How Many Here Came From Domineering Patriarchal Families?

[one...two...tree 2,762]

Discuss.

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Which of the following best describes your father growing up? (select all that apply)

1. Strict

2. Easy going

3. Bad tempered

4. Mellow

5. Domineering

6. Permissive

7. Begrudged

8. Good willed

9. Unhappy

10. Content

11. Angry

12. Good natured

This is tough. He was strict. He was easy going. He was bad tempered and he was mellow. He dominated and at times very permissive. He was good willed and content and at times very unhappy. He could very angry but also was good natured a lot.

The only word I don't think would apply to him is begrudged, because I'm not clear on the type of behaviors he'd have had to display to earn that.

As an adult, how much do you honestly see yourself being like your father?

1. We are polar opposites in terms of views and disposition.

2. We are nearly identical in terms of disposition, but different in views.

3. We have different dispostions, but share many common views.

4. We are very much alike in terms of disposition and views.

It depends. I am like him in many ways, but very different in many ways. I don't think I can answer your poll because people are too complex for a poll like this.

[one...two...tree 2,762]

The only word I don't think would apply to him is begrudged, because I'm not clear on the type of behaviors he'd have had to display to earn that.

Did he express joy in seeing someone else's joy or did he act begrudgingly?

[one...two...tree 2,762]

This is tough. He was strict. He was easy going. He was bad tempered and he was mellow. He dominated and at times very permissive. He was good willed and content and at times very unhappy. He could very angry but also was good natured a lot.

Yeah, I realize that I should have designed the poll differently. Looking at the list as I think of my own father, I would say something similar.

[Bernie C 24]

He was tough but also easy going. Worked his #### off his entire life and now its really taken its toll.

At 83 he is trying to remain as active as possible while his health has deteriorated and now his mind is starting to play tricks on him.

I love my dad with all my heart and soul. We are alot alike even though we have some different views on things. Part of that I think is that the ages have changed and he was left behind in a time that is past.

However his values of family and life have never waivered.

I am and always will be be proud to be his son and at the age of 46 I still strive every day to be a son and a person that he can be very proud of too.

[~Johnny~ 27]

Sorry.... just opposite for my family.... Matriarchal...

Edited May 6, 2010 by ~Johnny~

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Did he express joy in seeing someone else's joy or did he act begrudgingly?

Aah. Ok he wasn't begrudging. My mom kind of is.

[one...two...tree 2,762]

Aah. Ok he wasn't begrudging. My mom kind of is.

My mom was the one who was very supportive and would praise a lot, while my dad was more reserved, but not begrudged.

Sorry.... just opposite for my family.... Matriarchal...

What about your father's role?

[chri'stina 190]

My dad was strict about some things, not as strict about others. I'd say he was everything on the list except bad tempered, angry, begrudging, unhappy, mellow and domineering. He is opinionated but not pushy, he can get hyper about certain issues if it bugs him but it's not really been targeted towards us his family. He is very defensive of us family members if he thinks someone is messing with us. Sometimes we'd hide issues b/c we didn't want him to be upset and feel like he needed to defend us. Like things at school, our friends there knew my dad would say something in unfair situations so they'd want us to tell him, but me and my sister didn't want to! lol He was right in what he did most of the time, we just would feel silly about it ourselves with the dad who would go tell off the principal if need be. (tell off in a PG way, he was a pastor after all hahaha). Me and my sis are more like my mom in that sense, non confrontational. My dad doesn't mind confrontation.

He has been a influential person for much of his adult life because of being a minister. And I think he has done a good job of living what he preaches. I am much like him in some ways and also different. I am more calm of a personality and less outgoing than him, but we have other similarities. When I was 18 we had many arguments about little things and my mom would always say "you two are too much alike and that's why you keep butting heads".

Edited May 6, 2010 by chri'stina

[Nik+Heather 121]

My father has high expectations of everyone he interacts with. He expects people to know their job and to do it efficiently, and doesn't always express his disappointment in ways which are ideal when these expectations are not met. He has a low tolerance level for laziness and inability to follow directions. Whereas, I look at the world much more cynically, he actually seems surprised when people do dumb stuff.

On the other hand, he has a huge soft spot for people who are close to him. As a kid growing up I always thought he was quite tight fisted. If we went to a football game, there were no extra treats like a fancy cup or t-shirt, for example. As I got older, I found out that it turns out he is much more free with his money to his friends, causes important to him, and even his tennants (they rented the houses my mother and he lived in before marriage for several years). Of course it's not just money - it's just the most quantifiable measure. He gives a lot of his time. Where some people have "soccer moms" I had a "robotics dad". He didn't just drive us around, he actually did the teaching of the electronics and programming and stayed on after my sister and I were out for years.

He is also a very capable person in many areas of life. Naturally, he's my dad, and superman, but I always thought that's just how daughters always view their dads, but I've met people from his work, and they all had great respect for his ability to get things done and figure a way through the corporate messes.

So my impressions of him have changed quite drastically as I have matured. I think I am quite like him in many ways (good and bad).