Engaged to a wonderful Sudanese man

[Michelleaye 0]

Greetings all! I have recently joined VJ and first of all would like to wish you all luck with your processes. I am American and my fiance is Sudanese and I have just filed the I-129F and from what I have read we are definatly in for a real bumpy ride, which makes me nervous and advice for a Newbie? Anything would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks bundles.

Michelle

[JenT 0]

Make sure you stay connected with your fiance by talking about things 'other than' this process. When things get overwhelming, you will have that to fall back on.

Patience, patience, patience.

Jen

[Michelleaye 0]

Make sure you stay connected with your fiance by talking about things 'other than' this process. When things get overwhelming, you will have that to fall back on.

Patience, patience, patience.

Jen

Jen, Thanks a bunch for your advice. GREATLY APPRECIATE IT! I guess I have just been so naive about how long and what a hassle this was all gonna be. ITS CRAZY. Thanks again and food luck to you.

Michelle

[munchkins 0]

Hi Michelle, welcome to VJ and patience is definitely going to be needed and research, over and over again, read all the faqs at the top of here and ask questions but do your research too.

Good luck to you both

[UmmSqueakster 54]

Hey, welcome to the board. I don't think we have any american/sudanese couplese at the moment.

I hope we can help. You'll probably experience a lot of the same things we have. Men from this region face increased scrutiny, especially in security processing.

There's something tickling in the back of my mind that some/maybe all Sudanese go through Cairo. If you guys do end up going through the consulate in Cairo, there are plenty of people who can help with that

Good luck and I hope your VJ is a smooth one.

Edited August 6, 2006 by rahma

[Carola 0]

Congratulations on sending your petition and on the engagement :

My advice? be patient

[Together4ever 1]

Michelle,

Trust me when I say none of us had even a glimmer of a clue what a ride we were facing when we started this journey. I'm not saying that to scare you, just agreeing with you. It's an amazing ride. There will be ups and downs, and know people here understand and are very willing to offer any type of support they are able.

Prepare yourself for a wait. As you can see from many of our personal stories, some go quickly and some go on and on and on. There is no guessing really. But you find you can always muster another ounce or so of strength and do what you have to do.

JenT offered what is probably the most valuable advice anyone can give you. Stay together, stay strong, and communicate. Remember who you were together before a visa was ever discussed. That is who you are and no visa journey can change it.

Another good advice might possibly be to read, read and read some more. Knowledge conquers fear. The more you bone up on this process, the less anxiety you are likely to face.

And if you face anxiety anyway and just want a shoulder to cry on or rage at we're here for you. I think I am currently the thread drama queen with my recent meltdown, so take it from a pro. Haha.

Nice to have you aboard. Welcome.

Hey, welcome to the board. I don't think we have any american/sudanese couplese at the moment.

I hope we can help. You'll probably experience a lot of the same things we have. Men from this region face increased scrutiny, especially in security processing.

There's something tickling in the back of my mind that some/maybe all Sudanese go through Cairo. If you guys do end up going through the consulate in Cairo, there are plenty of people who can help with that

Good luck and I hope your VJ is a smooth one.

Rahma,

I think you're right. I think they do go through Cairo.

[a1angied 0]

Welcome Michelle,

I was shocked when I found out it was going to take a long time but after the initial shock I started things going. I am doing a K3. So I just got back for marring the love of my life and sent my I130 overnight on Friday. I am not sure how you are communicating if it is by email, chatting, and by telephone. I want to pass on some useful information that I received when I joined. Make sure that you save emails, archive your chatting if you chat, and save call records. I was buying calling cards to talk to my love by phone....that is a big no no as you can not track the calls. I was introduced to www.mychitchat.com, this is a calling service much like a clling card but it allows you to keep call records and recharge your account online and speed dial your numbers. I know I was paying 45 cents a minute with the calling cards and mychitchat is on 22.9 cents a minute. You may have a better system I am just trying to help you as I was helped. Make sure if you send anything by postal mail that you save all corsepondences as proof of the relationship. Keep all things that will be helpful in proving your relationship. If you haven't met in person you know that is something that needs to happen. I hope this is helpful. If you have any questions I will do my best to help you as I have many friends here that will give me the correct answers. May your journey be a speedy one.

[Michelleaye 0]

Hi Michelle, welcome to VJ and patience is definitely going to be needed and research, over and over again, read all the faqs at the top of here and ask questions but do your research too.

Good luck to you both

Thanks for the warm welcome. VJ has definatly been a great site to gather info but am sure there is plenty of reserach out there that I need to do and will keep that up. Thanks.

Hi Michelle, welcome to VJ and patience is definitely going to be needed and research, over and over again, read all the faqs at the top of here and ask questions but do your research too.

Good luck to you both

BEAUTIFUL ROTTIES by the way. How precious!!

Hey, welcome to the board. I don't think we have any american/sudanese couplese at the moment.

I hope we can help. You'll probably experience a lot of the same things we have. Men from this region face increased scrutiny, especially in security processing.

There's something tickling in the back of my mind that some/maybe all Sudanese go through Cairo. If you guys do end up going through the consulate in Cairo, there are plenty of people who can help with that

Good luck and I hope your VJ is a smooth one.

Thanks for the nice welcome. Am glad to be the first American/Sudanese couple. And so far everyones advice has just been AMAZING!! It definatly helps to have ppl that are going through the same thing being there for each other.

My fiance is a resident of the UAE and so am hoping that he will just have to deal with the Embassy in UAE, but who knows.

Thanks again.

Welcome Michelle,

I was shocked when I found out it was going to take a long time but after the initial shock I started things going. I am doing a K3. So I just got back for marring the love of my life and sent my I130 overnight on Friday. I am not sure how you are communicating if it is by email, chatting, and by telephone. I want to pass on some useful information that I received when I joined. Make sure that you save emails, archive your chatting if you chat, and save call records. I was buying calling cards to talk to my love by phone....that is a big no no as you can not track the calls. I was introduced to www.mychitchat.com, this is a calling service much like a clling card but it allows you to keep call records and recharge your account online and speed dial your numbers. I know I was paying 45 cents a minute with the calling cards and mychitchat is on 22.9 cents a minute. You may have a better system I am just trying to help you as I was helped. Make sure if you send anything by postal mail that you save all corsepondences as proof of the relationship. Keep all things that will be helpful in proving your relationship. If you haven't met in person you know that is something that needs to happen. I hope this is helpful. If you have any questions I will do my best to help you as I have many friends here that will give me the correct answers. May your journey be a speedy one.

Ya its a very unexpected surprise when you realize how long this process is 4 real.And the thing is the my father is Ethiopian but my parents have never even thought about this process so.....AHHH!! CONGRATS on your marriage, thats so special.

Will check out mychitchat cuz as u know the phone bills arou outrageous!! And also for proof.

Fortunatly we have been able to meet in person quite a few times and infact will be going to my cousins wedding in Tanzania so will be sure to get plenty of proof from that trip.

Thanks so much for your advice and support. Means alot. Wishin u luck with your I130!!

Congratulations on sending your petition and on the engagement :

My advice? be patient

Thanks for the advice. Patience is definatly what we are goin to need the most of right now. I wish u luck with your process as well.

Michelle,

Trust me when I say none of us had even a glimmer of a clue what a ride we were facing when we started this journey. I'm not saying that to scare you, just agreeing with you. It's an amazing ride. There will be ups and downs, and know people here understand and are very willing to offer any type of support they are able.

Prepare yourself for a wait. As you can see from many of our personal stories, some go quickly and some go on and on and on. There is no guessing really. But you find you can always muster another ounce or so of strength and do what you have to do.

JenT offered what is probably the most valuable advice anyone can give you. Stay together, stay strong, and communicate. Remember who you were together before a visa was ever discussed. That is who you are and no visa journey can change it.

Another good advice might possibly be to read, read and read some more. Knowledge conquers fear. The more you bone up on this process, the less anxiety you are likely to face.

And if you face anxiety anyway and just want a shoulder to cry on or rage at we're here for you. I think I am currently the thread drama queen with my recent meltdown, so take it from a pro. Haha.

Nice to have you aboard. Welcome.

Thanks alot for the wonderful welcome and great words of truth and advice. Its so true about being knowledgeable about this whole situation and thats whats goign to get us through it all. Its going to take alot of patience, strenght, faith, but what doesnt kill us only makes us stronger.

Oh and I might be joining you on the drama queen list so dont be surprised. It has just amazed me that how something seems like our right can be so complicated. OH WELL, what to do?

Thanks again for the support.

Hey, welcome to the board. I don't think we have any american/sudanese couplese at the moment.

I hope we can help. You'll probably experience a lot of the same things we have. Men from this region face increased scrutiny, especially in security processing.

There's something tickling in the back of my mind that some/maybe all Sudanese go through Cairo. If you guys do end up going through the consulate in Cairo, there are plenty of people who can help with that

Good luck and I hope your VJ is a smooth one.

Rahma,

I think you're right. I think they do go through Cairo.

[iceyspots 0]

Welcome to VJ, and good luck