to all of you with facebook accounts

[fox fox 5]

Originally I opened a facebook account years before I met my wife as a way to say hi to old school friends and relatives, most of which don't live in my region.

I don't trust putting all my "personal info", facts or pictures on the internet reguardless of how "secure" websites are.

I learned this way of thinking from all the movies i've seen and all the past and continuous training i've received from the military.

My wife was so upset because I won't post pictures of us online, though she posts pictures of us on her facebook account and links me to the pictures with me in them.

I have only requested that she not link me in some pictures or remove some pictures only because i didn't particularly like the way i looked in some of the picturs, but not all.

She claims that I have no pride in having her as a wife and that i'm trying to keep her in the shadows from my online life, which I don't really do have one.

I've been harrassed by her twice now for the same issue, so I decided to just close my facebook account, which means also that I don't have that easy access way to just say hi to old friends and more importantly....my relatives. I was just so tired of how high she escaladed this issue and since I feel like she will never give into this and think that she's right, so i just closed the account.

Do you think that because of my reasoning for protecting my personal life that I am no directly guilty of not showing her off to the world of the internet???

[DedicatedWife 4]

My husband and I went through something similar with FB. My husband is very private. He does have that he is married on his page but no pics of us together. For me, that's fine... I know what we have and it doesn't take us flaunting it over the internet since I know he is trying to network for his career.

At the end of the day, you both have to be comfortable and if you had the account before you were married and truly only use it to say hi to old friends and family then your wife should just let you have that. It doesn't take all of the pics and tags, lovey dovey posts to the internet world to validate your marriage/union.

I know of plenty of people that wish they would have had less info about their spouse on the social networks because some people have evil intentions! I wish you guys the best!

[gary9891 10]

Originally I opened a facebook account years before I met my wife as a way to say hi to old school friends and relatives, most of which don't live in my region.

I don't trust putting all my "personal info", facts or pictures on the internet reguardless of how "secure" websites are.

I learned this way of thinking from all the movies i've seen and all the past and continuous training i've received from the military.

My wife was so upset because I won't post pictures of us online, though she posts pictures of us on her facebook account and links me to the pictures with me in them.

I have only requested that she not link me in some pictures or remove some pictures only because i didn't particularly like the way i looked in some of the picturs, but not all.

She claims that I have no pride in having her as a wife and that i'm trying to keep her in the shadows from my online life, which I don't really do have one.

I've been harrassed by her twice now for the same issue, so I decided to just close my facebook account, which means also that I don't have that easy access way to just say hi to old friends and more importantly....my relatives. I was just so tired of how high she escaladed this issue and since I feel like she will never give into this and think that she's right, so i just closed the account.

Do you think that because of my reasoning for protecting my personal life that I am no directly guilty of not showing her off to the world of the internet???

I deleted my account over worries about security. When the security issues are fixed and I feel more comfortable, I will begin posting pics again. I think you made a good call..............

[scotty's girl 1]

I think that's just fine because you are concerned about your security. Hopefully she will try to understand ur reason. Just like with us, I have a FB account while my fiance doesn't have because he said he just doesn't need one, and that's fine with me.

[Adam & May 4]

I have a brother who refuses to get a FB account simply because he is a very private person.

My take on Security concerns:

There is a lot of news regarding security on social networking websites. A FB account holder gets to decide how much of anything they put on FB is accessible by others. There are default settings (not sure what they are) and you must be mindful when ever adding anything new (photo albums, applications, etc.) to change the settings from the default to your settings. Certainly, it can be a lot to manage (and for some, not worth the effort).

Personally, I restrict the access to photos, posts, notes, etc. to only people listed on my FB Friends list.

The only thing you can see about me is that I am male, my websites that I promote and my pic. That is it.

All too often I see people posting reactionary items about how FB has done this or done that and to go change your settings immediately. Too many times the thing that they are "warning" everyone about (usually to disable) is an item that I have set to only share with FB friends (not everyone, not Friends of Friends) so I don't have to change that setting.

Certainly, I have had more problems with financial institutions compromising my data (not online) than anything I have ever posted on a social networking site.

Lastly, it is a personal choice on whether to have an account or not. You should not have to defend your decision to anyone. Most (not all) of the profile pictures I have chosen to display on my FB profile have included my fiance. Certainly, one of my "evidence of relationship" that I submitted was a printed page of both of our FB profile pages that shows our relationship status, posts of amour on our walls to each other and out profile pics that include both of us on both profiles (reminder: only my profile pic is viewable if not already on my friends list). If managed correctly, your FB info is yours to keep.

Good luck to you both.

Adam & May

[Ban Hammer 13,659]

Originally I opened a facebook account years before I met my wife as a way to say hi to old school friends and relatives, most of which don't live in my region.

I don't trust putting all my "personal info", facts or pictures on the internet reguardless of how "secure" websites are.

I learned this way of thinking from all the movies i've seen and all the past and continuous training i've received from the military.

My wife was so upset because I won't post pictures of us online, though she posts pictures of us on her facebook account and links me to the pictures with me in them.

I have only requested that she not link me in some pictures or remove some pictures only because i didn't particularly like the way i looked in some of the picturs, but not all.

She claims that I have no pride in having her as a wife and that i'm trying to keep her in the shadows from my online life, which I don't really do have one.

I've been harrassed by her twice now for the same issue, so I decided to just close my facebook account, which means also that I don't have that easy access way to just say hi to old friends and more importantly....my relatives. I was just so tired of how high she escaladed this issue and since I feel like she will never give into this and think that she's right, so i just closed the account.

Do you think that because of my reasoning for protecting my personal life that I am no directly guilty of not showing her off to the world of the internet???

i certainly understand your concerns about privacy. additionally, i'd think that posting pics online should be a mutual decision. i've seen some pretty interesting things done in the past with pics posted online, so i see your side of it.

however, i also see her side of it too - that about you not wanting pics posted may give her the impression you don't want to be seen with her (silly, i know, but just put the shoe on the other foot and see it from her side).

maybe you could both compromise and you review the privacy settings of her account to insure that only people who are your friends can see the pics, and also to stop linking the pics as plenty of people can see the pics then?

[Loolie 56]

Originally I opened a facebook account years before I met my wife as a way to say hi to old school friends and relatives, most of which don't live in my region.

I don't trust putting all my "personal info", facts or pictures on the internet reguardless of how "secure" websites are.

I learned this way of thinking from all the movies i've seen and all the past and continuous training i've received from the military.

My wife was so upset because I won't post pictures of us online, though she posts pictures of us on her facebook account and links me to the pictures with me in them.

I have only requested that she not link me in some pictures or remove some pictures only because i didn't particularly like the way i looked in some of the picturs, but not all.

She claims that I have no pride in having her as a wife and that i'm trying to keep her in the shadows from my online life, which I don't really do have one.

I've been harrassed by her twice now for the same issue, so I decided to just close my facebook account, which means also that I don't have that easy access way to just say hi to old friends and more importantly....my relatives. I was just so tired of how high she escaladed this issue and since I feel like she will never give into this and think that she's right, so i just closed the account.

Do you think that because of my reasoning for protecting my personal life that I am no directly guilty of not showing her off to the world of the internet???

this is a non sense issue between couple...its just an fb...your wife is just too serious about fb. hehehehe

[mikeuday19 0]

my husband does not have a FB account but i do, it really doesn't bother me that he doesn't have an account, he is a very private person and i do understand that...

if you can explain to her the risks of having an online profile, maybe she will understand...

[Fudpukker 18]

Originally I opened a facebook account years before I met my wife as a way to say hi to old school friends and relatives, most of which don't live in my region.

I don't trust putting all my "personal info", facts or pictures on the internet reguardless of how "secure" websites are.

I learned this way of thinking from all the movies i've seen and all the past and continuous training i've received from the military.

My wife was so upset because I won't post pictures of us online, though she posts pictures of us on her facebook account and links me to the pictures with me in them.

I have only requested that she not link me in some pictures or remove some pictures only because i didn't particularly like the way i looked in some of the picturs, but not all.

She claims that I have no pride in having her as a wife and that i'm trying to keep her in the shadows from my online life, which I don't really do have one.

I've been harrassed by her twice now for the same issue, so I decided to just close my facebook account, which means also that I don't have that easy access way to just say hi to old friends and more importantly....my relatives. I was just so tired of how high she escaladed this issue and since I feel like she will never give into this and think that she's right, so i just closed the account.

Do you think that because of my reasoning for protecting my personal life that I am no directly guilty of not showing her off to the world of the internet???

Lay the smack down and tell her how it is..............

[confusing 5]

Lay the smack down and tell her how it is..............

:thumbs: :thumbs:

[Fandango 1,440]

Lay the smack down and tell her how it is..............

What's that mean?

I think sometimes ppl take security concerns too seriously....no one's asking for your ss#....if it bothers you that you don't like how you look in the pictures, perhaps just a picture of your wife, since she doesn't have an issue with posting photos?

[confusing 5]

What's that mean?

I think sometimes ppl take security concerns too seriously....no one's asking for your ss#....if it bothers you that you don't like how you look in the pictures, perhaps just a picture of your wife, since she doesn't have an issue with posting photos?

i think sometimes people don't take them seriously enough. they post their birthday, befriend their parents, spouses, post where they were born, all their schools. and then people go to their yahoo webmail, click lost password, and answer their 'where did i go to high school security question' and then begin accessing their email account.

not saying being paranoid about simple pictures is warranted... but people who don't properly secure facebook, or put too much information on there is much worse than people who take security concerns too seriously.

[marklovetina 52]

uhmmm both of us posting pics.. but hey u can have privacy on the setting of the albums too... so for us no prob. with that... :dancing:

[Jared and May 16]

Yeah we do the same.. We both block out some of our nosy family members...

There are so many other things to fight about, facebook stuff isn't worth it..

[George and Movi 1]

Facebook is a personal account of an individual. Each has options on how to manage the FB account. Posting pics is one's prerogative. Its your choice! Getting married does not mean that one loses his or her individuality or freedom. You still have the right to do on how would you like to manage your account unless you allow the other person to control you. As you said, the FB was your means of getting in touch with your friends and relatives, so why not do it..However, since you decided to close your account, the next question is "Are you happy with your decision?"...If it has affected your choices in life then its a big deal!