Last names - who's changing?

[RosaMystica7 0]

I'm curious... which one of you in the couple will change your last name, and why?

(I don't know if all those options exist in other states, but I've read here that they do in New York. )

[JenT 0]

David and I have spoken about this and have agreed.... I have two daughters and will not change my name unless and until they do. Makes it too awkward when filling out forms, etc. Their dad has remarried, so her name would match theirs and mine wouldn't? No thanks.

I am established in my career of 18 yrs with this name, so I'm keeping it. But I welcome and would be proud to be referred to as "Mr and Mrs David XX"... it's not a women's lib thing or anything like that.

Jen

[chri'stina 190]

I changed my last name to his.

[RosaMystica7 0]

My fiance and I aren't sure yet and have plenty of time left to think about it. We do agree that we'll wait until the religious wedding, which will be after the civil marriage, to change our last names.

It's not that I wouldn't be proud to have his name, it's just that... well... the first 3 letters of his last name are "A s s" try spelling THAT on the phone. My last name means "strange" in Italian, and I actually sort of like having my name translate as "strange angel"... though I do wonder what my parents were thinking when they made that combination.

I don't want the first three letters of my last name to be "a s s" and we're sorta uncomfortable about the idea of him taking my last name because that just feels weird... so we're thinking about making a combination of our two names. The main thing pushing us towards that idea, though, is that we like how it would symbolize our new beginning and new start. There have been major, major problems in both of our families, and naturally we're a bit worried of turning out like that too... neither of us want to continue it, to carry it on like we'd carry that family's name. But if we combine our names to make a totally new one, it'd be a symbol of how we're joining together on our new life together and that we won't necessarily have to turn out like the rest of our families did.

Anywho, we're still not sure what we'll do... we'll see.

[Nessa 23]

I'll change. My last name (german) is too complicated to be pronounced in the United States.

[Cristy 4]

I took his name. I am planning on changing the kids names too.

[sparkofcreation 0]

Other ... I changed my last name to Myname-Hisname, and he was going to do the same, but I asked him not to. I always hated my maiden name, I didn't want to inflict it on anyone else.

Honestly, that seems to be the most common among my friends and colleagues: the woman hyphenates (Hername-Hisname, usually) and the man keeps his.

[KarenCee 3]

I changed my name to my husband's. My new name is my way of starting over in a new life, leaving the old miserable one behind.

[RosaMystica7 0]

Other ... I changed my last name to Myname-Hisname, and he was going to do the same, but I asked him not to. I always hated my maiden name, I didn't want to inflict it on anyone else.

Honestly, that seems to be the most common among my friends and colleagues: the woman hyphenates (Hername-Hisname, usually) and the man keeps his.

Oops... I've never heard about that one. I should've put "Other (please explain) as an option.

[CarolineM 0]

I took his and didn't keep my maiden name anywhere. I'm all his and I just thought taking his name was a traditional way to do that.

[Mandi+Ryan 1]

I'm PROUDLY changing my last name!

[Elizabethnhenry 0]

Even though I am a "traditionalist" I changed reluctantly, having a career, home, etc, etc in my name. I made my maiden name my middle name and it is reflected on most official documents as just a middle initial.

[irishgirl73 0]

I will take his name & will NOT be doing the hyphen thing.

I am hoping to use my current last name as a baby name I am really lucky-I have a super cool last name(at least I think so)

[Jonesie 1]

I changed my last name!

And as soon as I get to DMV my ID will reflect that

[Jaylen Brit 0]

My first marriage - not this one - my then husband changed his name by deed to my name-his name then when I married him that legall became MY name (still following? lol) - this time round tho - my other half had no such inclination, and really the combination of my-name his name would have been too long (as it was already hyphenated).

So I just took his name - tho I do miss my maiden name cos it was unusual - but hey - I was willing to sacrifice it for this marriage - maybe that says something