A peak inside the far-right university that banned interracial dating until 10 years ago.

[Obama 2012 1,714]

I can easily imagine someone rejecting a person because he was too short or too fat, yes.

I think many people forget, that not everything is about skin color.

Honestly, I have no problem with a private university, private business, etc. doing so what they choose in who they want to serve.....

[Peikko 1,575]

I can easily imagine someone rejecting a person because he was too short or too fat, yes.

You are addressing a different point to the one I was making - why is beyond me. The discussion I was having with the other poster related to his feeling about his daughter bringing home a non-white boyfriend and that that might make him uncomfortable . For your post to make sense in the context of that 'converstation, your post would have to be that you as a father would reject your daughter's boyfriend because he was too short or too fat. That is nonsense, or if it is not, good luck with telling your (mythical) daughter what attributes she should find attractive.

Edited July 25, 2010 by Madame Cleo

[Captain Oates 911]

Racial differences extend beyond skin colour and religion.

Those differences might be cultural or physical or both

Some might be blind to the differences, some might like them, some might dislike them.

Ignoring them after noticing them is not a good idea. One should make peace with one's own thoughts on the matter and not be driven by received ideology either from the right or left

I know there would be many difficulties with me living in Soweto with Winnie Mandela that have nothing to do with her skin colour. For instance, her culture felt it ok to put a car tyre around someone's neck, fill it with gasoline and set fire to it.

We all talk about skin colour but racial/ethnic differences have much more to do with other difference factors. We are all the same on one level but there are cultural differences which need to be considered and are more important than race, but coincide with race nevertheless

A Sunday morning in York Minster provides a different experience to a 100% black Baptist church in Mississippi. The fact that 99% of the congregation in York is white and 100% of the congregation in Mississippi is black, is a correlation that exists, even if the difference is separate from colour.

Colour is not a factor in those differences, but culture is, and exists alongside colour to the extent that they merge..

To clarify:

If people go into inter-racial and/or inter - cultural relationships with their eyes open, then I don't have a problem with that. If people take a look at other cultures (which coincide with other racial attributes)and decide it's not for them, that's ok too.

The only problem is when we impose our preferences on other people.

I refuse to even travel through South Carolina and the States like that.

Edited July 25, 2010 by saywhat

[mawilson 2,133]

You are addressing a different point to the one I was making - why is beyond me. The discussion I was having with the other poster related to his feeling about his daughter bringing home a non-white boyfriend and that that might make him uncomfortable . For your post to make sense in the context of that 'converstation, your post would have to be that you as a father would reject your daughter's boyfriend because he was too short or too fat. That is nonsense, or if it is not, good luck with telling your (mythical) daughter what attributes she should find attractive.

That's *exactly* what I meant. Any mother or father would want a "perfect" partner for their daughter -

tall, handsome and fit - and I can see how they might look past individuality and prejudge a person

by his outer appearance.

[Peikko 1,575]

That's *exactly* what I meant. Any mother or father would want a "perfect" partner for their daughter -

tall, handsome and fit - and I can see how they might look past individuality and prejudge a person

by his outer appearance.

Rubbish. No parent is interested in the physical appearance of their offsprings partner, what they want is for partner to be stable, employed;, emotionally mature and honest. If they had all those attributes no parent would give a toss what the dude looked like - unless the parents were emotional retards themselves of course.

[mawilson 2,133]

Rubbish. No parent is interested in the physical appearance of their offsprings partner

Generalize much?

[Ban Hammer 13,364]

oh jeesh. vj.

[Captain Oates 911]

Rubbish. No parent is interested in the physical appearance of their offsprings partner, what they want is for partner to be stable, employed;, emotionally mature and honest. If they had all those attributes no parent would give a toss what the dude looked like - unless the parents were emotional retards themselves of course.

MaWilson - apparently you are talking 'Rubbish'. It's not enough to disagree, your post has to be described as 'rubbish' in advance of the contrary opinion being expressed.

If I was a parent who did care what my in law and therefore grandchildren looked like then I should be called an 'emotional retard' according to some lights. I say it's a personal preference. If I didn't want a granddaughter to look like Justice Kagan then I think I should be allowed that personal freedom and I should not be called names..

It's quite ironic that the person who purports to be liberal on the subject is the most cutting and judgmental of other people's preferences and uses the word 'retard' as a weapon.

Personally, I would rather have my grandchildren with a decent personality and some control over their vitriol than a great appearance; but I do find some people more aesthetically pleasing than others and I bet plenty of other people do too.

I think Mohamed Ali was a physically attractive individual with a great personality too.

He was never known to call people 'retards' or start his replies with 'Rubbish'

[Trumplestiltskin 5,791]

If a parent objected to their daughters boyfriend solely because he has a big nose, what would you call it?

It seems, at the least, petty and shallow.

[trinket 30]

Rubbish. No parent is interested in the physical appearance of their offsprings partner, what they want is for partner to be stable, employed;, emotionally mature and honest. If they had all those attributes no parent would give a toss what the dude looked like - unless the parents were emotional retards themselves of course.

You should checkout some Indian matrimonial adds/sites........."bride must be fair in complexion"

[Peikko 1,575]

Generalize much?

I did quality the generalization. Apparently 'lightness of skin' is a preference but I am going to bet that applies more to the parents of boys than girls The grl's parents are going to be looking at the size of his wallet, not his physical attributes and the boys parents are going to look for a good return on their investment - regardless, we were talking about the US and attitudes here, not elsewhere.

I also wonder how a parent explains to their child that they do not approve of their choice because they find their choice physically repugnant in some way. I can just imagine the conversation and inn the US the parent's wishes are not gong to prevail

[Captain Oates 911]

If a parent objected to their daughters boyfriend solely because he has a big nose, what would you call it?

It seems, at the least, petty and shallow.

Depends how big it was...

Even hyper 'politically correct' extremists might object to having the elephant man near their bananas..

Ever heard the expression 'with a face only a mother could love ' ? I didn't invent it and it's not new.

Larry King has been presented to 5 sets of in laws and gotten away with it - so being plug ugly can be overcome with a well stocked bank account

Of course Liz Hurley gets with them for their personalities and they with her - I should cocoa.

It's Sunday - let's get real

[Trumplestiltskin 5,791]

Let's get real. Unless the kid is dating a bum, the parent isn't likely to care what the daughters boyfriend looks like.

[Captain Oates 911]

Let's get real. Unless the kid is dating a bum, the parent isn't likely to care what the daughters boyfriend looks like.

What if his face looks like a bum (UK usage)

My concern would be that my pretty daughter would make his life hell coz he knows that he is lucky to be with her.

I think being similar in the 'looks' pecking order helps with those problems

As far as grand children are concerned, the way genetics work, it doesn't necessarily follow that one parent's looks will transfer.

For instance, my daughter married a plug ugly millionaire and her kids are spectacularly good looking - that shows the looks can come from the grandfather rather than the spouse.

[chri'stina 190]

I kept thinking maybe I should post here and maybe I shouldn't bother, but here I am posting finally.

I grew up with a strong protestant, devout, born again Christian influence on the way my family and most friends have lived our lives down here in Florida(not very southern around where I grew up or live now). And we didn't agree with Bob Jones Univ's strict rules on certain things, especially not supporting a rule like no interracial dating. I remember when I was young hearing people in our circle say it was absurd.

At one Christian high school I went to, there were some kids who thought it was a fine choice and maybe one or two went there out of hundreds of students. I never thought it sounded like a good college to go to myself. I went to a state university.

If some people are willing to defend a political way of life more than agreeing that it was a bad rule, then what are you gonna do. I am conservative on many things, and probably share some fundamental spiritual beliefs with the university(I haven't read their info, so who knows really), but I wouldn't support the rule they had about interracial dating, nor being against contemporary Christian music, nor a lot of what was mentioned in the article.

You should checkout some Indian matrimonial adds/sites........."bride must be fair in complexion"

True. There are cultural differences to consider. I personally don't support that kind of thing but it is going on all over the world.

Edited July 26, 2010 by chri'stina