Regretting that I am a US CITIZEN!!

[rika60607 215]

The two of you have been through five years of immigration hell.

Real relationship can be broken by this and seeing that he was persistent in trying to get your forgiveness, he probably did love you and cared for what you think about him.

Take comfort in the past and move on, get divorced and let him deal with his new hell all by himself. He is no longer your burden.

[Nikita2Charles 32]

I am sorry you went through this horrible experience, there's no reason to be ashamed to be an American, Things happen in life for a reason, God always watching after us, sometimes God works in mysterious ways, Just the fact you got the misinformation and went to Canada with him and the officer doing his job holding him back was a sign, what's meant to be will be, If his intention were not as geniune, the same thing could have happen after he got his Immigration paperwork done here in the US, It would have been even more painfull and hurtfull down the road, please accept my sympathy and with God's help you will go through this, don't blame yourself, you did nothing wrong, all you did was loving someone who wasn't honest, I beleive in Karma, what goes around comes around.

[candn 17]

I am so sorry that happened. I was so emotional reading your story. You will be in my thoughts. Stay strong. You did nothing wrong. The only thing you did was to love and there is nothing wrong with that.

[venassa 0]

Im so sorry and this is just the worst story i have ever heard. But i want you to know that God is with you. He feels your pain, he knows your heart. Ask him to help you, to heal you, to wrap his arms around you. Read the book of James. I know easier said then done...I wont get into my past situation, but I can tell you, when you really surrender to him and give him your heart he will heal you. God has an amazing man for you, you have to trust him. Your husband was not the man for your plan, perhaps you had feeligns or urges you were ignoring and it was the Lord telling you it wasnt the right road. I dont know. But I do know that youll be in my prayers and that there is an AMAZING person out there for you, and he will be a blessing. Keep your faith.

Cast your cares upon the Lord, for he cares about you. 1 Peter 5.7

Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him and He shall direct your paths. Proverbs 3.5-6

[Manjie 0]

Its a pity u went thru such hell....no worries dear u gonna b ok just stay calm ok

[Nicole-N-Nattoy 24]

Honey i have been treated like that by my own kind...American men..Heart break is a part of life. U will learn from this. Nobody is mad at you for wanting love. Heck we all want it, you fought hard for it!

You sould be proud of yourself. i think with all the problems that was God's way of saying

that was not what you were supposed to be doing. I wish nothing but the best for you. How

about a Jamaican man? They are the best! HEHE Just kidding about that last part

[Cortr 3]

I am sorry for your pain, but it is because of his own doing, not because you are a US Citizen.

[blesseddude 0]

What a heart-wrenching story! At least, you didn't bare a child from him. It would have been a life time pain. The emotional pain you're going through right now shall heal. You're a WONDERFUL lover. We all experience heart breaks, even though not as bad as yours. I STRONGLY disagree with the advice some people are giving you about reporting him to canadian immigration so that he would be deported. At least, some people have the right sense to consider the CHILD that is conceived by the other woman. You keep being a good woman, and God will surely reward you in many ways. He can give you another truly loving man, he can bless your daughter, etc...

May God bring quick healing to your heart!!!

[Brother Hesekiel 2,236]

I read the story and wonder, what does that have to do with regretting to being a US citizen?

A guy from a poor country used you in order to get his Green Card. Due to a mistake you guys made when traveling, it didn't work out. When you finally found out the truth about him, you were hurt like hell, which is quite understandable (who wouldn't be?), but what does any of this have to do with being a US citizen?

You could have been a Canadian or British or Greek citizen and a guy like him would have pulled the same stunt on you. Not the same guy, but another one.

Lesson to be learned: get to know the guy you marry. Get to know him well, very well, exceedingly well, before you turn you life upside down just for him.

Luckily, there is always a tomorrow. Tomorrow will be a wonderful day.

Edited July 21, 2010 by Just Bob

[RICARDO4EVA2 194]

I am so sorry. If I were you I would contact Canadian immigration and explain to them that he used you to get immigration benefits and that he is using this other woman to get immigration benefits in Canada. I am sorry but he doesn't deserve to be in the two best countries in the world. I feel bad that you have to go through this, but I honestly feel he should not gain any benefits as he was trying to commit marriage fraud. If you go to the embassy or immigration and report him, hopefully they will put a big red flag and deny him permanent residency. I would also contact US immigration as well and let them know this as well since it is a crime. If he is convicted of immigration fraud he can kiss his Canadian residency goodbye. Canada is very strict on people who have criminal records. I know deep down in your heart you still care, but he played you for a fool. You should be proud that you are a US citizen, it's just sad that so many are taken advantage of only for immigration benefits.

*********** Good afternoon and I am pleased to be apart of this. The information given to you by the person named about is so true. Well, I don't want rage but we want justice and fair treatment. I am not a US Citizen but will be in the next 2 months or so.. You're an American that's great and the US govt isnt happy with Immigration fraud s- he go ahead and call both the US / Canadian officials and let the law deal with him, he'll be alright and you'll be even better! ************

[Jadenjewel 9]

Well my fellow VJers... it has been a few months since my last posting... quite a few heartwrenching, devestating months!

Unfortunately my Visa Journey is now coming to an end and not a happy one... I am still in shock, disbelief, anguish and hurt and now merely

another sad static. I have read many sad stories here of other people in the same position one way or another being victim to someone merely wanting citizenship.I had so

much sympathy and compassion for all of them... but said to myself no that wont happen to me...

My heart (what is left of it) and prayers go out to all of them.. May I also be so bold as to advise all of you still waiting.... no matter how much he or she says

they love you.... protect yourself and make sure there is trust and even arrangements made for..."what if US immigration isnt approved" have they asked and even made arrangements

of any kind for you to return to their home country or another country in order to remain husband and wife???? If not..then chances are pretty high they just want US citizenship.

Having kept this all to myself and not spoke of any problems to my friends or family.... I am left to fulfill my need to have someone to talk to, by posting here. So for anyone

who cares to listen.... here goes..

We were married August 2005... my husband was here in US on tourist visa. Our I130 was on the dining room table (awaiting copy of our marriage certificate to arrive in the mail) as we

drove to Canada to visit some friends, do some business errands, and have our honeymoon. It was absolutely wonderful! Wonderful until we came to customs to return to US. (Note... before

we left we placed a telephone call to an attorney supposedly experienced with immigration to ask if we need anything or should have any problems... his response... "no as long as his tourist visa

is valid") When questioned by the booth officer as to why we were in Canada.. we spoke the truth... friends, business and we were celebrating our honeymoon" He said ohhh great congratulations! A few minutes

of him writing something and on the computer... he handed us a slip and said ok you need to go inside and speak with them. Once inside and questioned... they asked if we had a I130 in process. told them no it

was not submitted yet because we were waiting for marriage certificate...which by the way arrived in mail the day we left for Canada. Then they took my husband's passport drew a line thru it...voiding it and said... you can go back to US but he can not... he is now your husband and you must submit I130. They gave him a 6 month visa to stay in Canada. "Totally inlove" I was not leaving without him. we turned around, went back to Canada

searched for hotel, I stayed for two more days and left him with my car and returned by bus to US to handle I130.. Totally lost devestated and crying the whole 6 hour bus ride home. Being Niave I drove 4 hours to Vermont

Service Center to submit my I130 expecting some kind of piece of paper to take to Canada to retrieve my husband. More hysteria sets in.... no no no what do you mean could take 6 months to a year????

computer research, inquiries... telephone calls..and then my eyes are truly OPENED with my introduction to VISA Journey.com....

After confirming this could take months... we got an apartment... my husband began his own arrangements to begin attaining temporary permission to stay in Canada after the 6 months while we waited for the I130.

Now with a few exceptions,,, for the next three years EVERY Sunday I drove 5 hours to spend one week in Canada to be wife to my husband and then the next week in US to be mom to my adult daughter and keep my

business functioning. Every little thing that could go wrong seemed to go wrong to delay the processing and completion of the I130. (word of advise... always always confirm and reconfirm any and all

information requirements and/or procedures you will need.. Lawyers and yes even USCIS employees give incorrect information causing even more frustration and delay.

Fast forward now.... 2006 at the interview we are informed we need a I601 submitted due to his almost 6 month overstay in US back in 1994) More delays in getting required documents and information

to submit the I601 waiver... hours and hours and months.... I finally submit almost 200 pages of waiver in Sept 2007. Periodic inquiries over the next year get me nothing but processing

was told could take up to 18 months. Almost 2 years later I finally get the senators office to do something. Within 24 hours of Senators office asking for supervisor... we receive denial! hmmmm????

July 2009... my husband begins telling me they are never gonna approve....you should go on with your life and he should begin considering alternative....

alternatives I thought meant living in greece or something.... not family prearranging Arabic woman in Canada!!!! (Why did I not try to live in Canada you ask.... I did paid all the money for processing residency

there only to be denied... I didnt meet the required "Point system" due to them not accepting my post high school education as "Accreditied Colleges") the last 8 months I began to see strains on our relationship..

my husband who was always open... loving... and eager was becoming irritable, reclusive and even secretive... this combined with my visits becoming every two weekends to twice only going up one long weekend for the month

due to family illness, death and my getting hurt. Then boommmm the bombshell dropped... his words cut like a knife....." we have to accept things... they are never going to approve and my time

in Canada is running out... have to make other arrangements... his tears and his words, telling me I should not come up for awhile because it hurts too much and we should try to make it easier incase we do have to be seperated... for the next long almost three months... his phone calls still every nite and even more than once a day, ...kept me believing our love..and hoping and working on US approval...

I go to his work just before his is to be done because I knew I wouldnt be able to get into the apartment because he had informed me allegedly someone broke into the apartment a month prior and he had to change the locks...

I call his cell to tell him I am outside.....he comes out... what are you doing here I thought you were not coming up until two weeks longer... told him I couldnt wait any longer

told him I would just go home unpack and make diner for him... he said no wait 20 minutes for me to get out of work... want to go for a drive first.

I anxiously wait... he comes out... takes me for a drive... go to a park and he says... walk with me... I have to talk to you... "I have tried so many times to tell you over the phone but I didnt want to hurt you but

I have been telling you I have to make arrangements because my time is running out... you cant go to the apartment...someone else is living there now... moved in today!

What???? I was hysterical.... I couldnt beleive it...crying questioning overwhelmed I make him bring me back to my car... all the time him begging... pleading... even crying that he was so sorry and didnt want to hurt me

and trying to convince me that he did and STILL does loves me!!! I get back to my car and take off to our apartment... he follows me.... arriving at the apartment before him... I look up and can see in the window a woman there and some of my stuff in the hallway.... I ring the buzzard to open outside door... she answers hello hello... I say I am XXXX"s wife let me in... she says no XXXXX lives here he moved....

He comes running down the walkway now.....devastated I run to my car... he hops in from passenger side pulls my keys out and says wait wait listen...

Fast forward again....I am too upset and besides myself to drive the almost 6 hour back to US... He brings me to hotel... spends next 2 hours pleading with me to understand and forgive him for hurting me... all the while

she keeps calling his cell every 15 minutes or so... he leaves and ofcourse I dont sleep... just cry and vomit all nite... he begs me to stay and talk to him more tomorrow. ok I guess enough details

on the subject.... I am sure you get the jest of it all..

Now the next two months of his calls and my tears and pain... while I try to figure things out.... he keeps telling me.... you dont have to divorce me.. he doesnt want a divorce... he just

needs time to figure out... that she is just incase... because I wouldnt be able to see him if he was sent back to EGYPT..etc Also two months of her and her friends sending me emails saying she was told

we were getting divorced long before her but had been held up for a year because I wouldnt sign and I was just for US citizenhip etc ...

Well I find out that a Canadian citizen can sponsor as common law partner.. all they have to do is prove living together. Now the Ultimate betrayal!!!!!!! I find out yesterday that she is pregnant!!!!

just arrangement for Canada papers.... bullcrap!!! He just didnt want me to divorce and cancel US.. I am sure now his intentions were to wait and divorce me after he got his US approval.. How could I have been so stupid and such a fool!!!!! shock...devestation...betrayl....pain pain pain... these words dont even begin to describe how I feel now.

I have always been happy and proud to be a US citizen.... but because of this I regret being a US citizen...

Thank you for listening....now I must begin to deal with how I will face the shame and hurt and foolishness I feel when telling my family and friends

God bless and spare anyone this kind of pain

There really are no words to comfort you after this betrayal. I am deeply sorry that you have been hurt so badly!

I agree with RICARDO4EVA2 that it would be wise to contact Canadian immigration as well. this is what gives the process a difficult name. I believe this other woman is being duped as well and he is a player of some sort.

We are all just people in the grand scheme of things and some people are devious and there conduct shows that.

I hope that some peace and love return to your life.

thinking of you,

Jewel

[Hicham♥Sara 15]

This is a terrible story and no one deserves to go through this pain. It sounds like you gave yourself fully and whole in this relationship. If he truly loved you he could have just gone back to Egypt and started the process correctly right? It seems like a desperate attempt to get him citizenship somewhere like the USA or Canada. Yes we are a great country, but great country or not love conquers all. Just remember though this is not the end of your story.. this is a piece not the whole movie. Have faith and know that as long as you don't shut the door , good will most certainly come. Keep hope and faith alive in your heart. God bless you and I am so sorry to hear about this.

“Love comes to those who still hope even though they've been disappointed, to those who still believe even though they've been betrayed, to those who still love even though they've been hurt before.”

[sachinky 465]

As I like to say, good riddance to bad rubbish.

You deserve better. Hang in there, lady! Keep the faith.

[Alex~Alan 8]

I read the saga... but I am sorry there is nothing wrong in being US citizen. You were naive and you did not understand the law right.

Officer at the entry did his job and he was 100% right in denying entry to your husband after honeymoon. When he first got his tourist visa, he did state he was going for non-immigrant purpose.

After marriage that status had changed and so did his intention so his B1/B2 is not valid anymore.

You driving to Vermont and just handing the form to someone and they would stamp it right away - comon that does not work that way.

From begining of the story, you I can tell someone coming to US on B1/B2 as tourist and falls madly in love and is getting married to US citizen, most likely he/she is only doing that to live in US - comon.

Sorry I am rude, but m honest and frank.

Harsh is a good name for you...and harsh is how I have interpreted your response to waiting4goozy who, has just poured out her heart in hopes of some kind words. This, quite literally, could happen to any of us! We like to think that this is not possible, but, when our emotions get entangled with another, it is difficult to see a very good con-man/woman. May none of us have to face such misery, but, let us not forget our humanity when someone does face such heartbreak.

[MRStee 19]

I am sorry to hear of your tragedy...I was in a similar boat..I was Canadian and married a US citizen..I had two children from a previous marriage..I give up my life in Canada, marry him and move to US with my two kids...I get my alien card and work permit right away and get a job..It is then that he annouces that he is a "man" trapped in a womans body and wants to have a sex change operation...WTH??? needless to say he refused to sign the immigration paperwork for my kids..so here I am stuck in the US with no family..and two kids I can't get legal..I started divorce proceedings and he has the nerve to change his name to a "female " name..So long story short I have divorce papers that look like I was married to a woman..talk about a kick in the teeth...

This was 6 years ago and all is well now

You didn't need to be with "her" anyway, Im glad you have moved on.. I hope you and the kids are okay