got 2 year GC, now divorceHei!

[wilgrace 3]

I'm sorry but I do agree here.. to a point. It's INCREDIBLY rude to speak another language in front of someone who doesn't understand it BUT there are rules. For instance, if he's actually sitting there supposed to be involved in the conversation but being left out of the conversation, then it's ridiculously rude and shouldn't be done. If he's sitting there just in the same room doing his own thing then there's nothing wrong with it. It's like sitting in the room and MSN'ing to someone else. he knows you're talking to someone but doesn't know what you're saying.. its the same thing.

Only the OP can really know if their relationship was truly abusive. Some people think just yelling is abusive, but there's more to it than just yelling. Respect is a 2 way street. If he's just being an #### (lack of respect wise) then I doubt it's grounds for VAWA, but if he's actually psychologically abusing you, or physically or sexually then yes of course. I'm not sure what the grounds are. All you can do is apply and see what happens.

I can't imagine to live with a person like that either.....i don't want to be yelled in front of many people that is out of respect.....but how about giving him a few months to work out your marriage.....marrying someone you doesn't know that long is like a gamble...it's full of adjustment..... try to be more patient maybe he will change later.....then if he keep doing this to you that the time to find a lawyer...green card is a green card but where is the happiness...i still beleive that everyone has the right to ask and to say something to his partner the right to do inside the house whatever it is as long as it's harmless....i know what kind of a person you got he is an @$$!!!!!!