Questions about college expenses

[Jared and May 16]

We're planning on paying for most of my sister-in-law's college courses, but I made it pretty clear that the money will be managed by her mother. I love my future sister, but she's young and the thought of having so much money is probably too much for her to manage. My wifey's mother is an absolute sweetheart, and amazing at making a peso last. I'm also going to be firm about seeing grades at the end of each semester. If she's not working, she should be studying her tushy off. :thumbs:

[Atencio 43]

Jared and May, I always chuckle when I see that picture in your signature. It is so cute.

[SnME 3]

We're planning on paying for most of my sister-in-law's college courses, but I made it pretty clear that the money will be managed by her mother. I love my future sister, but she's young and the thought of having so much money is probably too much for her to manage. My wifey's mother is an absolute sweetheart, and amazing at making a peso last. I'm also going to be firm about seeing grades at the end of each semester. If she's not working, she should be studying her tushy off. :thumbs:

Not sure if this is of any help to you here but MY girl sends the money directly to the school. We see the statement from them and she makes the payment directly to them. She keeps very good track of exactly where her money goes... Very proud of my honey.

[Jared and May 16]

Jared and May, I always chuckle when I see that picture in your signature. It is so cute.

LOL thank you!!! I laughed so hard when I saw her on the webcam, showing me the visa. I wish I was able to capture the audio track as well.. . To this day it's one of my favorite moments even though we are thousands of miles apart..

[JORDANTONI09 10]

I worked for a Korean national before my latest job as a Web Researcher and he didn't give me any benefits either but they're easy to scare. If she has been with the company for over a year, I think it's fair for her to ask for a raise. Since she isn't being given any benefits, I surmise that she at least gets the money intended for the SS, Phil Health, etc. If not then I empathize with her even more. What line of work is she in? I know all about employers evading taxes. It all boils down to greed. Rather sad but it's a reality that the employees have to deal with on a day to day basis. Pffft.

I wish you two all the best!

She seems like a strong woman. She'll surmount this hurdle.

Toni

The sad reality though is that many employers will find ways around that. (they are good at NOT making the SS payments also)

She has no insurance of any kind through her employer. I did a lot of research on this when I figured out that her boss was not making SS payments and learned a lot. The PI is similar to here in the respect that MANY people do not have insurance through their work. Employers there use loopholes and tricks (just like some here) to avoid paying any more than they have to and the employess suffer for it.

[Atencio 43]

My sister inlaw works for local government and they get around taxes and benefits by having her work as a temporary employee; for over 10 years now

[Filipinawife0210 15]

My situation is different, but similar. My wife doesn't work. I chose it to be that way. I support her 100%, so in that regard it's different. My wife is not the eldest sibling, but is still the one her family looks to when they need money. She has a sister who has totally abused the hell out of her over the past year. Her sis wanted to open a clothing boutique, so asked my wife if she would be willing to foot the up front money for the store. After she and I discussed this at length, we decided to go ahead and help out. Well, long story sort-of-short, she and my wife agreed to a payment plan, so that within 6 months, my wife would no longer hold any part of the business. As of now, my sis-in-law owes my wife 20K PhP and has balked on a loan she took out with my mother-in-law. Who gets stuck with the bill? You guessed it...my wife. My mother and father-in-law are tailors, and have had a rough time. They owned a shop in Masbate, and due to crappy politics, lost their shop about 2 years ago. So, they have tried everything to make money for themselves. Right now, they make charcoal...We are looking at starting a piggery, to give them an added way to make money. But, to stay on point, my wife has held the burden every time her family needs monay. With her sister, I talked my wife into completely writing her sister off. Her sis now sends texts about her dying, and blah blah blah...but My wife has finally taken a stand. I'm proud of her. She still sends money to her mom and dad, but they do well with what she sends. Her elder brothers and another sister help out as well...but I think that because my wife is married to a kano, that is the primary reason for her being held responsible...

Edited June 28, 2010 by Filipinawife0210

[sjr09 155]

Some (not all) Filipinos see the kano as a cash cow, and a free ride....

"You can give a man a fish and he eats for a day. You can teach a man to fish and he eats for life"!

[piglett 16]

Right now, they make charcoal...We are looking at starting a piggery, to give them an added way to make money.

HEY pigs are people too he he he

but I think that because my wife is married to a kano, that is the primary reason for her being held responsible...

Oh i am sure of that & i am in the same boat.

I hadn't even married my wife yet & her dad starts to ask for money from me

piglett

[Filipinawife0210 15]

Well, if My father-in-law has pigs to raise, he will be busy working the farm vs. drinking Matador at the ####### fights.

[rlogan 2,036]

The only thing they understand is "no". So long as you keep forking over money, they have no reason to work or cut expenses.

My wife spent money I sent for travel expenses on clothes instead. I had already purchased the Superferry ticket and the money was for food, cabs in Manila, etc. I said no. So she went without food and had to walk long distances in Manila. She would not talk to me for two days, but she never did it again.

The father wasn't working and I heard every excuse in the book about it from my wife. I found him a job in one day using the internet. The mother asked for money to buy pigs, and incredibly didn't bother to tell her husband what her plan was. So she spent the money on chickens instead when he disagreed. I've never sent her another dime for such schemes.

A lot of them use such things for money laundering. You buy the pigs, they sell them and spend the money, and then ask for more pigs. That isn't a business.

It sounds like your wife's father is a professional bum like many, and what you will find is that they are cunning, relentless, and have an answer for everything because that is their profession.

When they tell you the electricity is going to be cut off tomorrow if you don't send money Western Union today - don't pay. Otherwise every month will be the same thing.

I love my family, but I also told them emphatically that I would leave their daughter if I got so much as one phone call or email with an emergency or crisis they manufactured to get money from us. Medicine for a sick baby is not an emergency. That is a normal life expense they better prepare for instead of blackmailing me for it.

So now her father has been working for two years. We don't have our intelligence insulted with lame excuses. My wife initially argued with me about it. I would not have married her if she didn't change her mind. She did, and we are very happy on account of it.

[sjr09 155]

The only thing they understand is "no". So long as you keep forking over money, they have no reason to work or cut expenses.

My wife spent money I sent for travel expenses on clothes instead. I had already purchased the Superferry ticket and the money was for food, cabs in Manila, etc. I said no. So she went without food and had to walk long distances in Manila. She would not talk to me for two days, but she never did it again.

The father wasn't working and I heard every excuse in the book about it from my wife. I found him a job in one day using the internet. The mother asked for money to buy pigs, and incredibly didn't bother to tell her husband what her plan was. So she spent the money on chickens instead when he disagreed. I've never sent her another dime for such schemes.

A lot of them use such things for money laundering. You buy the pigs, they sell them and spend the money, and then ask for more pigs. That isn't a business.

It sounds like your wife's father is a professional bum like many, and what you will find is that they are cunning, relentless, and have an answer for everything because that is their profession.

When they tell you the electricity is going to be cut off tomorrow if you don't send money Western Union today - don't pay. Otherwise every month will be the same thing.

I love my family, but I also told them emphatically that I would leave their daughter if I got so much as one phone call or email with an emergency or crisis they manufactured to get money from us. Medicine for a sick baby is not an emergency. That is a normal life expense they better prepare for instead of blackmailing me for it.

So now her father has been working for two years. We don't have our intelligence insulted with lame excuses. My wife initially argued with me about it. I would not have married her if she didn't change her mind. She did, and we are very happy on account of it.

[piglett 16]

Well, if My father-in-law has pigs to raise, he will be busy working the farm vs. drinking Matador at the ####### fights.

hey good to know he knows how to relax & have a good time drinking with his friends & betting on the cocks.

piglett

[piglett 16]

The only thing they understand is "no". So long as you keep forking over money, they have no reason to work or cut expenses.

My wife spent money I sent for travel expenses on clothes instead. I had already purchased the Superferry ticket and the money was for food, cabs in Manila, etc. I said no. So she went without food and had to walk long distances in Manila. She would not talk to me for two days, but she never did it again.

The father wasn't working and I heard every excuse in the book about it from my wife. I found him a job in one day using the internet. The mother asked for money to buy pigs, and incredibly didn't bother to tell her husband what her plan was. So she spent the money on chickens instead when he disagreed. I've never sent her another dime for such schemes.

A lot of them use such things for money laundering. You buy the pigs, they sell them and spend the money, and then ask for more pigs. That isn't a business.

It sounds like your wife's father is a professional bum like many, and what you will find is that they are cunning, relentless, and have an answer for everything because that is their profession.

When they tell you the electricity is going to be cut off tomorrow if you don't send money Western Union today - don't pay. Otherwise every month will be the same thing.

I love my family, but I also told them emphatically that I would leave their daughter if I got so much as one phone call or email with an emergency or crisis they manufactured to get money from us. Medicine for a sick baby is not an emergency. That is a normal life expense they better prepare for instead of blackmailing me for it.

So now her father has been working for two years. We don't have our intelligence insulted with lame excuses. My wife initially argued with me about it. I would not have married her if she didn't change her mind. She did, and we are very happy on account of it.

Wow i sure hope your not predicting my future with that story.

piglett

[sjr09 155]

Wow i sure hope your not predicting my future with that story.

piglett

Only if you let the family, run you over like a steamroller?