluent as your French likely is. Knowing how difficult communication when only using text is, then adding difficulties from language diffrences, I think you may be perceiving people to be more arrogant or offensive to you than they really are.

No one here is telling you that you cant have an opinion about how much the process sucks, or how craptastic it can be to deal with a CBP officer who seems to want nothing to do but hassle you (or multiple officers?). However, when posters here tell you that you have NO rights at the border when attempting to cross and dealing with a CBP officer, that is not an opinion, it is fact. When someone tells you that you can be denied for any reason whatsoever, it is not opinion, it is fact.

No one here is lying to you, or trying to trick you, and if you actually take the time to read the FAQ's, the How To's and the Wiki's available here on the site, you would see that what you have been told is very much corroborated there.

We are all here to help one another with the process of getting to our loved ones, and being forewarned is forearmed, but acting hostile to the other posters isnt going to earn you any friends, and soon you may find yourself with a lot less allies to help answer questions on your journey.

Good luck with your visa, I hope the process is smooth for you.

Excuse me? My english is better then most Americans. Im being hostile? Sure because you assuming my english sucks because Im from Montreal aint? That discriminatory. And I know the difference between facts and opinions. And some people in here have been rude before I have. If they would answer my questions without a sarcastic tone there woudnt be any problems. I know and understand where everyone is coming from but there is no need for unnecessary sarcasm or senseless sense of humour.

Edited July 28, 2010 by D&JDianaM

[brightskte 18]

Oh my gosh, no one here is discriminating against you! All we are doing is trying to help you.

My husband is from Rouyn-Noranda but he lived in Montreal for 6 years. His English is awesome. No one here thinks that because you're from Montreal that your English sucks. No one is being rude. You're the one being rude most of the time. Keep it up and pretty soon NO ONE will want to help you. Keep this attitude at your interview and I guarantee that you'll be denied. They are going to ask you some questions that will test your ability to handle stress and they're going to ask if you've ever been denied at the border. If you go in there and start screaming discrimination when they ask you that question it's not going to be an easy road for you.

No one discriminates here. This website is full of people from ALL countries, and some of them can barely speak any English. Is that a problem? Heck no it's not. As long as we can decipher what they are trying to say it's all good.

[Penny Lane 8,159]

Excuse me? My english is better then most Americans. Im being hostile? Sure because you assuming my english sucks because Im from Montreal aint? That discriminatory. And I know the difference between facts and opinions. And some people in here have been rude before I have. If they would answer my questions without a sarcastic tone there woudnt be any problems. I know and understand where everyone is coming from but there is no need for unnecessary sarcasm or senseless sense of humour.

Your question was one that has been asked and answered many times. But unfortunately, you are looking for someone to 100% guarantee that you can travel to the United States whenever you'd like and nobody here is going to tell you that, because they would be lying. You can kick and scream, throw a tantrum, cry about the injustice of it all, claim discrimination, but it won't do you a bit of good. The best you can do is answer the questions honestly, and be polite.

That's the only advice people in here have given you. You just don't want to seem to accept it. You'd rather whine about how unfair it is.

We're all going through the same process and it's a stressful one. But getting upset with the people who are doing their best to help you isn't the way to go about doing things.

[Undefined 4]

Oh my gosh, no one here is discriminating against you! All we are doing is trying to help you.

My husband is from Rouyn-Noranda but he lived in Montreal for 6 years. His English is awesome. No one here thinks that because you're from Montreal that your English sucks. No one is being rude. You're the one being rude most of the time. Keep it up and pretty soon NO ONE will want to help you. Keep this attitude at your interview and I guarantee that you'll be denied. They are going to ask you some questions that will test your ability to handle stress and they're going to ask if you've ever been denied at the border. If you go in there and start screaming discrimination when they ask you that question it's not going to be an easy road for you.

No one discriminates here. This website is full of people from ALL countries, and some of them can barely speak any English. Is that a problem? Heck no it's not. As long as we can decipher what they are trying to say it's all good.

Excuse me? Have you read his/her posts? and Im the one being rude? yeah because you are being rude to me. And you know what if you dont like it then dont waste your time reading it and replying my god!

[brightskte 18]

Yep I've read the posts. Everyone has been helpful and giving you the correct information. It is up to you to decide how you're going to read it and/or take it and you must be always on the defense or something because most of the time you are calling people rude. Stating facts is not rude and it is not discriminatory. Say what you want. Everything we say is falling on deaf ears anyway.

I sincerely wish you good luck at your interview. If you continue to act the way that you are acting right now then you're going to need every bit of good luck you can find. You need to have patience and the ability to be calm, cool, and collected in situations where most people would not. From what I've seen, you don't have it.

[Undefined 4]

Yep I've read the posts. Everyone has been helpful and giving you the correct information. It is up to you to decide how you're going to read it and/or take it and you must be always on the defense or something because most of the time you are calling people rude. Stating facts is not rude and it is not discriminatory. Say what you want. Everything we say is falling on deaf ears anyway.

I sincerely wish you good luck at your interview. If you continue to act the way that you are acting right now then you're going to need every bit of good luck you can find. You need to have patience and the ability to be calm, cool, and collected in situations where most people would not. From what I've seen, you don't have it.

Well you say I read things the way I want to. Well then you are doing the same. And wow you've been following me so far? I guess for someone you dislike so much I must be relevant enough tho I know what I read. And yes people have been rude and discriminatory. You dont see it. That fine. And dont tell me what I have and dont have. You can think whatever you want. Listen if you have nothing nice to say then dont responds to my topics no more. You are only wasting my time and yours. Thank you.

[Penny Lane 8,159]

Well you say I read things the way I want to. Well then you are doing the same. And wow you've been following me so far? I guess for someone you dislike so much I must be relevant enough tho I know what I read. And yes people have been rude and discriminatory. You dont see it. That fine. And dont tell me what I have and dont have. You can think whatever you want. Listen if you have nothing nice to say then dont responds to my topics no more. You are only wasting my time and yours. Thank you.

You seem to be of the mindset that everyone is out to get you. Whether it be border patrol officers or posters on a forum that are just trying to help you, you feel attacked. You cannot scream discrimination the second anyone says something that you don't like.

[SupportGeek 21]

Yep I've read the posts. Everyone has been helpful and giving you the correct information. It is up to you to decide how you're going to read it and/or take it and you must be always on the defense or something because most of the time you are calling people rude. Stating facts is not rude and it is not discriminatory. Say what you want. Everything we say is falling on deaf ears anyway.

Kayla*Mathew,I agree, It seems she enjoys playing a victim, its a pattern of hyperbolizing everything to justify her feeling that everyone is attacking her.

I assumed that it was a slight translational problem when reading English and taking posts the wrong way, basically giving her the benefit of the doubt.

Diana, At no point did I indicate your English sucks, its pretty good, but its clear that its not your primary language, and being from Quebec, thats understandable, as I mentioned above, I figured that there was a strong possibility that some of the slight nuances were missed when reading others posts, making you feel like they were attacking you or "being rude", hoping that you would realize that no one is truly attacking you and that its likely you were simply misreading is all. I apologize if it read differently from my intent, it was 2am and perhaps I wasn't as clear as I needed to be.

Kayla is correct, and everyone in this thread except you can see it, you are being excessively rude to others that post the facts you don't want to hear, you are attacking them personally and in some of your posts, breaking the TOS and posting guidelines, that is why you were previously banned, yet you still haven't learned to treat others with respect.

Again, I sincerely hope your process goes smoothly, because at the rate you are going, if you run into problems and need questions answered, you aren't going to find others willing to help as you attitude is alienating potential allies.

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

Ok now you all gotta explain. Why you kept on saying a person could go visit their fiancee during the visa process. when i went and called 10000 people without telling them who I was and my situation and some yes and they all said no you cant go! Why you all said this? Did the rules change? did all of you went like long time ago and you could and now you cant? because ive heard and been told so many rules changed lord you cant keep up. they keep on changing and they keep on getting ruder and ruder. Anyways if you aint the one determined and push for answers and info no one aint gonna give it to you neither the ones who are paid to do so and are obliged. like the gov, cbp officers, poe officers ect. anwyays let me all know ur opinions on this and all. guess i gotta wait for my visa to be approved. thanks

ANY person can be denied entry at ANY time. Even when you have a VISA you can be denied entry.

To visit you need to be able to show proof you will return to Canada. And just to clarify, when you get your visa you will NOT have to show proof you will return.

You can call 1 million people and the answer is the same. NO ONE has a guarantee they we will be allowed entry. So what? Canada is the same way. We are planning a trip to Montreal for the day Friday but we MIGHT get refused entry to Canada. I am not losing sleep over it.

If you want to visit, put together some documentation and visit.