Anyone who have Different Religion or beliefs with their Partner??

[Saddle Bronc 124]

I will not teach my child alternatives but would talk about them if it comes up, if they want to seek them when older I can't stop them. One side of their grandparents and other extended family are Hindu so I am sure that is going to come up later.

An idea: teach Kavi to read ASAP (I got this idea from "your baby can read" ads), and encourage it; then let him read Bible (which does--unfortunately, in some of the longer-and-more-tedious passages on laws--teach much about religions akin to Hinduism). That way, he will be well-prepared for such discussions.

[chri'stina 190]

An idea: teach Kavi to read ASAP (I got this idea from "your baby can read" ads), and encourage it; then let him read Bible (which does--unfortunately, in some of the longer-and-more-tedious passages on laws--teach much about religions akin to Hinduism). That way, he will be well-prepared for such discussions.

That would be cool if he could already read lol, he is 2! I have seen those commercials too. The thing is, until he is old enough to really feel confident in discussing such issues on his own(if he wants to), it seems my inlaws don't care about discussing. They just do their Hindu things already, they seem they don't care that we are Christians, they want him to be Hindu if they can influence him. While in India, I didn't stop Kavi from going near his grandma while she did her Hindu prayers at her in-house temple in the morning or evening, but at the same time it is a little bothersome to have conflicting devout religions in the same house, and they don't seem to care what his actual parents believe - I can't imagine how much harder it'd be if it was a marriage and not just inlaws. She would sit Kavi on her lap and have him put his hands together to do pranam...I wasn't thrilled about that. We hardly discussed actual beliefs at all while I was there. My husband has discussed it with them many times in the past already. They know...they just don't want to talk about it much.

Edited May 7, 2010 by chri'stina

[one...two...tree 2,762]

I don't like indoctrination...

That term is pretty ambiguous because in its most general definition could apply to many things that you probably already do to your child, whether you are aware of it or not.

Even though I was raised Catholic, my parents allowed me to attend my neighbor's Baptist church with them. Most of my friends growing up were Protestant and I was quite often exposed to other beliefs. As a parent, I don't see how most parents could isolate their children from outside influence no matter how hard they try, so I really don't see the argument that raising a child under a certain faith is going to prevent them from exercising their free will. Heck, I don't know any parent who has been successful at blind obedience even without religion.

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

That would be cool if he could already read lol, he is 2!

Why, when I was 2, I could write C++ AND juggle at the same time! I tell ya, kids these days, never grow up!

[chri'stina 190]

Why, when I was 2, I could write C++ AND juggle at the same time! I tell ya, kids these days, never grow up!

Oh no you didn't!!

[one...two...tree 2,762]

Why, when I was 2, I could write C++ AND juggle at the same time! I tell ya, kids these days, never grow up!

I still can't spell.

[Susita 175]

That would be cool if he could already read lol, he is 2! I have seen those commercials too. The thing is, until he is old enough to really feel confident in discussing such issues on his own(if he wants to), it seems my inlaws don't care about discussing. They just do their Hindu things already, they seem they don't care that we are Christians, they want him to be Hindu if they can influence him. While in India, I didn't stop Kavi from going near his grandma while she did her Hindu prayers at her in-house temple in the morning or evening, but at the same time it is a little bothersome to have conflicting devout religions in the same house, and they don't seem to care what his actual parents believe - I can't imagine how much harder it'd be if it was a marriage and not just inlaws. She would sit Kavi on her lap and have him put his hands together to do pranam...I wasn't thrilled about that. We hardly discussed actual beliefs at all while I was there. My husband has discussed it with them many times in the past already. They know...they just don't want to talk about it much.

My great grandma (crazy insane catholic lol) was the same way with my cousins. They are Jewish but she would lecture them about christianity... get upset with them about eating meat on Fridays during lent among other things. If it pissed my aunt and uncle off, I didn't know about it because they are such relaxed people and they've never shown anger around us before.

I assume they just brushed it off and told them to ignore her. There's not much you can do about old people - they're stuck in their ways

[Peikko 1,575]

That term is pretty ambiguous because in its most general definition could apply to many things that you probably already do to your child, whether you are aware of it or not.

Even though I was raised Catholic, my parents allowed me to attend my neighbor's Baptist church with them. Most of my friends growing up were Protestant and I was quite often exposed to other beliefs. As a parent, I don't see how most parents could isolate their children from outside influence no matter how hard they try, so I really don't see the argument that raising a child under a certain faith is going to prevent them from exercising their free will. Heck, I don't know any parent who has been successful at blind obedience even without religion.

Indoctrination isn't ambigious - whether or not all parents that 'raise' their child in x,y or z faith, or indeed no faith are guilty of it is another matter. In my opinion, if you are aware that your faith places restrictions or exclusions on your children then you are probably aware that these are the areas that have the potential to be contentious if/when a child starts to question the belief system they adhere to. Some people find this difficult and try to ward off those questions, some embrace them.

[Peikko 1,575]

Indoctrination is not allowing these questions to be given a thorough airing.

[DeniseBill 4]

My husband is a Christian, I am a uhhmmm... Good question. I'm certainly not Christian, I don't believe in God nor Jesus. But I do believe in other things like Heaven or Hell, and Mother Nature.(The Goddes) Greek Gods and such.

I go to Church with my husband to support him, I completely understand why he believes what he believes, We talk about it, I listen. We are going to raise our children as Christians and my reason is because I think Christians have a very good and safe lifestyle. Even though I do not believe, I'll will encourage my children to do so.

[one...two...tree 2,762]

Indoctrination is not allowing these questions to be given a thorough airing.

Ah, ok. Then raising your child under a particular faith is not indoctrination per se, but rather your approach. I think we probably both agree that indoctrination by that definition above is something that is not beneficial to a child, in whatever capacity. I did not feel indoctrinated in that sense growing up Catholic and often would ask questions that were welcomed.

[Peikko 1,575]

Ah, ok. Then raising your child under a particular faith is not indoctrination per se, but rather your approach. I think we probably both agree that indoctrination by that definition above is something that is not beneficial to a child, in whatever capacity. I did not feel indoctrinated in that sense growing up Catholic and often would ask questions that were welcomed.

Yeah, I guess when I see 'raised as' I believe that suggests something more controlling. Your own example, I would say that you were raised by a Catholic family as apposed to 'raised as' a Catholic. It is not for example my intention to raise my child 'as' an atheist - I would like his spirituality and beliefs to be his own, but as A.J says, there is probably not much anyone can do about some of the things we believe - however, I do think one should be open to questioning no matter how uncomfortable that questioning might make us feel as parents.

[Usui Takumi 1,562]

We are similar to Gemmie, I am protestant and she is agnostic/atheist. Regarding children, she comments on the whole "indoctrination" thing quite a bit. I personally believe in free will so it will depend on what our son/daughter wants to do.

Of course we still are not sure its worth having children. IE. Too expensive.

Edited May 7, 2010 by Sousuke

[TheBears 9]

He's Buddhist-Turned-Christian. I'm Christian-Turned-Buddhist. Our beliefs come up on a regular basis. It's something we've always known and accepted about each other. My son comes with me to the temple. Husby and I have agreed that where we will worship once he gets here is something we will figure out at that time.

[Darnell 8,478]

I just wanna hear from others coz most of our arguments now(me and my fiance)is about our beliefs and religion??

Could you clarify the context and content of these arguments, that you and yer fiance are having?