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  1. 1. Has anyone every been mean to you on Vj?

    • Yes - and it made me cry
      27
    • No - there are nothing but cuddly bunnies here
      20

  2. 2. If you answered yes, what forum type did this occur in?

    • DIY forums (so-called 'upper forums)
      16
    • Regional Forums
      12
    • Off-Topic
      11
    • No, I told you there are only bunnies here
      18

  3. 3. Who was mean to you?


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sachinky Mentor

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Nope, no one's been mean to me. Besides, I have a rather thick skin. I mean, it's teh freaking interwebz.

I'm trying to remember if I've been "mean" to someone but mostly, I try to avoid judgemental comments--still slip up, sometimes, especially if it's something outrageous and the OP will defend it vigorously. I'm the type to call a spade a spade, 'cause I'm stupidity-intolerant, like that. But I try to restrain myself. (BTW, it really helps to type out a rude response and then NOT post it. You get to get it out of yer system but you don't seem like a jerk in virtual world). Usually, I preface it with a off-topic/my 2 cents kinda thingie.

Sometimes, I get impatient with people who refuse to do ANY reading of their own (guides, forms) and will treat this like a Bank of America customer rep service where all your questions are answered in a jiffy. I will be the first to admit that I've had my share of noob threads (mostly, the I-864, god, I nearly necked myself with that) and I'm very glad that people did take the time to respond to them. But I also did a lot of my own research, used the search function, read old threads, accumulated information, printed out all the guides and wikis (seriously, I found the NVC shortcuts I printed off in last October under my bed), took Darnell's advice and used a green crayon!

At the end of the day, we're all here to help each other. I take VJ for it is, a great, free resource. Everyone has opinions. Take it or leave it.

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08/17/2009: Wedding in Calcutta, India.
09/29/2009: I-130 NOA1
01/25/2010: I-130 NOA2
03/23/2010: Case completed.
05/12/2010: CR-1 interview at Mumbai, India.
05/20/2010: US Entry, Chicago.
03/01/2012: ROC NOA1.
03/26/2012: Biometrics completed.
12/07/2012: 10 year card production ordered.

09/25/2013: N-400 NOA1

10/16/2013: Biometrics completed

12/03/2013: Interview

12/20/2013: Oath ceremony

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TBoneTX
TBoneTX

Don't mess with Parul, no man! I think that the meanest of all VJ members had her account closed toward the beginning of the year. Good riddance, and I believe that the atmosphere on VJ is markedly

Nik+Heather
Nik+Heather

I didn't cry, but I HAVE been mad as hell and needed to walk away/resort to commiserating PMs. I try (and sometimes fail) not to engage - if you get into a mud fight, everyone gets dirty!

sachinky
sachinky

Nope, no one's been mean to me. Besides, I have a rather thick skin. I mean, it's teh freaking interwebz. I'm trying to remember if I've been "mean" to someone but mostly, I try to avoid judgemental

TBoneTX Grand Master

TBoneTX   45,266

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:lol: You know me. :dance::dance: for more wedgies.
Si man, & yes hombre. For the record, I consider Parul & Sachinky to be two of the freshest-air breaths on VJ, si man -- lovely, sensible, & literate. Edited by TBoneTX

06-04-2007 = TSC stamps postal return-receipt for I-129f.

06-11-2007 = NOA1 date (unknown to me).

07-20-2007 = Phoned Immigration Officer; got WAC#; where's NOA1?

09-25-2007 = Touch (first-ever).

09-28-2007 = NOA1, 23 days after their 45-day promise to send it (grrrr).

10-20 & 11-14-2007 = Phoned ImmOffs; "still pending."

12-11-2007 = 180 days; file is "between workstations, may be early Jan."; touches 12/11 & 12/12.

12-18-2007 = Call; file is with Division 9 ofcr. (bckgrnd check); e-prompt to shake it; touch.

12-19-2007 = NOA2 by e-mail & web, dated 12-18-07 (187 days; 201 per VJ); in mail 12/24/07.

01-09-2008 = File from USCIS to NVC, 1-4-08; NVC creates file, 1/15/08; to consulate 1/16/08.

01-23-2008 = Consulate gets file; outdated Packet 4 mailed to fiancee 1/27/08; rec'd 3/3/08.

04-29-2008 = Fiancee's 4-min. consular interview, 8:30 a.m.; much evidence brought but not allowed to be presented (consul: "More proof! Second interview! Bring your fiance!").

05-05-2008 = Infuriating $12 call to non-English-speaking consulate appointment-setter.

05-06-2008 = Better $12 call to English-speaker; "joint" interview date 6/30/08 (my selection).

06-30-2008 = Stokes Interrogations w/Ecuadorian (not USC); "wait 2 weeks; we'll mail her."

07-2008 = Daily calls to DOS: "currently processing"; 8/05 = Phoned consulate, got Section Chief; wrote him.

08-07-08 = E-mail from consulate, promising to issue visa "as soon as we get her passport" (on 8/12, per DHL).

08-27-08 = Phoned consulate (they "couldn't find" our file); visa DHL'd 8/28; in hand 9/1; through POE on 10/9 with NO hassles(!).

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sachinky Mentor

sachinky   465

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Si man, & yes hombre. For the record, I consider Parul & Sachinky to be two of the freshest-air breaths on VJ, si man -- lovely, sensible, & literate.

AND we both also happen to be married to gingers! :dance:

Edited by sachinky

03/27/2009: Engaged in Ithaca, New York.
08/17/2009: Wedding in Calcutta, India.
09/29/2009: I-130 NOA1
01/25/2010: I-130 NOA2
03/23/2010: Case completed.
05/12/2010: CR-1 interview at Mumbai, India.
05/20/2010: US Entry, Chicago.
03/01/2012: ROC NOA1.
03/26/2012: Biometrics completed.
12/07/2012: 10 year card production ordered.

09/25/2013: N-400 NOA1

10/16/2013: Biometrics completed

12/03/2013: Interview

12/20/2013: Oath ceremony

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Darnell Grand Master

Darnell   8,478

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But I also did a lot of my own research, used the search function, read old threads, accumulated information, printed out all the guides and wikis (seriously, I found the NVC shortcuts I printed off in last October under my bed), took Darnell's advice and used a green crayon!

And she passed the interview, gots her paperwork done !!

Swear to God/Allah/Vishnu/Buddha - That Green Crayon is useful !!!!

I'm dead proud of this lass - though I wouldn't call her __my__ protoge - she's been a constantcy here on VJ - I spread my sporran in yer general direction (that's a good thing, btw). FWIW, I don't have any protoge here, I'm just a painful blister on the VJ backside... I've watched her posts grow from a n00b into a full-fledged opinion-throw-down 'full member' - Mondo Happy to watch her grow into an I-130 and NVC Encyclopaedia !!!!

So, dig out that green crayon, each and every time, start scrawling yer notes on greenbar paper, and GO FORTH !!!

(my apologies for the thread drift, seriously ! )

Sometimes my language usage seems confusing - please feel free to 'read it twice', just in case !
Ya know, you can find the answer to your question with the advanced search tool, when using a PC? Ditch the handphone, come back later on a PC, and try again.

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Deb+Steve Proficient

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I voted before but couldn't type a response *sigh*. If anyone has been hateful to me, I haven't noticed. I've noticed people being hateful for no particular reason. Probably bored, who knows? Don't get me wrong ... I get bored, I'm bored now ... but I'm bored not boring, and if you're reading this you're probably bored too (but not boring).

I have a habit of posting what I want to post and leaving. I don't feel the urge or need to engage in a war of words or meaningless debate. I've posted my opinion so I'm done then as far I'm concerned. Probably why I haven't noticed if anyone's been hateful to me ... :bonk:

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18/09/09 - CR1 NOA1

16/07/10 - POE LAX (256 days NOA1 to interview)

27/09/10 - Aussie/American bun in the oven due May 10, 2011

06/01/11 - Submitted change of address online to USCIS. Mailed I-865 for sponsor. Neverending!

05/05/11 - Bouncing baby boy arrives

10/07/12 - Sent I-751

13/07/12 - I-751 NOA1

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sachinky Mentor

sachinky   465

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You guys are too much.

Told ya, it's all cuddlebunnies. ;)

Edited by sachinky

03/27/2009: Engaged in Ithaca, New York.
08/17/2009: Wedding in Calcutta, India.
09/29/2009: I-130 NOA1
01/25/2010: I-130 NOA2
03/23/2010: Case completed.
05/12/2010: CR-1 interview at Mumbai, India.
05/20/2010: US Entry, Chicago.
03/01/2012: ROC NOA1.
03/26/2012: Biometrics completed.
12/07/2012: 10 year card production ordered.

09/25/2013: N-400 NOA1

10/16/2013: Biometrics completed

12/03/2013: Interview

12/20/2013: Oath ceremony

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TBoneTX Grand Master

TBoneTX   45,266

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Told ya, it's all cuddlebunnies. ;)
"Burrrrrrrrrrrp!" There; back to our regularly scheduled grossness, si man. And, is "gingers" a foreign variant of "gringos," huh man? If so, Mrs. T-B. is married to a, uh, ginger too, si man. Does that, uh, curry your favor? (Ooo! Oof! Stop peppering me with spicy rejoinders, si man!) :lol:

06-04-2007 = TSC stamps postal return-receipt for I-129f.

06-11-2007 = NOA1 date (unknown to me).

07-20-2007 = Phoned Immigration Officer; got WAC#; where's NOA1?

09-25-2007 = Touch (first-ever).

09-28-2007 = NOA1, 23 days after their 45-day promise to send it (grrrr).

10-20 & 11-14-2007 = Phoned ImmOffs; "still pending."

12-11-2007 = 180 days; file is "between workstations, may be early Jan."; touches 12/11 & 12/12.

12-18-2007 = Call; file is with Division 9 ofcr. (bckgrnd check); e-prompt to shake it; touch.

12-19-2007 = NOA2 by e-mail & web, dated 12-18-07 (187 days; 201 per VJ); in mail 12/24/07.

01-09-2008 = File from USCIS to NVC, 1-4-08; NVC creates file, 1/15/08; to consulate 1/16/08.

01-23-2008 = Consulate gets file; outdated Packet 4 mailed to fiancee 1/27/08; rec'd 3/3/08.

04-29-2008 = Fiancee's 4-min. consular interview, 8:30 a.m.; much evidence brought but not allowed to be presented (consul: "More proof! Second interview! Bring your fiance!").

05-05-2008 = Infuriating $12 call to non-English-speaking consulate appointment-setter.

05-06-2008 = Better $12 call to English-speaker; "joint" interview date 6/30/08 (my selection).

06-30-2008 = Stokes Interrogations w/Ecuadorian (not USC); "wait 2 weeks; we'll mail her."

07-2008 = Daily calls to DOS: "currently processing"; 8/05 = Phoned consulate, got Section Chief; wrote him.

08-07-08 = E-mail from consulate, promising to issue visa "as soon as we get her passport" (on 8/12, per DHL).

08-27-08 = Phoned consulate (they "couldn't find" our file); visa DHL'd 8/28; in hand 9/1; through POE on 10/9 with NO hassles(!).

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No, no. :no:

Ginger = Redhead!

Gringo/Foreigner = Gora/Firang!

Edited by sachinky

03/27/2009: Engaged in Ithaca, New York.
08/17/2009: Wedding in Calcutta, India.
09/29/2009: I-130 NOA1
01/25/2010: I-130 NOA2
03/23/2010: Case completed.
05/12/2010: CR-1 interview at Mumbai, India.
05/20/2010: US Entry, Chicago.
03/01/2012: ROC NOA1.
03/26/2012: Biometrics completed.
12/07/2012: 10 year card production ordered.

09/25/2013: N-400 NOA1

10/16/2013: Biometrics completed

12/03/2013: Interview

12/20/2013: Oath ceremony

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And Redhead = Ranga

OUR JOURNEY SO FAR: (dd/mm/yyyy)

18/09/09 - CR1 NOA1

16/07/10 - POE LAX (256 days NOA1 to interview)

27/09/10 - Aussie/American bun in the oven due May 10, 2011

06/01/11 - Submitted change of address online to USCIS. Mailed I-865 for sponsor. Neverending!

05/05/11 - Bouncing baby boy arrives

10/07/12 - Sent I-751

13/07/12 - I-751 NOA1

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TBoneTX Grand Master

TBoneTX   45,266

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And Redhead = Ranga
Rojo/roja, if I've "red" that correctly, si man.

06-04-2007 = TSC stamps postal return-receipt for I-129f.

06-11-2007 = NOA1 date (unknown to me).

07-20-2007 = Phoned Immigration Officer; got WAC#; where's NOA1?

09-25-2007 = Touch (first-ever).

09-28-2007 = NOA1, 23 days after their 45-day promise to send it (grrrr).

10-20 & 11-14-2007 = Phoned ImmOffs; "still pending."

12-11-2007 = 180 days; file is "between workstations, may be early Jan."; touches 12/11 & 12/12.

12-18-2007 = Call; file is with Division 9 ofcr. (bckgrnd check); e-prompt to shake it; touch.

12-19-2007 = NOA2 by e-mail & web, dated 12-18-07 (187 days; 201 per VJ); in mail 12/24/07.

01-09-2008 = File from USCIS to NVC, 1-4-08; NVC creates file, 1/15/08; to consulate 1/16/08.

01-23-2008 = Consulate gets file; outdated Packet 4 mailed to fiancee 1/27/08; rec'd 3/3/08.

04-29-2008 = Fiancee's 4-min. consular interview, 8:30 a.m.; much evidence brought but not allowed to be presented (consul: "More proof! Second interview! Bring your fiance!").

05-05-2008 = Infuriating $12 call to non-English-speaking consulate appointment-setter.

05-06-2008 = Better $12 call to English-speaker; "joint" interview date 6/30/08 (my selection).

06-30-2008 = Stokes Interrogations w/Ecuadorian (not USC); "wait 2 weeks; we'll mail her."

07-2008 = Daily calls to DOS: "currently processing"; 8/05 = Phoned consulate, got Section Chief; wrote him.

08-07-08 = E-mail from consulate, promising to issue visa "as soon as we get her passport" (on 8/12, per DHL).

08-27-08 = Phoned consulate (they "couldn't find" our file); visa DHL'd 8/28; in hand 9/1; through POE on 10/9 with NO hassles(!).

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sara..... Mentor

sara.....   371

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yes a few have been...a couple of them put some messed up stuff on the other site cant remember what its called but was a place that vj people went so they didnt have to be so kind :) one of the people on vj sent me a link to it so i would know what was going on (thank you for that im not sure i ever thanked you for it) if not for that i would not have seen it but honestly i don't care they do not know me personally so it means nothing.

this is a forum you have to take the bad with the good so far its been mostly good......its like all dysfunctional families .. ignore what you don't like and be happy with what is to your liking

when posting on a forum people sometimes think what you say is hard when you didn't intend for it to be simply because you can not show by body langue or facial emotions how you meant the post to be.......so unless its an out right personal attack like what was done on the other forum i mentioned i tend to ignore most things

other times its like being back in high school and you have your typical trouble makers that get off on seeing how hard they can push a person

there are lots of different personalities and life styles on this forum its what makes us a family

sorry for the long post but the op did ask :P

just my opinion

sara

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I just think it's easy to have the 'mob mentality' on forums, and think it is important to check yourself.

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