I need help!!!!!

[marie_yahya 11]

hey everyone omg i am crying and everything else i am like 800.00 a year short from the 125% income that i neede to sponsor my husband and i had a co-sponsor but now she is not sure she will do it omg what do or can we do at this point we are so close an now even more farther to be together help ussssssssssssss please

[Mithra 1,185]

I guess the answer to that is obvious, find another co-sponsor or perhaps get some part time work to make up the difference. I'm not sure if the latter would be helpful at this point.

[Penguin_ie 5,997]

Can you get a second job? Even a few hours a week at McD or similar will be enough in your situation.

[marie_yahya 11]

Can you get a second job? Even a few hours a week at McD or similar will be enough in your situation.

no i can not i am disabled but not that i can not walk or anything but i can not get a job with it and this is my problem

[NVC FAN :( 18]

hell mcdonalds is not even hiring where im at. sorry i have no pity for ppl that dont work.

[marie_yahya 11]

[quote name=NVC FAN ' date='11 June 2010 - 10:42 PM' timestamp='1276310543' post='3998091]

hell mcdonalds is not even hiring where im at. sorry i have no pity for ppl that dont work.

for your info i have worked since i was 12 yrs. old but due to some trama in my life i had no choice but to go on disability and i loved to work and i did for many years but some ppl have to do what they have to no matter what and i think you should not judge anyone if you dont know the stiuation they have...... but thank you for your comment

[sachinky 465]

Look for another joint sponsor. Maybe parents, siblings, close friends, uncle, aunt.

[Mithra 1,185]

You can't do any sort of work at all to make up for $800 a year? $800 a year is next to nothing. There are people in wheelchairs that work as greeters at Walmart and such. Asking someone to be a co-sponsor is asking a lot, in my opinion. You're asking someone to be responsible for your husband for quite a long time with no guarantees that the marriage will last, etc. While I understand that a lot of people use co-sponsors, I personally don't believe that others should be responsible for another's husband or wife. I believe that if you want to take on the responsibility of having a spouse immigrate to the US then *you* should be financially able to sponsor them yourself. To me, it's similar to adopting a child or a pet, how can you adopt a child or pet yet expect someone else to be responsible for it? You should be sure of your abilities financially prior to going through with a marriage that requires obtaining a visa. If you don't make enough money to sponsor your husband, how will the both of you survive when he gets to the US? I'm sorry, I know this is not something you want to hear and it's probably not a popular point of view but I feel it's irresponsible to expect someone else to co-sponsor your husband.

[Dr. A ♥ O 203]

Where are you at in the process? I know of someone who went through the Moroccan consulate and their process was put on hold for a year and a half until they could find a co-sponsor. You might be able to delay until you figure things out.

[marie_yahya 11]

You can't do any sort of work at all to make up for $800 a year? $800 a year is next to nothing. There are people in wheelchairs that work as greeters at Walmart and such. Asking someone to be a co-sponsor is asking a lot, in my opinion. You're asking someone to be responsible for your husband for quite a long time with no guarantees that the marriage will last, etc. While I understand that a lot of people use co-sponsors, I personally don't believe that others should be responsible for another's husband or wife. I believe that if you want to take on the responsibility of having a spouse immigrate to the US then *you* should be financially able to sponsor them yourself. To me, it's similar to adopting a child or a pet, how can you adopt a child or pet yet expect someone else to be responsible for it? You should be sure of your abilities financially prior to going through with a marriage that requires obtaining a visa. If you don't make enough money to sponsor your husband, how will the both of you survive when he gets to the US? I'm sorry, I know this is not something you want to hear and it's probably not a popular point of view but I feel it's irresponsible to expect someone else to co-sponsor your husband.

listen i make enough here to take care of all of us me my husband and my two kids ok i make 2,000.00 per month and with my cost of living here in my small town i have more then enough it is not my fault or anyones for that matter that the military gets a break at the 100% percent and us we have 125% percent in the poverty guideline they made this up on a scale i know but if they would have given us the 100% percent as well then i would not need a co-sponsor......second i dont have any family at all that i can or have to ask...and third there are so many on vj that have had to ask for a co-sponsor and it is not the same as adopting a child I dont and never want anyone to be responsible for any of my family but sometimes everyone needs help in one way or another and this is the one time...when my husband gets here there is no question that i can and will take care of him but according to uscis and only them on 125% i can not and that is not fair to say if they went by what i make and what i put out i have enough for more then just my husband and two kids but that is the cost of living where i live but they dont ask that just how much and what you own huh if love was just based on money them maybe none of us would be with our husbands or wives...

[KittyPollitt 284]

listen i make enough here to take care of all of us me my husband and my two kids ok i make 2,000.00 per month and with my cost of living here in my small town i have more then enough it is not my fault or anyones for that matter that the military gets a break at the 100% percent and us we have 125% percent in the poverty guideline they made this up on a scale i know but if they would have given us the 100% percent as well then i would not need a co-sponsor......second i dont have any family at all that i can or have to ask...and third there are so many on vj that have had to ask for a co-sponsor and it is not the same as adopting a child I dont and never want anyone to be responsible for any of my family but sometimes everyone needs help in one way or another and this is the one time...when my husband gets here there is no question that i can and will take care of him but according to uscis and only them on 125% i can not and that is not fair to say if they went by what i make and what i put out i have enough for more then just my husband and two kids but that is the cost of living where i live but they dont ask that just how much and what you own huh if love was just based on money them maybe none of us would be with our husbands or wives...

Marie,

I don't think the people who responded are trying to be nasty or judgmental.. You asked the question of what you should do, and they're merely answering you. Besides working to make up the $800, or getting a co sponsor, there's really nothing you CAN do. If you're on disability, I know people who have worked part time jobs to make a little bit of extra money, just below the limit they are permitted to earn. But as someone else said, at this point in the process, it's probably already too late for that, and you really must find a co sponsor. I hope you can find a friend or someone who can help you. You're right that love is not based on money, but the I-864 is based on money. It sucks for all of us that we have to involve the federal government in our personal lives, but it's a process we have to go through to be together. I'm sure you'll figure something out.

Sarah

[hassan_debbie 4]

When someone draws disability they're not usually allowed to work. I have a friend who gets disability due to being bi-polar. There are

some things she could do but she's not allowed to by the government. She can't hold down a full time job and she couldn't

live on a part time salary, so she gets disability. So I understand where you are coming from. But you must understand, anyone

who signs up as a co-sponser is taking a big risk. Not sure how your health insurance situation is but if you can't add your husband

to your policy then he won't have any health insurance. If God-forbid he got seriously sick and had to go in the hospital and couldn't pay the

bill, your co-sponser would be responsible for it. If he receives government aid then your co-sponser

would have to pay it back. Its a very serious legal obligation. I personally know someone who got to the states, didn't have any insurance yet and ended up with cancer and had to have treatments. This person's spouse didn't require a co-sponser but if they did then

that person would have had to pay those bills. And this responsibility lasts for 10 years or until the sponsered person works for a certain

amount of time, I'm not sure how long but you can look it up. Its very important that the person who agrees to be the co-sponser

understands just exactly what they are getting themselves into.

sorry

Deb

[mahboula 11]

Maybe I'm mistaken, but aren't you allowed to use assets to make up the difference? If she only falls $800 short, then couldn't she show 3x that amount ($2400) in assets? Perhaps a savings account. Would that work or is there more to it than that?

[Wantedtobelieve 4]

hey everyone omg i am crying and everything else i am like 800.00 a year short from the 125% income that i neede to sponsor my husband and i had a co-sponsor but now she is not sure she will do it omg what do or can we do at this point we are so close an now even more farther to be together help ussssssssssssss please

Hi--Not to be a B---- or anything, BUT my brother gets disability because he has MD and he can work and make up to $14000 a year and STILL get disability, so he sells real estate as much as he can. As a longtime special ed teacher, I am very familiar with disability, etc. So I hope you don't take this badly, BUT the question is, how in the world will you support this man? Remember, you have green cards, AOS, all of this money to come up with to get through green card and citizenship processes.

I sympathize with your being on disability, BUT if you can't work and support yourself by working, (no offense, but that is why you are on disability and that amount of money hardly lets you squeak by) how in the world can you do all this for your guy? He will have to have car, insurance, clothes, all the stuff that comes with taking on another person, and believe me, sometimes it is like raising a 16 year old if they have no experience here. Add on to that, dental bills (they usually have had no dental care), hospital and doctor, phones, transportation, car insurance and on and on it goes. I have spent a small fortune helping my hubby. Then he will be homesick and want to go back and visit and you are looking at another 3000 minimum. Sadly, the jobs they can get are usually minimum wage, if they can get one at all in this economy, so don't count on him making good money here. I can't imagine being a co-sponsor because if he leaves and gets help from the government, somebody has to pay for it, that being you or the co-sponsor.

Like I said, this is not to criticize you, but you are looking at many hardships ahead, much as you love him. I make good money (for a woman, lol), but I have tapped out my savings, etc., helping my husband. He works, but still doesn't make enough to even pay for his basics. I wish you good luck in this endeavor, but life is hard for sure when you are married to an immigrant. We have friends that make like less than 20,000 a year and they are really struggling to make it. There are many hard truths to be faced when you take on this responsibility. It's better to see them now than later. Good luck, my friend....

Edited June 14, 2010 by Wantedtobelieve

[hala_amira 1]

Marie,

Is there any extra "income" evidence that maybe you can submit?(ie. a gift or a small amount of $ inherited that would be considered to be taxed). If income is solely based on your tax returns, too bad that you couldn't redo 2009 and maybe submit info that you had recieved a "gift" of $1000 or $2000 for the year that was not under your income. Have you had any cash gifts that added up during the year!!!