So your getting married........

[zauberblume 0]

He handles all of the finances here in Germany. He speaks the language, knows the ins and outs, and has had mostly everything established before I moved in two years ago.

I have very little knowledge of how much money we have on a day-to-day basis unless I ask.

I don't work, but I am a graduate student and will be for the next four years or so. I'll be getting a stipend soon.

In America, I'll probably start handling the finances... Or perhaps it will be a joint effort.

[incanada1234 0]

He does not want to find a job because he is autistic and belives that if he gives up his SSI and the job does not work out then he wont get the SSI back again... but I have tried to encourage him to try but he wont... he is very Good with computers and did work for 10 years as a computer tech at a local rehab center... but he just stopped going... now he wont even think about it..

Kezzie

Aw man, that's too bad.

[Kez/JWolf 6]

Sorry I should not have posted that info.... just feeling a bit down about money at the moment.... I could not find out how to delete my post... sorry

Kezzie

[Welshcookie 17]

Sorry I should not have posted that info.... just feeling a bit down about money at the moment.... I could not find out how to delete my post... sorry

Kezzie

sorry Kezzie...I know how difficult living with autism can be....

[incanada1234 0]

Sorry I should not have posted that info.... just feeling a bit down about money at the moment.... I could not find out how to delete my post... sorry

Kezzie

You only have about 5 minutes to edit your posts. If you really want it deleted, you could let a moderator know and I'm sure they would delete it for you.

[britbird 4]

We do automatic bill pay for most things, so there's no managing involved really.

We usually have the family accountant do the taxes. My husband manages his stocks himself, I manage my savings and stock funds myself. We go through the credit cards and pay for the things we got ourselves and we split stuff that we buy for the house, or things like vacations.

If my husband had his way we'd put all the money into one bank account, but I think it makes us more responsible when we both have to track our own spending and relate it back to what we each earned.

We are also very careful never to owe any money on the credit card (unless it has a 0% interest level on it).

[gjetson 0]

THANK YOU ALL FOR REPLYING BEC I ALWAYS FIND YOUR REPLYS HELPFUL ANDUSE THEM AS A LEARNING TOOL. RELATIONSHIPS CAN BE COMPLICATED ESP. WHEN MONEY IS INVOLVED.

NOTHING HAS BEEN DECIDED BET. MY SWEETS AND I BUT I WANT OUR RELATIONSHIP TO BE ONE OF COMMUNICATION AND HONESTY.

I WON'T SWEAT THE SMALL THINGS AND THE BIGGER DECISIONS WILL BE DISCUSSED.

[Karen_L 1]

I am right now, because I'm working and because he's freshly off "the boat" and doesn't know the way of things here yet. However, I am THE WORST at finances/handling money/keeping track of money and especially SAVING money (typical Pisces ). So, eventually, I hope, my fiance' will step-in and make sure we don't get evicted because I spent all our money for the month on books, shoes and fancy outings.

[Kathryn41 3,205]

I generally organize and keep track of the bills sent in by mail and remind him about payment dates. He pays the bills, mainly on line, and keeps me informed about what is paid, what isn't, what will be paid and when. He is really good about keeping me in the loop.

[KarenCee 3]

We do online banking. We share in both the bill paying and the contributions (or he will when he's able to work). We discuss large purchases as well. As for spending money, we're both free to buy whatever as long as the bills are paid and the money is there. I hate writing checks so using the debit card and online banking is awesome!

[ChristinaM 0]

I'm not even going to go there right now, I'll come back and explain later.

Let's just say it's a MAJOR source of marital disharmony.

[Alex+R 0]

In Brazil he paid the bills and I gave him half the rent in cash. If he forgot to pay on time he paid the late fees. The rest of our money we just shared. When he's here and we can get married, we'll keep sharing (with the "money is made to be spent" philosophy) but I believe conflict may arise when he wants to spend the money we have in different ways than I do.

We have never had more than "enough" before but with our combined income we may have an excess.

[PlatyPius 5]

We are still operating separately at the moment.

Sian is a cytogeneticist and makes pretty good money. All of her bills are paid from her account automatically.

I'm a computer tech and make crappy money. (I saw $35,000/year mentioned as low.... that would be a very large raise for me) I've worked contract work the last 2 years, so I either had money or I didn't. As such, bills got a little out of hand for a while, and I'm still trying to catch back up.

Sian has never been in debt, so it can be a little stressful sometimes. I'm not actually "in debt" by American standards.... I have no mortgage or outrageous credit card bills....but I do have a few thousand dollars worth of bills and such that are past due. It's all part of the 'boom-and-bust' of being an I.T. contractor.

I have an interview next Friday for a better, permanent job. Really hoping I get it, as it will improve the financial situation greatly, as well as quality-of-life. (My current job with HP sucks. lol)

[*Robert* 2]

For right now its me. Later on, after she gets more accustomed to our currency and how things work, I will let her take care of the finances. After all, she's a finance major!

[Cristy 4]

He is in charge mostly cuz he makes the money right now lol

But once I get a job he will still be in charge, I am terrible with money.