Divorce Forum?

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

Yodrak posed the original question over one week ago.

Vote yes or vote no. I am not including a "do not know" option because if you don't know, I don't wanna hear from you

[Fuzzness 2]

this is a site for people going through the family immigration process.... not a divorce. so, no.

[Yodrak 7]

Fuzzness,

Unfortunately quite a few people using this site to go through the family immigration process are also going through a divorce, and they have questions and need information the relevant to their situation just as those who are not going through a divorce do.

And they're asking their questions and they're being given answers, just as those who are not going through a divorce are.

So they're here and they're participating - whether there's a forum that caters to their needs or not.

So what else do you have for a reason? Or do you propose that we change the TOS to exclude them?

Yodrak

this is a site for people going through the family immigration process.... not a divorce. so, no.

Edited August 11, 2006 by Yodrak

[tmma 467]

..I agree with Yodrak.

Edited August 11, 2006 by tmma

[landp 0]

I agree, the process is not the easiest and some unfortunately (including myself) end up in divorce. I still participate helping others going through the process, but sometimes I wish I could go to a forum to answer these questions as well.

[Trumplestiltskin 5,791]

Considering that there is a higher than average 'failure' rate for immigrant marriages - I say go for it.

Although prepare to attract the divorce lawyer 'netarios' - I wonder how long it will take before UPL scaremongering crops up again

[MrMrsKnight 0]

I agree with Yodrak too. Sadly some people going through immigration are also going through divorce and I think it's really fair to have a forum about that. We have a forum for everything here, which makes VJ the best one there is. Why not help more people opening an specific divorce (immigration related) forum?

[Nessa 23]

Visa Journey is a site for family immigration. I vote no.

How many trolls we've had saying they're going through divorce, or wives/husbands that come here whine after a fight with their spouse saying they're getting divorced, or they're canceling their visa petition or stopping the process and then they make up and come back and say ''oh it was just a misunderstanding everything is ok with us now''? Don't we have OT for this? Don't people always mock these people and hijack their threads for their own amusement? Are VJ memeber really going to start to respect those people if a Divorce forum is created?

I'm sure there are lots of forums specific for divorce, sites for it, and, most important: lawyers.

If people are really going through divorce, if the fiance(e) ran away, go seek legal advice, not post in a forum for strange people give you advice just because you're hurt and need to vent or you need sympathy. Don't these people have friends in real life they can talk to? Maybe a therapist? Maybe a priest?

I understand what yodrak suggested but still I believe this is a forum that supports USC bringing their family to the U.S.

Just my humble opinion

[UmmSqueakster 54]

I voted yes. The immigration process adds a unique dimension to the otherwise ordinary divorce proceedings, and is unfortunately the part of some people's visa journey.

[john_and_marlene 162]

... and a scam forum

... and a fraud forum

[Donal78 0]

I dont think it is appropriate to add a divorce forum. Visajourney is a families orientated website. If a divorce forum is adding in the long term there should be strict guidelines. We dont want to attract the wrong sort of immigrant or should i say scammer who will do anything to move to the united states.

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

I dont think it is appropriate to add a divorce forum. Visajourney is a families orientated website. If a divorce forum is adding in the long term there should be strict guidelines. We dont want to attract the wrong sort of immigrant or should i say scammer who will do anything to move to the united states.

A divorce forum will do exactly that.

A divorce forum on VJ will tell the world that not only will VJ support you while you stage a relationship and get your visa, VJ will continue to support you when you're done with the USC and wish to exit the relationship a happy LPR.

I voted no, for that reason. A divorce forum sends the wrong message.

[KJandSH 0]

I say yes--with restrictions. On another site I visit they require 100 posts for certain forums so they can more easily keep out posters who will make rude comments. Maybe that would be an idea for the divorce/considering divorce forum since it could end up being a volatile topic for some. I say this only because some of the reply posts I've seen where people are having trouble in their relationships seem to be completely unhelpful and sometimes people try to troll by starting threads with this topic too and you can't tell if they are for real.

Edited August 11, 2006 by KJandSH

[TracyTN 237]

I agree that the restrictions for it (perhaps of the sort that KJandSH mentioned) are appropriate.

And I'm sorry, but I don't see how divorce is not a family related issue, esp. if the divorcing couple has children. *shrug*

[Yodrak 7]

nessaandcharles and galwayman,

Just to be clear, I (and the VJer who made the same suggestion a year earlier than I did) am not suggesting a divorce forum. I'm suggesting an immigration forum for people who are going through marriage-based immigration process when divorce has become a factor.

The idea is not to discuss divorce issues, it's to discuss the immigration issues that divorce creates and also to get those issues out of the other forums. Better that way for the people who do not want to be reading about the divorce-related issues (and the trolls and hijackers the issues may attract) as well as for the people who need help with those issues.

Yodrak

Visa Journey is a site for family immigration. I vote no.

How many trolls we've had saying they're going through divorce, or wives/husbands that come here whine after a fight with their spouse saying they're getting divorced, or they're canceling their visa petition or stopping the process and then they make up and come back and say ''oh it was just a misunderstanding everything is ok with us now''? Don't we have OT for this? Don't people always mock these people and hijack their threads for their own amusement? Are VJ memeber really going to start to respect those people if a Divorce forum is created?

I'm sure there are lots of forums specific for divorce, sites for it, and, most important: lawyers.

If people are really going through divorce, if the fiance(e) ran away, go seek legal advice, not post in a forum for strange people give you advice just because you're hurt and need to vent or you need sympathy. Don't these people have friends in real life they can talk to? Maybe a therapist? Maybe a priest?

I understand what yodrak suggested but still I believe this is a forum that supports USC bringing their family to the U.S.

Just my humble opinion

Edited August 11, 2006 by Yodrak