I am so NERVOUS NOW PLS HELP ME

[Brother Hesekiel 2,236]

I don't know if you have access to a VCR or DVD player, but if you do go rent the movie "Love Story" with Ryan O' Neal and Ali Mc Graw.

These two loved each other and wanted to be with each other more than anything else. His family did not approve so they rented a real shitty apartment and did what they had to do in order to be with each other. They got married and stuck together in good and bad times until . . . (I don't want to tell you the ending of the movie).

This is how we Americans see marriage. Once you marry, you tell your mommy that you will have to move out because a married man lives with his lawfully wedded wife. That's been the case since at least the 2nd Reich, and that's more than 2,000 years ago.

If your husband lives with his mommy in an apartment he pays for, and you live with your family, you are only married on paper. You can easily live apart from each other and visit each other without a Green Card. I therefore believe that it is quite possible that your AOS will be denied.

[wilgrace 3]

Please don't take this the wrong way. I'm just going to look at this the way an immigration officer might. Ok?

You've only been in the US for a few months. You married within the 90 day window, which is good. But now, only a few short months later, you're living with your mom and sister. An immigration officer is likely to think that you got a K1 primarily to reunite with your family, and not to be with your husband. This suspicion will be even stronger if you happen to be from a country with a very long wait for a family preference visa, like Mexico or the Philippines.

Your future life in America with your husband is at stake. You and your husband need to get this situation straightened out. If you are in the same boat when it comes time for the AOS interview then you will probably not be getting a green card.

Honestly this looks like fraud to me...how can you get married and not living together....i dont care about the mother in law ...you are his wife and you have to fight for that ...we are not living in the third world country..... we are living in the country that woman has rights....the immigration will find out everything....and one more thing you got your family here they will think you come here to be with your family not for the K1...so you have to be careful on how you gonna pass the interview...GOOD LUCK!!!!

[JimVaPhuong 4,863]

Honestly this looks like fraud to me...how can you get married and not living together....i dont care about the mother in law ...you are his wife and you have to fight for that ...we are not living in the third world country..... we are living in the country that woman has rights....the immigration will find out everything....and one more thing you got your family here they will think you come here to be with your family not for the K1...so you have to be careful on how you gonna pass the interview...GOOD LUCK!!!!

I don't like to judge someone's circumstances unless I've stood in their shoes. I've known American couples who've had similar relationship problems because the husband couldn't cut the apron strings to his mother, so I know the circumstances she describes are possible. Unfortunately, I think an immigration officer is going to feel the same way you do - they're going to think this looks like fraud.