Runaway wife will not co-operate

[Married2009 32]

Thanks everybody who made sincere and earnest replies. I was really only looking for advice on how best to serve her, what to tell the USCIS, etc...

Like I posted, I had already come to terms that the marriage had failed. I didn't really need any relplies on "what she is really up to", or me needing to "step back" because I had a wife and not a dog. I always thought VJ was a great website with concerned members but was a little shocked to read that I had been "kicked to the curb" and have to face it, while I'm sitting here drinking a tall ice tea in my home where I work. Doesn't feel like street living to me, hmmmmm. Sounds like that person posting it is just revealing what's happened to themselves.

And I already knew about having no AOS vs having filed it, etc.. Divorce vs. Annulment. But thanks anyhow.

I just wondered what other people had done in my situation and what worked best. Thanks to all the people who gave straightforward, clear, tactical advice, like doing the Divorce by Publication, which I've definitely considered.

Fact is she is very docile, scared person. Some people here posted that she is some highly sophisticated scammer, which is not valid. She is young and both of her parents are dead. She is running around because she is panicking about going back to the Philippines, and if the people in ARMM are as bad as people say, then she has the right to be scared. Just because a marriage has failed doesn't mean that you have to be enemies. You can still care for them, even if they are not co-operating.

I will have her served in the next few days, and it should be over soon. I guess I will call the USCIS and tell them what's up. Thanks again everybody who posted the advice that I was looking for.

Best wishes for you both.

[Mr. K 8]

mojorayjones,

I hope you are able to work your situation out and protect yourself. After everything that you did to get her here, I am sure you don't deserve this treatment. And I agree, you have every right to "demand".

[Nicole-N-Nattoy 24]

I want to aplogize for my previous posts. i realize now how ignorant i was acting. i just got caught up in the debate. I am very sorry that things are not working out.

I couldn't imagine being affraid to go back to my country or having both parents dead. I guess being an American it's easy 4 me to forget what

people can go through around the world and take for granted how nice it is to be in a country where im free to love anyone i choose. Again

i am very sorry and hope that things will turn out good for you and yours.

Edited July 25, 2010 by Nicole-N-Nattoy