getting a little nervous

[debby1 0]

My fiance mailed out his pictures, letter of intent, and the G-325A forms to me and said I should get them in a couple of days. Which means I now have to get all the I-129F stuff together. I've been reading and reading and am still confused on some issues.

The letter of intent he sent me, was copied from this forum, example forms. He didn't give any details, cuz I told him to just follow the instructions. Was that a bad idea? because some people, I've read, included letters explaining their relationship. I thought that was for me to do, per line 18 of the I-129F form.

I've also read that only a few chat messages are needed to send in. But I've been through our chat messages, and most of them are atleast 10 pages per chat. Some are 20. There were nights when I was up until 4am talking to him, when we started our chat at 9pm. So, how much is too much? And what portions should I send if I have to cut some stuff out? Should I just send the mushy, falling in love stuff? Because we started out chatting as just friends, it wasn't until I actually went there in April that we really started to fall in love.

How many pictures should I send?

Should I write a detailed letter on how we met, and fell in love? Because its' complicated, and I don't know how I can narrow it down to just one page, as the form instructs me to.

Should my daughters write seperate letters? Because they've become really attached to him. My daughters are 17 years old and 15 years old. They aren't rebellious, typical teens, they are really smart, God fearing girls. They are more mature than I am on most days, and it took them awhile to fully trust him, so the fact that they will go online to ask him for advice, or call him when they are feeling upset, says a lot about our relationship. I think its important, but then again, I've read in some posts to never give more than what the embassy asks for. So, should they write the letters?

What needs to be notorized? Is there any original documents I have to send in, or can I copy everything, like my birth certificate and divorce certificate?

I have a million questions going through my head, and I know I should get started on the form, but I freeze up eveytime I open it up. I get so nervous about this. Mostly because I'm afraid that when my fiance gets here, he will see that America isn't what he has always thought it would be and he will be unhappy here. That scares me more than any of this other stuff. We've talked about it, and he says he understands that, but everyone has this perception that America is so wonderful. But the Americans he will come across are nothing like Filipino's. We aren't as friendly, we aren't as family oriented, we aren't as driven...

does anyone else have those fears? Or am I just being a girl?

Thanks so much if you read this all the way to the end! As always, any advice you can give me will be greatly appreciated....I'm going to open the form again...wish me luck!

Debby

[TooBig 0]

First things first ...........Relax ....... We all have been there.

We sent the stock "Letter Of Intent "

We sent chat messages that spaned the relationship ....Differant dates and times

We had just maybe 10 pictures ..........

Play it safe .........notirize the stuff you sign

If it asks for a copy .....send the copy .......if it ask for the original send the original

It will be a HUGE change for him .......... But he will like it

RELAX

[peace 0]

relax...everything will be alright... here's a BIG hug for you.

zane

[woodgc 0]

I sent a 3/4 of a page on how we meet and got an Rfe asking to expand on how we meet so I would make it a very clear short introduction on how it happened and then a full page on what where when why. Just remember that no matter how good you make the papers sometimes you get an RFE so do not worry it all works out in the end anyway

[chuckandkim 0]

Welcome! 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10 phew!!!!!!!

Ok take a deep breath because everything is going to be alright no matter what happens when you are taking a ride on the VJ Rollercoaster ride We've all been through it! There will be moments of panic attack, joy beyond recognition and fear of losing hope! But it's all gonna be ok!

Echoing most, I would write my "LOVE STORY" in chronological order: WHO WHERE WHEN WHY HOW you two met, hopefully in the past 24 months before you file an I-129F petition. This is the MOST important condition to qualify for filing I-129F benefit. Remember: one (1) page, almost like a timeline but with a little more hearts into it!

Chat logs: None stop chatting with your LOVE (days and nights)

Boardingpass: Travel to meet your LOVE

Phone-record: Spending real quality time and recking up the phonebill for LOVE

Handwriten Letters: great evidence, emailing is too easy, hand-writen takes much more effort (LOVE)

Picture: send enough for them to see you two were together and doing stuff while you were with him.

Passport stamps: Show you actually travel there to meet your Love

List can go on and on, bottom line is, right now you need to show them you MEET him at least once and you want to file the I-129F benefit on his behalf. Think of it as if you would tell a short story of your lovestory for a super busy CEO who only has 5 mins to decide whether or not you two are truely in love and should get approved! NO PRESSURE HERE Just kidding!

Ok, just relax and collect the evidence ok.... the VJ Power is with you!

Cheers,

chuck and kim

Play it safe .........notirize the stuff you sign

RELAX

They don't ask for notary! Don't trouble yourself!