Engagement ring

[Mags 112]

Personally, I'd like a ring big and sharp enough to rip the skin off his face when I slap him and present the divorce papers.

But that's just me.

I'm fussy like that.

[Mithra 1,185]

I got my "engagement" ring after we got married, lol. I didn't trust the quality of diamonds (too many fakes) in Egypt so we got plain rings when we got married. After he arrived in the U.S. I got a proper diamond 3-stone, square cut diamond ring(not huge but nice) plus a diamond band to replace the plain gold one from Egypt. I'm not a yellow gold person. I kept the first band for sentimental value.

I guess to answer the question, it depends on the person but I'm more traditional so I like a diamond engagement ring, personally.

Edited July 22, 2010 by je veux ton amour

[IndigoSkies 168]

I was shocked and I am still shocked about the previous comment added by IndigoSkies related to "poor Indonesian girl". I can't believe how some people just don't mind placing you a post-it note on the forehead. I'm aware of the fact that some people hunt visas, but you have to know someone to come and post that horrible thing about that certain person. And so what if an Indonesian girl finds her other half in the USA?! That can only mean she's hunting a visa so she should consider a "diamond" moving to the USA??? I'm shocked by how mean some people are. Those girls don't deserve to be loved and receive a diamond or any other gift as well? OMG.

You are looking at it from only one perspective: That is Indonesian girl is gold-digging in VISA sense. Maybe you should also consider pathetic losers in America find their "love" in poor 3rd world countries. Which is not too different that buying a wife aka plaything. No one would give these losers a second though who knows them in America. They're only chance is deception that spans thousands of miles. I'm sure Indonesians girls give in knowing full well that their marrying a old geezers. They make this sacrifice for a better life.

My comments were not meant for anyone specific. It's just a general observation about most people who find "love" thousands of miles away, who are culturally so different that it's night and day. It's different if you're both Indonesian. Or if you lived Indonesia for a while and met someone and fell in love. But though the internet? Come now. You can't fall in love through the interweb if you're 45 years old (white guy who can't meet a girl locally) and you're in "love" with a 21 years old Indonesian girl.

As with any stereotype, there are always exceptions. I'm sure maybe there is exactly 1 case of true love between 45 years old socially inept white guy and a poor 21 years old Indonesia girl.

When I see a 23 years old world-travelling girl from America falling in love with Pakistani guy, I think to myself: "Sweet! Globalisation!" But when I see a 50 years old white man who's awkward walking with a young Indonesian girl who doesn't speak a lick of English, I think to myself "This is aweful. For both of them. I wonder if they'll invite me to their divorce party once in exactly 15 months." Call me a jerk if you want, but there is some truth to this. Isn't there?

Edited July 22, 2010 by IndigoSkies

[Ban Hammer 13,332]

Personally, I'd like a ring big and sharp enough to rip the skin off his face when I slap him and present the divorce papers.

But that's just me.

I'm fussy like that.

be nice to the platy!

[Amby 490]

I like diamonds, but I always forget to put jewelry on. I don't know if I care or not.

[Peikko 1,575]

I like diamonds, but I always forget to put jewelry on. I don't know if I care or not.

A woman after my own heart

Diamonds really are very sparkly, there's no getting around that, and sparkly is fun.

[evli1966 88]

I purchased Josephines and gave to her as a surprise in april 2009.

It was a modest ring but deifinitly an eye catcher.

She was thrilled, cried, laughed, screamed and then got angry at me.

She asked why I would purchase this item and expect her to wear it in the Phillipines.

When I told her the beauty of the diamond reminded me of how much I love her and how beautiful she was that I had to buy it.

Oh and that it was fully insured.

Let just say she was no longer mad at me.

[Raluca805 1]

When I see a 23 years old world-travelling girl from America falling in love with Pakistani guy, I think to myself: "Sweet! Globalisation!" But when I see a 50 years old white man who's awkward walking with a young Indonesian girl who doesn't speak a lick of English, I think to myself "This is aweful. For both of them. I wonder if they'll invite me to their divorce party once in exactly 15 months." Call me a jerk if you want, but there is some truth to this. Isn't there?[/font]

I took this comment from a US citizen( if it matters) :

When i see a muslim person on the roads, all dressed up with bed linen,I think to myself ''Sh** we're in trouble !He might have smth bad hidden under that!'' And don't call him a jerk, just like you do not want to be called one.It is just his opinion about what he sees around him, just like You have an opinion. Now YOU judge!

IMO- This was an interesting topic to discuss, ladies bring along your opinions.It is not something bad that i like diamonds and BMW cars,poor or no poor,European or Asian; it is what it is and in a democratic world, we have been taught that we should not be afraid to express what we like and what we do not ( of course within moral limits).

Edited July 22, 2010 by Raluca805

[EllaC 190]

IndigoSkies, do you have an issue with Indonesia? Really, because that's how it looks like. And oh, about 45 years old Americans and their much younger half... that's their business. If that's what they want and what they want is each other, then so be it.

My fiance is 9 years older than me but I have never seen that as a big difference. When it comes to talking about something serious, I can count on him because he is definitely a grown-up and acts like one. I had boyfriends of my age and I was always ahead. I've always wanted to commit, but they were the ones who couldn't. So, sometimes, an age difference shouldn't be an issue. Of course, it doesn't have to be a huge difference... IMO, of course.

Edited July 22, 2010 by Sunshine13

[EllaC 190]

But let's just get back to our rings. In matters of engagement, I think that it doesn't really matter the ring you choose, but the feelings. The moment, the memories. You can lose a ring, have it changed, someone could steal it from you etc. You can replace it. But the memories will always remain alive in our minds and our souls, they can't be replaced. This is my opinion.

P.S.: I love the fact that I'm engaged to the man of my dreams and I love to love him. I can change my ring if I want to, but I won't change my feelings for him. LOVE's what matters the most.

[Ban Hammer 13,332]

IndigoSkies, do you have an issue with Indonesia? Really, because that's how it looks like. And oh, about 45 years old Americans and their much younger half... that's their business. If that's what they want and what they want is each other, then so be it.

My fiance is 9 years older than me but I have never seen that as a big difference. When it comes to talking about something serious, I can count on him because he is definitely a grown-up and acts like one. I had boyfriends of my age and I was always ahead. I've always wanted to commit, but they were the ones who couldn't. So, sometimes, an age difference shouldn't be an issue. Of course, it doesn't have to be a huge difference... IMO, of course.

he's just mad that lindsey lohan won't answer his love letters

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/266040-im-bored%3B-so-naturally-i-wrote-a-letter-to-lindsey-lohan/page__p__4075818#entry4075818

[EllaC 190]

he's just mad that lindsey lohan won't answer his love letters

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/266040-im-bored%3B-so-naturally-i-wrote-a-letter-to-lindsey-lohan/page__p__4075818#entry4075818

Sorry, IndigoSkies, our friend charles! here... posted something funny. I can't abstain myself from laughing.

[sachinky 465]

My husband, then boyfriend, proposed with the most beautiful ring before graduation. It has one large diamond in the middle, and three smaller ones on each side. It's pretty, I like the shine and sparkle. Makes me happy everytime I look at it!

I thought it was really sweet that he had remembered the style/kind of rings that I had liked while we were walking through a store several months back and chanced upon a display case (before The Proposal). He was actually paying attention to the ones that caught my eye while I was thinking that I should hurry up since he was probably bored out of his mind.

I'm not a fan of gold or any other stones, to be honest. I like plain silver or white gold, and diamond goes with anything, really. I'm not a big jewellery fan -- I wear two diamond studs in my ears, one on my nose and I like that the ring goes with all of that.

I also wear my gold wedding band, similar to the one he has, that we purchased with my mother in Calcutta.

[Jenn! 918]

For me, that money is better spent elsewhere. I don't appreciate expensive jewelry. I'd rather have the money in my 401k. Romantic, huh?

[VanessaTony 3,567]

My husband insisted on diamonds. It's important to him and hey, as the others said, I like sparkly!

That said, I don't wear it all the time. I wear it when we go out but not around the house. I don't wash dishes with it on, or shower, or go to sleep with it on (unlike some girls I know who do).

My hubby didn't do the whole big proposal thing. Do I wish he did? Sometimes honestly the end result is the same. I am his wife, he is my husband. I know he loves me and he knows I love him. Ring or no ring, big proposal or not, that doesn't change the facts.