ive got a question for yall

[Kathryn41 3,205]

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If you think people in the Canada forum are a$$holes, try going into different areas of the discussion boards. You'll be in for a surprise.

What people here are telling you is the truth. It might not be the nicest thing in the world, but it's the truth. Most (or all) of the people who have responded to your questions have gone through the K-1 or spousal visa process and we know how stressful it can be.

Remember this is a public forum and people can say what they please. Also other people can read what you're writing even if they don't respond or aren't signed up to the website. Be careful about what you type. It's happened in the past that the people at the Montreal consulate know who you are just by your timeline and if you say anything insulting, they can make your life even harder.

Keep your head up, and one good rule to follow on the internet is : don't take ANYTHING personally.

Thanks! I know but its just so frustrating I dont mean to sound mean or whatsover. But its hard when you are trying to get some info to make things easier or better ect and you get rude responds. Im fet up of people saying you have no rights and they are only doing their jobs. If you really have been thru ####### then it would show when you give advice ect. Many of you have given me advice I dont think its true advice. And about the visiting im so confused i recieved so many different statements. i dont know what to do. i guess i should wait and that that. i know how things work but i have a right to vent no? im not trying to be better or rude to no one. but im fet up of people thinking they own me. fine give ur advice. be nice polite informative and professional. im not your friend. you dont like me but this should have nothing to do with it but i guess it does how sad. anyways i stand aside what i believe in and anyone can think different, their prerogative, i respect that you respect me.

[Flames9_RN 358]

If your getting info from other forums other than Canada, it probably will differ. For some countries it is very hard to come in as a visitor!

You can believe what you want, life continues. But no one other than a USA citizen has the right to enter the USA, it is as simple as that! If you get denied entry, and cause a commotion, the end result may not be pretty. For the most part, the POE officers are great! I chatted baseball/hockey with a few of them! And of course their are jerks, every organization has a few! But they do have a very important job to do and each day I bet they get lied to over and over, which I bet gets frustrating. So once again it comes down to past idiots ruining it for others! They have to decide if your telling the truth or not. And if you give them any hint that you may not be telling the truth, they are going to investigate that! Now you may be telling the truth, but you may be unknowingly be saying words that are raising their suspicion or your body language is sending off signals! You may have all the intention in the world to be returning to Canada, but what the POE officer is hearing is another thing. he doesn't know you, so he has to go by what your telling him and hopefully some evidence of you returning.

[Udella&Wiz 325]

If your getting info from other forums other than Canada, it probably will differ. For some countries it is very hard to come in as a visitor!

You can believe what you want, life continues. But no one other than a USA citizen has the right to enter the USA, it is as simple as that! If you get denied entry, and cause a commotion, the end result may not be pretty. For the most part, the POE officers are great! I chatted baseball/hockey with a few of them! And of course their are jerks, every organization has a few! But they do have a very important job to do and each day I bet they get lied to over and over, which I bet gets frustrating. So once again it comes down to past idiots ruining it for others! They have to decide if your telling the truth or not. And if you give them any hint that you may not be telling the truth, they are going to investigate that! Now you may be telling the truth, but you may be unknowingly be saying words that are raising their suspicion or your body language is sending off signals! You may have all the intention in the world to be returning to Canada, but what the POE officer is hearing is another thing. he doesn't know you, so he has to go by what your telling him and hopefully some evidence of you returning.

Agree who heartedly - no one really knows most times what set's off the suspicions of the border guard if it does happen. I feel lucky that I never had an incident in 4 years and we continue NOT to...but I know otehrs haven;t been so lucky

D&JDianaM - no one thinks they own you or wants to boss you around Some of us may be a little older then you though(I'm just guessing, but I know I am) - we're certainly from all ages and we think telling you the bad stuff will be helpful in preparing you - don't take it too hard though. Wouldn't it be good to be prepared?

Good luck - I think we've stressed you a bit over what can happen ina worst case scenario, but thinking positive and being honest as Flames says works best.