School Bullying - Why Are Kids Such Wimps These Days When They Get Picked On?

[Obama 2012 1,714]

at what point is it necessary to 'take your kids out of school' because of bullying?

Why are kids so damned fragile these days as opposed to 20 years ago? I really am not understanding why these kids have become such pussies over the years?

Is it because in many places they aren't allowed to play tag or other games that let them touch each other at recess? That no longer do they get rough and tough after school playing with neighborhood kids and having normal interaction?

What makes today and bullying, any different than yesterday and bullying?

This was not an issue when I was growing up. What the hell changed?

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http://www.wfaa.com/news/local/bullying-93722009.html

FRISCO — So far this year, three North Texas students — 13-year-old John Carmichael, 17-year-old Courtney Moss and nine-year-old Montana Lance — have all taken their own lives after being picked on by someone they knew, like a classmate.

Now a Frisco mom, Angie Pierce, says she is being forced to make drastic changes to keep her sixth-grade daughter Joy safe from bullies.

"It has to be stopped before we lose more kids to suicide," she said.

But the Pierces became frustrated by what they allege is inaction by the Frisco ISD.

"I try to tell the counselors, and they say, 'We'll talk to them,' and then the next day it's not any better," Joy said. "When they say 'Chinese face' or 'look at your pointy eyes,' it's just that it's so hard to deal with these people."

Later, Joy decided to share with News 8 what she told her parents about the abuse she had endured at Stafford Middle School.

"I want to die and I can't put up with this school any more," she said.

Suicidal thoughts were the last straw for Joy's parents. They pulled her out of the classroom on Tuesday and plan to set up home schooling.

"When it comes to calling kids racist names — 'lesbian' and 'go dig a hole and crawl in it and die' — that crosses a line, that is harassment," Angie Pierce said.

Pierce even filed a police report over an incident that escalated to violence.

"She had been hit with a metal broom head across her forehead," Pierce said.

Joy's parents concede that the Frisco ISD educates students about bullying. That's how Joy knew to speak up.

But they say the help stopped there, so it was time for home schooling.

"We've struggled with it all year long," said Chas Pierce, Joy's father. "It was harder to struggle with it, and then when we decided, it was a relief."

The Frisco ISD issued this statement:

"We take accusations of bullying and harassment seriously ... If we see bullying take place, we address it without a formal process being utilized. We encourage parents and students to work with us to report incidents or to bring concerns to our attention so we can investigate."

Angie Pierce says she has complained on multiple occasions throughout the year. "The ball is falling in someone's court, and they're not picking it up," she said. "Someone is not following through on these things."

Edited May 14, 2010 by Paul and Vanessa

[Nagishkaw 510]

School Bullying - Why Are Kids Such Wimps These Days When They Get Picked On spam the boards with 11 topics in one day?

Fixx0red.

[Trumplestiltskin 5,791]

I really am not understanding...

Of course not, how could you?

Why try?

[Darnell 8,479]

Bring Back @ss-whoopin in the Frisco ISD, starting at grade 4.

IMO, the current laws have strangled educators and principals from doing anything meaningful to these little sh|ts.

Why are kids so damned fragile these days as opposed to 20 years ago? new laws. Sorry !

Edited May 14, 2010 by Darnell

[VanessaTony 3,567]

Bullying was an issue when I was a kid but it was just name calling (for the girls anyway).

These days kids have a LOT more to deal with. Homework levels are higher than ever, parent's disciplining their child with a smack is considered "abuse" so a lot of parents are too scared to try.

Too many parents think they're supposed to be their kids friends first, and parent last.

Kids are growing up a lot faster, whether we blame the media or whatever it's happening. Kids becoming parents at 14 etc.

There was a study done a while ago that said something along the lines of, if you try and compare childhood in our parents days, to ours, it would be a 5 y/o in this day and age experiencing the same things a 16 y/o did in their day.

Kids are under pressure to learn faster to be the "smart kid". Kids still wanting to be popular and it's turned from "brand name clothes" to who does what sex act at what age.

That said, I also think this particular child may not have been taught proper coping techniques. I don't think the child should be blamed and nor is it okay that she was bullied, but I can't help but wonder whether her parents caved too soon. For instance, what other measures did the parents do instead of complaining to the school? Did they put the girl in therapy? Did they take her to activities etc to help her build her confidence? Did they invite her friends over after school to help her "decompress" from the days of bullying? Or are they the typical parents that complain and yet do nothing on their end and the child's last cry for help was mentioning suicide. Luckily her parents took notice.

I think schools these days are harder than when I was at school. The cost of living is higher with parents working harder and longer to survive and forgetting their child still needs emotional support.

[spookyturtle 9,466]

Probably because they have morons for parents.

[alienlovechild 75]

These days kids have a LOT more to deal with. Homework levels are higher than ever, parent's disciplining their child with a smack is considered "abuse" so a lot of parents are too scared to try.

Kids are growing up a lot faster, whether we blame the media or whatever it's happening. Kids becoming parents at 14 etc.

Can't say I seen anything beyond antedotal evidence of those particular claims. How can there more homework on average with no increase in standardized tests? SAT scores have gone down for years.

The rate of teen pregnancy has trended downward for years.

[Pinocchio Liberal 268]

Ask Steve or Madman. I heard they had to dress up like little girls to keep from getting picked on at school. Pssst, I heard they even had Barbie lunch boxes.

[VanessaTony 3,567]

Can't say I seen anything beyond antedotal evidence of those particular claims. How can there more homework on average with no increase in standardized tests? SAT scores have gone down for years.

The rate of teen pregnancy has trended downward for years.

I think you mean "anecdotal". Just FYI.

[Trumplestiltskin 5,791]

Ask Steve or Madman. I heard they had to dress up like little girls to keep from getting picked on at school. Pssst, I heard they even had Barbie lunch boxes.

Well I wouldn't be surprised that you've heard something like that Marc. You do seem to know a lot of weird people.

[Deb+Steve 13]

Technology has given kids a wider audience. They all want their 15 minutes ... so will go to extremes to achieve it and outdo each other all in the hopes of going viral and a hit count. Bullying today is not what is was 20-25 years ago.

Kids spend 7 hours a day at school. My pet peeve is the restrictions on schools as far disciplining students is concerned. Who in their right minds would want to be a teacher these days? Discipline and respect does not always start at home ... you can have the strictest household and your kid can still go to school and be a disrespectful $hit.

[Laveau 67]

I have observed that MORE children are a lot more aggressive. Instead of having one or two bullies, it seems that there are too many to count. Spooky mentioned that those being bullied have parents who are morons. While that MAY be the case in some or many instances, I bet even more of the parents of the bullies are not so decent parents.

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

I think you mean "anecdotal". Just FYI.

it's one of those commonly misspelled words.

another one is peek where they mean to say pique.

and one i see at work a lot is degragation.

[Laveau 67]

it's one of those commonly misspelled words.

another one is peek where they mean to say pique.

and one i see at work a lot is degragation.

mute when they mean moot... my principal did that

[Sprailenes 47]

You can't compare to 20-30 years ago to today. Every single generation changes.

These days we have emails, facebook, twitter, message boards and all sorts of ways people can be bullied these days. You used to be able to somewhat leave the bullying at school but nowadays, you come home and you see it on your computer too. My cousin was bullied and there was actually a group dedicated to hating her on facebook. It was reported and it took about 3 weeks to have it taken down. During that time anyone and everyone at her school could access it. It's like having a permanent bathroom wall... rumours aren't just written with a sharpie on a stall anymore... they're on the internet for everyone to see and read.