Need some advice about Divorce in Egypt

[sussemadel 16]

JVTA - amen, sister. Yesterday, I had lots of profanity running through my mind but I didn't want to let it fly while on my work 'puter. I think those COs in Cairo were brilliant!

Let's hope his SO sees what he wrote too ...

[~ameriptian~ 54]

As a matter of fact (a loves a) you need to understand some important points here. First, i do believe Sandra and i don't need to really hear about his side of the story to read the obvious signs of FAIL written all over this cheater. Second, being a husband not only means that you agreed to provide and protect this woman that chose to love and trust you with her life, but also to cater to her needs and respect her feelings. This is the barest minimum of your duties as a husband. Yes i said duties and not charity you give to your wife when you feel like it. What this man did is simply stabbing her in the back and abusing her repeatedly if i understood well. As for...

well if you have the right to tell your wife not to have affairs with other men i think she has full right to tell you to stop talking to other women as well, and you should be doing that on your own anyway. As a husband one should at least keep his wife informed of any woman he contacts regularly, notably work colleagues since you are not supposed to be having affairs with other women anyway for no reason. That makes them feel involved and gives them more reasons to trust you, and avoid jealousy to boot!.

Basically, all you need to do is simply sit down and ask yourself: "How would i feel if my wife ......?". Put yourself in her position and try to feel what she would go through. If you TRULY are in love, you will do so effortlessly.

Very well-said, Ahmed!

[Ahmed&Rachel 8]

Thank you for your kind words guys. It is sad that it has become something out of the ordinary to be said and done. People sometimes forget the simplest of things that really CAN make a difference...all the difference in the world actually. The very basic idea of love itself is usually forgotten after a while until marriage either turns into a routine that you practice out of habit only or a selfish desire of possession and control. IF only people would remember this very simple idea: If you truly love someone, your greatest joy in life is to paint a smile on her/his face. What we need to realize is that we have been fused together in the strongest bond in the world. Can you burn your arm? Can you stick a knife in your own heart? Can you pluck the flesh off your bones? Of course not! because these are all part of your body!. Well... your partner is now literally the other half of your soul. Start treating him/her likewise...

[~PalmTreeGurl~ 154]

Thank you for your kind words guys. It is sad that it has become something out of the ordinary to be said and done. People sometimes forget the simplest of things that really CAN make a difference...all the difference in the world actually. The very basic idea of love itself is usually forgotten after a while until marriage either turns into a routine that you practice out of habit only or a selfish desire of possession and control. IF only people would remember this very simple idea: If you truly love someone, your greatest joy in life is to paint a smile on her/his face. What we need to realize is that we have been fused together in the strongest bond in the world. Can you burn your arm? Can you stick a knife in your own heart? Can you pluck the flesh off your bones? Of course not! because these are all part of your body!. Well... your partner is now literally the other half of your soul. Start treating him/her likewise...

Wow! Well said!

[Beauty for Ashes 257]

No. That's not accurate.

He has the right to know he is a party to a court action. He has to be served notice according to the laws of her state. Sending the divorce papers by certified mail is typical.

Note: Sandra didn't ask whether she should do it, she asked how to do it.

If she cannot serve him, she can divorce him with publication and almost all the states allow this. It will take a while but no judge in their right mind wil make her stay married to this jerk. Just google divorce with publication for your state and most states have a way to get divorced if your husband is no where to be found. It will take a while but you can do it.

By the way, the funniest thing I ever saw was a girl getting divorced from an mena guy cheating on her by publishing in Jewish quarterly. Not that he would be reading that any time soon

Dont worry so much. It will take time but its not impossible. Dont let people scare you . Most things can be easily worked out.If you had a house with him or kids with him, um different story. No kids, no house, no community property, dont sweat it.

Be glad you didnt end up like the girl married to the turk on the other forum in here who had her arrested falsely and is going after her house

[Always+Forever 7]

Understanding the reasoning of the CO's in Cairo more and more in regards to your case.. kudos to them for looking out for your fianceé

U read my mind

[mandyu1 5]

I had a friend who divorced her loser husband who she could not locate, and all she had to do was testify that she tried everything she could to locate him and publish her intent to divorce in a newpaper. After 30 days or something like that she could proceed with the divorce. It also helps that you do not have children with him, that would make it more difficult to do, but since you don't and you don't share any assets with him this sounds like a pretty simple case.

[pumkin loves bear 2]

this is th most stupidiest stuff ive ever heard of everyone chats on yahoo or msn or any of the chat places nothing wrong with it as long as u are friends you dont know what he is doing or does he know what you are doing .who's to say u arent chatting with other men u shouldnt be mad i love my husband and he loves me he has friends there in egypt but id never divorce him cause he talks that th most stupidiest thing i ever heard of and the biggiest laugh thats just and easy way out of being married i love my egyptian man we been together for 3 years and i trust him. you maybe dont trust yourself thats why u want a divorce egyptian men arethe best men any woman can get the should be proud they are honest men more than the american men i know i was married to them. but you should sit back and think maybe u chatt and found someone else thats why u want divorce cause u have no proof he has and he has none u have. so when u show everyone proof here then we should believe u anyone can say my man chatts with other women big deal god knows you may also noone here can say u dont they not with u or not with him so dont make him out to be a bad man when u probably doing it yourselfand if any one feels sorry for her well i feel sorry for u u dont know her or him so dont judge them or judge him muslims r good men and honest.

[sachinky 465]

This has nothing to do with being Muslim or not. A jerk is a jerk, irrespective of religious faith.

As I like to say, good riddance to bad rubbish.

Dump his sorry butt and move on. Don't ever look back.

[pumkin loves bear 2]

Very well-said, Ahmed!

you dont know her she can be lying i know american women and u dont im an american maried to an egyptian man and im very happy u just cant go by what she says thats unfair to the man she sounds like she is trying to find a way out before he comes to states. should listen to both sides before u decide whos right. judge would laugh at her if she says i want a divorce on grounds of chatting on computer to friends he would not grant it im telling u even a judge in egypt want give he a divorce on those grounds she better have proof to back her up she will need it.

[mandyu1 5]

this is th most stupidiest stuff ive ever heard of everyone chats on yahoo or msn or any of the chat places nothing wrong with it as long as u are friends you dont know what he is doing or does he know what you are doing .who's to say u arent chatting with other men u shouldnt be mad i love my husband and he loves me he has friends there in egypt but id never divorce him cause he talks that th most stupidiest thing i ever heard of and the biggiest laugh thats just and easy way out of being married i love my egyptian man we been together for 3 years and i trust him. you maybe dont trust yourself thats why u want a divorce egyptian men arethe best men any woman can get the should be proud they are honest men more than the american men i know i was married to them. but you should sit back and think maybe u chatt and found someone else thats why u want divorce cause u have no proof he has and he has none u have. so when u show everyone proof here then we should believe u anyone can say my man chatts with other women big deal god knows you may also noone here can say u dont they not with u or not with him so dont make him out to be a bad man when u probably doing it yourselfand if any one feels sorry for her well i feel sorry for u u dont know her or him so dont judge them or judge him muslims r good men and honest.

This woman did not come on here looking for your approval. What you and your husband feel is ok to do in your relationship may not be how someone else feels, we are all entitled to our own opinion. Maybe you're chatting with other men and admitting that what her husband is doing is wrong would make you look like a hypocrite. My fiance is Egyptian and I know he is a good man, however if all egyptians men were good & honest men then why is Egypt such a high fraud country

Edited July 29, 2010 by mandyu1

[~ameriptian~ 54]

this is th most stupidiest stuff ive ever heard of everyone chats on yahoo or msn or any of the chat places nothing wrong with it as long as u are friends you dont know what he is doing or does he know what you are doing .who's to say u arent chatting with other men u shouldnt be mad i love my husband and he loves me he has friends there in egypt but id never divorce him cause he talks that th most stupidiest thing i ever heard of and the biggiest laugh thats just and easy way out of being married i love my egyptian man we been together for 3 years and i trust him. you maybe dont trust yourself thats why u want a divorce egyptian men arethe best men any woman can get the should be proud they are honest men more than the american men i know i was married to them. but you should sit back and think maybe u chatt and found someone else thats why u want divorce cause u have no proof he has and he has none u have. so when u show everyone proof here then we should believe u anyone can say my man chatts with other women big deal god knows you may also noone here can say u dont they not with u or not with him so dont make him out to be a bad man when u probably doing it yourselfand if any one feels sorry for her well i feel sorry for u u dont know her or him so dont judge them or judge him muslims r good men and honest.

If a husband/fiance/boyfriend in a committed relationship has too much time to chat with other women he doesn't know online, while he is still apart from his partner and doesn't put that time to invest in their relationship, then there's something wrong in there.

It's about respecting your spouse more than anything. I know my husband is my best friend and I don't need to get to know other people of the opposite sex online. People who keep chatting with people they don't know even though they DO KNOW it's not ok with their spouses, have SERIOUS issues with commitment and respect.

If you're ok with that your Egyptian Muslim (which doesn't indicate anything) husband chats with other women online, then it's fine...it's your relationship. Most people who have strong relationships, have open talks about what to do and what not to do to make each other comfortable. If Sandra stated that she was not comfortable with her ex-husband's behavior, and he still disrespected her feelings..then there was something wrong with the relationship. PERIOD.

[mandyu1 5]

If that is what she wants to do is get out of the marriage early then that is her business. She simply said she found out information she did not approve of and she was divorcing him, and asked for help on what she had to do. Also, you don't need to tell a judge you want to divorce on grounds of chatting, the only time he would laugh at that would be if she was accusing him of an affair and going after him for alimony, which in this case she's not because he isn't even here. In the United States you don't need approval from your spouse to divorce, and all you have to tell the judge that the marriage has fallen apart and cannot be restored, you don't need to give details, they don't care, they see enough cases in a day and don't have time to hear all the details.

[~ameriptian~ 54]

you dont know her she can be lying i know american women and u dont im an american maried to an egyptian man and im very happy u just cant go by what she says thats unfair to the man she sounds like she is trying to find a way out before he comes to states. should listen to both sides before u decide whos right. judge would laugh at her if she says i want a divorce on grounds of chatting on computer to friends he would not grant it im telling u even a judge in egypt want give he a divorce on those grounds she better have proof to back her up she will need it.

I actually I've known her for over a year an half and she's a strong wonderful lady who has given a lot to that man who disrespected her feelings and their relationship. She has waited long enough on him, but he did not deserve her. She did the best for herself, son, and her future.

Who I don't know is you...

[msheesha 548]

I actually I've known her for over a year an half and she's a strong wonderful lady who has given a lot to that man who disrespected her feelings and their relationship. She has waited long enough on him, but he did not deserve her. She did the best for herself, son, and her future.

Who I don't know is you...

perfectly said Aya!