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Congrats Rachel!!!

Glad to read all the fun updates!! I'm with you right now Tracy. I'm back at work parttime and this working mom SH@$ sucks.

Rozzie is now 10 weeks old today. In-laws are coming from Scotland on Monday. I am terrified. They are pretty cool and should be drunk most the time, but the husband and I are locked in a state of constant disagreement. I hope it is just his work stressing him out because I'm hitting a bit of PPD and can't deal with him much more if he stays like this.

The drive to Vegas with us all next week might help relieve some stress. I sure hope so!!!!

I hope to post pictures soon, but Fussy Pants is screaming right now. Hope to catch up with everyone soon.

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Congrats Rachel!!!

Glad to read all the fun updates!! I'm with you right now Tracy. I'm back at work parttime and this working mom SH@$ sucks.

Rozzie is now 10 weeks old today. In-laws are coming from Scotland on Monday. I am terrified. They are pretty cool and should be drunk most the time, but the husband and I are locked in a state of constant disagreement. I hope it is just his work stressing him out because I'm hitting a bit of PPD and can't deal with him much more if he stays like this.

The drive to Vegas with us all next week might help relieve some stress. I sure hope so!!!!

I hope to post pictures soon, but Fussy Pants is screaming right now. Hope to catch up with everyone soon.

Bless your heart, Jewel! I found going back to work SO stressful. My post baby weight was lower than my pre baby weight; but I go back to work, stress hit and WHAM! I gained 15 pounds like it was nothing. I hope that doesn't happen to you. I finally started to level myself out stress wise and joined Curves. But its taken Weight Watchers as well to get the weight off (5 more lbs to go!). I do think people underestimate the stress of working moms. It is just so hard to find a balance, isn't it?

My MIL visit was an absolute nightmare, but I can't imagine yours would be as unreasonable and bitchy as my MIL is. I hope it is a good visit. Maybe your husband is tired and stressed out, too, but it sure makes for a bad combination (esp. when you may be having some PPD). Are you disagreeing about parenting stuff? Chas and I really had to work to find our way together. Its one of those things that it seems like it should come naturally but it doesn't. It's hard work, and you have to make time to talk and get on the same page about things.

We are here to help you, as always. How is your LO otherwise? A happy baby or?

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Thank you Jewel!

Good luck with your in-laws. Hopefully the drive to Las Vegas does help!

Tracy, I gain weight when I am stressed, too. I did worse than you, though! I gained 30 lbs last year when work turned really stressful. Fortunately I managed to find a new job, but shifting the weight's been very tough.

Balancing the baby/work is what has me worried. I have to work - Alex has a job, but it's part-time and barely above minimum wage. We live almost solely off my income. I'd love to be able to take time off but I just don't think we could afford it.

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Thank you Jewel!

Tracy, I gain weight when I am stressed, too. I did worse than you, though! I gained 30 lbs last year when work turned really stressful. Fortunately I managed to find a new job, but shifting the weight's been very tough.

Balancing the baby/work is what has me worried. I have to work - Alex has a job, but it's part-time and barely above minimum wage. We live almost solely off my income. I'd love to be able to take time off but I just don't think we could afford it.

UGH - it's so hard, isn't it? I'm just mad at myself though. I had the chance to stay at a weight I was really happy with and I ate it away. I know it was stress related but that's really no excuse. But - water under the bridge at this point.

Are you thinking of having Alex stay home with the baby to offset the cost of day care, or? My husband is daddy day care. He had trouble finding a decent job after emigrating and was about to start considering low paying jobs about the time I got pregnant. We couldn't see the logic in shipping Emily off to day care when his salary would likely just cover it (or not quite cover it).

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UGH - it's so hard, isn't it? I'm just mad at myself though. I had the chance to stay at a weight I was really happy with and I ate it away. I know it was stress related but that's really no excuse. But - water under the bridge at this point.

Ha, yes, it really is!

I knew I was eating a little too much - but I didn't realise I'd gained that much! I have to lose/gain a LOT to really change dress sizes (I'm fairly fortunate in that I gain it fairly evenly, not really in any one spot) so my clothes didn't give too much indication. I only wish I'd stepped on a scale earlier! I was so mad at myself when I finally did step on one! :crying: But like you say - what's done is done. I'll just try to be more careful in future.

Are you thinking of having Alex stay home with the baby to offset the cost of day care, or? My husband is daddy day care. He had trouble finding a decent job after emigrating and was about to start considering low paying jobs about the time I got pregnant. We couldn't see the logic in shipping Emily off to day care when his salary would likely just cover it (or not quite cover it).

That was our original plan, and we have the same thinking as you!

However, my MIL has offered to look after the baby. Not for free - she'd expect to be paid, which is only fair - but for cheaper than day care. So I'm thinking we may take her up on the offer. We wouldn't be losing/gaining any money, as I expect we'd be paying her whatever Alex earns, but it would be a way for Alex to keep his foot on the career ladder. I think this may work best. I know she would be an excellent carer (she's a preschool teacher), I trust her implicitly, and it would be a way for her to see her grandchild. She has two grandchildren by Alex's half-brother, but she very rarely gets to spend any time with them. She's really looking forward to this baby for that reason. ;)

She'd go part-time at her preschool, which she's been thinking of doing for a while anyway, and it would be for four hours a day - so not too long. :)

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Oh that's a really great child care solution for you! I agree it is best for Alex not to quit if he doesn't have to. And you can't get much better of a caregiver than the child's own grandmother. :)

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Btw, just got a text from Kinsley's mom (official spelling, w00t) wondering if we were gonna go to the playgroup today. I was @ work, so we couldn't, but maybe next week.

I just think it's cool that she got in touch with me. Yay, Nick has a gf, lol.

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Nick, you stud! :lol:

Emily went to her first story hour yesterday. Apparently she spent a lot of time sitting on the lap of her friend, Housten (17 months). He's an older man. She's got game. ;)

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My mom watches Nick all the time. I'd be pissed if she expected to get paid for it.

Mainly I think it's a) it'd be for a regular time slot, every working day, and b) she'll be reducing her work hours in order to do this for us. :)

She and Alex's dad are very generous in many, many ways, though, and even if she hadn't asked to be paid I'd be forcing her to accept some money!

Btw, just got a text from Kinsley's mom (official spelling, w00t) wondering if we were gonna go to the playgroup today. I was @ work, so we couldn't, but maybe next week.

I just think it's cool that she got in touch with me. Yay, Nick has a gf, lol.

Awesome!

And it's really nice she actually followed through. :)

Emily went to her first story hour yesterday. Apparently she spent a lot of time sitting on the lap of her friend, Housten (17 months). He's an older man. She's got game. ;)

:lol:

Aw... I remember being pretty popular back when I was tiny. I received three bouquets of flowers when I was five years old! I don't think I received another until Alex gave me one a couple of years ago.

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Nick, you stud! :lol:

Emily went to her first story hour yesterday. Apparently she spent a lot of time sitting on the lap of her friend, Housten (17 months). He's an older man. She's got game. ;)

This made me snort.

Mainly I think it's a) it'd be for a regular time slot, every working day, and b) she'll be reducing her work hours in order to do this for us. :)

She and Alex's dad are very generous in many, many ways, though, and even if she hadn't asked to be paid I'd be forcing her to accept some money!

Sorry, I didn't mean to sound horrible about it. I guess I'm just selfish, LOL.

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Oh, no, you didn't sound horrible! I just didn't want to make it seem as if my MIL is selfish for wanting to be paid.

I won't be paying my own mother when she comes over to help after the birth, even though her time will be very valuable to me! But I see the arrangement with Alex's mother as a more permanent daycare solution. :)

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I didn't think the nausea could get much worse, but I was wrong! :crying: Been throwing up a lot, couldn't even make it five minutes this morning.

Crackers, crackers, crackers! Those, dry, and cookies. Not sweet things otherwise - gone off chocolate, and fruit is actually a trigger for me vomiting, unfortunately, but for some reason cookies help. I think because they've been very dry cookies.

Yeah, my diet is awful. But I'm figuring keeping any food down right now ought to help. Vegetables and tomatoes still seem okay, so I am having as much of those as possible.

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10/06/2011 - ROC complete

04/20/2012 - Annaleah born!

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You gotta eat what you can when you're this nauseous. Worry about improving your diet once its passed.

All the 'tricks' I was ever told never worked for me, but I'll tell them to you anyway. LOL! Peppermint is supposedly great at warding off nausea - you could try sucking on a peppermint candy if you feel some nausea coming on (that way you're not actually ingesting something in the event you do vomit). Also I was an early morning vomit victim - I was told it was because I had an empty stomach, so to have a cracker or a piece of dry toast immediately after I got out of bed. (Worked sometimes, not always though)

Also ginger is supposed to curb nausea if you can stand to sip a little ginger ale. Of course you probably already know a lot of this!

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